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Lol, I understand how you feel. We all just pray we meet the right woman in life. But always expect anything.

You need to develop abundant mindset as a man when dating any lady. Have the belief that she is replaceable if she bleeps up at any point. It is only when you lack abundant mindset that you will feel pained if a lady leave you.

Every man you see out there, one lady or the other have left him. There is no doubt in that aspect. But majority that have met loads of ladies over the years, don't take stuffs like this into heart any more.

When a lady leave you, don't cry. Men don't cry. But they put themselves together and put their emotions in control. Noone died, so why shedding tears simply a woman left you? It is normal any way, I understand.

This is just a stage you need to pass through to understand women. Never to chase any woman. Never to beg any woman to stay with me. Never to use money to keep any woman. That's what utmost masculinity entails.


In the midst of anything, don't always allow your emotions becloud your reasoning. Smile over it and move on.

Las las you will be all right. You just have to pass through this stage of life to understand some certain things regarding ladies in life.

genius43:
We are not magicians to know your phone. If oldies like us on RN5 are using MIUI 12, I don't know what you want to hear.

I am using Redmi note 9 pro.

You know some redmi version updates can misbehave sometimes.

Hope no unnecessary battery drainage fur the version 12.

Please how is the recent Xiaomi update like? The version 12 how is it like? Any issue?

I am still using version 11.

TANID:
nice stamp concrate on floor.


She Even Look Pregnant, abi na my eyes de deceived me

Who else also noticed red is her favourite colour?

Omihanifa:
no matter how mad his fried rice is Oga no need to call the chef back he's an ungrateful fellow. Somebody that collects 100k monthly and he still dey loot your pantry his behaviour can be likened to that of a rat that is eating you and still blowing you breeze

Don't mind the chef. That's some Sales representatives salary in some marketing firms who are even given dead lines. He is getting that amount but still goes on stealing from his oga.

Very bad!

Iceyjayz:
The same thing that happened to me, I still don't understand why some people are ungrateful, greedy and wicked. after doing alot for this guy/chef, dude still cheated me alot until I found out later, to think I treated this guy like a family but that wasn't enough, I sacked his ass without hesitation.

That's it bro. Honest people are hard to find these days. They must in one way or the other steal from one no matter how good you treat them.

They never know honesty pays.

Blackpanda

Why were you repatriated? Abeg come and give us account of what actually happened.

blackpanda:
Cry me a river

Cry you a river? Oh so that's how you cry for your woman? No wonder. We don't cry. Real men like us don't cry. But just in case you want to cry, I am ready to give you a bucket to cry on. I am ready to borrow you a bucket to cry on though. How about that?

Peacefullove:
They are heavily invested in the relationship with their money lol , why won't they wanna marry her over and over again.

Lol, exactly and that's why it's hard for such guys that have invested so much on a girl to move on even if they catch the said girl cheating on them.

lalalista:
go back and check the other things I said I love about the guy. Why are you picking only the money aspect?

The money is a major factor in your write up. The question is will you still love the guy if he doesn't spend on you like the other guy?

Try and answer that question. If your answer is no then non of them is good for you. But if you say YES you will still love the SSCE guy if he stops giving you money, then go for that one.

Mayannar:
If not for condition shaaaaa.

Tbh.. I'd advise u go for the SSCE holder. I'm a guy... The Graduate guy might be this kind of pretender thou ... You might later get to know the real him in marriage.

Chill babe... Within 2mins.. everywhere fit burst. If you strongly believe in the SSCE holder and try to ask him his 5years-to-come plans.. if he has visions... You can just stick to him and try to build up you guys world...


*Nothing Wey No Fit Happen* babe.

I don't believe in using money to impress a girl. You might not really find the one that loves you genuinely if spending on a girl is the only way a guy could prove his love.

What I see in the SSCE guy is using money to sustain the girl's love which is bad.

If you want a girls genuine love as a guy, never use money as the bargaining power.

The girl u never spend on but still loves you the same is the right girl for any man out there.

The one you spend on might be faking her love for you due to the monetary favour you offer her.

That's why I always tell my fellow guys never to use money to keep a lady no matter how much of it they have. Only then you will know the girl that truly loves you.

lalalista

This is where some of you ladies always get it wrong. Using spending to ascertain the level of a guy's love for you is the most low level of reasoning.

In essence, you love the SSCE guy because he spends on you not that you truly love him. If he should withdraw that spending gesture, you won't love him any more . Meaning your love is based on the spending capability of the guy. This is why we see materialistic love everywhere.

As a a guy we know that the love of a lady cannot be bought with money so any guy spending on a girl will find it hard ascertaining a girl that truly loves him due to the fact of using money as a bargaining power.

Your attitude towards the SSCE will definitely change if he stops spending on you. That we all know cuz he has already spoilt you by spending on you right from the beginning which if you do not get such gesture from him or something happens and he stops spending on you, your loyalty for him will be at stake. That is not love. That is materialistic love you have for him.

Ask yourself this, if the SSCE guy stops spending on you today, will you still love him? If he no longer give you money, will you still love him like before?

Your answer to that will present you who to choose.

As a guy, I don't like spending on a lady like lavishing money on any lady I am with cuz I feel that I am using money to buy her love for me and that may bring about fake love on her part due to the financial benefit she gets.

And if anything happens and she doesn't get that financial favour from me, that will definitely alter her loyalty . Due to that, most guys don't like using money to keep a girl cuz it will definitely result to disloyalty in the future when they no longer get such monetary favour from the said guy.

The love of money is what many ladies call love not really that they love the guy per say. It is the monetary favour they love. Withhold that favour back as a guy, and you will see their true colours.

With this, do ask yourself, will you still love the SSCE guy if he stops spending on you henceforth?

Ladies do same. Ladies keep on looking for that rich guy. In a bid to find that rich guy that will keep on spending on them as that's the only way a guy is expected to show his love, they kept sampling different men and still not being able to find that rich guy that will empty his bank account for them.

Once they sense you are not spending as they expect you, they jump to the next available guy. They later find out that the next guy is still not naive to spend and so the sampling continue until they will finally jam one Yahoo plus guy that will lavish on them in exchange for renewal for their next sacrifices.

blackpanda:
U are confused. Take several seats dear

You are more confused for not acquiring your first world passport before moving down to Nigeria. Common sense is not common you know?

Hope you are now enjoying Nigeria?

I am very sure your visa got expired and couldn't secure a renewal. Thus your moving down then joining those discouraging people of how bad living abroad.

It's good you moved back instead of being an illegal resident in another man's land.

But that's not enough to use your bad experience to discourage others. You ain't just fortunate to secure a renewal of your visa not that the place didn't offer you the opportunity your country cannot offer you. You were not just smart enough to make use of all the opportunities the said country offered you. So, don't blame the country.

blackpanda:
Are u relocating? Abi u just came here to rant

We are activist that encourage people to leave this shithole if they have the means. We don't care how much Nigeria has to offer or how much money one will make in Nigeria. We are after peace of mind not money. We are after a system that works. A system that value human lives. A saner clime.

We are dragging all anti travel hypocrites gang who always fond of painting Nigeria as a perfect place to be on earth. Those anti travel gangs that do not understand what the common man in Nigeria is passing through on a daily basis.

Those that believe money is everything not peace of mind. Any travel thread I set my eyes on these three of you advising people how one needs to stay back, I will not hold back from dragging all you three.

humilitypays
gopel8052

This is why having a strict father comes into play. I dare not disobey my father. Even till this moment as an independent full grown man, I still dare not disobey him due to how he handled us right from time.

Very strict and harsh. Even being a strict father, he is still loving. He will shout at you now and in the next minute he is calling you to come look something on his phone. Telling you stories of how he was the most brilliant in his class and the head prefect in his time. All these he did just to create that fatherly bond.

If a father is reprimanding his child and the mother is shading him, the mother is the one definitely spoiling such children.

The most a mother should do is pacify her husband whenever he is angry at the children or reprimanding them. A mother's role is to pacify not embarass the man in the presence of the children. It will make the children to lack respect for the father.

It's the mother that is spoiling those children cuz the father is too soft.

You can't talk to your own kids and listen to you? What type of children are they?

Sixfeetbelle:
Including him not believing everything his native doctor tells him?

The native Doctor aspect is minor. We can always win others ovee by our good attitudes. If someone speaks ill of you to another person but ended up not experiencing any bad attitude from you of what the person accused you of, you've indirectedly been vindicated if the person sees nothing of such in you.

It's bad that the husband believes whatever the native Doctor tells him but on the part of the wife, she can win her husband over by her good attitude cuz we can't use fire to quench fire in this case. Only her good behaviour will restore things to normalcy in this situation and that's the step she needs to take right now if she truly wants to win her husband over.

Grace001:
Some foolish people are of the opinion that it’s the common man input that will transform Nigeria.

When those in position of authority who are suppose to reform NPF has refused to do the needful, this killers called police will continue to misbehave

E.g gopel8052

Someone7:
"while chasing Yahoo Boy" Is that somehow supposed to justify another police killing? This is so sad. What's more sad it another person has lost a mother, a wife, a sister because of Nigeria police's recklessness.

They disbanded SARS but nothing has changed. They still remain the lawless killers they are. No wonder people leave Nigeria daily in their thousands. Your life is literally in danger every time you step out.

Let me borrow this your post abeg and quote some anti-do not relocate gang. Stay back in Nigeria.

humilitypays
gopel8052
blackpanda

With money, Nigeria is a great country to live. Heaven on earth. All you need is become Dangote and be on forbe list of billionaires.


Life doesn't matter any more but money. So when you see people relocating pls don't tell us how good Nigeria is and turn blind eyes to all the impunities plaguing the innocent masses on a daily basis.

Vevojoy

I understand your plight. But I can tell you that the whole issue is being complicated due the nagging aspect. If you can work on that aspect of you, trust me, you will notice great improvement on his part.

Let me give you a scenario. There was a lady I was dating sometime ago. She nag a lot. Any time I see her calls I always feel unhappy cuz I knew it's nagging she want to nag again.

So most times I do refuse picking her calls just to escape the nagging. But I was wrong. She will go to WhatsApp and drop bunch of messages, I will just read and not reply. She will then resort to insulting me with full paragraph of pages on WhatsApp, I will just read and not reply her.

She continues insulting and nagging but I won't alter a single word. She was like, I was a heartless human being. But I told her that I wasn't heartless, that the whole problem was from her. If she can work on her nagging attitude, we will just be fine.

At a point, she tried making amend and when I noticed she has changed a bit, I started giving her attention.

So, what am I saying? Men hate nagging. It chokes them up. So if you can take it by yourself to work on that aspect of you, trust me, your husband will start giving you the attention you need and start treating you right. Instead of nagging him, try and be more polite in your approach towards him when talking to him.

If you can do this, trust me, things will go back to how they were before.

blackpanda:
U have time and data to waste
Well at least u will keep me company. Oya na

See Police officers your government put in place to protect life and properties trying to implicate a fellow innocent Nigerian going about his normal day to day life.

The mad man even went ahead threatening to shoot him and his mother and nothing will happen.

No wonder you guys always clamour that Nigeria is a peaceful place to live and rear children. You are right. This is the most peaceful orderly country I have ever seen.

Just in case you've not seen it here it is.

humilitypays

gopel8052

https://www.nairaland.com/6372620/man-confronts-police-officer-planted

Beze992:
Just got out of a relationship that made me question whether love actually exist and lose faith in humanity. It made me realize that you can never be completely sure of anyone. I guess people interpret love the way that suits them. Will only marry when I meet someone who understands what commitment means.

Ladies define commitment in many ways. To some, a committed guy is a guy that spend on them only. But they forget that, spending on a girl is not in any way a form of commitment.

If you don't spend, you are not the committed type. If you don't take them out for flexing, you are not the serious type.

Relationship goes beyond those materialistic enjoyments.

Most overlook emotional commitment and focus too much on materialistic commitment. That's why when they meet the materialistic commitment type of guy that squander money unncessarily on them and just when their hopes are high and already seeing themselves walking the aisle with such a guy, and boom, after all the flexing, they find out that those are the enjoyment type of guys who spend recklessly and jump from one babe to another with no actual commitment.

My advice to ladies, a guy that invest in you emotionally is worth more than thhe one that invest in you materially. Cuz the emotional one have high rate of building a perfect future with you than the one that flex you around, take you for shopping and the rest as that's what majority of ladies term as caring. But unknown to them, such guys don't stay committed.

Ladies should start looking beyond material things when choosing a life partner.

If I give you all my attentions, support you emotionally, encourage you, captivate you, motivate you but do not spend a dime on you, you may think I am not perfect for you. The money factor is always what ladies look at which always make them end up with jerk types of guys (Omo Baba Owo, the money dispenser).

They overlook the other factors I mentioned and focus too much on the financial capacity of a guy. This mostly make a lot of them fall for Wanabes types of guys that are only good at blowing owo with no actual commitment.

The problem I have with ladies regarding relationships is the way ladies convert it to money making venture. Even those that are working will still want you to spend on them.

You can't have a peaceful discussion chat with a lady without her bringing in money issue.

Let's turn the table around. Guys stop forming big boy to girls to stop them from billing you. When you meet a girl, from the get go tell her you are broke even if you are rolling on top of money. Stop discussing your actual source of income with a lady you really want to be with, to know if she will truly stay with you if you don't paint yourself to her like Dangote. If she is the gold digger type, she will milk you with billing.

Most guys saying they will marry their supposed girlfriends here now is money they are using to sustain the relationship o. Some spend unnecessarily just to keep their babes. That's not love brother.

If you are using money to sustain your supposed relationship and you call that love, you are deceiving yourself. The true girl that truly loves you is the one you spend no dime on but she is still with you.

If you spending on a girl and you claiming she loves you as a guy, you are deceiving yourself. Remove the money whether she will still stay with you.

So brothers, don't use money to maintain a relationship and think the girl loves you. How you know if a girl truly loves you is when you don't spend on her but she still chooses to remain with you. That's how you know a girl that truly wants you.

But if you are using money to bribe her and you are here claiming she loves you die. I put it to you brother, it's your money she loves not you.

I told one I am a primary school teacher. Hehehehe see the speed she take vanish eh. Gold diggers everywhere.

So you expect me to tell you my actual me so you will start bombarding me with billings.

blackpanda:
Dem don answer u na

I will continue to drag Una 3 until Bubu leave power.

gopel8052:
Is Nigeria the one kidnapping and shooting Nigerians or Nigerians themselves shooting and kidnapping one another.

How many Nigerians will it take to turn a sane country into a hell hole.

Think about it. The problem is not the country, it's the people, when the people move to a different location the problems will go with them

You are comparing miscreants with no skills with professionals? Don't you know those making the country a hell for sane others going about their usual duties are the miscreants with no job nor skills?

If they are gainfully employed, will there be kidnapping and robbery being recorded on a daily basis?

What type of comparison are you trying to make here? You meant a professional with skills and educational qualifications will go to another man's country to form banditry and abandoned his professional skills?

You forget that saner climes have no room for miscreants with no skills that have nothing to contribute to their countries. So that mindset of people will come and mess the place up, holds no water. If not, you yourself should have messed the country you are right now up by now for being a Nigerian if we go by your claim. Don't you think so?

I don't use to see you guys comments on thread like these so I will be mentioning you guys.

Can you guys see what's happening? Can you raise kids in a country like this where one can't travel without the fear of being killed?

Imagine police asking why is a tech guy having a laptop? Can you see the backwardness?

That's why I told you blackpanda in my previous post that people get shot here in Nigeria than the U.S.

In this case, is money everything that really matters in life or peace of mind? What do you guys have to say about these terrible events?

TWO EXTRA OTHER THREADS BELOW:


https://www.nairaland.com/6369737/futa-deputy-registrar-amos-arijesuyo


https://www.nairaland.com/6366903/john-gbakaan-yaji-bandits-kill

gopel8052

blackpanda

humilitypays

ChinnysBlog:
The former beauty queen caused a stir recently when she arrived at a New Year’s get together held at the popular Ballroom at the coal city, Enugu looking gorgeous in an upturned Egyptian style hairdo.

Bianca Ojukwu, also Nigera’s Former ambassador to Spain as well as perm Rep UNWTO was dressed in a black evening gown and the cynosure of all eyes with her entourage at the shindig to usher in the new year.

She hasn’t changed much from the time she won the Miss Nigeria contest in 1988, over 22 years ago as the pictures seen her shows.

Picture 1 > 1988
Picture2 >2021

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=2514128498887849&id=100008721701950

Blogger taaaaaah! 1988 is over 22yrs ago. You no Sabi maths o. That's over 32 yrs ago not 22.



2021-1988 = 33

Smile4mee01:
Legit bro... no arrangee. Not too.many Nigerian or african ladies in my area.

Try and use social media to find them. How about you look for Aussie-Naija/Africans WhatsApp group to join? With that, you will get to meet couples of ladies.

Smile4mee01:
Is anyone here intrested in getting married? We dey find babe wey dey try in Victoria. No games.

Wahala! Arrangee marriage ba? This kind marriage will get k-leg o

wisethoughts

Kindly add up

Ninisun:
Yes,why must he injure her because of assumptions?, has the tendency of beating her in future.He overreacted cus from what he wrote,its a long distance rship and so should act with evidence.

He didn't beat her. They were dragging the phone and her over cherished long nails got broken.

Hassanmaye:
You are a smart man, have you swallowed the Redpill? You understand the game so well, leave him he will learn

Exactly. Humans like learning through the hard way. Quite a number of men notice some of these red flags often times in their partners during dating but overlook them and they later turn out to be unbearable to them after marrying such ladies.

At the end, they end up with divorce cuz the man will have no peace of mind knowing your wife is cheating on you but still unable to accept that simple fact. No matter how one tries to defend such a woman, the man will just be deceiving himself.

Of course, when they meet people outside as couple, they will smile but the man himself knows all is not well in their relationship/marriage.

The right time to correct any infidelity in one's partner is during courtship. If he fails to sit the lady down and give her his terms and conditions regarding that aspect, forget it, such a man has missed it completely.

A woman that cannot respect your terms and conditions regarding infidelity or keeping a male friend as bestie is not ready for marriage.

I don't believe on the "he is just a friend. A lady's best friend should be his partner. Any lady keeping another male friend as bestie is a big joker, let alone consistently chatting and maintaining calls with one particular guy all the time. That's an obvious red flag a wise guy should not overlook especially when marriage is coming into the picture.

Proceeding with such a lady for marriage will be a waste of time and resources.