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Candycrushy:
Wise man
I wonder how most guys do that anyway....and most girls will gladly jump at it, then the next day, we hear about girl murdered in a hotel room by her Facebook lover...lol

Lol, that usually happen if the said guy is not a normal guy with clear intention. Some of these ritual type of scenario is caused by girl that easily fall for money.

Ritualists preying on ladies do that with money. And the type of girls that will fall for these are those who love money too much. When such a guy flaunt money, even if they don't know him from adam, they will jump on such offer which is very bad.

There was one ritualist guy that they caught some time ago. Not an actual ritualist but more like the guy is a paycho. That he is just fond of killing ladies in hotel rooms. The thread was displayed on front page that period. I can't remember the guy name anymore.

When he was interviewed, he said he usually use money to lure girls into visiting him in hotel and he end up killing them. He tells them he will give them money as high as 150k to 200k if they will just come with him to his hotel room.

I was like some girls dey get mind sha. Somebody offering you that amount of money,they couldn't sense the uterior motive behind such offer. A guy just meeting a girl on the road and asking her to follow him to a hotel room and get 200k, and they will really follow such a person.

Ninisun:
Op don't allow these inexperienced small boys here to deceive you.Go and ask for her forgiveness, take that guy's number and tell him you are not comfortable with his rship with your babe... he will back off.

Chisooooos Christ! What an advice!

RuudVanNisteroy:
Happened to my friend who recently received ITA to apply for Canadian permanent residence. The naira devaluation made him short of the minimum financial threshold required in his account and has been scrambling for the last two months trying to raise N2milllion before the invitation to apply expires. He had saved diligently over the years too.

That's really terrible. He would have saved his money in a dollar account. The naira is very weak and may even get weaken further.

For travel plan like this, saving in a dollar dorm account is the best. So that if the naira depreciates, it won't affect his fund.

5hanklee:
She'll ask whether you have a girlfriend after the first round.
She'll ask whether you love her after the second round.

Why do they ask questions like dis sef

What of the question. Pls do you love me?

Ok tell me how many girlfriends you have. What position am I to you so I will know now o.

Serene123:
I have gone as far as secretly getting access to her WhatsApp. I didn't see any single chat with her and the guy nor another person. But the calls just keep pisisng me off.

I realised I shouldn't have gone that far. I should have just be calmed and let her do her wish

Don't you think you already guilt blaming yourself? To me you did nothing wrong. This is a girl you want to marry o. If she had nothing to hide, I see no reason why she was dragging her phone with you till the extent her nails got broken.

Do know that women easily get emotionally carried away even if they know that the secret said guy is an unserious fellow who just want to play with their emotions at the detriment of their serious relationships.

She might be deleting her chats with the said guy. You think she will leave her sensitive chats in her phone when she knows she is planning of getting married soon? She won't want you to find out anything even if she is cheating.

She already knows you are suspecting something, that was why she went on guilt blaming you trying to manipulate you to believe you did wrong by dragging her phone with her and trying to check her phone. That's a tactic ladies usually use when they are cheating to make a guy seems like a monster why they are the victims.

If she had nothing to hide, she wouldn't have been dragging her phone with you.

I will still suggest you look well before you leap. This type of lady won't respect you when you finally marry her. It will become worst.

Sixfeetbelle:
That's good to know. Cause I know some guys won't build that connection with you first before requesting to meet you.

That's the mistake some make. If I were to be a girl and a guy I never knew from Adam is asking to see me, it will look strange to me. Cuz he is still a stranger to me.

Many things will run through my mind of course.
But once the guy take his time to know her and build connection, it's even the lady that will be reminding the guy when he will be available for a meet up.

Connection before invite.

womenareapes:
you need to step out of your local area government and stop believing this chicken crap

I am a man. I have met many women. Women love men that lead. Take it from me. That doesn't mean a man should not give a woman a chance to take decisions. But once it has to do with man-woman thing, it seems so weird when a guy keep on asking a lady what to do. Just lead and she will follow. If it is not convenient for her, she will speak up.

If as a woman, will you prefer your husband asking honey can we f*ck? Or you will prefer him putting you in the mood himself and everything else follows.

Honey can we f*ck? Does that not seems weird to you?

That's just it.

Sixfeetbelle:
Do you throw out the 'when can we see' on your first time chat with the lady?

Not at all. I build connections first. I don't jump that step. I am the cocky flirty type. The potential boyfriend/husband.

I do get reply like, my funny husby, big head boyfriend, naughty naughty boy.

I don't take those to heart. You call me big head, I will call you small head.

By the time we are done with those playful talks, we both should already be feeling the need to see. We fix a day and boom, we meet.

I like going on dates with different ladies just for friendship sake.

I was to go on a date day before yesterday with one of my female friends, but I disappointed. She thought I didn't want to see her. But heck no, something else came up. I quickly called her to apologize for not being able to make it. I hate disappointing people.

So, I promised I will show up unfailing the next day. That was yesterday. She even got there before me and started calling. I needed to hurry up and boom, I met her at the fixed place, a bar. We got talking and talking till 6. It wasn't a bad date. I never knew this lady could do so many things. I was kinda impressed.

Well, after we left, I was about calling to ask if she has gotten home, and boom I received a message from her asking if I have gotten home.

With that I knew she truly enjoyed the date.

If a guy go on a date with a lady and the lady do not reach out to him after that moment, it means two things. It's either the lady does not enjoy the date due to the guy not being able to lead the conversation with her or she doesn't simply like the guy.

Candycrushy:
We start talking for a first time and you already asking when I can come see you...as innnn
I wonder how guys do that when you don't even know if the girl is a ghost or not

Lol it takes me at most 2 to 3 days to invite a girl for s meet up. If I chat her for one day straight, the next day she is already thinking of seeing me.

It doesn't have to take long to vibe with someone. Some guys jump the main step and go straight to inviting a lady without building connections first. It doesn't work that way.

I first build connection before even thinking of inviting any lady. If I jump that step, she won't feel the need to see me.

missimelda01:
When a guy lacks content

Dear men, in 2021 please learn how to be creative with some questions you ask ladies.

E.g When can we see?





Also check my signature. Thank you

For the bolded, I have discovered that most ladies want a guy to lead. I discovered that when I try to give them avenue to make decisions on their own by asking a question like when can we see? The reply is always like "I don't know".

After figuring that out, I always make it a habit to lead. Instead of asking her when can we see? I go by saying : let's fix a day to see this week. I will be inviting you over on Wednesday.

90% of the time, that seems to work better for me than asking her when can we see. By leading that way, if the day I mentioned doesn't suit her, then she will speak up by saying Wednesday won't be ok.

But most of the times when you ask a lady a direct question like the one you gave as example, they really don't have a clue. They love it more when a guy leads rather than taking permission from them.

Guy: When can we see?

Girl: "I don't know o".

Guy: Let's see this week. I will be inviting you over on wedsday.


Girl: Ok, what time?

That's just the best trick that works.

Ladies prefer guys that lead. Guys that are in control.

gopel8052:
Counter intuitive argument! Never suggested anything you wrote.

But you said if I thought it is easy to travel legally. That made me to reply you that means the only best way is through illegal means as that's the easiest.

Nothing good comes easy. However, it is easy to travel legally if one gets his plan right. Only those that do not plan always find it hard. It is not something one just wake and embark on. It requires years of planning and gathering of the right documents and funds.

Once all those requirements are in place, then the rest is easy.

gopel8052:
Counter intuitive argument! Never suggested anything you wrote.

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gopel8052:
You must think it's easy to become legal.

Then you think the best way is to use backyard to enter another man's country and expect to enjoy over there?

Why will anyone even think of doing that? That's why those illegal migrants are suffering over there. If you don't have papers, don't expect to enjoy or get work over there.

You better stay in your country than going to another man's country through illegal route. There is no way people like that won't suffer over there.

Migration is for professionals and students. It is not for people that have no skill or educational qualifications.

BusinessCity:
How true is this that many Nigerians are stranded and just roaming about?

Don't mind this nay sayers. No way a legal person with complete papers and resident permit will roam the street abroad.

Those are always illegal people with no papers. If you want to travel, do so legally and trust me, you have no reason to roam the street cuz you are legally there.

Imagine expecting an illegal person not to suffer abroad.

sweetmelanin:
..the worst part is if you advise them they will call you an enemy of progress..

I'm all for moving abroad but it must be done legally.. nothing compares to the suffering of an illegal immigrant.

Just look at his skin, you can tell he's been through a lot.. I really feel sorry for him but if he's serious, he should make his way to the nearest deportation center..

Exactly!

babakb:
Let's be clear about something here, you guys always use stories of illegal immigrants to discourage people from legal immigration, that's Bool Sheet, you can't expect illegal immigrants to live well anywhere in the world.

Legal migrants from Nigeria are making waves all over Europe, UK, America, Canada and Australia in Medicine, Engineering, Sports etc, Some have even turned to politicians Abroad.

We are over 200 million in Nigeria so some of us have to leave, but we must do so legally...

This is what I have been sounding to people. They always use illegal migrants bad experience to judge those that migrate legally.

What the heck will make someone who doesn't have papers to think he will survive abroad? Some of them don't even have qualification to rely on. No single skill sets. All they did was jumped into boat from Libya to Europe and they expect to survive. How foolish can that be!

When some persons see these type of people they will start using them to discourage people who already have proper migrating plans with qualifications without understanding the simple fact that those that complain are majorly illegal backyard immigrants with no legal documents or residential permit.

Some went to other countries with visitor visa and refused to return back to Nigeria. When their visa expired, they will start living from hand to mouth to survive as they have no legal means to work. When people like that start complaining online, they usually do it to discourage people who have wha it takes to relocate legally.

Let's not listen to people like that. As far as one is legal and have the right papers and residential permit, one can live well in the western world.

I advice every illegal immigrants to go back to their country and stop telling bad experience about their lives in abroad.

1beat:
you will enjoy Europe when you have legal documents and well educated.

Exactly. Illegal immigrants have no reason to complain. Someone doesn't have papers and he wants to live like a king in another man's land. Some of them don't even have any skill nor educational qualification that will pave way for them.

They just dived into boat and off to Libya to the Mediterranean sea, all in a bid to cross to Europe. That's the worst mistake people make.

You want to relocate, they forget that they need to do it legally. No document, no surviving.

lekki1444:
so the guy has been in the abroad for 4 years in italy and is begging to be deported back to nigeria


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JBmoiu1_KwY

Those are the ones that went through Libya. He doesn't have papers how will he survive before?

Say no to illegal immigration. Migrate legally and with the right skill sets and I promise you, you have no reason to complain.

Those that complain are majorly illegal immigrants with no legal papers to stay.

Ikpunekenwa:
I normally have muscle fatique and muscle pull in my fingers after holding the note 9 pro for some time cos I spread my fingers so much to make sure the grip is even at all sides.
I normally use the functionalities to console myself.

Exactly. It's just the features I have been using to console myself. Aside the overall features, the body design and size is not so attractive to me.

RuudVanNisteroy:
Don't mind the clown he is talking as if we have not made several trips to United States.

Leave that clown. That's how most of them that live abroad paint Nigeria as heaven on earth whereas they will never come back to Nigeria.

They are fond of discouraging people relocating whereas they will never set their foot in Nigeria. They usually write epistle on how Nigeria is a good country but if you check very well, they are still in the abroad they are deceiving people not to come to. Some of these types of persons already have their passports. But they are the first to discourage others from doing the same. Very selfish human beings.

Most do that because they feel it is not good to have lots of Nigeria in a place. That's how myopic their mindsets are. They never talk about the Indians and Chinese who are more populous in terms of relocation.

At least, there are other sane folks abroad who are debunking some of their bad experiences they always craft to discourage people.

Leshurr:
Due to the circumstances around her divorce, she desperately needs a fresh start and feels Nigeria is the best place for such. I've tried to advice her against it but to no avail.. so I've resulted to supporting her decision..
Created this thread so I can show her some good suggestions on how she can sustain herself back home..

By the way, which country is she in?

gsparks01:
the increasing size of phones caused me to hold off getting one for long. Eventually settled for 9t (6.38) and it's still too big IMO.

You right. I was pained that my note 8 was stolen. I just like the size of the note 8 and the body design. Their design is becoming terrible every passing release. The way they position the camera and the overall size is just so not as attractive as some of the past ones.

I think they should stick to between 6" to at most 6.5".

They are becoming too cumbersome to hold and carry about.

minasu190:
please guys there's something bothering me,I had sex with a girl on Friday and Sunday after then she called on me Tuesday the following week that she's pregnant,please is that possible?

How do some of you guys comfortably have raw sex with a lady you do not know her status without even thinking of using condom?

How much is condom?

Who still write love letter in this century? God forbid bad thing.

humilitypays:
And I still insist, we should not make it look like those Nigerians that stayed back in Nigeria are fools......because in the real sense, they are the heroes.

It takes a courageous heart to remain in a place that needs fixing or to stay with someone in his or her time of trouble.....the faint hearted run away at the slightest fear.

Leaving Nigeria for abroad does not make anyone doing it a better person.....its just a decision. No matter how bad we paint Nigeria or how bad Nigeria becomes, some people, in fact a lot of people must stay back. If 30% of Nigerians make attempt to leave Nigeria to other countries, many countries will start repatriating Nigerians in their countries back to Nigeria irrespective of your residential status....citizenship can be revoked so long as its not by birth and by indigenous parents

The first bolded, now we know what's making some of those abroad discouraging others from making the move. That's the erroneous mindset they have that is making some persons to start discouraging others. They are fast to tell how one can make all the money in Nigeria simply because they feel threatened by other Nigerians relocating.

Now we know why some abroad will always tell terrible experiences that they never had just to discourage others cuz they feel the place will be filled with Nigerians if they start telling all their good experiences. That mindset is myopic and a cheer selfishness. Think about the Indians and Chinese, they are the most populous people in most countries. If they have this same mindset, I don't think they will be that popular in many organisations in the western world. They help one another especially the Indians.

For the second bolded, that's not true. They will revoke your citizenship if only you commit a serious crime. They don't just revoke citizenship. Before granted the citizenship, you do swear to obey the laws of the country. If you are an abiding citizen, tell me how they will just come to you and revoke your citizenship. So all those you listed are not true.

My own point is that if any has the means to leave, do it for the sake of having two passports just in case. Nothing beats when you possess a first world passport. That doesn't stop you from being patriotic towards Nigeria. It gives you more options. If anything serious occur in Nigeria, you can easily move to your second country as a citizen of that country.

Even if you don't want to possess another passport, do it for the sake of your kids.

Majority of the politicians that are lavishing Nigeria resources have dual citizenship. Most of them bought passports of other countries with money they stole from politics. And non of their kids school in Nigeria.

When they are sick, they fly abroad for treatment. That alone should make one to have sense that the common man should find his way and secure his feature too just in case Nigeria ended up being a jungle.

I am not even talking about the insecurity issues but rather I am talking about securing your future and that of your kids by possessing another passport of a first world country.

With that, the world will be in your palm. You can travel to many top world countries visa free without the limitation of our Naija passport.

Being a Nigerian is a limitation on its own.

By the way, for the issue of insecurity, here are some bad news regarding that aspect. My question is are we truly safe in this our Dear country Nigeria?

Bro, I leave the answer to you.

Here are the threads just in case you don't check front page:

1) https://www.nairaland.com/6360863/wole-agboola-kidnappers-kill-oyo

2) https://www.nairaland.com/6361551/gunmen-assassinate-man-pregnant-second

3) https://www.nairaland.com/6361500/gunmen-kill-imo-accountant-generals-brother

4) https://www.nairaland.com/6361962/gunmen-kill-ebonyi-lecturer-engaging

nnennachiji:
To Most Nigerians money is everything
For me money isn’t everything
My son’s story would have been different but because am in a sane society he is alive and am able to tell the story
Since I came here I don’t buy a lot of stuff including milk , eggs, cereal, fruits, etc for my son because my son is on wIC and government gives him some food items
He is my only child for now and I delivered him after 15 years of Ttc I can’t trade him for all the riches in the world
Everybody can not be Dangote
I saw a video of an African school, the teacher was using foam and handkerchief to demonstrate how to you a computer mouse
This happens to be a secondary school
But here my Sister’s children in pre-K were given IPad for learning
People value money but I value peace of mind
When I was home my son was always sick esp with malaria even though my house has net
I can count the normal of times we visit his pediatrician
When he became 18 months I received a letter from the government that he was due for a routine check up
We went and did it and we got 25 dollar gift card for taking him for check up
We also did his 18months dental check up and also got a gift card bearing in mind he barely has any teeth and really nothing to see.
I don’t have all the riches in the world but am comfortable that is what matters
Nobody is buried with all their wealth
I just want to live a good life

Nice write up. This is what some persons don't just get. They always come up with how one can make all the money in Nigeria without considering the basic necessity of life and peace of mind.

blackpanda:
I understand what u are saying but every country has their own challenges. In america too u can be shot dead by police just for being black and nothing will happen. At least in nigeria u can #EndSars or even petition national assembly, but when u are abroad u have no voice, u can't complain or do anything. You won't understand till u experience what I am saying. No country is perfect. They all have their problems.

Here are another two threads trending the front page right now to prove that people get shot more in Nigeria on a daily basis than the U.S where guns are legalized.


Only this week alone on the front page, up to 8 persons had been reported to have been shot. Those are people family o.

1) https://www.nairaland.com/6361551/gunmen-assassinate-man-pregnant-second

2) https://www.nairaland.com/6361500/gunmen-kill-imo-accountant-generals-brother

3) https://www.nairaland.com/6361962/gunmen-kill-ebonyi-lecturer-engaging

Bagehot:
We are saying the same thing . . . I just have a problem with Nigerians (many of whom have never actually lived in the west) speaking as if some people cannot make or build a good life in Nigeria as well. If you feel abroad is for you (after doing proper and balanced research), please go using legal means, otherwise, what your eyes would see there, your mouth would quaver to speak of.

Why will someone even think of travelling to a white man's country through illegal means?

We are talking about professionals who wish to relocate legally not backyard relocation or Libya relocation.

blackpanda:
I understand what u are saying but every country has their own challenges. In america too u can be shot dead by police just for being black and nothing will happen. At least in nigeria u can #EndSars or even petition national assembly, but when u are abroad u have no voice, u can't complain or do anything. You won't understand till u experience what I am saying. No country is perfect. They all have their problems.

That's not common any more. More people get shot here in Nigeria than the U.S, this is not a joke. Bearing arm here is illegal but do you know more people get shot more in Nigeria than the U.S where everyone can bear arm legally?

If you have the means bro, secure the future of your children outside Nigeria. This country is not safe for existence. The U.S is safer to live than Nigeria. That's a country where arm is legalized being more safer than a country where arms is not allowed still people get shot everyday. If you always check the front page, a week will not pass without you not seeing a thread about someone who is either kidnapped or shot by gunmen. Only this week alone, I have seen 3 threads of gunmen shooting someone.

There are 99% other safer countries around the world more peaceful and saner to live.

My sole virdict is; Nigeria is not a safe place to live as a country.


Below is a thread trending the front page right now. After collecting 2 million ramson, he was still killed.

https://www.nairaland.com/6360863/wole-agboola-kidnappers-kill-oyo

humilitypays:
sighs.


Insecurity in Nigeria is really a big joke, I honestly agree with you on that. What more can I say

All Nigerians cannot flee Nigeria to abroad, its not possible, so we must keep encouraging those that wish to stay back to do so without regrets

Of course, everybody cannot move. But those that choose to move and have the means, should not be discouraged.

No matter how we tried to paint Nigeria to be a nice place to stay, we should always have in the back of our minds that we will always fear for our lives.

There have been so much gunmen gunning down people lately. If you do check front page, you will see so many issues of people being killed here and there.

If we go out and we get back home, we always thank God. Cuz some go out and never return. That's Nigeria for you.