SaveMeLord:

Because most of you are not built to love, 99.99% of you are opportunistic love peddlers. I support the motion that Nigerian girls are useless, All of them

Ok, I’m happy for you.

nairamaniac:


They are polite insults.

But I had to take my time to explain why u deserved the insults. so that even u would kinda agree with me in your innermost mind.

even if u try to insult me back, I would know it's just a natural defense from u, so u don't seem like a weak person.

You have issues lol

jelel6:


I don't have any problem with your overall viewpoint. In fact, I agree with most.

But the bolded is a little problematic. I agree there's gender inequality with some practices in the country. I think, for a long time now, and specifically in professional environment, women and men are generally presented with the same opportunities.

Some western society even have to content with the issues of gender pay gap for the same role or level (BBC anchors is one case study). I've not heard of women being paid differently in this country simply because they're women for the same level or position. We all have the same earning power for the same amount of work.


Obviously, men generally tend to be better off financially than women both here and globally. But that can be attributed to the fact that women generally gravitate towards lower paying careers and professions compare to men.

You focused on the gender pay gap but there is a lot of ways to find evidence of gender inequality before it ever comes to comparing salary. In addition, does Nigeria have any official or unofficial body that tracks salary and compares based on demographics?


gender inequality in Nigeria is high even compared to countries at similar levels of development. as far as opportunities or outcomes there are gender gaps.

education enrollment rates: girls are less likely to go to school than boys are. Women are less likely to have access health services or gain access to financial services or legal services or have the law on their side (despite the fact that at the national level laws exist that grant women and men equal rights).

In 2019 Nigerian ranked 133 out of 149 countries on gender equality according to the World Economic Forum.

This data can give you some reference to what outside of gender pay serves as evidence of gender inequality.


http://www3.weforum.org/docs/WEF_GGGR_2018.pdf

BLOODYSPERM:



It's natural and normal for young girls to marry old men that's Hypergamy even though some young women might be gold diggers

Young men marrying old women is pure gold digging on miserable Feminist and it's not popular or normal

Hypergamy has to do with marrying up, marrying someone who has greater social status/wealth/education than you have and that is traditionally what women sought/seek in marriage. That is not related to age.

Men scamming old ladies for a visa has nothing to do with feminism. Not everything you hate involving women can be labeled feminism.

DEMZEE:


Men are success objects. Women look for men with status and money for a relationship.

Women are sexual objects. Men look for young, attractive, fit and fertile women for a relationship.

Women hate it wen low valued men objectifies them but love it wen high value men objectifies them

Women look for a man who can provide for them so they don’t have to starve and their kids once the child is born. Especially in a country with a lot of gender inequality it’s important to use marriage to increase generational wealth. Even with that women constantly marry men who are in extreme poverty lol.

“status” which men qualify as having status and real money? How many in the Nigerian population? A very small percentage. You ppl will be watching the life of celebrities and acting as if this represents the life of average people.

As far as “fit and fertile”, women want that too. No woman wants an unattractive, sloppy man who can’t have kids... there is no gender divide on that. And the way a woman may compromise on looks if a man has money I’ve likewise seen your countrymen compromise and marry unattractive old foreign ladies just for an opportunity.

mosdii:




Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

I’m sorry she broke your heart, dear.

Happy healing!

DEMZEE:


Women are sexual objects
Men are success objects

We are all objects darling, we just differ with functionalities

What are your successes?

If all you’ve managed to get out of a woman is sex, just say that. Perhaps a woman has never loved you enough to show you more.

But women are not “sex objects” you just sexually objectify them.

DEMZEE:


But women are sexual objects though

Women are not objects at all. You should’ve learned this in primary school.

BLOODYSPERM:




Attacking masculine ego doesn't debunk mosdii generalization except you have strong rebuttals for his generalization how are Nigerian girls(not women ) productive

1.) I didn’t attack anything, I made an observation about a certain kind of man.

2.) I don’t know what a mosdii is, nor do I care about its generalizations... I was responding to the OP.

Well said

Most of the men who say such things like “women are useless” or just good for sex are just admitting that they don’t know what to do with a woman beyond sex. They are immature people who have no ability to plan beyond their privates.

In fact those men don’t know what they themselves have to offer, they do not know how to love, how to relate to a woman, or even how to hold intellectual conversations. they choose to degrade women to hide their own deficiencies

culf:



probably culture or maybe their orientation. It may also be because a lot of ladies marry men far older than then, whatever the reason is, its bad. Why should a woman be afraid of her husband judging her, it doesn't make sense.

you may be right, they might not ask because sex with the partner is not enjoyable and the partner is rigid not willing to find ways to give her pleasure.

African men are far from being conservative. True is, most of these things they don't do with wives at home, they do them outside. African men are far more adventurous than the women.

Well from the perspective of women in the West, African men are conservative. Maybe in comparison to your female counterparts you’re not. But from my experience in African/Nigerian groups like this one whenever an African woman expresses herself at all sexually or even dresses somewhat sexy she is shamed by the males in the society. Men might be more adventurous than the women they marry but only because the women have learned to repress their sexual desires... I’m guessing.

You’re right though, it’s a terrible marriage if you can’t tell your partner what you like in bed. but communicating is one of the most difficult things to get right in relationships, and communicating about sex can be even harder.

Kobojunkie:
Take her to the side by whose authority?
If she chooses to walk around naked, wetin concern am? Na im body she dey use walk naked?

Jesus Christ no send anyone go become police over wetin others dey wear so why not castigate men since they are nothing but crooks that sell their lies and bigotry in the name of Jesus Christ?

I’m in agreement...

My point about that was clear: that if he was so genuinely concerned he could’ve at the very least spoken to her privately rather than making a scene and embarrassing her.

culf:



Hmmmm, certainly not in Africa. Here that majority of women find it very hard to ask their husbands for sex, just sex oooo.

Hmm, maybe that’s because of the conservative culture, right?!!. Women are shamed for liking sex too much and if she starts asking her husband to do all these acrobatic and new things she’s probably afraid he’d judge her?

Maybe they don’t ask because sex with the husbands isn’t enjoyable

I guess that because African men are usually conservative lovers in comparison to their counterparts in the Western world.... and many don’t really understand the female body or that sex is meant to be enjoyed by women as well. When someone doesn’t know how to please you or isn’t concerned with pleasing you it can make sex an unpleasant experience.

nairamaniac:


madam, those are not insults.

it's an expression of my opinion of your mentality based on your statements down here.

I say those insults with Luv. not with hate.


I don't even expect u to understand.


but jokes apart shaaa, u no really dey bright shaaaaa.


For real.

One minute you say it’s not insults, the next u say they are insults with love. In your previous comment you admitted to abusive words... so which is it?

You don’t know how to speak to strangers and if I was in the mood to return your unkindness you wouldn’t like it at all...

Dont reply to me again. Go find some manners, maybe ask your parents to train you. Good luck

Mandela27:
I meant to say the African culture.nothing concern me with western countries and their way of life

That’s interesting because even in Nigeria there is a northern people, Irigwe, who practiced polyandry (multiple husbands) until it was outlawed... so for their “African culture” since time immemorial worked thusly.

The cultures I was referencing are all Eastern, not Western.

And the point is there is no way that nature has determined for men and women to live. We form the societies and make the rules therein... we can also change them as we see fit.

I really hope this video is fake. Which pastor finds it appropriate to humiliate a girl in such a fashion? All the murder, sexual assault/rape, thievery, corruption, scamming etc in Nigeria but he thinks he should devote time to a single girl’s style of dress. Strange.

Take her to the side and discuss quietly if you want to guide a person, do not make a big scene.

This can’t be real.

Mandela27:
... uptight?
that's what the present society wants from men like me that won't accept anything rather than how nature wants the both genders to live since time immemorial

Yes, uptight: wounded over the slightest comment, offended over the mildest of jokes, injured over any critique...

How does “nature” want both genders to live? Do you know anything about ancient societies and gender structures all over the globe or you’re just guessing?

In some cultures women marry more than one husband and it’s been like that in their culture since time immemorial. Is that the type of way nature wants both genders to live??

Mandela27:
Now it's obvious feminists need brain transplant

I’m not even a feminist... lol

feminist is not a slur for any critique of manhood.

That last comment was obviously facetious... relax.

U are the most uptight people on earth lol

Not worth the attention...

To me, whatever the married couple consents to do between themselves is fine and beautiful as long as they both are into it. By “consent” I don’t mean one being coerced to do things they consider shameful or painful for the sake of their spouse.

The truth is a lot of women are more adventurous than their husbands. So if I’m into certain things and he’s into very vanilla standard styles, I can encourage him to try new things but some stuff he will never be into and I’d have to learn to be ok with that. Anyway, I wouldn’t want him to be doing things that he is finding studying or uncomfortable.

Marriage is about compromise. So if BDSM is such a part of your life it is only fair to find a spouse who shares that lifestyle. Otherwise it’s something you will have to put aside for the sake of your marriage. If I suddenly decide I want to try anal and my husband does not of course there is no excuse for me to go out and find a guy to do that with me. I would need to put that aside and enjoy my husband for what he is willing to do and try.

Couples should try to remain open-minded and be willing to step a bit out of their comfort zone for their spouse. But the more adventurous spouse should also realize that coercing and pressuring their spouse to participate in a different kind of sex is not healthy or ok. Everything should be done in love.

nairamaniac:


if that's u on it dp, u are just an empty vessel in a very beautiful face.

u are quite daft and highly unintelligent.

what a dustbin&waste of so much beauty.

hiw can u ask *What's the issue here*?

of things for u u say or start with.


So I don't see any issue here?

I'm ashamed of wherever u r coming from.


Then I became more daft by asking *why did he list all those things as if it's not his duty, bla bla bla*

so if it's his duty, his wife and himself shouldnt be transparent towards financial accoumtbility & expenditures?


Then u even became Stupider by giving only one excuse for why a woman wouldn't be transparent.

To you, the only reason *is if the man is financially irresponsible*
how can u be so thin in ur reasoning?

Then your condition got worse by saying *he was busy snooping around*

Didn't u read the part he said the messages popped up by coincidence, when she didn't log out from the laptop?

I stupid shaaaa. FUNKE!! JESU!!!


Then u concluded your oscar deserving act with your last paragraph.
That Story sounds fake.

Antie, abeg what sounds fake in the story?


The only thing fake here, is the coconut in your head that has been exchanged for your brain.

U said no woman would allow her children to suffer in poverty when she has money.


use your head for once.

Do I know that SUFFERING is SUBJECTIVE

PEOPLE CAN BE SUFFERING DELIBERATELY, BUT THEY WOULD SEE IT AS SACRIFICE OR ECONOMICAL.

They would never see it as suffering or punishment.


Sorry for all my abusive words on you, but when one is very foolish, this is the only way he or she can get the message.

By the second line, I already can’t finish that, too many insults for the morning lol

I know nairaland is a toxic place where men get used to speaking to women anyhow and saying some of the most grotesque and uncouth things... but if you want to be understood or have your perspective considered try to communicate with someone like a human being...

idahme:


That he wished that difference doesn't make him not having capacity to make good husband. My parents age difference is 10years and I have wished everything I desire as a man from my dad, he is an epitome of Love, Care and knowledge. Where the problem lies is when the person puts the age difference thing as a criteria that must be gotten by all means. In my dad and mum it was when they were married already that they new the exact difference between their ages. in synopsis, every one has the right to wish for qualities and attributes he or she wished in a partner, just like a lady will wish to get married to a billionaire when she hasn't worked for a single thousand all her life does it mean she will always turn out to be a bad wife? your answer is as good as mine.

When men call women who wish for a rich husband a “liability” and not wife material do you argue with them that her preference doesn’t mean she will be a bad wife?

Or is it just when a woman determines that a man’s shallow preference will make him a bad husband that you come to defend shallow preferences?

You’re right that my answer is as good as yours...

SarutobiEky:
Aunty you no dey tire? It seems like you're prepared to fight all the males here. Cool down nau all these back and forth ain't worth it.

But I’m not fighting, I’m replying to people (some who are quite angry) and i’m calmly doing so...

it’s just a time passer, a source of entertainment like it is for everyone else.

Thanks for your concern

Mandela27:
So what about the next generation?where will they come from?

Maybe Earth is tired of us and trying to end us...

also, IVF/test tubes

kushme:


Keep quiet there, who made you an authority on phrases? Sigmund Freud, right

penis envy: Repressed female desire to possess a penis as part of their own anatomy.

Freud created the term and so its Freud I refer to for the definition. It has nothing to do with wanting to possess a penis but the early realization that one does not have a penis... it has nothing to do with repressed desires lol.

Tadeknkeepcalm:

Can't you read?
Do you not see the Nazi there?
That's describes hateful people like you

What was hateful? and maybe you don’t know what the terms u mean refer to but a feminazi is a feminist that is nazi-like in her feminist beliefs. So again, what was feminist there?

ceaser:


You're wrong.

The law of evolution proposes degeneration due to persistent disuse or underuse. What organs and abilities you use persistently gets preserved from generation to generation.

Evolution of reptiles to land animal involved the degeneration of aquatic breathing apparatus (gills) to a rudimentary organ that eventually disappears. This is because the moment they got on land, the gills turned out useless. So instead a new mechanism (the lungs) to help survive on land evolved, and this has over time evolve to be perfected for use on land.

In human race, genes that serve no purpose in a population eventually gets inactive and repressed after several generations. The Sickle cell gene is preponderant among subsaharan Africans because it's expression was enhanced over generations while it became repressed in Caucasians. The sickle cell gene has protective properties against Malaria infection which is endemic in Subsaharan Africa but nearly absent among Caucasians.

I love this response so much!!

Everyone else attacked me with insults but this actually engages on an intellectual level I didn’t expect...

But let me just defend my theory for the sake of it. What I was proposing was not a species adaptation but one of nature correcting things to protect itself. It’s not quite scientific, I suppose. It was more of a metaphysical theory

So what’s at issue here, really? All I can imagine is the secrecy... if he knew his wife’s salary does that mean he would not want to pay for rent, school fees, clothing? Why did he lost them as if it isn’t his duty to pay for those things?

The only reason a woman will not disclose to her husband how much money she makes or has is if he’s proven to be financially irresponsible.

Some men might see the wife making money and decide he doesn’t want to work so hard to support his family. He will become lazy. Once the wife notices this she might form a habit of not disclosing

Some men once they learn the wife has money will suddenly be wanting to invest in this or that money wasting project and she will learn not to disclose because of that.

Some men learn the wife has money and will want to borrow without ever returning the money to her...

As far as purchasing land and property, do men buy land and property always with the wife’s knowledge? Maybe she would surprise him later but he was too busy snooping through her messages and ruined the surprise...

The story seems very fake in that no mother is going to allow her kids to suffer in poverty when she has money.

sparko1:


Madame keep quiet, it's your gender that causes everything?

In school 90% of the fight is because of your gender. Not like you are unaware, your gender will go and date two cultist from different gang just to feel fly, causing serious issues, and walking away like you are not aware.

Every destruction recorded is as a result of your gender negligence and lust for money, don't come here acting like some super human, it takes two to mingle.

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You just blamed everything on my gender then said it takes two “to mingle”

The world leaders of the major powers of the world for the last couple centuries have been men. World poverty, human enslavement, animal cruelty, genocide, violence, worldwide atrocities all carried out by men in majority and totally with male leadership.

The heads of the major companies since the Industrial Age have been men in an overwhelming majority and therefore the cause of the world’s pollution is men.

Inventors of weapons of mass destruction, inventors of tools and methods of torture have been men.

Men sell women to this very day into sex slavery, it’s a male run industry. Men are the majority of the richest, money hoarders on Earth but it’s women who lust for money, right?

You’re coming here talking about fights between cultists are because of women? So without women cultists would be peaceful people just serving the poor or what?

Lmao! You’re not serious.

AishaYesufu:

What a shallow comment.

Neither YOU nor any other person have right to tell a man that he won't be a good husband based on his preference for a wife. You can only share in his preference or disagree with him - this is a basic understanding that even 12 year olds know. You have no right to judge a man by his preference, doing that shows how shallow you are. It is plain dumb and gross exhibition of ignorance to say a man is not a "husband material" simply because he wants a woman 10 years younger. Grow up and get enlightened

BTW Your choice for a Brad Pitt or Dangote is your business, it doesn't define you to be a bad or good wife. What makes you a good/bad wife is your character, faithfulness/unfaithfulness, loyalty/disloyalty, support to your spouse or otherwise etcetera... Jesus, try to be logical and stop sounding shallow.

Do we understand the meaning of shallow?

You just said I can disagree with his preference which I do and the reason I disagree is because it is a preference only poor husband material could arrive at.

I surely can judge a man by his preferences, lol, you’re just making up random rules that make no sense. A man who requires a woman be a decade younger than him is exhibiting insecurity that is not becoming of a husband.

Even you just said what makes a good wife are blah blah blah... but this man thinks what makes a good wife is foremost her age being a decade+ younger than him. That is what is dumb and gross.

I’ve made my points and you’re becoming more insulting each time you reply to me, so you need not reply to me again.

IJOBA11:
NICE ONE MC SQUIRT

You people are such perverts, I swear!

AishaYesufu:

You are so unintelligent. Every basic educated individual know that there is something called preference, which everyone is entitled to. A man saying he wants younger wife is his CHOICE and preference, it neither define whether or not he will make a good husband... Who are you to counter his preference? Make oversabi no kill you...


One thing I dislike about most ladies is that they have this warped mindset like they know what is good for men even when they know nothing.

You’re the person who said a woman is in no position to judge if a man will make a good husband but I’m so unintelligent? Ha!!

I can have a preference for men with lots of money and with looks like Brad Pitt in his prime but that doesn’t mean my choice and preference can’t properly be judged as shallow and not the priorities a serious woman should have.

Having a preference and CHOICE doesn’t mean the average person can’t determine whether that person’s preference and choice is based in ignorance or immaturity.

In this case it’s very clear to me that a man who requires a woman who is a decade or more his junior is not husband material. Sorry to tell you...