newuser11:
I tend to lose total interest once a girl agreed to date me.
There was this babe that u really liked, I thought finally I've found the one. I had to suffer before I got her number, then suffered a lot of indignation before she eventually turn up. Suddenly again, after dating for a measly 5 days, It happened again. She just isn't it again, I lost interest in her without even having sex with her. And this was actually a girl I went through thick and thin before she agreed to be my GF. Now, it seems she's fallen hard buh I can't continue. I'm not feeling it. I told her and she berserk, called me different sort of names. She came to my house this evening to beg, asked what she did wrong and I can't even pinpoint to a reason why I ended it coz there isn't one.
Many girls have come and gone like that. They've called me names. Some I had sex with before ending it, some I don't.
Please house, what is wrong with me? Wtf is happening to me?

PS: I've only had one relationship that lasted a little, and that was during my service year. Eventually, I ended it for no reason. I just don't feel the vibe.
This is really messing me up, HELP!

Maybe you have some self-esteem issue where you don’t think you are good enough for anyone and so anyone who accepts your advances you can no longer respect or be attracted to because you wonder how they can be attracted to someone like you?

I don’t know, maybe consult with a therapist?

It’s not always muslims. Most mass shootings in America are at the hands of white males, what are you even talking about?!

This is terrible. Nigerians really must begin to protect their children. Beating in school or even this level of beating outside of school is purely abuse

I wonder if Polish forums have members who get so excited to see Polish people marrying Black people. Is it only African pages who feel so excited about these things

Richy4:


What do you even know about white people in the first place?,, How many white people do u know?.. And how many have given you a cold shoulder because of the color of your skin?.. Don't you know what the woman was trying to do? If you don't then, I'm sorry I can't help you... But I have to let you know that everyone is utilizing every slightest opportunity they got nowadays to cash out ....

Besides, I believe you are a Nigerian, and you went to a Nigerian school... How many times were u punished while in primary/secondary school and you went for therapy?...If you did not go for therapy why didn't you? ... Or don't you think at that time, whoever was punishing u was putting u into slavish condition?

You are talking about white being racist and disrespectful yet you were disrespecting people that doesn't share the same view as yours...calling them dumb..

Maybe the idea of racism in America is difficult for you to understand since you are not a Black American and obviously not well versed in American history.

A mother not wanting her son to be humiliated and degraded has nothing to do with cashing out. The most common consequences here would be a public apology and the teacher being fired, not cashing out. The mother wants her son to be vindicated and to be able to walk around with his head held high, that’s why she’s fighting for him.

Again, if you don’t understand racism, white supremacy, and American history, maybe don’t speak on subjects you don’t understand fully.

general111:
That woman is playing naija style on them in order to collect money.
How can a child be in therapy because he was asked to kneel down.
If it is true, then over 100million nigerians need to visit therapy.
Make she go relax jawe

You could be right that 100 million Nigerians need therapy

Certain harmful things you consider fine in Nigeria is not so in the rest of the world. Beating kids in school is fine in Nigeria but in America it is illegal.

AfricaUnited:
Copied from Facebook

A White Headmaster was suspended by the School Board for making an African American student kneel down to apologize to his White Teacher in class. The student got home and told his mother what happened. The mother contacted the school and asked if it was standard practice to ask errant students to kneel down in contrition. The Headmaster replied no. So, the mom asked ‘’why did you make my son do so’’? The Headmaster replied that he did so because he learned it was the African way of apologizing from a Nigerian friend of his who had told him that’s how he disciplines his kids (�����). The Headmaster added that he also does it to his own kids at home when they misbehave. The woman was angry. ‘’We are not a Nigerian family’’ she said. ‘’We did not ask you to discipline our son this way’’. ‘’So, I do not see the correlation you are trying to make’’. The Headmaster was lost, as he had no answer to that. The woman is accusing the Headmaster of racism and slave master attitude and claims his son has been traumatized and now in therapy. A court case is brewing.

Poor Nigeria just had to be dragged into this����

What do you think?

It doesn’t even make sense because if he does it to his own kids, who I assume are white, then why would he only make the Black kid do this at the school?

Even if it is a cultural way of behaving abroad he cannot push a foreign cultural practice onto an American child, especially something like this to a Black American child.

A “headmaster” would be very aware of the racial dynamics in America and how debasing it is to have a Black kid being forced on his knees to show respect to a white man. But that’s debasing for any child, to be honest.

eejo:
I noticed that many ladies are lonely in Europe and dying for companionship. The following reasons are responsible
1 Child care in Europe consume time and fund which many are not ready for.
2 Rape allegation can ruin your life thus Men are careful
3 long working hours which means less time for fun except holidays.
This normally get worse as they grow older and that is the reason scammers continue to reap this vulnerable women.

Women in Europe are not dying for companionship anymore than the average woman in Nigeria. Scammers usually choose women who are physically less desirable and usually aged. Those women are trying to find young poor men who can they can lure with money, control and exploit for sex and sometimes they get scammed on that mission.

Nobody is lacking companionship over rape allegations � not one man has stopped dating out of fear of being called a rapist. stop the madness.

ShaqFu:
Oh so I shouldn't say men are raped? Or I shouldn't say little boys are also raped by older women? So according to you, I shouldn't even say anything about men/boys being sexually assaulted or molested because women are more sexually assaulted and molested than men.

So this means, according to you, women/girls being sexually assaulted/molested is more important than men because women/girls are in majority. Hmmmm. I see, what a twisted mindset you have. Imagine you saying I'm making a mockery of the whole thing because I mentioned men being raped.

Look here. Rape is wrong. It is despicable. Whether it is a man, woman, boy or girl that is raped, it is wrong!.
And whose fault is the bolded? Mine or yours?

This sick mindset of some of you women is becoming something else. You just believe because you have are vagina, everything should roll in your favour.

Yet in this male centered society you so speak of, we've seen women who excel. Dora Akunyili, Oby Ezekwesili, Amina Mohammed, Ngozi Okonjo Iweala, Lola Alakija and that little angel who excelled in Mathematics Faith. Are those not women who became something in a male centered environment?

Your excuses are as weak as a penis_ suffering from erectile dysfunction. You and your lot should stop making excuses. Opportunities are abound for those who see it and make use of them. Making excuses and believing because you own a vagina, lines should fall in place for you won't get you and your lot anywhere. Period.

You’re creating arguments I didn’t make in order to avoid the point. Typical.

You dismissed the reality of the epidemic of gender based violence and sexual assault women face in Nigeria to say “men are raped too”. That is a deflection. Men are not being raped in significant numbers to the point that nearly every NGO in the world is concerned. 1 in 4 Nigerian women are sexually assaulted before they turn 18. I’ll repeat that for you.

The reason women being raped is a topic is because Nigeria ranks amongst the world highest for rapes of WOMEN not males... and the topic we are commenting under is yet another example of such violence against women and yet you tried to limit it to “one man” as if this isn’t a trend in Nigeria. Are you following now or you want to deflect again.

As far as the fact that you can name a few women who have managed success despite gender oppression in Nigeria, that is pathetic. First of all, I’m sure the number of men you can name is endless whereas you can name only a handful of women. Secondly, a a minority of women being able to beat the system of oppression women face is not evidence the system doesn’t exist. Just like in a racist system the success of a few racial minorities isn’t evidence racism doesn’t exist.

As far as whose fault it is, it is everyone in society who coddles men and treats them as if they are superior to women. It’s everyone who thinks women saying they are equal to men is offensive. It’s everyone who upholds double standards that benefit males. It’s

Komu1048:




This is sickening, men have become the endanger species. Men look strong but made weak by the society. No one will ask the man any question or believe his story. U have issue with a woman she tears her cloth and that's all the prove she needs, she will nail you for life. Small girls from 10 know understand how powerful they are, they use their weapon against teachers, doctors, pastors, lecturers, drivers etc. So far you are a man you are in danger. Men wake up stop supporting women against men just bcox of brest n pusi. Not all stories about rape is true 60-75% r set up

Imagine being a man, growing up in a society that has coddled you so much that you believe 10 year old girls are to blame for grown men raping them.

This is an entirely disgusting statement and reveals the decay of society. For some men it is entirely too late for them, they cannot be cured of their delusions. But their delusions are harmful to others, especially women and children. They will rape a girl of 10 and say she used her “power” against them.

To be in a country such as Nigeria but complain that women have the power!? against all factual besides ex any metric you look at... I just... I am almost speechless

ShaqFu:
Yes one man. Mind you men also get raped. This issue of rape isn't exclusive to women or girls alone. Violence or sexual assault isn't mutually exclusive to women and girls alone.

The violence you speak affects everybody in the polity. Men, women, boys and girls. Stop making it seem like women and girls are the only ones on the receiving end.

I never said you spoke generally. I said stop generalizing. Me saying stop generalizing simply mean you should stop saying men are rapists.

Nigeria generally have this abysmal way of how it treats it's citizens, both men and women, boys and girls.

You said I’m generalizing which means to make a general statement, which means I was speaking generally...

You’re in denial about the fact that gender based violence affects women in majority. You’re even making a mockery of the situation by saying men are raped.

Certainly, male children are sometimes sexually abused along with female children though it is not as common... but which men are being raped to such a degree that the increase in rape cases has been so significant? 1 in 4 Nigerian girls are sexually assaulted by the time they are 18 years old. That’s an epidemic and your denial will only make that worse.

What’s really annoying is someone who grows in a very male-centered society. You see how males are favored and treated as superiors, you were raised under this. But for conversations where the harm men do is pointed out you will now be a faux feminist shouting “EQUALITY, WE ARE ALL THE SAME!”

ShaqFu:
Stop being narrow minded. The act of one man doesn't mean all men are the same. Stop generalizing, it's not healthy for you.

“One man”

Are you going to pretend rape and sexual assault is not very common in Nigeria? Are we going to pretend violence against girls and women is also not very common in Nigeria?

So you understand I was speaking generally, right? Which admits I was not including every single man. But generally Nigeria has a big problem with how it views, treats, values girls and women. I’m sorry to say. And this “one man” is an example of what happens because of that fact.

Pat081:
you are right but not all men are like that but if you still them together rembemer your dad and ur husband too are in that group

But my dad and brother can read my comment and know I’m not describing their character and they will understand the general point I am making without taking offense. That’s the good thing about them.

IGoComotYaTeeth:
Are you not the same lot talking about sex everyday putting pressure upon us 'those that are single', talking as if sex is the best thing in the world, of course things like this will happen in Nigeria when that's all you guys talk about

Women are always talking about sex in Nigeria, and men are doing what? Can we stop lying please? Like, really... this laughable. Women are pressuring Nigerian men to be sexually immoral? ha!

Depepper:


honestly, you've said it all it's a big slap on the face men. Feeling like superior gender up and down.
The sad thing is that i don't that man will be penalize

That’s the worst part, he likely won’t because girls and women are not valued at all by society

Depepper:


honestly, you've said it all it's a big slap on the face men. Feeling like superior gender up and down.
The sad thing is that i don't that man will be penalize

That’s the worst part, he likely won’t because girls/women are not valued at all by society

Reckyd123:
Including your father? Next time, use "some men" not "men".

Some women are ashawo but not "women". You get the point now

Don’t tell me how to write. I don’t need to write “some” to satisfy those people who have reading comprehension issues.

Take your sensitivities elsewhere. I see men generalize “women” all the time and I’m sure you do as well without correcting them.

Go somewhere, please

JayEntaur:


I like your taste in music. Hope it's eclectic?

Thanks. I like a little bit of everything

sonmvayina:


Isaiah 53 is about a suffering servant. Isaiah already told you in chapter 41:6-9 that the servant is israel. So get that.

Where did you get the bold from? Or is it just your opinion?

Man is God spirit+ dust of the earth. When man dies the spirit returns to God and the body returns to dust..

What needs to be redeemed??

I didn’t ask you to tell me what the chapter is about. You alleged that there was nothing to be found in the Bible, in the law and prophets, about human’s suffering for the sins of mankind, or human sacrificing themself as a type of offering. i showed you a chapter dedicated to that very thought. You can give context all you want but I told you previously that the Messiah s stated in the New Testament came to fulfill every jot and tittle of the law and prophets. Isaiah chapter 53 is fulfilled by his ministry & death.

The part about being an offering for sin is in chapter 53 verse 10 as I noted with the “10” before that sentence.

So you don’t believe we have souls? You don’t believe man is threefold spirit/soul/body? Everything that is animated has the spirit of God but not every animated thing has a conscience and consciousness, that is the soul.

What is wrong with men? They feel so entitled to the bodies of anyone with a vagina. It is sickening.

I blame society because all I ever see on social media are posts warning women to be good wives or the husband will sleep with the maid as if maid is his property. What about what the maid wants? Why should she be pressured to have sex with anyone, she just wants her job.

Society encourages men to have little morals and no self-control. And they are becoming more criminal, debased, and dangerous to women and society.

And the fact that she is 14... wickedness. A 14 year old should be in school not working as a maid and under the authority of some sick pedophile.

BRATISLAVA:


From the sorts of things posted on this forum, it's okay to be a liability if you're a man. Men would look at relationships through the money angle, but heavens forbid a woman does.

This is just another male golddigger thread. They were all interested in money, not relationships. Female money is their criteria, but look at how they lash out at any female who shares the same opinion with then. Men who hate women are such hypocrites.

The OP says he ran out of data and is using free basics. They will soon come to defend why he needs a rich woman to give him money urgently, when he cannot handle his internet subscription. His woman didn't give him.

Such topics are created by poor men. I never grew up among such whiners. Modern men are just bitter women with pen.ises.

You’ve said it all!

sonmvayina:


When did God say he needed a man to die for the sins of man?

When the jews wheresacrificing their sons to molech, what was his response to them ?

Where did you get that from?

Animal sacrifice was for unintentional sins.

All Godsaidhe wanted was a contrite heart. Confess and forsake, where did you get the human sacrifice thingy?

a human body, made of cursed earth, is not a worthy sacrifice. No physical man is able to redeem because due to Adam we are born in sin. a sacrifice has to be blemish free in order to have the sinner’s sins placed upon it. Yahshua’s body was specially prepared in the same way Adam’s was, making him the only body fit to redeem.

One such place in the Old Testament that mentions redemption through such a sacrifice is Isaiah chapter 53. The entire chapter describes someone taking on our sin and redeeming us, bringing us peace through his pain:

4 Surely he took up our pain
and bore our suffering,
yet we considered him punished by God,
stricken by him, and afflicted.
5 But he was pierced for our transgressions,
he was crushed for our iniquities;
the punishment that brought us peace was on him,
and by his wounds we are healed.
6 We all, like sheep, have gone astray,
each of us has turned to our own way;
and the Lord has laid on him
the iniquity of us all.

10Yet it was the Lord’s will to crush him and cause him to suffer,
and though the Lord makes his life an offering for sin,
he will see his offspring and prolong his days,
and the will of the Lord will prosper in his hand.
11 After he has suffered,
he will see the light of life and be satisfied


So you see, the idea of such a sacrifice is not foreign to the Bible at all. As I first told you, there is nothing Yahshua does that is at odds with the Old Testament. Everything done is in fulfillment of scripture.

sonmvayina:


When did God say he needed a man to die for the sins of man?

When the jews wheresacrificing their sons to molech, what was his response to them ?

Where did you get that from?

Animal sacrifice was for unintentional sins.

All Godsaidhe wanted was a contrite heart. Confess and forsake, where did you get the human sacrifice thingy?

a human body, made of cursed earth, is not a worthy sacrifice. No physical man is able to redeem because due to Adam we are born in sin. a sacrifice has to be blemish free in order to have the sinner’s sins placed upon it. Yahshua’s body was specially prepared in the same way Adam’s was, making him the only body fit to redeem.

One such place in the Old Testament that mentions redemption through such a sacrifice is Isaiah chapter 53. The entire chapter describes someone taking on our sin and redeeming us, bringing us peace through his pain:

4 Surely he took up our pain
and bore our suffering,
yet we considered him punished by God,
stricken by him, and afflicted.
5 But he was pierced for our transgressions,
he was crushed for our iniquities;
the punishment that brought us peace was on him,
and by his wounds we are healed.
6 We all, like sheep, have gone astray,
each of us has turned to our own way;
and the Lord has laid on him
the iniquity of us all.

10Yet it was the Lord’s will to crush him and cause him to suffer,
and though the Lord makes his life an [/b]offering for sin,
he will see his offspring and prolong his days,
and the will of the Lord will prosper in his hand.
11 After he has suffered,
he will see the light of life and be satisfied


So you see, the idea of such a sacrifice is not foreign to the Bible at all. As I first told you, there is nothing Yahshua does that is at odds with the Old Testament. Everything done is in fulfillment of scripture.

Valenciabaddie:
So I'm single just because I told my boyfriend turned ex that I can't do his house chores for him .
He's a salary earner that works from 8-5
This guy expects that I go over to his house ,clean and cook before he comes back ??. when I'm not married to him ,and anytime I refused he flares up and starts making silly comments like "so what is now your use " imagine that annoying statement from someone I thought was literate and intelligent.. can you imagine that ?.. So I have to offer services before I can be useful? ..
I was frustrated and I told him I'm done and this guy did not even bother to show remorse, like he's okay with the break up ??

I'm really sorry but I find it appalling to be washing plates and sweeping a man's house when I'm not a slave , and even If I will do that then it has to be my own free will not you telling me to do it like it's my job..

if other women do that well I'm sorry I can't . atleast not while we are still dating

So you don’t even live with him and to be a good girlfriend you should be making visits to clean a house you don’t live in to be considered useful?

It’s fine if as a favor on occasion you cook him a meal or clean up for him, especially if you are there visiting for a day or two. But to make it as if it’s a requirement and compulsory, he should just hire a maid service.

Anyway you’re lucky because any man who is dating you & saying you have no value unless you are cleaning his apartment is a man who has an archaic mindset and no respect for you. He should be telling you how valuable you are to him not asking what value you bring. If he can’t see your value at this point don’t cry one tear or think one more thought over that boy.

OlayemiAshraf:
Awnnnn.. this is better than male diving into each other butthole.
.
And soon it will end in tears

This big booty ..I don't think strap will give her orgasm

Most men don’t give their woman orgasms so it’s not a huge difference there...

bitingcool:


A jobless man that sees doing his laundry as a task. That calls washing the plates of food he didn't cook or provide money for a belittling. I can bet his furking isn't even premium or d dhick size. Tell me why the woman won't be frustrated and express it

Dear op, love your woman, help her before she asks. You will start experiencing honeymoon in that hot house. Heck. Your babe will even help you look for a job. Married men with money cook and Clean. Being a help meet is both ways. You got into cohabitation reality very fast and I xan tell you're in shock. Better wise up. No angel dey outside. Not even in the village talk less of the city.

Agree! She should very much be allowed and expected to express her frustrations with him.

he said her bad mouth is killing him in an earlier reply, so I assume he meant she’s using harsh/degrading words which nobody really should do with their partner.

But it could be as you said. in the same way he feels he is above housework, he may likewise feel he’s above any critique at all & therefore anything she says to him is taken as an affront

BarristerAlarig:




I totally missed this. Op made her move from a self con to a mini flat with more expenses. Now she has to cover the expenses which is way higher than she's use to. Who wouldn't nag?? OP needs to apologise to this woman.

Right. And still it doesn’t give her any right to belittle or be abusive but I definitely understand her disappointment and frustrations.

sonmvayina:


The messiah as defined in judaism is a king or high preist tbat is annointed to lead the people. He is not coming to change Gods laws, any body who does that is immediately recognised as a false prophet.

That one messiah that the prophet spoke about is coming to usher in peace and end all wars and oppression. That has not happened.


We are all waiting..

No one has changed the laws but they are written on our hearts and minds as the Old Testament said. Jeremiah 31:31 itself predicts a change that’s why it says the new covenant will be UNLIKE the old one.

His death was for the purpose of redemption. So that we are no longer under the laws and have an opportunity to know, understand, and love our creator on a personal level. the previous way had people depending on rabbis and priests to communicate with Yahweh on their behalf and it was not serving the purpose of true redemption.

Since you disregard the New Testament when convenient I suppose referring you to Matthew 24th chapter would be fruitless:

4Take heed that no man deceive you.

5 For many shall come in my name, saying, I am Christ; and shall deceive many.

6 And ye shall hear of wars and rumours of wars: see that ye be not troubled: for all these things must come to pass, but the end is not yet.

7 For nation shall rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom: and there shall be famines, and pestilences, and earthquakes, in divers places.

8 All these are the beginning of sorrows.

Wars and strife must come to pass, Earth is not the final destination. A peaceful Earth wouldn’t even make sense as it wouldn’t encourage anyone to search for and depend on Yahweh, similar to how in the Old Testament the Israelites only called out for Yahweh when they were in bondage or peril.

The peace that Yahshua Messiah brought to us comes once we accept the sacrifice he made and acknowledge who he was, once we are filled with the holy spirit.

sonmvayina:


Man was created from dust of the earth + spirit of God. I said that at the beginning of this thread. God already set the law thst before a woman become pregnant , she was receive the sperm from the man at the right time and conditions.. So mary can not become pregnant without a mans sperm. Out side thst it is mythology..


So jesus, perseus, prometheus and bacchus are mythical demi gods.. Not real...the earlier you know and realise thst the better you wake up ftom the brain washing..

Yes for mankind to make a child, a sperm and egg must be used. But Yahweh is not beholden to the laws of man. He shows that again and again throughout the Old Testament. Or do you think all the signs and wonders of the Old Testament are metaphorical?


Anyone can say that Yahshua the Messiah didn’t exist without evidence. You’ve used your imagination here to suppose what Yahweh can or cannot do but I’d recommend reading Job chapters 37-41 again for some humbling. Yahweh does not need your or anyone’s approval or permission to do anything.

And because you disapprove of him placing his life in a human body doesn’t mean it’s an abomination. As he said “cursed is the ground” but he should use cursed elements to make a spotless body? As you know, a sin offering must be without spot or blemish to be a worthy sacrifice. A man like us would not be worthy or capable of redeeming us...

If you’re not aware, atheists dismiss the existence of God entirely and likewise mock your own beliefs in the same way you’ve done here. You didn’t prove anything, you offered your limited perspective and concluded based on that alone.

GboyegaD:


This is why I sometimes feel relationships in our culture is transactional. It is always about what can I get. There's nothing to be disappointed about provided he is putting efforts at trying to get a job.

What’s transactional here?

Being disappointed is natural human emotion. He encouraged her to incur more expenses with the expectation he would get work to cover his portion. when someone makes a plan with you but fails to live up to their end of the deal, being disappointed is a valid response. You can’t dictate how other people should feel.

sonmvayina:


The new convenant is a renewal of the old....when the messiah that God will annoint(not baptised) with a special oil. He will be a man like you and me..with a father and mother from the lineage of David through solomon his son. He will build the temple of God in jerusalem and resume the daily sacrifice to God. He will bring peace and teach men to follow the creator...

So it hasn’t taken place. Ok... Earlier I thought you were saying no one will read the Torah to me as present-tense.

So you do believe there will be a Messiah. And that god will send a man, that’s not at issue with you... you just don’t accept the one already sent.

The idea that god would send a regular man to save anyone in his stead actually seems more of an abomination than whatever your qualms were. And that is not at all different from his old covenant. Why would he do away with stone and replace it with stone...

You expect a literal temple to be built rather than a metaphorical temple in a physical Jerusalem... How do you pick and choose which parts of the Old Testament are not literal and which parts are not? Earlier you said certain stories in the Old Testament were not literal but meant to elucidate a point...

why would he build a physical temple which was for the officiating of priests when he says in jeremiah that every man will know him and he will place his law in our hearts and minds? What purpose would the temple serve? He says he will remember our sins no more, so why would a temple be needed as no one will need to go there to have sins forgiven? Otherwise it wouldn’t be a new covenant at all, it would be the same old one.

Anyway, this has gotten a bit away from the point: you originally said the existence of the Messiah as written in the Bible is at odds with the Old Testament and in opposition to God... you have not shown at all how that is so. You’ve only said you don’t agree with God’s method of placing life into Miriam...