Aconomist:
I live in the U.S. and visit New York all the time. You, like most Nigerians, are completely delusional. I can't even argue with someone who would compare New York to Lagos. Your brain is completely smooth.

Tell me the street in Manhattan that is comparable to Lagos. I've been throughout the city. Also, Manhattan is the the most developed part of New York. The Bronx is the poorest borough. Do you know what a borough is? Do you know what a bodega is? Do you know what ethnicity lives in Washington Heights? Do you know what a brownstone is? Do you know the difference between New York pizza and Chicago pizza?

Prove you have been to New York. Because right now, you are talking nonsense.

New York is divided into like 7, 9? boroughs...

Chicago pizza is deep dish, and better.

A bodega is basically a corner store, a convenience store.

Why would I lie about visiting Manhattan and finding it dirty

Speaking of smooth brains: I didn’t compare New York to Lagos originally. I compared people’s reaction to their city being insulted. You didn’t comprehend the simple text I wrote and started making one to one comparisons which I said was not proper. But I did call it a lie that the best place in Lagos is worse than the worse place in New York. It’s still a lie

doxijaw:


Imitating black Americans is one problematic issue

Those doing it are importing all the social dysfunctionalities you acquired during slavery.

You should set good examples.

Lol are we responsible for you? Can you not set good examples for yourselves to follow? Are you incapable?

If anything you people should be running a decent moral, thriving country so us poor wayward children of slaves have a functioning place to come back to. Instead... smh

Trust me, your country has been dysfunctional since the days of colonialism and has only managed to decline since the technical end of colonialism. Don’t blame Black Americans for that, have some accountability! lmao

9icest:
Even the American government admits that the US ranks one of the unsafest countries in the world.

https://www.forbes.com/sites/laurabegleybloom/2018/09/27/revealed-the-15-most-dangerous-places-to-live/?sh=2cb7b58a4706

Nigeria has its wahala but these are merely associated with corruption and poverty. Meanwhile, the us problems are way beyond easy repairs; a depressed gun man can create the damage that will leave hundreds dead, there is fear of terrorism and also the issue with hate, racism and gun violence. But still America is the richest and most prosperous country. I’d take it over Nigeria any damn day or time!

That Forbes article is based on an Internations survey. Which is how expats personally view places they live abroad. And it is because of their discomfort with the US having gun violence/mass shootings.

For being a world power the rates of gun violence are dismal but can it be compared to crime and violence in Nigeria? I don’t think so.

In America we don’t fear terrorism much because it is rare. I am afraid of gun violence/mass shootings and police/State violence.

In Nigeria I also had fear of terrorism, kidnappings, and armed robbery... then later learned if I return I’d also have to fear SARS/state violence

Nigeria is ranked 16th most dangerous in the world and the United States is at 36 here... https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/most-dangerous-countries

SarkinYarki:
Definitely killed by a black American..You run leave Bokoharam and Bandits for Nigeria only to meet those heartless black Americans who kill for no reason

Why do you people hate on Black Americans? It’s like you don’t have actual problems to focus on...

Meanwhile, you try to imitate us in your dress, speech, and all else. Pitiful.

Aconomist:
I should be asking you that. Only a deeply ignorant person would compare anything in New York to Nigeria. The whole city as running water, electricity, highly sophisticated sewage and drainage. 24/7 subway service to any part of the city.

Grand Concourse, the Bronx -- poorest borough in New York. You can't even dream of development like this in Nigeria.

I’ve been to both Lagos and NY... even though I only visited Manhattan there were areas that were quite dirty and not better looking than when I visited some parts of Victoria Island.

You are showing a photo of aerial footage rather than your personal account so I’m guessing your answer is no, you haven’t been to the worst parts of New York to compare.... Any place can look good from aerial footage. Even Lagos.

BLOODYSPERM:



So you want women to be deployed into danger zone and violated during war to prove you're equal to men and you would be complaining about rape culture and Sexual harassment

You are confused
You are childish and highly inconsistent
You're a woman it's expected ,no wonder you are generally not conscripted because you just emotethink and don't pause and have strong introspection

You don't think before you type and hastily rush to conclusions
Countries with female conscriptions have some limits to women and not men, go and research on Israeli female soldier even with conscription they are still having military privileges and loopholes that men don't have


Properly research and analysis before posting statistics to justify your bias and prejudice ,you are incapable of aiming towards truths and facts and stop using emotions and sentiments

And I have to point out the irony in you, the male, who is supposedly so logical and not prone to emotion and sentimental outbursts, being the one in this exchange to use the degrading terms, to attempt to provoke, to call names, and not stick to the original topic.

Maybe you’re taking estrogen supplements lol

BLOODYSPERM:



So you want women to be deployed into danger zone and violated during war to prove you're equal to men and you would be complaining about rape culture and Sexual harassment

You are confused
You are childish
You're a woman it's expected ,no wonder you are generally not conscripted because you just emotethink and don't pause and have strong introspection

You don't think before you talk
Countries with female conscriptions have some limits on men and not women, go and research on Israeli female soldier even with conscription they are still having military privileges and loopholes that men don't have


Properly research and analysis before posting statistics to justify your bias and prejudice ,you are incapable of aim towards truths and facts

I didn’t say what I want. I pointed out how foolish it was for you to assert that no one discriminates against women after admitting women are particularly vulnerable to rape and violations men don’t face.

Everything you’ve written is proof of the gender discrimination you say doesn’t exist. You don’t realize that? “Feminists” have fought to end limitations on women’s service and want women to be able to be considered equals on the battlefield.

You’re complaining about loopholes so you have much in common with feminists who would ultimately like women and men to have equal requirements, access, and expectations in all fields.

BLOODYSPERM:



Flawed logic with regards to military combat as men are mandated by law to be drafted and conscripted without their choice when there is war by their government, women don't bear such responsibility at all


Women are never placed directly for attritional combats in any Society as they would be raped and violated as prisoners of wars ,rather govt place women in soft spots and no danger zone


No one discriminates women, you are incompetent and lack passion and interest in masculine fields you don't fair better and blame it on Patriachy

“There are 23 countries where the military draft is authorized but not currently implemented. An additional 60 countries – fewer than a third of the 191 for which Pew Research Center found reliable information – have some form of an active conscription program. At least 11 of the 60 countries with active conscription programs draft both men and women.”

So the majority of military service is voluntary and men serve as a source of pride. Most wars do not invoke or require involuntary service. Even during wars where there have been drafts, non-drafted men are known to volunteer to serve.

You literally just said women can’t be placed in combat positions because they would be raped and violated then the next line said no one discriminates against women. Lmao!

Seek therapy.

ShaqFu:
It is an expression that mean we humans come in different shape and sizes, and as much we aren't expose to equal opportunity. This doesn't just apply to women alone, but men also. It's the simple truth that buttress the fact you can't say I and Kanye and Kim Kardashians daughter, North are equals because by virtue of her birth and status of her parents, she has more opportunities than I and you combine.

So, all fingers aren't equal. The fingers doesn't have to be male or female.
of course people living in poverty should work and have money. But you forget, not everybody living in poverty can work and have money. The basic fact is, some people who live in poverty can't work hard and have money.

People have the right to protest government policy and police brutality, but even as they do, did it ever stop this harsh government policy and police brutality from happening?

This point is further buttress with many of our artiste today in this country. Many started in adject poverty, but through hard work and perseverance, they broke through that poverty line and made it, while some who started the same time didn't. It is, what it is, "life ain't fair".
You suck at sarcasm.
as earlier said, life isn't fair. Has it ever bothered you when in times of war and emergency situations, it is always women and children first? Tell me where is the equality in that?.

You want fairness and equality only when you know it's juicy and offers opportunity, but when it doesn't, you claim the weaker sex and stylishly demand for preferential treatment.

How come we don't see more women being sent to fight Boko Haram and other terrorist groups? How come men are always in higher number than women? Please spare me this sentiment.

So what is your point? That life is unfair and so women shouldn’t strive toward fairness? That because progress isn’t certain women shouldn’t aim for equal treatment? You’re not making sense.

In times of war it’s women and children first in what circumstance?

Women and children are often left behind and are usually casualties of war. it’s usually women and children who are the victims of murder, starvation, & rape.

As far as military service it’s funny because in so many nations women have had to fight for the right to fight in the military, even in America it wasn’t until 2015 women were allowed to enter combat positions. When women do manage to join ranks with men, the men have been known to discriminate against the women in their ranks, often pushing them out. males see it as a privilege to be able to fight, most men volunteer to do so. Stop pretending otherwise.

In any case, a woman should be able to do any job she qualifies for that she chooses to pursue. We needn’t be required to fight wars to prove we deserve equal opportunity. What an absurd argument. If a woman wants to be a doctor, engineer, or senator she should have equal rights and opportunities to reach those goals.

Aconomist:
The worst part of New York is better than the best part of Lagos. Thats why the people are largely satisfied from an infrastructure perspective.

I am just curious, how many visits have you made to the worst parts of New York? Or New York at all?

Anyway, my point since you missed it, was to push back against the idea that there is something inherently wrong with Black people or Nigerians to be defensive when their home is criticized.

Aconomist:
Well New York and L.A. aren't slums. If they looked like Lagos, the people would revolt.

Americans aren't sleepy and primed for mediocrity like Nigerians are.

I don’t care if they look like Lagos. And there are parts of those cities that do look worn down and underdeveloped...

Americans can’t be compared to Nigerians as the histories and politics and culture are totally different so naturally the populations will face a different reality.

That was also beside my point.

Jman24:



Have you asked any of them.?

I haven’t had that conversation because I don’t feel that way about those cities. But I have had tense conversations over NY pizza or LA Mexican food...

It’s a human reaction was the point

BLOODYSPERM:



Are you now saying women are not prone to mood swings during menstruation , ovulation and pregnancy?

Are you now saying that estrogen doesn't require comfort?

Are you now saying after women have been giving equal rights to political positions why do they now need affirmative Action ?




Women have educational rights as men why do they need quota policies?

Women are now in the workplace and are educated these 21st century why have they not invented anything that is significant as men brought about the internet and social media age , why was no woman involved in bringing out these information age?

Women are not interested in building and maintaining civilization as men , how many female bricklayers, engineers,miners, plumbers,truck drivers do we have or is it Patriachy fault they can't occupy these positions?

The actions of few tyrants in social heirachy do you use to generalize all men as violent most of whom are soldiers obeying orders of their Kings since for majority of history majority of men and women alike were slave, it now these bullshit feminist narrative that gave female the oppressed class victimhood which is not at all proven to be systematic as they are permitted to be educated,vote and hold political positions in every nation of the world


Contribution to decline doesn't mean causation as you lack the ability of deductive logic to understand and comprehend what I said, women not being inventors is due to there general lack of interest in hard science ( Technology, Engineering and Mathematics) even after they have been allowed the same educational privilege as men, they move towards arts and social sciences and then blame men and society for their lack of interest

Women can have emotional responses to changes in hormones but none that cause us to be irrational or illogical. As I pointed out men have a history of being violently illogical and testosterone is often a contributing factor for that.


Estrogen requires comfort? I don’t even know what that means. But it doesn’t sound scientific...

Women would need affirmative action in place because men like you exist and are already in places of power. When men like you have two eligible contenders for a position, one a man and one a woman, you believing that women are inferior in every way will not hire the woman. You will see her womanhood as disqualifying. You will see her degree not as evidence of her mental acuity but evidence she was able to memorize, right?

Therefore to combat the system that has men placed in positions of power and leaving women to compete against their preconceived notions that harm our chances, legislation in place that rewards gender inclusion is vital.

It’s not the actions of a few tyrants that led to generalizations. It’s annual statistics. The greatest purveyors of violence are men, in every culture in every nation.

So let me get this straight. You began by saying that nature, science, and evolution made women inferior to men in every way. Then to escape the responsibility for the violence man has spread throughout the world with his superior leadership you now limit it to a few kings and claim men and women have always been EQUAL for the majority of history?

Hmm, I thought equality amongst genders and equal treatment was against the laws of nature??


Anyway, you have a lot of pent up feelings about women. But no matter how much you tell yourself you are superior due to your appendage I can assure you it’s mere fantasy. And I think you know that which is why you devote so much time to trying to convince everyone of the opposite.

Either way, just like it did (and still doing) in the West, progress will arrive and there’s nothing you can do about it

Jman24:




I quite understand.
A good number of Nigerians are primitive. That's why rather than embrace at least some of the truths about their places they discard all and turn it into a tribal or political war. And the funniest thing is most of them are not even from Lagos.

ask New Yorkers why New York looks like a slum or ask why LA looks like a slum and you’d get the same defensive responses. This is not a Black thing or a Nigerian thing, humans get defensive over things/people/places that shape their identity.

BLOODYSPERM:



I said contributed , don't misquote me
Women are of inferior logic than men they have the same cognitive ability as men giving them the capacity for logic but due to their predominant estrogenious hormones which seeks comfort rather than testerones which seek challenges, women lack the proper utilization of logic as they prioritize feelings (emotions) over facts due to their innate Solipsism, during pregnancy , menstruation and ovulation they are prone to mood swings and emotions which affect their reasoning and behaviors, they rarely introspect and are more inclined to groupthink ( ideologies like religion and Feminism) ,they might be educated in schools and trained in specialized fields but are only memorizers repeating what they are taught and are incapable of innovating in such field as they lack intellectual curiosity but they copy and mimic rather than invent that why we have very few female inventors which in of themselves are outliers and statistically are irrelevant when generalizing all womendue to their atypical uncommon deviation,women emotethink , and are so weak and admitted inferiority as they needed a systematic legislation of Feminism and policies such as affirmative actions to make themselves equal to men as individually they rarely think on their own but will rather work within the dogma of the group


Women will always remain the secondary sex, your estrogen made you our inferiors,social constructivism and Egalitarianistic-Equalism can't restructure evolutionary facts and truths ,

You use a lot of words to cover up for the fact that you don’t know what you’re talking about. Since English is my native language I’m not fooled by your tactic. I can identify gibberish when I’m reading it.

Estrogen has not been shown to contribute or detract from ones ability to use logic. More lies.

Also, it is more frequent for males to inflict violence on other males, females, and children because men have fewer neurons which allow for empathy. That is half the reason men are more likely to be violent or kill. the other half is just men getting angry easily and finding satisfaction in hurting others which is a byproduct of testosterone. The more testosterone one has, the more aggressive the person may be.

Men often choose violence over logical responses. It is why men beat women rather than talk to them or find non-violent methods to communicate. That’s illogical.

You literally make no sense saying women are more likely to exhibit groupthink and then go on to use religion as an example of that...!!! as if all major religions and religious wars haven’t been spread and fought by men respectively. As if men are not the leadership of all major religions. As if men won’t murder and burn a man to death over religion or behead a woman over religion Yes, that logical gender

Hmm, there are few women inventors is evidence of female inferiority. Why are there so few African male inventors? Is it because African men are mentally inferior?

If men like you truly felt that women were unable to compete and were actually inferior then the idea of a level playing field wouldn’t intimidate you. We’d fail by our own merits rather than systemic gender discrimination naked into society.

Again you just say things to be provocative, just throw words together with no concern for facts. You want your thoughts to be true but deep down you know they aren’t.

Just like you completely lied about the downfall of the Roman Empire you’re also misstating facts now. You say things that are easily disproved to the point of it being laughable.

walkingshadow911:


don't get it twisted, both of them would share the blame. the local feminist who could not tame her tongue and the fuckstard who could not tame the devil inside of him.

common sorry could have save the woman but power tussle won't let her. And self control could have preserve the fuckstard too. I feel sorry for both of them

I can listen to a woman talk crap to me and never strike her and I’m a woman. How much more should a man who is responsible for a woman be able to practice self-control.

That same man can let a police officer abuse him and speak to him anyhow and he won’t dare strike him, he can allow his mother to talk to him anyhow and never strike her. So he knows how to practice self-control when he wants and cannot therefore blame a woman’s mouth for his actions. He just chose to exert control over her with brute force because he is weak.

It is not both of their faults.

BLOODYSPERM:



Feminism is not new as it contributed to the decline of the ancient roman empire, there is nothing new under the sun, many childless miserable and unhappy women with pets abound in the future , women will always be the secondary and weaker sex, if you don't like it go and fight science, evolution and nature

The Western Roman Empire fell because politicians and rulers of Rome became more and more corrupt, there was an increase of traitors, infighting, and civil wars within the empire as as well attacks from barbarian tribes outside of the empire. The Roman empire became so large it was hard to govern and its army was also no longer the dominant force it once was. Some people also blame the arrival and growing popularity of Christianity for the decline...

No serious person on Earth would blame “feminism”. None.

Women are physically weaker than men as far as muscle, ability to exert force is concerned. We are not biologically, mentally, or intellectually weaker. evolution doesn’t state so, neither does any science, nor nature.

ShaqFu:
are all the fingers equal? Have you ever heard the say "dis life no balance"? Or "life isn't fair"? Etc.

Those of you feminist who know this truth, use the above statements to hate men. That's why you've become more scum than the men you call scum.

What does that mean are all the fingers equal? Are humans fingers? And which finger represents women and which represents men?

Life isn’t fair, sure. So people in poverty should not work to have money. People shouldn’t protest corrupt government and police brutality, right? Because “dis life no balance”, right?

Of course not. People can fight and work toward improvements. We need not settle for unfairness.

Im not a feminist. But I do know that men aren’t superior to women. I don’t hate men, most women who see equality amongst genders don’t. You people who are afraid of the word equality try to project your hate for women onto “feminists”. Nobody hates you by asking for fairness.

BLOODYSPERM:



They adhere to Feministic values instead of feminine values that is why they are miserable

Our ancestral mothers knew what it meant to be women, mordern women are nothing to write home about very few good wives

Men with archaic mindsets can never appreciate the greatness of modern women. You’ll just have to adjust with the times or stay bitter... in a couple more generations gender equality will be achieved.

walkingshadow911:



he said he neva lay his hand on his wife and neither his father, so what is ur point. the accused said she insulted him and he lost it. I can't find where edochie said a man must descend on his wife but was only tryna envisaged that some things can be avoided by not being feminist. I believe it is demonic incarnations that makes a person derived pleasures in beating up his or her spouse whom u claimed to love until he or she became non responsive. I can't see myself doing that cos am not possessed, I would rather work away as I always do.

I don’t care what he said he’s done or didn’t do after blaming women for domestic violence. He’s still an animal to state such dumb, harmful, and illogical things publicly.

I said in a previous topic that when men do awful things people blame women or demons rather than hold men accountable.

He blamed women, you blamed demons. Lmao.

ShaqFu:
Well, if it's admitting your feminism hates men and wish them dead, well please you don't need to, we already know.

How does wanting gender equality equal hating men?? Relax.

sanpipita:


I think your last paragraph invalidated most of your earlier points really and that's where real question should be

Why do same men who don't know how to love and always feel superiority to women suddenly change when they meet a white woman, do they just suddenly learn to love? I doubt

Lots of Nigerian men who act tough even nairaland ones will be house puppies to white women, why? aside inferior complex, they understand these women are not rags they can tramp on and western societies don't joke with things like DV.

Trust me if Nigerian society punished things like DV and other abuses men mete on women, everyone will have sense, same boss you say that harasses ladies will go to UK for example and be well behaved.

Bottomline here is the society here teaches men to be irresponsible not that they don't know the right thing to do for their partners.

Which part did the last paragraph invalidate?

Nigerian men are not taught to value their fellow African woman. They are brainwashed to see African women as bottom barrel. And they treat them accordingly.

They are taught to revere and prize all things white and so treat white women differently. In part the reason for that is the legal support and society the woman is raised in that eschews domestic violence. The other and larger part is in the broken mindset of the man.

you’re right society affects the way men treat women. When Nigerian society begins to prioritize moral behavior and hold men accountable for their actions, things will improve.

Society is made up of people, right? so the same people who teach their sons that women are solely created for their use is the same society that allows sexual harassment, domestic violence to occur unfettered.

BLOODYSPERM:





Lies few are miserable in marriages , only the innate untrained mannerless women who were lucky to be married

I'm 100% certain of unhappiness and misery of unmarried ladies with pets in Progressive Societies,

I know married women, especially African married women and I know singles. African women are suffering in marriage. Their husbands are often horrible, terrible people... that’s just the truth of it. And they stay only because they are expected to endure marriage and awful husbands.

A woman who doesn’t have to enter such a thing is free. She can marry at anytime she chooses or if she chooses but doesn’t have to rush. She can take care of herself and family without the help of a man.

Some men are afraid of such women because the more women who become financially independent the less women they will find who they can abuse... so those men prefer to fantasize these women secretly are miserable without husbands lol

enjoy your fantasies lol.

BLOODYSPERM:


Are these not happening in so called western societies
What the hell are you saying?

Did you even read the original post? Where this man compared Nigerians to Western/White people and cultures?

Go attack the guy who made the statements that said African/Nigerian culture is specifically degenerate in these ways.

BLOODYSPERM:


Read what I wrote
They will never see men of value
Very uncultured and mannerless spoilt brats
Aspiring billionaires like us will spit and look down on them in the future once we secured our wealth and had our family, having resources but no man because of bad character


Single miserable probably childless women
What rubbish


Rich men will see wife even wives
Rich women will buy husbands

Rich men buy wives, too. You just said yourself that women practice hypergamy. Meaning women often choose a man based on what he has, his ability to provide. Most men seek to be rich so that they can afford the best woman/women.

As I said, it’s not hard to find a man. A husband is easy to “achieve”. Rich women lose the desire for a husband because for most women marrying is a way to secure wealth. Once she has independent wealth, what purpose is marriage? She can enjoy men for their companionship while not marrying.

A lot of women are completely miserable in marriage but stay due to dependence. Why would a rich woman hurry to be miserable?

Your antiquated thinking sees a rich woman enjoying life but who isn’t married as pitiful. We in the real world see that as freedom.

ShaqFu:
Men this babe ehn.

The truth is something no one should be ashamed of admitting. It is what it is.

If it is admitting my culture doesn’t respect women, that the men lack self-control, enjoy sexual harassment, and are violent toward women... hmm, it’s something I’d rather keep quiet about.

But that’s just me

Cerebrocrust:
How Do I Overcome This As A Lady?

I'm a newbie here but, I'll like to drop this issue as it is getting me quite depressed lately.

I'm quite cute (average maybe) and I'm quite bashful as well. Whenever I go for an event, I developed this habit of frowning or squeezing my face to the dislike of the audience. On several occasions, I've seen guys pull over their car while trying to call my attention and I just snub or ignore them.

Even at a wedding party, most of the grooms men would want to approach me but, will back down really scared cause of my serious look.

I really don't know what to do as this is taking a toll on me.

Is there any possible way wherein I can practice to get my smiley face back or perhaps overcome this issue??

Please help.

Frowning will cause early wrinkles, so outside of attracting men that’s another reason to avoid it.

When you feel your face tense into a frown just force yourself to relax. Sometimes gently stroking your forehead upward or lifting your eyebrows can help to readjust your face. Just try to be more aware of it.

BLOODYSPERM:




Women are Hypergamous
They date and marry upwards or equals
Successful independent and rich women will find no man of high value


They are proud and mannerless
Just look at Linda ikeji a bloody single mother who can't find any man but see million of rich men with wives

Are you really under the impression a rich woman can’t find a man? Lmao

When a man in any Nigerian village will volunteer to be a rich woman’s slave just for a visa? C’mon. You’re not serious.

As you said women practice hypergamy but once you are a rich woman the need to marry up is no longer relevant therefore reducing a woman’s “need” to marry. It also reduces the number of men eligible for her to marry if she’s looking to marry up.

Beautiful couple.

I love a man who is very public about his love for his woman. African men really need more examples of a man honoring his wife.

TMSMedia:
The Niger State Police Command have arrested a 20-year-old man, Lawali Danladi, for allegedly beating his wife, Zulai, to death, following an argument over the pap she prepared for him at their home in Kadaura village in Yakila Gunna district of Rafi LGA, IgbereTV reports.

Danladi who was paraded before newsmen at the police command headquarters in Minna, reportedly beat Zulai to a coma. She was rushed to the hospital where she died.

Speaking to newsmen, Danladi said that he did not like the way she prepared the pap and in the cause of the argument, things got heated up which made him descend on her and beat her mercilessly.

He said;

“I never knew she would die. It was just a misunderstanding over mere pap and I did not know that when she fainted, she would not wake up. I should never have beaten her. I regret my action."

The spokesperson of the state police command, DSP Wasiu Abiodun, said the suspect has confessed to having beaten his wife to coma adding that by the time she was rushed to the General Hospital Wushishi, she was confirmed dead. He added that Danladi will be charged to court.

https://www.facebook.com/391249944359765/posts/1901833443301400/?app=fbl

What is wrong with men?

Just now I commented on a post where some respected fool was blaming feminism for domestic violence.

There is something wrong with men today: the ones who commit the acts and the ones who excuse them. Nigerian society is crumbling fast, men are committing heinous acts at increasing rates and what is worse is that when they do so everyone blames either women or demons.

RIP to this woman. My heart breaks for all African women suffering under the oppression of these so called men.

I actually agree with him for the most part.

Nigerian culture as it currently exists cannot accommodate feminism. Gender equality is at odds with how too many Nigerian men were raised. When you are raised to believe your maleness makes you superior to womankind, that women were created to serve you and revere you, of course the reality that you’ve been fed a lie will be resisted.

The truth is that gender equality hurts Nigerian marriages because men are used to marrying women who marry them because of their lack of options. In the past women submitted out of fear, because of financial security and lack of education. Insecure men, who only feel superior due to their Instruments, cannot handle a woman who submits to them based on choice, contingent on his performance as a husband.

It is true that Nigerian men use domestic violence as a way to control a woman. Because he is finding leading his home unbearable and he wasn’t trained properly how to lead with love. No one displayed to him what it means to be head. No one ever told him that a man is supposed to love his wife as his own body, to honor her as the weaker vessel. All he ever knew was the biblical quote about submission and never knew his responsibility was even greater, that he’s supposed to love in a Christ-like manner...

A Nigerian man who is obsessed with proving his superiority would very much find a home where his wife doesn’t act as house help to be an abomination. To prove his superiority a Nigerian man might beats his wife to get her to submit because he is weak: he has lost control of his home and himself.

A lot of Nigerian men claim they want women to be empowered and not a liability yet it is often the same group of men who hate the idea of gender equality.


He’s right about sexual harassment. In Nigeria a superior can regularly sexually assault his female staff and he will never be called to task. Men feel free to harass women in Nigerian culture, even young girls, and fear no consequences. This is not a thing to be proud of, and labeling it “culture” makes your culture seem primitive.

It interesting that he proudly says Black people don’t worship their women as whites do. Truthfully, let that African *man end up with a white woman, he will then begin worshipping. But y’all aren’t ready for that conversation...

ShaqFu:
Okonkwo Ebubedike has spoken!.

I'm sure cococandy and McSquishi won't take this truth spoken by this respected African man serious.

It is truth but one he should be ashamed to admit.