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Romance / Re: Why Do Females Celebrate Relationships And Marriage More? Opinion by McSquishi(f): 2:40pm On Apr 09, 2021 |
benji93: First I have to say, when a grown man says a girl is ripe he is NOT talking about her brain maturation! Let’s be honest here. And that’s why I am confused again at you trying to win points for the man who was talking about maturity in terms of being marriageable, in terms of physical appearance. Kids complete puberty about the same time and young men and women’s brains are BOTH considered fully matured at the age of 25. “Meyer said boys catch up to girls in development by late high school. Males and females don’t finish brain development until about age 25”. https://shine365.marshfieldclinic.org/kids-health/boys-girls-maturity-gap/ Your source above describes “late Highschool” as the time at which boys and girls are caught up with one another re: brain development and as you said Nigerians leave highschool by 17 these days. In most countries kids are 17 & 18 upon completing highschool. So, the sources you shared described boys and girls catching up to one another by highschool and you are using the age 20. But that doesn’t mean that either boys or girls are fully developed by highschool or even your preferred age of 20. Your previous assertion that because a 17 year old girl finishes highschool that she’s “ripe” for marriage is particularly disturbing especially when you consider her brain is 8 years away from maturing. The Newcastle study talks about brain activity, neurons that are removed to optimize said brain activity as the brain matures... the articles then deducts “this is probably why girls mature faster than boys”. When we’re talking about maturing we are talking about better overall cognitive and emotional responses. that doesn’t mean a girl is “mature” or should be considered no longer a child or ready to marry. And again, girls mature earlier in this way but boys catch up with girls by their late teens and both take up to the age of 25 to reach fully matured brains. Girls are raised in societies that expect women to behave responsibly. Girls as soon as disgusting predators find them “ripe” will be expected to marry soon, whereas boys will have until their 30’s even 40’s to choose to settle down. Therefore boys are usually allowed to be kids longer. Girls are pressured to *act* mature. I’ll say again, the topic me and that guy were discussing was not about matured brains when he described girls as ripening early. That’s what pedophiles regularly use to justify preying on kids. Girls enter puberty a year or two before boys but they both complete the process around 16. They also complete brain maturation at the same age. maybe you were just looking to argue with me, which is fine and I’m used to it, but you jumped in to change the context of what we were discussing... On puberty https://www.google.com/amp/s/familydoctor.org/for-parents-what-to-expect-when-your-child-goes-through-puberty/amp/ On psychosocial responses being the same at 16 between girls and boys https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2009/10/teen-maturity “But significant differences in maturity, favoring adults, were found between the 16- to 17-year-olds and those 22 years and older, and between the 18- to 21-year-olds and those 26 and older. Results were the same for males and females, the authors said.” |
Romance / Re: Why Do Females Celebrate Relationships And Marriage More? Opinion by McSquishi(f): 5:23pm On Apr 08, 2021 |
BLOODYSPERM: First, those aren’t facts. But more importantly... Why are you focusing on Black Americans? Look at the statistics in your own country. Look at the rates of domestic violence, rape, adultery, murder, robbery, kidnapping, starvation, female genital mutilation, child rape, child mortality in your majority Black country. The “Black on Black” crime can be witnessed in your own country lol Look at the statistics of Black Africans in the UK, your people aren’t doing well there. 3% of the population representing about half of the criminals... Stop obsessing over us. Focus on you. Why should Black Americans be “smarter” than Africans? You believe Black people in a country that banned Black people from even reading for 250 years and then kept Black people for another 100 years from attending white educational facilities should be smarter and more educated than African people (males at least) who have always had access to education? Your belief in white supremacy is astounding, more disturbing than your hatred for women... I’m almost certain there is a white incel behind this account. There is a difference between the presence of slaves and a slave economy. It’s sad you don’t understand this basic concept. In the West people were stolen and forced to be slaves generation upon generation upon generation... and slaves were the primary mode of production and the driving economic force of nations. Differing totally from slavery in Africa. There was no such system in Africa and slaves in Africa were more akin to serfs in Europe of the same time period. [b] “slavery as a mode of production was not present in any African society, although some slaves were to be found where the decomposition of communal equality had gone furthest.” “In Africa there were social formations represent hunting bands, communalism feudalism and many positions intermediate between the last two.” “The weakness in Africa seemed to have been the lack of a professional interest in acquiring more scientific knowledge and in devising tools to lighten the load of labour as well as to transform hostile environments into areas suitable for human activity. As far as agriculture in Europe was concerned, this professionalism was undertaken by the class with a vested interest in the land — namely, the feudalist landowners and later the capitalist farmers” “Under communalism every African was assured of sufficient land to meet his own needs by virtue of being a member of a family or community. For that reason and because land was relatively abundant, there were few social pressures or incentives for technical changes to increase productivity” [/b] You don’t have a basic understanding of ancient history, modern history, or science. And who even mentioned slavery? You just ramble on like a crazed person. |
Romance / Re: Why Do Females Celebrate Relationships And Marriage More? Opinion by McSquishi(f): 3:46pm On Apr 08, 2021 |
BLOODYSPERM: So not only do you believe in the supremacy of males you also believe in the supremacy of white people. You are all kinds of messed up. Pathetic |
Crime / Re: Imo Villagers Set Fleeing Prisoner Ablaze by McSquishi(f): 3:25pm On Apr 08, 2021 |
Psoul: Because I’m a human being. If someone raped or murdered a child, brutally tortured or murdered someone then I could sort of understand a desire for that person to have a painful, tortured death. But regular acts of violence, one where no one was physically harmed, to me that is brutal and falls under cruel and unusual punishment. |
Romance / Re: Why Do Females Celebrate Relationships And Marriage More? Opinion by McSquishi(f): 3:07pm On Apr 08, 2021 |
benji93: Point of correction: your argument was that this other guy was correct to say women ripen earlier than men and you shared an article about a study that briefly spoke of *girl’s* brain’s maturing earlier than boys to help prove his point even accusing me of not doing research or being properly knowledgeable. You’re incorrect about the differences lasting through the 20’s. I’ve told you that the maturation process where girl’s brains mature earlier than that of boys is something that happens in adolescence. By the time those kids are 17 that maturity gap will have closed. Even physically where girls enter puberty 1-2 years earlier than boys on average, they have caught up to each other by their late teens. The terms “boy” and “girl” are used for a reason, these studies have to do with kids. Not people in their 20’s. Both men and women’s brains are considered fully developed at 25. The gender differences in maturation are not present in our 20’s, though. I was on topic referring to the “ugly” part because it highlights that you sharing a article that briefly mentions brain maturation was irrelevant since that’s not the point the guy was making who you were hoping to defend. Certainly, it’s not just men who pressure women. But it’s disingenuous for any man to ask why women see marriage as a major accomplishment when they themselves tell women it is a major accomplishment for us. |
Crime / Re: Imo Villagers Set Fleeing Prisoner Ablaze by McSquishi(f): 1:36pm On Apr 08, 2021 |
Psoul: I’d even understand killing someone with a gun in self-defense... but burning someone alive is a form of torture that I can’t imagine one suffering for an attempted act of violence... |
Romance / Re: Why Do Females Celebrate Relationships And Marriage More? Opinion by McSquishi(f): 1:33pm On Apr 08, 2021 |
BLOODYSPERM: You can’t deny my statements when there are men confirming my observation in this very thread. There are no biological nor psychological differences that make women want to get married and men not cherish marriage. This isn’t about nature but nurture. It depends on how you are raised. And how you are raised very much depends on your culture. What civilization have you built? You men in Nigeria can’t even build paved roads for your community, let’s be realistic lol. The building of a civilization requires both men and women. Millions of years of human existence have relied on both men and women for progress. Again, it’s culture that tells men they are better at math or science but since the myth has been exposed for what it is, more and more women enter STEM fields with great success... “...The researchers conclude that early experience, educational policies and culture also strongly affect success in math and science. Other studies suggest that when it comes to math, girls and boys are similarly capable. A 2008 analysis by Hyde and colleagues reported that in children from grades two to 11, [there was no gender difference for math skills. And in 2009, Hyde and Janet Mertz, PhD, reported that while more boys than girls score at the highest levels in mathematics, that gender gap has been closing over time. In fact, they reported that the gap is smaller in countries with greater gender equality, suggesting that gender differences in math achievement are ***largely due to cultural and environmental factors***. https://www.apa.org/action/resources/research-in-action/share Some men have to believe they are biologically superior to women because they are very insecure. Without their male appendage they would feel utterly useless because they have nothing going for themselves outside of that... and that’s sad. |
Romance / Re: Why Do Females Celebrate Relationships And Marriage More? Opinion by McSquishi(f): 1:00pm On Apr 08, 2021 |
benji93: This study and others is about the brain and research suggest that girls (during childhood and adolescence) have better brain optimization in certain cognitive and emotional areas. By the time they are teenagers in Highschool, boys and girls will have caught up to one another in those areas. This has nothing to do with people of marriageable age. He said ripen and spoke on showing signs of aging faster which was speaking to physical maturity. He later mentioned the words “old” “ugly” to further prove he was speaking about physical appearance. So thanks for trying to win his points for him but you’re both wrong. |
Romance / Re: Why Do Females Celebrate Relationships And Marriage More? Opinion by McSquishi(f): 12:51pm On Apr 08, 2021 |
OBku4: Surely women participate in pressuring one another. But pretending a big portion of ridicule and pressure doesn’t come from men is funny. If you’re on nairaland or even read comments in this thread you would’ve seen it. Male pastors, motivational speakers, random men are all over the place convincing women to read this one or sign up for that one to learn how to find a husband. You haven’t seen it? Really? You haven’t seen guys ridicule a woman saying how she’ll never get married or find a husband with this attitude or this character trait? Hmm Neither of my parents pressured me to get married. So your point of that question is lost on me. |
Romance / Re: Why Do Females Celebrate Relationships And Marriage More? Opinion by McSquishi(f): 6:04am On Apr 08, 2021 |
bluefilm: Here it is for you again. Now that you’ve performed my very point in replies to me, see if you still think it’s rubbish: It’s funny because if a woman isn’t married it is usually men who will ridicule her for it. Men push women to get married early, telling us we aren’t getting any younger. Men spread the lie that even a rich woman has no value or hasn’t fulfilled her purpose if she has no husband. Men take time to make all these write ups and get women to sign up for courses on attracting men for marriage. Men warn women not to be too obsessed with career and education that they end up missing out on a husband So it’s not just that women celebrate it most, women are pressured into it most. |
Romance / Re: Why Do Females Celebrate Relationships And Marriage More? Opinion by McSquishi(f): 5:58am On Apr 08, 2021 |
bluefilm: Just because you call your opinions “truth” doesn’t make it so, sir... What’s your field of expertise because mine is biological sciences... post the scientific studies that say men naturally look younger than their age mates. You won’t find any... Did you just call me ugly? Lmao, here come the petty insults as usual. You guys always get low and dirty when you can’t make logical & intellectual retorts... I’ll be old and ugly and whatever else you say. Ok? But the fact is you’re still agreeing with my initial statement. You’re actually performing my initial statement, which is a bit hilarious 3 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Why Do Females Celebrate Relationships And Marriage More? Opinion by McSquishi(f): 5:35am On Apr 08, 2021 |
bluefilm: You just did the thing I said men do in the first part of your statement then pretended men don’t do that thing in the second half lol You’re confused about whether you agree with me or not. Biologically speaking women don’t ripen earlier than men. And even if we did that has nothing to do with pressuring someone to marry early. Men have shorter life expectancy vs women, if anything men should be encouraged to marry early since they die sooner. And I wish the lie could stop being told that men naturally look more youthful than their age mates because a lot of you look old for your age. Women only look aged after being forced into a hard life by the man she marries. Men who pamper their wife keep her looking fresh. Thanks. 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: Why Do Females Celebrate Relationships And Marriage More? Opinion by McSquishi(f): 4:58am On Apr 08, 2021 |
bluefilm: Point out the nonsense. where is the lie? You not liking truth doesn’t make truth nonsense, sweetheart 1 Like |
Celebrities / Re: Uche Ogbodo Advice Ladies To Stop Aborting Their Child, Marriage Is Overrated by McSquishi(f): 4:37am On Apr 08, 2021 |
She is making sense. The women who are already fornicating with the man/men they’re with and already getting pregnant from men who don’t care enough about them to marry them... let them not abort for silly reasons if the woman wants children and is able to care for it financially then she should have the child and not abort the child due to public opinions. Those same people judging her will be praising her when that child becomes someone. And those people mocking will not be there to care for her in old age but that child will. She’s making points... 1 Like 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Why Do Females Celebrate Relationships And Marriage More? Opinion by McSquishi(f): 4:27am On Apr 08, 2021 |
Sentientmind: Culture convinces women they are more valuable upon getting married or “winning” a man’s heart. It’s funny because if a woman isn’t married it is usually men who will ridicule her for it. Men push women to get married early, telling us we aren’t getting any younger. Men spread the lie that even a rich woman has no value or hasn’t fulfilled her purpose if she has no husband. Men take time to make all these write ups and get women to sign up for courses on attracting men for marriage. Men warn women not to be too obsessed with career and education that they end up missing out on a husband So it’s not just that women celebrate it most, women are pressured into it most. Nigerian culture teaches girls from very early on that their main purpose, their main value, is to please a man. while boys are raised to know they have value just standing alone. However if a man is not excited to be in a relationship/marriage and even hides it then it’s because he’s immature and not ready to settle down. That’s not a sign of manhood but childishness.. 3 Likes |
Car Talk / Re: What Are Your Funny Experiences Teaching A Woman How To Drive A Car? by McSquishi(f): 10:16pm On Apr 07, 2021 |
Most of these people talking about their difficulty teaching a woman to drive get around town by keke... hmmm |
Romance / Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by McSquishi(f): 10:10pm On Apr 07, 2021 |
Travel / Re: Meet 22-Year-Old Lexie Alford Who Has Travelled To Every Country In The World by McSquishi(f): 9:54pm On Apr 07, 2021 |
TheCalculator: This is a great thing overall but it’s important to note that it says she had travelled to 70 countries by 18 because her mom is a travel agent and would take her on trips. She also financed this from “working” for her mom’s travel business since before she was 18. A family that has the ability to travel to 70 countries with their kid are well off financially and so the salary she earned as a kid in her mom’s business would be much more than typical as well... so this isn’t what the average income person can achieve. No one should feel bad that they haven’t managed this or even a quarter of it... (Also a lot of travelers count countries visited by the stamps in the passport or airports landed in not actually experiencing a place) 5 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Anita Joseph: I Flew From Enugu To Have Sex With My Husband In Lagos by McSquishi(f): 9:41pm On Apr 07, 2021 |
Omihanifa: Cute marriage but TMI. At least they are encouraging young people to be fun with each other and enjoy a healthy sex life. Better than a lot of the toxic and dysfunctional stuff that goes viral |
Romance / Re: How Do I Get Rid Of This Simp Of A Guy by McSquishi(f): 9:38pm On Apr 07, 2021 |
orohbiro: You knew this guy for less than two weeks and don’t know how to dump him? If this were real and u wanted to dump a guy you don’t care about you would just do it not seek out advice on nairaland... “They call me miss expensive in high school” which woman talks like that? Lol. Women don’t call guys “simps” like this either. It is reading like a man behind a female account... But ok “madam”, hope u get the advice you need |
Romance / Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by McSquishi(f): 8:37pm On Apr 07, 2021 |
needanswer: F. mostly but mixed with B. and some A. |
Crime / Re: Imo Villagers Set Fleeing Prisoner Ablaze by McSquishi(f): 8:33pm On Apr 07, 2021 |
afroniger: Wow, the ease with which people can just burn someone alive. Horrifying 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Family / Re: Who Is The Head Of The Family? Husband, Wife Or Both by McSquishi(f): 8:28pm On Apr 07, 2021 |
InvestingExpert: Traditionally the husband is the head. He leads his family along their path: spiritual, moral, financial, etc. And the wife submits to his leadership. If the husband is the captain in the marriage then the wife is his crew. a captain protects his crew and must be an example for them to follow. a captain gives the final order aboard the ship but he has assistance with everything and he takes advice from his subordinates. A good captain values his crew and understands that the ship’s operations can not be performed without his crew. When a captain is proving himself unqualified for his position he lowers the morale of the crew, they won’t perform their tasks well and won’t respect the leadership. When the captain is dangerously incompetent he will be relieved of duty or even face a mutiny. What many marriages suffer from today is incompetent leadership leaving the crew forced to take over the duties of guiding the ship. 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: How Do I Get Rid Of This Simp Of A Guy by McSquishi(f): 8:08pm On Apr 07, 2021 |
orohbiro: Why create more stories to give these bitter men something to cackle about? I tire of all these Nollywood script rejects that make their way onto these boards |
Romance / Re: Dwarf Man Flogs His Giant Wife With Belt VIDEO by McSquishi(f): 6:50pm On Apr 07, 2021 |
Laughnow419: She should’ve picked him up and thrown him. The way some women will do all they can to accommodate an abuser. My god. Even a rich dwarf can’t have me looking stupid like that |
Crime / Re: Mother Of Eight Stabs Husband To Death In Delta State by McSquishi(f): 6:32pm On Apr 07, 2021 |
YourMajesty: Wow, now there are worms lol Tell us more about your childhood experiences... You say you prefer village girls over a woman like me as though you had any choices in the matter. Stick to what will accept you and stop fantasizing about things you can never touch. You’ll be happier that way. Anyway... I’m now bored Enjoy your day. |
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