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Erngie:
I'm sure this is for political reasons Emeka Ihedioha

Sure...2019 is close

Izen:
Hi guys. I'm in an emotional dilemma and I think the pressure of yet another Valentine's day without a boo is getting to me. Please as much as my write up might piss you off, please try not to insult me. I'm trying to avoid a total meltdown. Thanks in advance.

So there's this guy, we've been very close friends for six years now. There has always been romantic feelings on my part and I used to have the tiniest bit of hope that it was mutual. This was until he started dating a mutual friend. What hurt the most was that he tried to hide it from me despite our closeness. He claims it wasn't his idea though.

Let's just say I borrowed myself brain after that or so I thought. I started avoiding him as much as I could but he wouldn't let me be. He eventually asked me point blank if I liked him and after much beating about the bush, I answered in the affirmative. Apparently, other friends of ours had had to call his attention to my crush on him cos dude was clueless, "according to him". I asked him if he felt the same way and he told me that I was like a little sister to him. Alas, I was sister-zoned. Note that the age gap between us is barely more than a year. He told me he wouldn't lose me as a friend because I was special. Why wouldn't he just let me go?
Fast forward to a year+, he broke up with the mutual friend though I remained friends with both of them. I had nothing to do with the break up o. I was more comfortable rekindling our close friendship then since there was no longer a conflict of interest. It took me almost two years to get over him so at that time, my heart had moved on to other prospective guys.

Years down the line, I had to change locations to another state. It was one he was familiar with and had and still has a lot of business dealings in. Let's just say I still get to see him a lot.

We both dated other people. I got badly burnt by my ex and he was there for me. The tough love kind. As we spoke about my ex, that was when it hit me. This guy has always and probably will always have my back. I felt so comfortable sharing details with him. I knew then that I missed him a lot. I've been wondering what could have been between us ever since then. In fact, I started referring to him as my best friend. I know it's only a matter of time before it's necessary to let go of that bond tho. He's gone get married to his true bestie one day.

The thing now his, he's changed a bit. I know this because we've been friends a long time and I know him well. The calls have been more frequent, longer, etc. He always tries to see me when he can, same with me. This has got me wondering if this is the way normal friendships between the opposite sex are. He now says things like, "You're this and that and it's probably why you have an issue with XX. You do the same to me but I've come to accept it, there's nothing I can do about it". I interpreted this as him sticking with me flaws and all.
At one of our discussions, he told me he would love to marry someone he's known for a long time and he used us as an example. I went on the defensive immediately and told him I couldn't marry him. That bothered him a lot and he didn't stop until he pressed me for a reason. I threw his question back in his face and asked him if he could marry me and he said yes. I pushed harder and asked if he would marry me (not as a proposal lol), he laughed about this. I eventually told him I couldn't marry him cos he hasn't proposed to me and I cannot propose to him. When he tried to form, "so you'll marry me if I ask you to", I just asked to drop the topic totally.

I know I'm supposed to be elated but instead I'm hurt. I feel like I've been emotionally played and I'm still being played in my best years. How can he do this now? Does he know how much it cost me to try to get over him the first time? Apparently, I never fully succeeded. He's toying with my emotions again and I believe he knows that. I wanted to remind him that he sister-zoned me but I held back. I can't do this again guys. Please, I just can't.
Do you think he now has romantic feelings for me but he's deliberately holding back. Do you think he's trying to give me hints? I'm tempted to shut this friendship down totally. I can't go through this heartbreak again. It hurt the first time and I'm sure it'll hurt more this time. I know shutting down this friendship will be like a break up for me cos he's been such a huge part of my life but I think that's the only way I can truly get over him. I may or may not tell him but I plan to gradually withdraw. No calls, no texts, until he gets the memo. I really need to heal cos my relationship with him has indirectly affected other relationships I have. I'm falling madly in love with him again and I need it to stop.

So guys, please should I let go now or should I hold on to a little hope that he comes around based on his recent actions.?

U write so well, ...when it comes to love, there is nothing u can do about it than to continue to be in love or take the bold step. Hanging around or quiting should be your choice not anybody's. Just trust your instinct.

So freeze dey do MMM...lol.. Well, I have learnt a whole from mmm..

1) its true ur fellow nigerian dont like ur progress

2) people kept a whole lot of idle money

3) it is possible to rule Nigerians but the leaders dont know the key.

4) Cbn is not helping the common man and there are no good thinkers

5) People dont mind there business...they are more interested in another persons business.

Now, by the next decade and new version of mmm will show up but it will run better this decade if it shows up very soon.

Simple, create something like mmm and take a percentage as reserve to save the system during crash. Never pause the system, just make sure u have enough reserve to save the system. Microfinance banks should use mmm style...it will benefit all. I believe mmm has alot of un harvested potentials.

Naijacitizen:
Abeg I wan see a crowd.

lol...you wan see crowd and you still dey behind your phone/pc...2baba wife give am small brain sha.

for 9ja, the easiest life to live is to mind your business. Very difficult country to run

frankobaba:
I created a website where I promise to double the income of participants by 30%. The first participant joins with N20k. I need him to be convinced that my website pays So I use my own money to make up for the 30% and he goes home happy. I tell him he gets extra bonuses if he brings a friend and he does exactly that. Two of his friends sign up with N20k each and I return their investment with my own money and give my first client a special bonus for bringing them.

His friends are aware their colleague got a bonus for bringing them in. They get greedy, they bring more people. At this point, everyone wants bonuses as my system is verified and working.

More people join in, so I'm not using my money to pay them anymore, I'm using their money to pay them and waiting for more members to join so there'll always be money in the system. I see a huge investment of N1m from a greedy participant, I run the website with money and I've spent my own money to build the trust in the system so I pair the provider of N1m with myself. Then get about 30 people providing N50k to pay him back in 30 days, he has N1.3m. My system is working, he tells his colleagues in his social class and they're all excited.

My first members who started with N20k have gotten greedy, they've created multiply accounts to cash out but I don't care. The big fishes are in the game. The big monies are being paired with me, I'm no longer providing money but I'm getting money. Whenever I see a large amount to be donated, I immediately pair the account to mine. Effortlessly a millionaire.

The system continues to thrive because new members keep coming in. There is a wild recession in the country, my scheme is the escape route. People have paid rents, school fees, bought cars and funded their ceremonies with my scheme. I am suddenly an employer of labour.

But all good things must come to an end, I have successfully built a network of participants running into millions but there is a serious cash deficit. It is almost Christmas and almost everyone needs 30% of their investment back. Because I've been collecting millions as an admin without donating, and because there are not enough new members to match the financial demands of the existing members, my system has collapsed but I am not done getting my millions from gullible people.

I announce a freeze on the website for technical reasons. I've done a lot for them so they believe me that I'm just protecting the system from crash even when it was not the wise thing to believe.
I told them they couldn't receive money this period but they could still donate.

The one month freeze was an attempt to see if I could pay the existing members from the donations of new members. Sadly, some people had lost faith in the system, the new and existing members were afraid to make donations during the freeze because they were unsure of getting their 30% returns back. Plus there were a lot of evil people on social media spreading propaganda that my scheme was a Ponzi that had ended.

I needed that trust back, so I relaunched my website a day before the scheduled return. You needed to see the excitement. It was Christmas on January 13, I told existing people that had provided donations that they could now get help. I also added some attractive incentives for new members. I still faced the same problem that made me shut down temporarily, even worse.

The people that provided help during the shut down all requested help, plus there had already been a long list of people before then. So I decided to pair those that needed less than N30k first to check the rotation of money. Still there was not enough money to go round. The people that were paired to pay others refused to pay, the trust was gone. People had suddenly realised that it was not possible for 30% to be added to your money unless someone lost their own money.
Several other schemes took over my place when I was frozen. All will eventually meet their ends. Greed always comes to an end.

People still live in delusions of grandeur that I have not crashed. Perhaps they expect me to put a memo in my website that it is over. Lol. I really don't blame their naivety, I did do a lot for them to trust me.
I would advise that people make more intelligent financial decisions next time. People lost millions to me because of greed. Do I feel guilty? No. I did warn them to use their SPARE money.

My name is MMM and I am a Ponzi Scheme.

However, let me see if i can get money from another country and pay them, gain there trust bak.

cremedelacreme:
Finally I smoked weed for the first time and nothing happened to me!! Merry Xmas to u and as we enter this 2016 we shall all see 2014
Happy new year in arrears.

This ur post make sense

Ipisi:
A Charm seen at the side of Ghanaian goal Post AFCON Semi final Match against Cameroon

Who watched the Nations Cup Semi final match between Ghana and Cameroon yesterday?

Some kind of charm was discovered at the side of Ghanaian goal post during the semi- final Match between Cameroon and Ghana. Despite this charm, Ghana still lost to Cameroon 2-0 as Cameroon books a date with Egypt in the Final to be played on Sunday. It was later learnt that Ghanaian goalkeeper Razak was the player who brought the charm after he was spotted kissing the spiderman doll on the pitch during the semi-finals match.

A similar event occurred when Ghana played Egypt in their last Group D match and Andre Ayew was seen sprinkling what seems to be a white powdered charm on the pitch just before the kick-off but they eventually did lost 1-0 to Egypt.

Africans and black magic are 5&6

http://www.abz-sports.com/2017/02/see-charm-pictured-at-side-of-ghanaian.html

nonsense...watin Charm wan do...?

heading to 1000 to $1...

onyeezeigbo:
BUHARI WRITES NIGERIANS FROM LONDON HOSPITAL
Dear Naijerians
You fiful are bely wukied, why are you fiful fraying that I should die kuo? Ayam not even dead yet, and all of you fiful are jubilating, then ip I die now, you fiful will just turn za whole kwuontry to carnival na. I was at za foint of death when I heard that za whole kwuontry is jubilating that I am dead, I said "ah ah" I will not die now so that you fiful will not be hafi.
I even heard that afostle Suleman said that Christians should kee my cows and my herdsmen, you fiful should tell that afostle that ip anything hafens to my cows, I will pinish him o.
Por those of you saying that ayam not pighting kwaraption because I cleared Buratai, Dambazau, Amaechi, Kyari, Magu and Babachir of kwaraption like a clearing agent, I want to tell you something, they say "show me your prends and I will tell you who you are" so ip I declare all my forlitical prends kwarapt, won't you fiful say I ayam kwarapt too? Or do you fiful think ayam not wise? I have told you fiful bepor, my farty, za All Frogressive Confidence, Afee cee, is a farty por saints, kwarapt fiful cannot be pound in my farty or guberment.
I want to seize zis ofortunity to call on za National Assembly that ayam not coming back on za 6th op Pebuary again because of some unporseen circumstances, they should allow His Seselency, Za Pice Fresident op za pedral lipublik of Naijeria, Frofesuar Yemi Osibande to kwuotinue to act as za fresident fending when ayam back.
Yoowaa to za pew fiful who still believe in my guberment, Isha Allah change will begin with you bepor it gets to me.
Lest I porget, Tupace is flanning to stage a frotest against my guberment, all I can say to him is dambruba waka shege to him and za pive girls he infregnated.
Signed:
Dr. Muhammadu Buhari, GCFR
©2017

lollll....chai...u get time ooo...laugh wan kill me here @ all frogressive confidence

NEHLIVE:
Big Brother Naija contestant, TBoss is currently trending on twitter. Why? She showed off her pierced nipples after stripping unclad as she was undressing in the presence of other contestants in their locker room.In the past, she had revealed having titles in more than seven areas of her body and different body piercing as well. See the photos and a video below...

http://www.newseveryhour.com/2017/01/big-brother-naija-contestant-tboss.html

Pls what is the goal of big brother ...what do they want to achieve..?

Islie:
http://www.dailytrust.com.ng/news/general/reps-to-increase-fuel-price-by-n5-for-roads/183278.html

Stttupid reps...we all knw the next effect of prices of goods also going higher due to fuel hike, then it will balance. next yr they increase it again to 200...then prices of goods will spike up again. Then the nigerian circle forever and ever...rubbish leaders, rubbish country.

AdoraAmadi:
A woman who was desperate to save her marriage and stop her husband from falling into the arms of younger women employed an unfamiliar way to achieve this.

The woman who was only identified as Wanjiru Kamami or Shiro, published an advertisement on a Kenyan newspaper complete with her husband's image, his phone number and his National Identification number. The translated ad above reads:

"This is to inform the general public that the person whose photograph appears above is the husband to Wanjiru Kamami (Shiro) since 1982, (sic) therefore if you see him getting lied to with school girls or young women at the market, tell him to go home or call my number 0751993571."

Many Kenyans expressed shock on the woman's desperate move while others found the whole situation hilarious.

Your thoughts?

http://www.lailasblog.com/2017/01/woman-advertises-cheating-husband-on.html

This will be a very good idea oo...so that any woman wey see am go take fear....lol

Kolababe:
http://www.newseveryhour.com/2017/01/photos-married-big-brother-naija.html

Up till now, i dont know the goal or agenda of BBA.

dust144:
Cut it again and put camera to monitor the tree stand again

Simple...Africa should help the world discover electrospritual forces...ESF. I think it will still obey Newtons law...F=ma

He said all these things out of desperation

but....

MMM members....bc buhari send cbn and sec to crash mmm

Gten:
Immaturity, can't you guys go separate ways without feeding the Nigerian police?

Men...if i give u secret and you waka without due date..guy u are in trouble. Na why devil no dey allow pple go easily. Its only God that can let you go with his blessings and still handle it in his own way.

Rapmaestro:
The pics of d complete statue

Owerri will soon take over Nigerian news very soon, with the kind of governor we have and the Gboys...news go plenty.

ab11baddo:
OMG.... WAT A DAY I WON'T FORGET..... Still a kid in ikotun...... My whole house was trembling to its foundation.... I was scared.... My dad was in ikeja dat Day..... He said he didn't know how he survived it.... He just kept on running.... Dat day I know obasanjo isn't human..... He left there not quite long.... Even in an hurry.... People get jars FORGET... No one can take ur life when God has not deem it fit.

Sometimes, you wonder if babalawo is helpful...obj have survived many near death experiences.

Tunenez:
I'd never forget that day, i was in my family residence in GRA Ikeja roughly 2KM from the cantonment. Every single window in our house shattered, many doors got jammed. It was crazy. The day after our compound was filled with ashes and debris. A day never to forget indeed.

...and Indomie generation are here craving for war..only if they know the effects of bombs alone not to talk of the bullets and current missiles.

lekkie073:
The storm is gatheringg

This govt misplaced priorities...

Set up 24hrs electricity, good road network and security before these strange forex policies.

eleojo23:
When we were young life was easier, right? I know sometimes it seems that way. But the truth is life is still easy. It always will be. Over the course of time, we made our lives harder and harder, and we started losing touch with who we really are and what we really need.

If you can relate to this, here are some ways you’re likely making your life harder than it has to be, and some ideas on simplifying things:

1. You keep thinking about worst-case scenarios.
I have a bad habit of fast forwarding everything to its worst possible outcome and being pleasantly surprised when the result is marginally better than the utter disaster I imagined. My mind unnecessarily wrestles with events that aren’t even remotely likely. My sore throat is probably cancer. My lost ATM card fell into the hands of a Boko Haram terrorist who will wipe out my savings account.

Negativity like this only breeds more negativity. It robs you of happiness. It will carry you away from shore, and if you don’t swim away it will pull you under. The bottom line is that you can see the world through a lens of doubt and despair or hope and excitement. It’s your choice. Either way, you will someday arrive at the same destination. The only question is: Do you want to arrive with a frown or a smile?

2. You constantly compare your life to others.
You were invited to a nice party somewhere. You are enjoying the smooth jazz, wine and party jollof rice. What more could you want? As the party goes on you notice a group of guys and girls with expensive outfits enjoying themselves on another table across the party hall. Suddenly you begin to feel that you don’t measure up to the guys/girls on the other table - people you didn’t even know existed until just a few minutes ago.
Those people are having more fun. Mary has a bigger house. John gets all the lucky breaks. Tunde has more money. Ada is better looking.

Stop it.

If you compete with everyone else, you will become bitter. If you compete with a previous version of yourself, you will become better. It’s as simple as that.

3. You avoid facing the truth.
The truth does not cease to exist when it is ignored. You cannot find peace by avoiding things. You have to feel it to heal it. Bring your fears and weaknesses front and center and shine a blazing spotlight on them. Because the only way out is through. The pain of facing the truth is SO worth it in the long run.

4. You believe that everyone is out to get you.
Someone in your office does something nice for you and automatically you begin to wonder what they want. Another driver cut you off in traffic. Your friend never texted you back. Your colleague went to lunch without you. Everyone can find a reason to be offended on a daily basis. So what caused you to be offended? You assigned negative intent to these otherwise innocent actions. You took it as a personal insult – a slap in the face. Don’t do this to yourself. Don’t take things personally.
Don’t assign negative intent to the unintentional actions of others. Let today be the day you look for the good in everyone you meet.

5. You see a future full of pitfalls.
You finally have a dinner date with a person you really like. Instead of thinking how great this is and how much you are going to enjoy the evening, you focus on the ways that this evening is going to be a disaster. Or you finally get to take a bold step to do what you love and instead of seeing it working out well, you focus on how it is going to fail.
You are always so focused on all the negative things that might happen that you fail to see the benefits and opportunities before you. You could be missing something great!

6. You are the sun and the world rotates around you.
When planning an outing do you insist that everyone follow your plan? When you are having a bad day do you make sure all your friends and family know about it? These behaviors could be seriously making life more difficult for you. By making things less about you and more about others would make for smoother relationships and less tension.

7. You focus on popularity over effectiveness.
Seek respect, not attention. It lasts longer and it’s far more useful in the end. Do things and build things that make a lasting difference. And above all, never confuse popularity with effectiveness. Being popular means you’re liked for a while. Being effective means you’ve made a difference

8. You are stuck on your mistakes.
It’s important that we forgive ourselves for making mistakes. We need to learn from our errors and move forward. Make a pact with yourself today not to be defined by your past. Sometimes the greatest thing to come out of all your hard work isn’t what you get for it, but what you learn from it. A happy, successful life, after all, is not a life absent of problems, but one that’s been able to rise above them.

9. You have an “all or nothing” mentality.
There’s no such thing as perfect success, just as there’s no such thing as perfect failure. This is why labeling things in extremes – all or nothing – success or failure – is an exercise in futility.
What does exist, however, is a continuous series of imperfect moments filled with infinite possibilities and opportunities. Appreciate the grey area between the extremes – the journey – the experiences. And above all, never let success get to your head or failure get to your heart.

10. You can’t let go.
She embarrassed you in front of your colleagues and you are never going to forgive her. Sound familiar?
Learn to let go of the wrong things people have done to you. Most times the other person is out there enjoying her life while you keep on carrying the burden of hurt on your heart.

Another scenario is this: you know you are right about how something should be done and nothing is going to change your mind. Has this attitude ever embarrassed you when it turns out that you were wrong in the end?
Learn to let go. It makes life easier.


These and many more are the ways we unknowingly make life hard for ourselves.

I believe this post has been of help to you. I have decided to work on areas in this post that concerns me and I encourage you to do the same this year.
Let’s make life easy again!
Happy new year.


Credits to www.marcandangel.com/2014/07/27/18-ways-youre-making-your-life-harder-than-it-has-to-be/ and www.lifehack.org for excerpts used in this post

U are right...Nigerians live difficult life...everybody is bitter and angry. Hatred is the order of the day, they wish u will seize to exist yet every sunday they rush to church.

raumdeuter:
You dont want to be with him, your parents dont want you to be with him anymore for the sake of your safety

His actions shows he doesnt really care for you to stay, His moms actions supports this that she doesnt care f you stay or not

Is this a good summary of the situation?

very intelligent questions...that marriage was built on slippery foundation hence the indecition in everybody. Op have not said everything yet...she thinks before she write here...you may never get the right info. She has never faulted herself, does it mean she was never wrong? Adonbilivit

prestigiouslady:
Good afternoon Familanders.

I'm in dire need of advice hence my write up.
I'm a single mum of one, I got separated from my ex two years ago...though we are not officially divorced yet. After things got pretty nasty and he had to chase me back home (prior to this, my folks had wanted me to come back home due to his constant abuse)... I thought we could resolve issues, we both tried to but he's just like a smoke, he can't hide his character for too long..he's hot tempered, egoistic, and he can so mouth trash me(emotional abuse).he grew up in a home where his mum was the C in C, so he hates women trying to have a say.I must always do whatever he says not minding if I'm comfortable or not. I have my own share of the blame cos sometimes, he pushes me and I react back, so I'm not saying I'm a saint either. But my friends and family knows I'm not a trouble maker.

So I've been alone for two years, no date, no relationship cos I'm still officially married to him.. I went to see some of his friends and they told me to move on without him, its sad but they couldn't hide it anymore, he has moved on even so show casing a lady around as his new found love..but when things go down the drain between him and his gf, he comes back to me trying to see if we can make things work.

Now I have two problems here,
1. I don't want to be the one to sue for a divorce cos he will blackmail me emotionally (he tells everyone who cares to listen that he didn't chase me out of the house but I left cos I couldn't endure which is a lie from the deepest part of hell)... he doesn't want to sue for a divorce too.

2. I'm becoming too lonely, most night I cry myself to bed.. the last time we spoke, he told me "you're a very good lady, I love you but I really don't know why things arent working between us".. I know he loves me but I'm becoming too lonely and I don't want to cheat on him.

3. Around July 2016,a friend of mine (family friend) has been on my neck for a relationship, I've known him for a while, he was there for me all through when things was bad, he is a good man and he knows I'm separated (he's officially divorced to a white woman)...he's like everything I want in a man.

I really don't know what to do...do I sue for a divorce? or go into a relationship with my new guy for the main time..please help me.


Thank you

cc

Sorry but all theses story faults you. I dont have time to type but u know, u already want to leave. You are at fault....

luckyz4rea:
Your comment reminds me of the old time advert: A chinese man says... snoeka, snoekanae; Good thinking, good product!

Am not sure of those chinese spellings o.

It is Toyota and he is japanese...good thinking good product. 96 atlanta and france 98...indomie generation cannot know this...

queendoreez:
For UBA, you get N7000 for every N500k fixed for 3months.

Chai...this is why people sank in MMM:..this thing na wickedness...how can you leave 500k for 3 months with a bank and get only 7k...this is nonesense.

360frolic:
Senator Enyinnaya Abaribe representing Abia-South Senatorial District in his contribution to the 2017 Budget debate says the more things change the more they remain the same.

He described the budget as an outrageous.



http://www.newshelm.com/2017/01/why-are-computers-budgeted-for-every.html

This man is making sense...but he should fear this govt. Democracy does not work here...

autojosh:
Do you still remember the black number plates we used way back? This picture will definitely bring back memories.. as well as show what our car number plate was like, compared to what it is today.

This current style was introduced in 1992 and revised in 2011. It looks more like that of USA compared to the previous one that has the shape of what they use in Europe.

The unique plate combination is in the format “ABC-123 DE”. The first three letters indicates the Local Government Area where the vehicle was registered. Followed by three digits and two letters. The background consists of an outline of the map of Nigeria.

Before 2011, the three letters indicating the Local Government Area were at the end, in this format AB123-CDE.

https://autojosh.com/photos-4-car-number-plates-we-have-used-in-nigeria/

..and they wan do another one..

rtmajayi:
US president, Donald Trump is a man you hate to love or love to hate, whatever!!! Here is a throwback video of Trump at the wrestlemania 23 where he shaved off... Don't worry, watch the video and I hope by now you will remember all I mean..


https://ww1.hdnux.com/photos/47/53/47/10402244/3/920x920.jpg
https://www.wrestlezone.com/assets/uploads/gallery/bobby-lashley/gettyimages-73764753.jpg




https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x6EO70W-PqE?t=5

This man is just a ganja man...columbians go like am.