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Mr~Cork:
well i dont like to share punny, is that love or is that greedyness?  U tell me!

hmmm MR CORK,MR CORK,u're alive again, ARE YOU ARE JEALOUS MAN?

Ikedonn:
@ poster
I am in the same situation now.She has shown me some kind of sincerity through errands she went for me in naija and her openness to my questions.I have only seen her pics and seen her on cam.I am still thinking over it and most especially she's from a city very close to my town.

If you sincerely love her and you feel she also does.Then why not meet her.I think it will work for both of you the fact that you are close to each other.How did u meet?In Nairaland?

The success of falling and staying in love via the net depends on the individuals involved. The most obvious downside to this is that it's really hard to tell whether the person you're corresponding with is sincere or not. It's tough enough to determine a person's real intentions in regular face-to-face interactions, and doubly so when all you've got are words and maybe a webcam to communicate with.

However, love, whether it's communicated virtually or in the flesh, requires a leap of faith (okay, and sharp character judgment skills). And even if it's hard, there are many couples who've already managed to form successful, even lifetime unions simply from meeting and corresponding online.What do you think of it?

So, are cheaters born cheaters, or do certain situations cause people to cheat? Probably a little bit of both. Here are some situations that make people cheat:

1. Bored
I'd say this is the most common reason that people cheat.It's tough to keep that edge throughout a relationship. Things start off grand and then level off and then you both realize that it's still real life. When you meet someone else, that inaugural excitement of a new relationship kicks back in.

2. Dependence
At first glance, cheating seems like independent behavior. It could be interpreted as doing what you want, when you want. But I would argue that cheating is a dependent behavior. A cheater is dependent because they are not strong enough to break up with their significant other in order to get with the new person.

3. Confusion
Sometimes life or a particular situation can get to you. When the perfect storm of confusion is going on in your head, you make mistakes.

4. Because They Let You
If any girl /boy ever cheated on you, U'd break up with her/him immediately. Forgiving a cheater is putting up with it, and starts a vicious cycle. That person who cheated may lose respect for you and might continue to cheat-because they know they can get away with it, because you'll continue to take them back.

5. Nurturing
If someone is mistreating you, then your first instinct is to get away from him or her. But sometimes it's not that simple-maybe you are raising kids together. If you feel trapped in a bad relationship, it's only natural that you will run to the open arms of a person who treats you well.

6. Revenge
This is quite simple- an eye for an eye. Cheat on them if they cheat on you. If they continuously hurt you or abuse you in some way, you do it to get them back.

7. Confirmation of Attractiveness
Sometimes when you're in a long relationship, or if your significant other is taking you for granted, you begin to wonder if you're still attractive. Perhaps, because you were out on the dating circuit, you felt more attractive when you were single. If you have an affair, you've proven that a new person can be attracted to you.

8. The Thrill
Some people just enjoy the thrill of cheating: running around secretly, risking getting caught, andcreating thrilling moments with a forbidden romance.

9. They Don't Consider It Cheating, Even Though You Might
Relationships have that grey area, usually right before you become exclusive. He thinks date #4 is when you're "together," and you think date #2 is when you're "together." If you haven't talked about exclusivity, someone may think they are well within their rights to see other people, even though the other person in the relationship may not.

I don't understand why people don't break up as soon as they have an urge to cheat. Is it natural to have temptation, or is temptation a sign that the relationship is losing its fire? What reasons would you add to this list, and do you disagree with any? If you've ever cheated, why did you do it? Could you forgive a cheater? If you are single, but seeing a person who is in a committed relationship, does that make you a cheater?

I for one,I never consider race in my relationship ,Race isn’t a big deal when two people are in love - nothing else is important but their happiness,and What are the keys to their happiness? Ofcourse,mutual understanding,compatibility,loyalty,care. Love & Trust.Now,take a look at the following :

Benefits of an Interracial Relationship
•  Learning about another culture or religion.
•  Being exposed to new ways of thinking.
•  Incorporating aspects of the culture/race/religion into you daily life.
•  Becoming stronger in what you believe.
•  Having an incredible experience with someone you love and respect.
•  Possibly learning a new language.
•  Being exposed to another country.
•  By example teaching others around you that the relationship is like any other, with challenges but worth it.
. The children of this relationship are likely to be better global citizens than those born from marriages/ relationships of the same race.

I am engaged to a person outside my race and I never see any problem because we are carrying they keys to our happiness .We will try our best to stand the test of time inorder to be together till the end.

Diligence:
St Augustine did state:  "He that is not jealous, is not in love"  Interpret it whichever way u like, for even the Almight God is a Jealous God and wouldn't share his glory with any1/thing!

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right!

This is cool , and some may or may not be true and again, It depends on the person managing his/her own life

busyfinger:
it shows a common opinion among couples,what a nice topic Mediatrix ,  Seyi

hmmmm Seyi? So do you share your password to your special one?

Hmmm missing someone here, the jolly and yet annoying fellow, MR CORK,MR CORK,Where are you? Are you still alive?

Just curious and please correct me if I am wrong, IS IT TRUE THAT NIGERIANS ARE THE MOST JEALOUS GUYS IN THE WORLD?

Shocking to know this thing OMG, the poster of this thread isn't a Chinese lol.I am sure about that.I have been teaching English to Chinese in China for almost 5 years now and I don't think a Chinese lady can create such writing style as that, though I know they are really grammatically conscious but then you can still see their Chinese styles and ways of Writing. .I wish I have seen her post earlier.Anyway, Her problem is true,I can see that! She just don't wanna reveal her identity.

Question: Is Jealousy A Sign Of Love?
Yes 35 (61.4%)
No 22 (38.6%)
Total Votes: 57

hmmm obviously majority of people voted "yes" Jealousy is a sign of Love

MrsEve:
I hunger for tylenol pill at this moment 

oh Dear Sister,Are you ill?, don't forget to include amoxicillin

noblemanindeed:
it is not really advisable 4 couple 2 each other password. my dear, trust no one!.byeee.

oh,Why u can't trust anyone?

hahahha, this thread made me laughed, I can't imagine how this guy made a TERMINATION notice" from dating his gf, this is amazingly new to me.

@ Post, Even though some Nigerians Men can be unhappy this Christmas due to some reason beyond their control.I am sure majority of them are still HAPPY for Christmas no matter how their life maybe rich or poor as long as they are with their loved ones

I am hungry for ,jallof rice,pepper soup and fish stew it's been almost a year never tasted that delicious food again hehehhe , Seriously,I am hungry for RIGHTEOUSNESS,PEACE,EQUALITY,AND LOVE through out the World.When will we achieve this, to make us a better people living in a better world?

apocalypse:
@mediatrix8
Sorry I came out all crude , it was a vain attempt at humor

hmmmm ,so the outlet of having no supply of fuel from Middle east is uttering words as such?hehehe,Praise God Nigeria have Crude oil source It's ok bro,after all we aren't perfect,so often times we tend to say words "out of annoyance" or Ignorance and we didn't intend to hurt or insult anyone!

Rhymez:
@mediatrix. Like your comment but that doesnt chang the fact that men are polygamous in nature.

Yes,I agree with you.Men are polygamous by nature! but in fairness to some who can't afford to have"other" relationships,they prefer to be a "one- woman man" because they have no other choice and source"

hmmmmm still on the go

I agree!

drsaks:
my favorite is "you complete me",

Me too! and that is the best and the sweetest lines from the movie "JERRY MAGGUIRE" by,Tom cruise, very short yet so complete to tell someone you love

From the moment you say " i do" to each other,signifying possessions- that you belong to each other.Being possessive is a "negative"  attitude at the times -which often define as "selfishness".Hence,husband and wife/gf/bf ,in love they belong to each other so they are entitled or responsible to each other but it doesn't mean ownership , that's my own point of view

Perfect day

As I sit here thinking of you,
Which is something I often do,
I think of how you make me feel inside.

Loving you brings to me such pride,
I love you deeper then the earths core;
Yet every second I find myself loving you more.
I love your smile, your laugh, your touch;
Your kisses awaken my saddened heart.

I wait to see you pull in the drive,
After all these years I still get that tingle inside,
I lay beside you at night, my arms around you;
It is the perfect way to end the day through.
To wake up beside you at the sound of the alarm,
It is now me who is in your arms,
I start each day perfect with seeing your face,
I end each day perfect with you in my embrace.

All the time in between while we're apart;
I miss you terribly, but it is a perfect day,
For I carry you in my heart.

Absolutely!,Man can handle much rejection than woman.For instance,A man can handle being"busted' to 3 women  or more at a time but when a Woman met rejection 3x, will become like the " desperate housewives.

oh oh

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You've got the point there

ayoworld:
I feel couples can actually share there password because they are one according to the bible.However there must be sincerity from both parties.

I agree with you

nortyd:
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my hubby and  i share ours to almost everything comes in handy too seen as hes stuck in nysc camp i can pass messages etc on for him

That's sweet, Didn't you encounter any problem with that arrangement?

apocalypse:
@ poster
Jealousy if overdone can be damaging & yes I'll go with the way of aca77 , there has to be some level of jealousy if a guy/gal truly loves you.
Ofcourse I can't stop guys from approaching my girl but her response would determine if I'll  question he love. I should be bothered if a guy is flirting with my girl and she easily gives out her number with all smiles , haba that's just not right. Meanwhile , if she were just a fling I wouldn't give two Zap.s as long as I get my own Zap

well,your first 2 sentences related to the topic really make sense but your last sentence is some kinda