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BaesDiary:
Because the rate of women that die as a result of 'endure-it-and-hope-it-gets-better' is on the rise, I wrote this:


You both loved each other, yes, you were so much in love with him. He was the only one who makes your world go round. You were fond of each other, and you could not imagine life without him. You blessed the day you met him, he was not perfect, but awesome in his own…..


You got married. This was your dream come true. Yes, you are now married to your beau. You had vowed to be with him, come rain, come sunshine… come all that the world may throw at you….


But then, things changed. It started with a smack, it degenerated to tappings, he uses his belt. No, I am not talking ‘the 50 shades of grey', kinda beating, not the bedroom dominant-submissive# kinda thing…..


I am talking about real beating that ranges from slaps to punches, stamping, boxing and every form of abuse you have been receiving.


You kept quiet, he has apologized. He promised never to lay his hands on you anymore, except he wants to caress you…. He showed how remorseful he was…


Then, it happened again… this time you were the ‘cause’. He told you pushed him too far. He would not have done it again, if you had not called him names and if you had not…..


And just before you knew it, he violated you again, this time harder, you sustained bruises here and there. He was sorry, he did not know what came over him this time. He got you that thing you loved most, he appeased you with gifts, you let go. ‘He is human, isn’t he?’


You got to a point where you can no longer take it. You told his people, they apologized on his behalf, called him to reprimand him, and told you he would never try such again.


But then, it happened again and again and again, you reported to people… you have been told never to keep quiet on such issues. His people told you to endure, your parents told you to manage…they have given you out in marriage, you can’t bring shame to them by going back to their house. Your friends told you that you are even lucky, some girls would do anything to attain that married status you have. So, they advise you to stay for your kids. Your clergy told you to pray. The society expectation of you is to keep up with his ill treatment. You don’t want to be single mother, or separated mom, you dislike such label….


But you die every day, with his raging blows… You die daily from his consistent abuse….

Will you wait till you are beaten to death, before you realize you should have run?

Would you rather die from his constant beating, than live for your children?

Many have towed this path…. Many have endured it, till their last breath was taken. Do you know the percentage of women who die yearly as a result of domestic violence?

RUN SISTER, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE, SAY NO TO THE “ENDURE IT SYNDROME”!



This post first appeared on this blog, Bae's Diary.

Source: http://www.baesdiary.com.ng/2017/03/the-endure-it-syndrome-how-it-plays-out.html#more

Seun, lalasticlala, Mynd44, Ishilove

Most Men are ingrates, appreciates what you have. Women are tendering things apple.... but women also worship your hus.remenber he is your LORD. Never look down on him, never return words whenever He is upset, you have only one captain in,any Cruise. Ladies advise your self wella ;

Khd95:
make one of the dead bodies go raise eye brows lasan


But this guy gather liver shaa

no be liver, cone hear he dee drink tea and coffe with them

uzoclinton:
lol. it could be..

I don't know that's why am asking

uzoclinton:
Source: https://www.google.com.ng/amp/www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4455370/amp/Bride-divorces-greedy-husband-just-THREE-HOURS.html

is it part and percel of guiness book of record??

ipledge10:
Josua beat the beast... the victory is for Nigeria not UK

the jewss

brainpulse:
Fast route to carry drugs to China and sell factory babies.

no problem with that. If they wish

hucienda:
Dis one na sharp-sharp. No time to waste time. Stress on the Chinese embassies in Abuja and Lagos go reduce.

Africa looking more and more towards the east. China, way to go.

good move. We noo need opposition in this one. G . If ndi anambra will agree

kindnyce:
Not excited because he's a us soldier, rather its about the GREEN CARD.
Nice hussle though.

go and get it

b3llo:
Congrats

NCAN be warned no trespassing here

OsuIbo:
We Igbos support Governor Peter Ayodele Fayose. How I wish Fayose can rule us in Igboland the same way he ruled Ekiti because Ekiti is more developed than the entire Igboland and Governor Ayodele Fayose is greater than all Igbo men both dead and alive.


Fayose is greater than ojukwu
Fayose is greater than nnamdi azikiwe
Fayose is greater than chinua achebe
Fayose is greater than nnamdi kanu
Fayose is greater than obi of onitsha
Fayose is greater than alex ekweme
Fayose is greater than emeka anyaoku
Fayose is greater than ike ekweremadu
Fayose is greater than peter obi

FAKE

kennethbetha:
https://www.thecable.ng/breaking-cbn-reverses-cashless-policy

so that people will start banking instead of stock piling cash at offices and houses

eyamensah:
My car shows yellow light when low on fuel and with that it can even run 4d whole day... meanwhile my car consumption rate is very high coz on a normal basis i use more than 20 litres a day hence the question

Even on V6 engines still too high.Better buy a new car

LionDeLeo:
Umeme Lotachukwu Fabian,

Same people, every day.

human head beheaders, and drug pushers which is more serious offence

Boleyndynasty2:
it was tY Danjuma that killed em both? We need to bring back History as a compulsory subject in our schools

do you mean we no longer study History in our higher schools? if so needed to be reversed urgently. Benefits paramounts

Jetleeee:
These guys are so ungrateful.

After helping them develop their country, this is what me and my fellow developers from Biafuro are getting in return?

We will not take....Aaah I swear

https://i.imgsafe.org/27a239ed26.jpg

https://i.imgsafe.org/27aa533a12.jpg

https://i.imgsafe.org/27b02cdcd7.jpg

biafra ud indeed

Jajayi:
Governor of Bayelsa state, Henry Seriake Dickson, pictured Enjoying a Local Boat Ride In the Creeks of Niger Delta....

Source: http://www.cambellsblog.com/2017/04/bayelsa-state-governor-dickson-enjoying.html

insanity were is the camera man. Then how can you say alone?? Better you say casting

alfredo4u:
House, I know how helpful you guys have been. The last time I came hear was about my wife and I having argument for not saying thank ma to her mum.

Last night something happened. I'm staying in one bed room flat. Since her mum came for omugo/visit. I left the bedroom for them and start staying in the parlor. At night, I do expect her to join me in the parlor because our baby is two months and...

Last week, I have to beg her to join me in the parlor which she did. Three ocassions, I tried making love to her, she said... MY MUM IS AROUND AND WE SHOULD RESPECT HER PRESENCE. Seriously I got offended and did it without her offer. Up till now she don't like joining me in the parlor.

If I should do away runs now they will start complaining.

Pals you guys should pls advice me urgently because if this continues, I might do the otherwise.


Thanks

. Guy a room and parlour. Soo close for comfort. If 3 bedrooms, duplex etc. Ok. Or do you want turn your house into romantic sphere . If your do desperate on having it nite time noo your perfection as far as your inlaw is around. Try afternoon stuff. Probably when your inlaw might have gone to market. Fix your time we'll and have your stuff

tendercharles:
Nigerian are quick to increase the price of goods and blame it on increase in dollar rate. Now its dropping and price of things are still high. Are we to blame govt again for that?

brother the goods that is purchased at the rate of 490 to 520 to a dollar is still on its way to Nigeria. With the cheap dollar now things prices of goods will start coming down in 3 months time

jjbest123:
Hope We Have A Tomato Factory To Meet Local Demand

eat fresh tomato

RoyalBoutique:
Importers, exporters, traders, those with children schooling abroad, bank transactions, hoarders, embezzlers, bureau de change, oil marketers, etc

In fact, the money being released by cbn is not enough.

They should just let the dollar flow through like before.

They are doing well already. Or are you a speculator??

shortgun:
Na them

. Which is more evil husling Nigerian Jews from brazil,pakistan etc and the gentle beheaders.

hoodmenconcept:
This is has been really disturbing my mind. Please, can somebody tell me the main purpose and aim of Bigbrother Naija ? How does it affect Nigeria Economic positvely ? How does it affect a common Nigerian in a positive way ? what is the main koko gan gan of this nonsense called bigbrother naija? I need a reasonable answer, please.

TRASH

Whoeppme:
Looks like she must have been going through hell tho

. When our great grand Papas were marring five, six, seven wives do divorse exist?? Nooo. Na one na one wife saga civilization, Western ideologies

richard870:
Still not good

trying. If cbn can maintain exchange rate u to 350. We clap for them. Positive

ijebuloaded:
http://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/top-news/226562-wearing-customs-uniform-will-belittle-hameed-alis-army-achievement-retired-general.html

irrelevant. Political appointee is not proud of his appointment. Only in Nigeria you see this happening. It means he don't suppose to get any appointment outside military circuit. This shall be a lesson to Senate for future steering of appointees

Edwinmason:
in other news u support this animalistic act?

as for me Nigerian Army are even too soft now. And that the cause of all this. When I was small in 1980s. When you see army no got to mess up. Talkless of beating you. Obey the order and go away

ikechkwuegone:
Good day Nairalanders, I will like to be brief and specific.I am happily married with kids and we based in Eastern part of the country.

I and my wife work and contribute to the well being of the family.Some months ago I started noticing my wife's body language when ever she is on phone with her boss by been blushing like a single girl talking to her boyfriend.

Secondly the same Boss bought her a phone, which I did not take serious, thinking it will make the official communication between them more easier.

I also noticed that my wife always chat with this same boss and hardly leave her phone carelessly which prompt me to check her chat conversation with the same boss.She doesn't leave their chat history on the phone.

Last week I accidentally checked her chat with the man , I was very surprised when I saw Her boss referred to my Wife as "My Baaby" at d beginning of their conversation and some other words like "Dear ao re u".

I confronted my wife, it was very difficult for me to confront her because I don't want the trust between us spoil.When confronted she gave me two answers, that Her calls every female staffs My Baaby, secondly that the message was mistake frm Her boss that it wasn't meant for Her that was why she didn't reply.I believed Her and we move on.

Two days ago I came back frm work and I met my wife lying down on the bed with phone conversation, instantly my wife change what they were discussing.I asked my wife what they were discussing but she stammering.
The same man do tell my wife about his wife inability to conceive the second child for him.

With all these instances I am totally confused and devastated. I love my wife so much , I can't wait for d worst to happen between her and d man, she is making keep suspecting her.

I am a very loyal to her, I bnever cheat on her, she is everything to me, I don't see her wife but a friend and confidential.

Married nairalanders I really need your advice on how to handle this before my happy home will be ruin, Almighty Lord will bless your home as u give me ur candid advice

. Bro take heart no need painting words, she is already cheating, but never mind. Stop her the work, if it won't affect the financial stability of the house. Change the sim card. Give her a new phone. But mind if your not a real MAN don't try this. Cos your out for better or the worst. Be careful to know what you can stand first. Before any action. If not manage life. When you want to remember the heartbreak drink beer

dikeigbo2:
As you de waka,na so your cloth de waka also....kontinue

meaning

autojosh:
Are you aware we have speed limits in Nigeria?

Implementation may be next to non but the policy does exist as seen in the attached snapshot.

The maximum speed limit in Nigeria is 100km/hr… and there is even a caveat that says “Ignorance of the law is not an excuse”

Tell us if you like these speed limits to be implemented or not..

https://autojosh.com/speed-limits-in-nigeria/

opps am trying to view, difficult. But the law must have been outdated. I never see were you designate a price car on a particular speed level. Commercial may be OK. I think road safety need more works to do ; on the drivers licensing.

dikeigbo2:
Can you imagine

" every Nigerian is now acting or behaving as if they don't eat beef" [color=][/color] . I thank God is not happening in a church .Na party stuff. When your on a club or night party do you expect to be receiving holy communion. Pretence every were. . purely adult

sunnyside16:
Why destroy the house that could serve other state purposes.........our leaders never thinking before acting

"when the kingdom of God sufferet violent Men Of God taketh it by force. Any measure taken by any government in deterring this evil is a welcome development

TO summarise it, "this woman has been trying to seduce my friend before the death of her husband, eventually when her husband died my friend went to console her three days after but the unthinkable happen, he was seduce by the woman in her room and he had sex with her, mind you it was rainy and people that came to console her have all left except the woman's younger sister who was sleeping in her room based on the heavy downpour. "are there any implications to a guy that had sex with a woman three days after her husband's death or does he need any spiritual cleansing? he is scared for his life but the widow in question is not a little bit scared at all, though she is still young and withouth a child, pls what should my friend do?

the woman must have been responsible for her husband death. Men shine una eye ooooo.