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There are some native ways to tighten the vag after delivery. Reason why most mothers from my state insist on village omugwo.

My cousin's wife had that problem after delivering her first child. Her Hubby discovered she was wider and sent her back to her mother to help. The mother got hold of a local midwife and the therapy began. She went back fresh as new.

For the oyibo own, Kegels performs wonders but you have to start during pregnacy and continue after. The exercise shd be done as many times as possible in a day. If practiced correctly, it helps ma ke things tight.

Btw,Some men will always find reasons to complain and cheat. The thank you most women get for childbirth is cheating. SMH.

Why should I get bellyache for nothing? I just let it out.

This is heartbreaking. Mama, sleep on. You are in a better place. I just wish you didn't have to suffer that much.

Kazreem, I know how painful this is but God will give you and your sisters solace .

Nothing wrong. Let him marry her, in no time the lady will look like his mate but he should try to understand her within her age bracket and not expect her to be as mature as his age in actions. Let him not also expect to be lord and master getting overflowing respect o.

U no well.

I'm 5'9, so anything below 6+ will be short cos heels will definitely mark up, garrit?

Hubby is 6'3. Thank God!

And the moral of the story is?

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Sowi, can't relate . I was ALWAYS difficult to handle. .

I lost my brother two and a half years ago. I still hurt a lot. Crazily, I didn't even need consolation from anyone cos I knew no one, even my hubby could understand the hurt except my mum and siblings.

With time, you learn to work your paralysed mind and move on but you never forget ever cos something will always remind you of them, a smile here, a laugh there.

Sowi, she doesn't like you. Just leave am like dat, wetin she dey find, she go soon collect from that your guy hand. She's gat no loyalty, only rampant hormones.

If he was willing to get an education, I would say try it. But in all honesty, you are not compatible. He's illiterate and jobless with no desire to advance, you are the opposite.

Most illiterate guys tend to be very caring until they get you, then their insecurities surfaces and they begin to choke you with their inferiority complex.

Don't ever be in a hurry to settle for less . Don't even date him else you may find it hard to escape. Go on with your life. A better man than your ex is coming. Good luck.

Twaci:
Nah, it's different.

Here goes;

1. You peel your wateryam and cut them up. Then you grate to form a thick fine paste. (It's advised to use the tiny holes of the grater as this will yield fine results).

2. Put a pot on fire, pour in your red oil and fry your onions (diced).

3. Pour in the right amount of water (judging from your wateryam paste) and throw in your ingredients (pepper, salt, maggi and crayfish)

4. Please don't forget to put fish oh! Fish, Stockfish, prawns...anything goes

5. Now with your fingers, scoop small potions of the wateryam paste and put them in the boiling soup bit by bit.

6. Leave to boil over. 20 minutes.

7. Stir with a wooden ladle (add pumpkin leaves if you want).

8. That's all!

Please wait to cool before eating oh!

Ohhh, I know this one. . We call it otor. Its usually prepared without oil and most people don't add veg either. Its mainly prepared for new mothers. Part of omugwo things but everyone eats it.

Twaci:
Oh, how's it done then?

1. You peel wateryam and cocoyam (easy)

2. Grate them and mix well (slightly difficult )

3. Cut your baby cocoyam leaves into tiny pieces (takes time) or use spinach or potatoes leaves in dry season.

4. Cut your periwinkles with shells, wash them well and layer the bottom of the pot with it. Add some oil too.(easy)

5. Then you proceed to wrap the mix in those tiny cocoyam leaves making sure they are well wrapped. A little quantity at a time. (Back breaking and time consuming)

6.Wash your fish, pound your crayfish, wash and cut your vegetables.

7. The cooking part is now easy and the end result very fulfilling.

Don't know if urs follows the same process though.

Twaci:
Yeah, true. But it's really not hard to prepare. The only part I run away from is the grating of the wateryam

One ends up with cuts and sores at the fingertips if not careful with the grater.

I don't think its the same as ekpangnkukwo, cos ekpangkwukwo is hard to prepare. Minimum of four hours.

A woman, what else?

She married her grandfather cos of skin colour?

Thanks Op. I had thought to raise these issues sometime back but thought better of it cause I assumed no-one will listen anywhere. Let's hope 2017 is a better year with Seun and his moderators.

Heartbreak good o, if it can make one this creative.

You are seeking relevance abi?

Good for them. I guess they have no respect for their elders. At least, their parents.

Ladies are losing it by the minute. Shame no dey their face again.

Words fail me.

How do I contact you?

Ok. I've seen your whatsapp no.

The girl is not lying. Oga don enta am. She wouldn't have that courage to mention her oga if something has not been going on. He shd wait till the child is delivered to do a DNA test. Or one can be done in vitro I think.

I never ever wanted to marry. I fell in love and got married. Didn't really think why. Just knew I had found the one, period.

First child? I thought she already had a child, a girl.

Congrats to her though. Fiftish and pregnant. Can't have been easy.

He's never been in love yet. Tell him to open his heart to genuine love. Wanting to get married and have a blissful home naturally follows.

Most parents do parenting by trial and error until they get it right. The only criteria is that you love your family unconditionally. That love will influence your interactions, care, discipline and decisions.

He will be just fine. He should only let go of fear.

Don't divorce. A cousin's wife was as bad as that. The husband almost hated her but forced himself to bear his cross. We thought she had no ambition until her husband became a pastor. This woman suddenly blossomed, changed her dressing and became more active than the husband in church. People gravitate towards her more cos she has impeccable leadership skill. We never saw that coming and her husband just can't respect her enough.

In summarry, I'm saying, locate her passion. There must be a lurking ambition in her heart. Thru trial and error, you will find it. If she wants to start a little business, let her do so. Don't force larger ideas on her. If that's her passion , she will succeed.


I think you should also inform her mother. Mothers have a way of getting thru to their daughters. Subtly imply you may divorce her (but don't meant it o) if she continues the way she is and see her mother fight her to a standstill. A typical Naija mother doesn't want her child to divorce o. The mum will take on the fight and u may see positive results soon.

Lastly , stop comparing your wife with all these overpainted dolls. Appreciate her and respect her. Help her be her person , not your person. She is an individual.

Wishing you all the best.

Quintessential1:
As far as Romance section is concerned, all they care about is scandal and backashing!

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Na so I see am. I thought the traffic here will help but for where. Folks just reading and saying nothing. Thing dey vex me sef.

Let me start.

1. Tabbaz.
Dude took it on himself to become a scam policeman by creating a thread on Scam Alert in Business section. See link https://www.nairaland.com/3430558/scam-alert-dont-victim-update
The thread has exposed scammers and helped Nairalanders conduct businesses with more trustworthy exchangers. Continous update on trusted exchangers and scammers make it a most helpful thread.

2. beatzone:This guy created a thread about fiverr with free information in Feb 2016. See the link, https://www.nairaland.com/2947212/exclusive-how-make-level-2

It quickly garnered traffic and has become a go to thread on most things online related. The great thing is the free flow of information to help any serious minded person succeed. Hence he created jobs (so many people are earning on fiverr now). Kudos, beatzone.

For me, these are the two for now.

Though, Nairaland is a crazy place, we can't fail but acknowledge its positive contributions to our lives.

This thread is to acknowledge Nairalanders in 2016, in all sections who really helped others either through threads they created, or advise and help given on the forum.

The format goes:
Monicker, what the person did and who benefited. If its is a thread, please include the url where possible.

Its time to celebrate these helpers.

Cc:
lalasticlala
Mynd44
Freiburger
r231

Haba, common guys. Am I the only one who knows helpful Nairalanders?