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Yeye attention seeker. We know you need to see a psychiatrist, so butt off!

Can't comment without knowing more.

How did they make the demand?

I blame some families. A man comes into your family and rubbishes your children in the name if an inlaw, yet you keep quiet after finding the truth.

They are many ways to deal with this issue traditionally. No errant he goat should be allowed to commit incest and go scot free. Nonsense!

She should thank her God she wasn't caught by sadistic humans. At least she wasn't beaten, stripped, raped or burnt.

If she loves her life, this should serve as a lesson to her for eternity

BrownCookie:
In your own case you wanted to surprise him.

In my own case which was last year, my supposed boyriend invited the s.lut to his house, went out with her as she dressed up in cheap red dress & slippers.

When they came back, they stayed out talking till 1am when I finally said something (cos I was too stunned to speak).

That was when he came into the house. He came to bed & faced the wall while she slept in the other room.

The following day, she washed her clothes, hung it outside & went out with him, later in the evening, he came back to the house, picked her clothes, went & lodged in a hotel with her.

All this evil he meted out to be because I had no accomodation @ that time & was staying with him.

NB:valentine was on a Sunday & on Tuesday after their frolicking, he came bearing gifts & apologizing.

I have forgiven him but I can't seem to forget it. I now dread valentine & oh, I dealt him a fatal blow when he least expected.

#worstvalentineever!

Pls, pls, tell me you are joking!

My question is, where did she get the sperm from? Her female partner?

Whether through IVF or one night stand, bottom line is she was fertilised by sperm.

Imagine a male child being raised by two lesbians, what is the hope of that poor child to even make the right decision for his life? Confused generation and human beings.

Your mother should leave but AFTER you have brokered peace between them. This will prevent rancor. Try to do that as soon as possible so she can be on her way.

I know a lot of people will blame your wife not knowing what triggered her response. Get down to the root of it to avoid future occurences.

Great advice which will really work if the mother of the bride had also given her such useful tidbits and insights about marriage.

If the two partners are not in sync, na only one person go dey do all the work to keep the marriage which may not turn out so good in the end.

This is what happens when people are so engrossed in social media. Lots of youths now wrap themselves around this and become totally oblivious to the real world.

Social media has its positives , but the negatives can leave you weak in the knees sometimes.

Hope others learn.

harffie:
Are you a mom? Cuz you really said it all..

Yes I am, and I have one hell of an active toddler.

Hilarious though.

Check his head well, its not brain that is in there but grated coconut. Idiat!.

Very simple analogy to the men out there who like defending and finding silly excuses for rape.

Nairaland Forbes.

Sam sam, dis man can never resign. He will hold unto that power till it kills him not minding the afflictions his reign is meting out on Nigerians.

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Not rocket science abi?

Ok, we hear but tell the truth, wouldn't you climb that seat with alacrity if given the chance?

And how come nobody really knows what's going on in London except rumours?

My problem with them isn't when they come in peace, it is when that murderous demon of bloodthirstiness envelops them. They can kill you at the slightest provocation even if you helped save their only child the previous day.

I pray a day comes we can trust ourselves once again. But it's still very far in my opinion.

Congrats. God bless your baby and family. May she bring joy to you always.

Thanks OP for starting this thread. I've wanted to blog for years. I have a niche but I've always been so confused by the tons of information on the subject.

Thanks Jose213 for the explanation. It made a lot of sense.

However, I still need a guide to ake me step by step, who can help?

She has an infection. You want to marry her so openness is the key as they will be more instances you have to tell her the truth in marriage.

Just explain to her that you think she has some mild infection and needs some tests. Go with her to the hospital and run some tests. Ensure to also take any treatment given to her to avoid re-infection.

It's a minor problem and can be easily sorted out.

thorpido:
Why are women generally not patient with their daughters?
My daughter cries when the mum is bathing her but whenever I have to do it,it's a peaceful time.

It's because we have too many things to do at the shortest possible time. So a wriggling, dancing, running child during baths or feedings or any other time upsets our timing and stretches the duration for each chore.

We are mainly patient when we've exhausted our mental list. Then we can feel at ease and play.

Because we marry for all the wrong reasons.

Your ex will not change. You are the weakest thing he can control that's why he still refuses you to meet him on your own terms.

Please, move on. You may die if you go back. No human is worth laying your happiness like that down for except your innocent children. And they your children deserve to be happy and will never be if they see their father constantly abuse their mother.

I think his coming back is to ultimately shame you. I have seen it happen before to a good woman who didn't heed the advice of her family when they asked her to let go.

File for divorce and move on with your life.

xynerise:
My Dad would tell us

" If you come back home crying that your age mate beat you up, you will not eat that day and you will get 12strokes of cane".

Sometimes, even if the person is a older , he would say

" Even if you can't beat them, at least give them a scar they will never forget"

Lalasticlala

. This was my father o, a natural hothead where go enter military join. He didn't want a timid child at all.

Mum was teaching us not to fight, caning us if we do, dad was giving us bottles to break someone's head if they find our trouble and beating the shi*&it out of us if we didnt. His words were '' break their heads, I will defend you''.

The positive side was that his lessons were always to defend ourselves if attacked, he never advised us to go look for trouble.

Truly, I learned to defend myself and siblings at a tender age and now have no fear to confront any situation.

Pesin no fit slap me think say I go turn the other cheek o. Dem never born you.

My husband bathes our 2+ daughter without qualms. She even prefers him bathing her cos he is more patient. (She dances and sings for him during her bath) I don't see him stopping anytime soon.

Any man who has sexual thoughts towards any child, talkless of his own child is a mad man not fit ro live.

Nice to know she is happy but will she please hide that fact from social media?

dingbang:
and the worst part of it was the silent attitude displayed by the customers in the bank.... Is the oyinbo man physically challenged dat he can't stand on his two legs ... Damn..


I wish I were dat dude... In fact I would have done more by taking pics of d onyinbo man, d branch manager, the staff of d bank and even sef, the entire branch....

Abi? Silence is sometimes not the best answer especially when someone rides on your intelligence, and tries to trample on your dignity. The guy is a softie I guess.

dingbang:
If I were d one, hell would have been let loose.. .

Same here, I wouldn't take dat lying down even if there were a thousand folks in that bank.