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OBVIOUSLY, the lady's problem is ADDICTION TO ELECTRONIC GADGETS. INSOMNIA is the symptom, not the problem.

I can't type all the advice she needs here. But she can get professional help on this. The problem is bigger than she thinks. Thank you.

Ivy league ko, Hibiscus league ni!

vivypretty:
I think that slap has removed every proposal thought in the guy's head forever. The next girl go wait tire.....

there must be a reason for the slap

and that is how you know "them".
Scenario 1: Guy proposes to a girl who thoroughly beats him up. Verdict = there must be a reason for the savagery and violence.
Scenario 2: the same exact table is turned, and they all go yelling GENDER-BASED VIOLENCE, BEAST, ANIMAL etc as if one gender has a licence to be as violent as they please. I did not say they should beat you o. But may you be treated likewise whenever he has a "reason" to do so! Iseeee!!!

BBNaija: Cee-C "I Am A Virgin, I Have Never Had Sex WITH A GUY Before"

Haba Nigerians, think!!!!

we want.....
we want.....
we want.....

we want...

this government is becoming a wish list

lady2lady:
Na wetin person no go see ...

Even okada man kee ??
Nothing is impossible for God shaa !!!

After that we shall sing this song for you :
"Chineke nna emegokwa nwa ogbenye ezege"

Afterwards we sing "chukwu agozigo gi (×2)
Nezia ka I si pasara n'elu convertible maka na chukwu agozigo gi..."

Kizyte:
OK, sir!

Now that's a correct guy. Cool to meet someone who admits it when he's wrong. You're a leadership material. Thumbs up Kizyte

Kizyte:
Not trying to justify the woman's action. I've closely studied human behaviours and discovered that most times, we don't think before we act. It's good to always think of the possible outcome of our actions before engaging in them. The man's wife is not a programmed machine, she's human and unpredictable. Always be careful when you're dealing with the heart so as to avoid things that will lead to regret.

Dear Mr (?) Sociologist and Anthropologist, humans are not wired to be mistake-proof. I can bet my annual salary that you have done at least 100 similar things this year without first doing a risk assessment on the possible outcomes. Does that in any way justify being butchered? We are talking of stone-age type violence here, and whether ANYTHING at all should have made a human being visit it on another. Humans should be predictable to the extent of not turning to something below animals once provoked. Such violence against anybody should be condemned by everybody. Remember, what goes around, comes around.

Kizyte:
Just one thing I don't understand, why did the man marry another wife? And why would the woman want to kill her husband?

Advice to man: Stop playing with a woman's heart, you never can tell what will come out of it.

Don't turn a loving heart into a wicked one!

Both of them were wrong, but the man was the first to go wrong, probably, he didn't seek his wife's consent before marrying another wife.

Bros, your judgment is very spookily interesting. I wonder if this would have been your reaction if the victim of this gruesome savagery was...yes you guessed it...a woman! I have carefully highlighted where you implied that he DESERVED what he got. That you didn't condemn this gruesome violence in the same words you would have used in the other case reeks of crass hypocrisy. No amount of cheating or remarrying, be it of a husband or of a wife - should lead to, or justify, even implicitly, this bestiality. Hypocrite.

Yeecar:
No matter the level of provocation YOU ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO GO PHYSICAL ON YOUR SPOUSE! That is not the right way to solve a problem, if it were o be the other way round, you will have been hearing the word WIFE BEATER....
SMH! What a world.

God bless you! See how jocularly people discuss VIOLENCE...simply because its against a MAN. I do not hold brief for anyone, but its shameful how spiritedly we deplore "violence against women" (and we really should) while in the same breath, tacitly encourage "violence against men". Violence anywhere is a threat to humanity everywhere.

axortedbabe:
Change of tongue under Durex

hmmm....indeed

Dear Ini,
Being a public figure comes at a price, of which their comments is just one. Please get used to it before they drive you nuts!Secondly, anyone who says the dress looks like a wedding dress is not condemning, but merely DESCRIBING it. It is their opinion and they are entitled to it. Thirdly an finally - here's it. I think that dress looks like a wedding dress!

Yours truly
Meristem

@ OP:

Dude, is that your phone number you just broadcasted with reckless abandon? ait, now we have it!

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mormoni:
Nigerians will always mock

They are all MOCKERS

In other words, just like the #WailingWailers, these ones are the #MockingMockers

SmartFaces:
You are right based on the link you shared. Probably, that was from another nairalander but this is my own wahala. am sure it won't be bad to air it out and have lovely people like you help me out. how are you today? enjoy yourself today and don't allow anyone... i mean anyone steal your joy. chao!!

Lovely response! U just got urself a fan. Gracias!

efonat:
Every marriage need Gods presence.

Yeah dude, and God is found everywhere.

We don treat this issue before nah:

https://www.nairaland.com/1845732/traditional-marriage-complete-marriage/1#25339263

Oh yeah i hav missed a fight before. I felt reeaaallly baad. It was TYSON vs HOLYFIELD. My DSTV subscription was expired but i heard Tyson SUAREZed Holyfield's ear! Lol. Up till today, i wish i hadnt missed that fight.

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@OP wen next u share someone else's joke, credit him or her. I know where u copied this from. If u deny ill post de link here. It has been there since 2005 or earlier. Before u run to nl with copied stuff, bear in mind that some dudes have been there too Lol

Good post

yogun: Absolutely correct.

A high budget wedding doesn't determine "happily ever after marriage"

In fact, statistically, a higher percentage of high budget weddings hit the rocks before their 5th anniversary!!! Cos its often a union of people who have not been able to understand the difference between a Marriage and a Wedding. People whose emphases are on the materials rather than the substance.

Even in the scriptural days, once a man offers/pays the bride price of a woman with her consent and the consent of her folks, and her father/guardian/kins hand her over to the man, their marriage is VALID and BLESSED before God and man. Its up to them to decide to solemnize in Church or not. THEY ARE ALREADY HUSBAND AND WIFE MIND YOU. I understand why it is hard to sell this to my fellow Christians , but its the Truth.

If you ask these same category of people if a christian wedding celebrated in Buba/Iro/Agbada/Danshiki or other traditional attire is invalid, they will not be able to say yes (cos it has been hard wired in their gullible minds that its coat-and-gown or nothing). If they do say yes, try to ask them "but why are we not doing it?" and see the stoopid expression on their faces!

What we call "christian weddings" today are more CULTURAL than RELIGIOUS. Be wise, Oh Africans!

YorubaJesus: Marriage is a good thing, weddings are beautiful but its not for everyone. Some people want big weddings, some people want small weddings and some people don't want a wedding. I know people who have spent millions on their wedding and their got divorced a few years after the marriage and I know people who never got married and they have been together for decades. My aunt is one. She and her man have been for over three decades and never been married. Marriage is commercialised, overrated and its just a personal decision. No one, not even the parents of the couple should determine if or when to tie the knot. If I ever were to get married, I would do it after my kids are old enough to understand what's going on, so at least they can experience the ceremony too and enjoy the event.

Thanks for making some ignorant people here know that MARRIAGE and WEDDING are 2 different things!

Nnamdini: Wrong.tradional wedding doesn't cover everything.as long as you're a christain,a white wedding supercedes the traditional wedding

My dear, the Christians of yester-years did not even dress in tuxedos and white gowns to wed. Contrary to your misconception, its not CHRISTIAN wedding - it's wedding according to ENGLISH CULTURE/RITES. Go and read. Please, you need to study urgently!

Ibnsultan: Hmmmm. Allow the gentlemen to fufill their oat

I can't believe we are talking National Security, and all you care about is consuming cereals!

Toosure70: is there place in d bible where marriage was celebrated in d church?

Ask them oh.

[quote author=Gabygaby][/quote]Na lie. Christian marriages must not be held in Churches. You need to evaluate whether ur thoughts are products of years of puritanical brainwashing or stark rationality. On February 14th every year, we all gallivant around claiming to be celebrating "Valantain Day". Do you know why St Valentine is so celebrated today(albeit in a twisted way by most)? Its because he wedded lovers in SECRET when it was prohibited. THERE IS NO SACRAMENT THAT MUST TAKE PLACE INSIDE A CHURCH TO BE VALID. Quote me on this. If you are so "christian" that you must have white man's wedding format to believe that you're married, then why not drop the traditional rites and stop bleeding your groom's pocket NEEDLESSLY?

ammyluv2002: Yeah! White & court wedding are just ceremonial. You can decide not to wed in the church but you must perform the traditional rites on a lady before she can be called your wife....is in the bible and as a Christian, I always go with my bible principles not trendy principles.

Although some say is ok to get a marriage blessing from a priest/pastor which isn't bad

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If not for our copy-copy mentality in Africa/Nigeria, the case should have been such that the couples simply CHOOSE ONE format. But culturally, we seem to have our feet in our mouths - A lady performs the full traditional rites of marriage, and then as if that were invalid, she starts agitating for "white wedding" and I'm like "why white? why not GREEN, PURPLE or BLUE wedding?"
We waste money REPEATING the same marriage rites in at least 3 forms, flushing millions of naira down the drain and then complain that there are no husbands or that the economy is bad. Rubbishhhhh

Something akin to burying someone traditionally, exhuming him/her and burying them again according to a FOREIGN culture/rite, then exhuming them again and burying them according to yet another tradition....

In fact, we are the only ones who show utter disregard for our own traditions, and utmost respect for others'

YEYE

I smell gender war here....my olfactory lobes are genetically adapted to smell it from a whooping 600 miles! Lol

reganvida: I have heard people warn young men that they shouldnt try in their life to sleep with another man's wife because if he gets married another person will do same to his wife.
My question is, does karma cause the guy to marry a loose wife so that another guy can do same to him? or will karma make a good wife he married loose so that he will get same treatment?

are you haunted by ur sins?