womanscorned: Before I got married to my husband we had a kind of perfect relationship. I just thought he was the perfect guy. He always checked on me. I did feel like he was marrying me for ulterior motives and everyone else just thought so too. My brothers warned me that he is not going to treat me right but I just feel drawn to him. I thought he just really cared about me. He seemed different.
I introduced him to my dad and my dad asked if I was sure and yes at that moment I was. Then shortly before the wedding his true colors started to come out. I never checked his phone but then a friend caught her boyfriend cheating so I decided to just check it. Guys I understand people say that if you go looking you will find something but I actually don't really believe that why is there always something that is the main point. I checked his phone and found one boob pic and pics of his old exes. I was SO shocked. Honestly, I never thought I would find anything. He told me that he recently got his phone updated and the pic was a pic of a celebrity. But I was smarter than that I saw that it was actually an "Auntie" that sent the pic so basically one of his contacts. I was so shocked, didn't know what to do. I told my brother he told me to just pray and I did and I felt like he was still the one he apologized and assured me that he was going to change.
Fast forward to a few months later I see a girl's pic in his phone his good friend's girlfriend and he was commenting on her looks very gross-like. I lost it and we fought but he assured me it was just guy talk.
Then again I recently found him talking to his good friend about another girl's boobs and he never tells me he loves me any longer. Never really truly cares. He even brought up divorce if I wanted to do it. So I am just kind of stuck. I do want to get a divorce honestly if my parents and his would not get involved. But we have a child together. I am not sure what to do right now. Why would he do this to me? Why get married if you don't love the person. I understand that people say guys will be guys and locker room talk but if you don't love that person deeply and truly then why marry them and make a vow before God.
Now I don't know what to do. He is always so rude in the way he talks. I can't remember the last time he took me out and even if he did I am sure it would be a dry conversation. I think he really is just worried about what people say and not really losing me any longer. He has this thing where he wants to always look like a nice guy. So my question is if you were in this position how would you leave? Oh he also looks at my friends and claims he never was when it is pretty obvious. He drank a little and then started winking at my friend.
no perfect relationship dear sister,no complete man and no complete woman, that's your cross carry it with your both hands.and move on.
which can prayer be this? "sudden death" if not sudden death what else? so you prefer to die in pain and agony gradual process,bro think am something must kill a man.the faster the better.
morgan100: Sorry that this might be lengthy, but that’s just the only way I can cover what happened.
Around March last year, I needed an accommodation where I can bring in my wife because we were getting married. I use to live in one room self-contain, but due to the fact that I was getting married, I needed a flat. Just within my area, there is this apartment that I really love, the house is just 4 flats, so I decide to make inquiries about the house. On that very day, I went to the house, I met a man who claimed to be in-charge of the house and also claimed to be an occupant in the house.
I asked if there was any vacant space he said yes, how much? He told me the price, but asked if am the one that wants to secure the apartment, I said yes, He told me he cannot give the house to someone who is not married and someone who is a yahoo boy. I don’t know why he thought I was a yahoo boy, maybe because I looked young to be looking for a flat to rent, because I was 31 years old then and I really looked younger than my age. I told him though I was not married at that point in time, but it’s because I wanted to get married that was why am looking for an apartment, that if not for that reason, what will I want to do with a flat, only me? And for the issue of a yahoo boy, I told him am not and that he can make more findings about me, thank God the area is a student area, and that I use to be a part time lecturer in the campus close by, but now I own an ICT outlet that handles any ICT related job, so he can go ahead to make all the findings that he needs.
Fast forward…. I secured the apartment, paid and I moved in….
THE PROBLEM The very first day I met the man, from the way he was talking, I knew he was going to be a very troublesome fellow, but I just felt, this is a flat and everyone should be able to mind his or own business, so I never mind. First thing I noticed was that, this man that I never knew, was beginning to tell me bad stuffs about the people living in the house, I was like is this man ok? Is it that you don’t want me to take the house because of these people or I should avoid these people once I secure the house? I actually don’t know, that was the first sign. Again i discovered that that the man and the other tenants don’t relate at all.
When I moved in, the man want to be bossing me around, like screaming my name from outside, something like “MARK !!!!!!” come down here, when I get there, he will just bring up some useless issue, he address me in a very rude way, just for me to know that no matter what i think i am or what i own, he is older than me, and he always makes it look like he did me a favor by linking me up with the caretaker of the house to give a house. But I was not bothered by that anyways, I just do ignore that.
To the other tenants in the house, I introduced myself to them, they were happy to see me, and that they can’t wait to meet my wife when am married, they seems to be nice more the guy I first met, and they mentioned something that, “WELCOME BROS, YOU WILL SOON GET TO KNOW EVERYONE IN THE HOUSE.
After the wedding, my wife moved in, the other neighbors came to say hi to my wife, but I noticed that this man and his wife never showed up, even with the fact that I told him and the wife before travelling for the wedding. Even when they saw me and my wife together, they just acted as if they didn’t see us, toooor, that's their problem, me will just greet them my own and move on, and never introduced my wife to them, because I was not even bothered self.
He begins to get more hostile for no reason, like shouting my name like he used to do, telling me didn’t I see this, didn’t I see that, talking to be like his 5 years old son, complaining about how water was dropping from kitchen, that the water is disturbing his balcony, you need to see how hostile and rude he presented the matter, as if I was the one that caused the dropping of water from the kitchen, you actually need to see the water he was complaining about, the water can’t fill up a small milk can in 3-hours, and not that we make use of the kitchen every hour. In order to avoid problems, I went to block the water that goes out from the kitchen, so that it does not drop anymore, we do go down stairs to throwaway dirty water from the kitchen outside, I told the caretaker who is also a plumber he came to fix it, it was just a leaking pipe.
There was a day, he shouted my name and I even thought something serious happened, when I got down stairs, he was like, he saw a guy now that left my apartment, I said yes that's true, hope no problem, he was like, he don't want to see him in this compound again, I was like, why? he said the guy is rude, that if the guy sees him on the street, he don't use to greet him, I was like for real? He said yes, I told him i have heard, and I just smiled and left.
One day I and my wife was coming back from an evening outing, as we were about entering the gate my car battery just went dead all of a sudden, and it’s an automatic car, I had to go and lend a battery to start the car from someone close by, when I got the battery, I used it to start the car, and I returned my battery into the car, left it working so that the battery can charge a little, I went to return the battery to the owner who was just like 2 houses from where my car broke down, not even up to a 2 minutes-walk, before I knew what was happening, this man has started shouting my name all over the house to come and put off the car, that am disturbing him, you need to see where his apartment is and where the car broke down, I almost lost my cool that evening, but I was calmed by my wife. I was like, I can’t just leave the engine running for no reason, and he should have even asked what the problem was for me to have left the car engine running, since he has never seen me do that before.
I was not around one day like that, my wife called me that there was light in other flats, but there was no light in our own apartment. My flat and his flat shares the same wire from the electric pole, funny enough, he went to disconnect my flat from the wire, claiming that the wire he just bought the wire from the pole and since the wire belongs to him, I should connect my flat from elsewhere. I told my wife to go and meet the other neighbor in the other flat to see how they can help, in-fact when my wife told the guys in other flat what happened, my wife told me that I need to see the way the guys quickly rose up and help her in connecting the wire to theirs, that she should not worry that everything is alright. (THOSE WERE THE PEOPLE THE MAN TAGGED BAD PEOPLE OO).
I drove into the compound one day, and about that time, NEPA brought light and I went down stairs to put on the pumping machine, as I was about going back to my apartment, this man called me like he used to do, and asked me to come and see something, I knew it won’t end well, because he always have this rude and hostile way of talking to people, he took me to the place I drove in with the car and told me that didn’t I see that I used my car tire to dirty the place, I was like seriously? Haba, am not the only one passing through this place, the other guys have cars too, and this place is not even dirty because the last time I checked, I was even the one that sweep this place, and not that my tires were cover with mod, He was like he is going to deal with me, that he was going to call the landlord so that they will chase me out of the compound, I was like deal with me? For what? Already the noise from him and my voice made my wife came out and the other guys in the other flat came out too, before I know what was happening, he HIT ME ON MY FACE………….
I was so mad, in fact in my life I have been mad like that before, the fact that there were people outside, I said to myself I won’t hit back, at least I have witnesses, I was going to report him to the police, but I gave him the piece of my mind in a very disrespectful way. I went upstairs to grab a shirt heading to the police station, but my wife refused me going to the police, that I should just let it go, that she don’t want police wahala, but the other tenant in the house refused, they said I most get him arrested, but on a second thought the guy (the other tenant) said, in as much as he would love to see me arrest this man, but “GUY, DO WHAT YOUR WIFE WANT”. I tried as much as I can to calm down, because I was so angry. Not even knowing that the other guys in the apartment has got him locked up before, had it been I got him arrested, I will be the third person to do that in that house.
I reported him to the caretaker, the guy told me that I should have hit him back, that nobody made him to be in charge of the house, that we are all tenants, at least he the caretaker was the one I paid the house rent to, that the guy only deceived me when I first met him, that he dare not call the landlord self, because the landlord has given him series of warnings, that the landlord has even locked him up before, it was people that begged on his behalf, that I should just ignore him. The next morning funny enough I still greeted this man, but he didn’t answer, from that day henceforth I began to ignore him, but the wife, when she is not with the husband, she greets me nicely and I do respond, even if she didn’t see me, I greet her first, but when the husband is there, she dare not, so as to avoid beating. But everyone begin to mind their own business.
Some few months later, I and my wife went to church that Sunday morning, before we came back, this man brought out one dilapidated cage that used to be beside the corner of the house fence and put it right on the spot where I do park my car, when I saw that, I was just smiling, I just jejely parked my car elsewhere in the compound, seems he want to start trouble again, he can eat the space, since he is jobless, early morning when everyone even including the wife are going out to look for one or two things to do so as to get money, you will find him under the tree at the street junction with like minds, arguing about politics that does not concern them. Had it been I know this guy to be this hostile, am not sure I would have paid for the accommodation, because I don't have the mind for trouble.
I told my wife, the day he will try that same rubbish he did by hitting me, even if my wife go ahead to call all my family members and hers to beg me, I won’t listen to them, I will definitely get him locked up, and really deal with him according to the law. I would have moved out of the house, but getting a nice accommodation like that is difficult around, so I have choose to ignore him, but the day he will cross my path again, I won’t take it likely with him.
Bros you talk too much,I can't read your lengthy super story script.but for the little I managed to read.just get a pistol and shoot the man in the forehead let him go and continue his trouble in the world beyond. I rest my case.
"I'm still in shock ������� I worked all night and went to bed at past 6am, I was sooooo tired, I crashed without having a bath or even wipe my face.
I'm just waking up now, to this good news, of me being appointed as CHAIRMAN CALLYWOOD BOARD. (CALLYWOOD IS THE MOVIE BODY IN MY STATE) By His Excellency, Sir Ben Ayade, d Amiable Governor of Cross river state.
Thank u very much Sir. Thank u crossrivarians. Praises to d Almighty God. I pray for God's guidance, so that I can do this job and not disappoint my Govnor, my people and my God. Amen."
STDisReal: Hello guys, Please i need a business that I can start with 1 million naira and it will be fetching me between 5 - 10k daily. I will like if it meets the following specifications Type of business: Offline Less supervision: I have a stressful 9 - 5 work Easy accountability Location - Abuja
Go to real estate buying of land resell back.land appreciate so quickly.
dazzlingd: They are all bunches of idiots....white slaves...copy copy morafuckers....leave the whites to their culture and face yours ....do it the proper way, go to her parents house with proper introduction, kolanuts and wine....awon oloshi forming modern day slavery..
So I made FTC, shedding tears of joy, who says your time wont come
When they take whites as their mini gods, nonsense social ways of mumu life.
Interesting15: Four Powerful Reasons You Must Run From Premarital Sex On Valentine's Day
By Sunday Akanni Moshood
Please, don't joke with these things, and ignore people that would take them with levity.
1. It Makes You Unguarded And Open To Attacks:
If you want to go far in life, you must take spiritual things more serious. The physical things that happens around us which we can see with our eyes, are mere reflections of the things that had already happened in the spiritual realm.
In the spiritual realm, everytime, every moment, the evil devil and his evil cohorts keeps roaming about looking for those to destroy.
However, you are being guarded by God your Creator in the spiritual realm, as He has put a hedge of protection around you that prevents evil darts from the evil ones from getting to you.
But once you had premarital sex, you commit a sin that makes you slip away from God's hedge of protection. Sin separates man from God - God is a Holy God Who won't have anything to do with the dirt of sin.
This will open you to attacks from satan and his evil demons (spiritual attacks, physical attacks, financial attacks, health-related attacks, marital attacks, etc)
2. It Can Send You To Your Early Grave:
You should agree by now that the richest place in the world is the graveyard - because many people (especially young ones) died unfulfilled. Those meant to be great inventors, scientists, lawyers, politicians, sport men/women, writers, etc, died untimely without becoming what they are destined to be.
NOTE THIS: Many Of Them Dug Their Graves With Their Own Hands While They Were Still Alive
Premarital sex is sending people (especially our young ones with bright futures) to their early untimely graves. Sexual Transmitted Diseases keeps killing our youngsters every year. Do you know thousands of young people have died as a result of HIV? Condoms? Condoms can't help them!
After having premarital sex and getting an 'unwanted pregnancy', many ladies resorted to abortion. As a lady, when you have sex this Valentine Day and you get pregnant, what will you do? Abortion? Listen, IT CAN SEND YOU TO YOUR UNTIMELY GRAVE! According to reports, about 68,000 women die of unsafe abortion every year!
Why not just run away from premarital sex and wait till you get married to enjoy sex comfortable?
Those babies being aborted (they are murdered), you are sending them too to their untimely graves because they also have their own lives to live and destinies meant to fulfilled. Indeed, premarital sex sends people to their early graves!
3. You Will Defile The Temple Of God, And There Are Severe Punishments For That:
Some young people would say 'It's my body, I can live the way I like'.
What is that supposed to mean? Did you create yourself? No of course! God created you well, and He wants your body to be a temple He can dwell (because He loves you)
In the Bible, according to 1 Corinthians 6, you do not belong to yourself, but to God. And your body should not be used for sexual immoralities, but to serve the Lord (because He has bought you with a price by sending His only Begotten Son Jesus Christ to die for your sins).
God being the Creator of sex has ordered that all manner of sexual activities must be between a husband and his wife in the safe confine of their marriage union, with no other party involved.
Any other thing is a sin to God. When you commit a sin, you are insulting God - and it will attract punishments. What you sow is what you reap. If you are disobedient to God, you will definitely be punished. God knows everything (He is the wisest). If God asked us not to do something, it is for our own good.
4. It Can Lead You To Hell Fire:
Gone are the days when only old people die constantly. Today, many young people are dying on a regular basis. What if it's your turn to die this Valentine week? What if you die on your way home after fornicating on Valentine's Day? What if you die the next day?
What if Jesus even comes when you are on that bed of immorality? And let me tell you with full confidence that JESUS CHRIST will come anytime soon! He might even come back for His saints on Valentine's Day, or the next day.
Where will you find yourself when you die, or when Jesus comes. Heaven, or Hell? Live carefully as if the trumpet will sound (or you will die) the next minute.
And if you are wise, you will avoid all forms of sins, including premarital sex on Valentine's Day and beyond.
If you are yet to accept Jesus as Lord and Savior, please do so now. Just call on the Name of Jesus, and He will come to you. God bless you.
gidgiddy: Yeah, you expected him to come back to be killed in the name of paying his last respects to his parents. Unfortunately for people like you, Kanu is not that stupid. You people want him to come back and be killed, but Kanu will not make your dream come true.
Who are you then? If you can die cuz of your parents.kanu is big coward.is better you don't start what you can complete.he started it and he must complete the missioned, no going back they say.thats why I don't believe in his agitation,is agitation is for personal gain not for is people, audio warrior.
LosC: There was a mild drama in Portharcourt as boy who allegedly pregnanted someone was publicly disgraced by his parents. This happened today close to Spar Portharcourt.
The reason for this public disgrace is still not known but the inscription on the board speaks more.
and the mumu stay there the whole day.if I where to be the one,I won't argue with my parents ooo, I will just abscond they will be the one begging me to come back home.
Your own small, what's of me my sister in law was trying to seduced to have secret sex with her.i warned her not to ever tried that with me again,she beg and everything going on fine as normal. It takes self discipline to overcome a temptation only God can save. Mind you focus your mind on danger involves and not the enjoyment of it, this can make you overcome it as soon as possible.
There's nothing to be ashamed of. As a lawyer and a knight, I am sure he can prove his reasons, state the facts and still get into heaven.
I can bet it on your life that his wife was locking up the juicebox like it was a CBN vault.
This is 2020. Wives must remember that alternatives exist.
You'd shag him on the first date and almost overrun him with sex all through your courting days just to trick him to marry you. And when he does, you'd quit giving him sex blaming it on tiredness.
Even if you are a lawyer, a reverend, a policeman or a vulcanizer, as long as your wife who was once sex-loving no more gives you sex, get it from outside. It is not a sin, it is survival.
chipsypop: Good day all. Sometime last year I just woke up one morning and noticed a bald patch in the middle of my head overnight. When I googled it I found out that it is called ALOPECIA AREATA and that it has no cure. I learnt that it is caused by the body's defence system fighting the hell cells for no reason.
Pls I would like to know if any Nairalander has experienced this before and how he or she handled it.
Mods Pls move to front page, abeg help a brother
Your hair even look unkept.go and maintain good hygiene, that's just the solution.
GoTV: As a born again Christian who is meant to speak the truth at all times, i think the only solution to these clashes is for all states to accept the proposed Ruga settlements for herdsmen for peace sake. Instead of setting up regional security outfit like Amotekun and forest guards, why can't we Christians states especially be tolerant and live in peace with our neighbors? We are all Nigerians and we have equal rights in every part of the country.
Instead of blaming every tragedy on our Muslim brothers, why can't we Christians dialogue for peace sake? Recently a Christian suicide bomber was caught in the church and we quickly rejected him to be a Christian but if he were to be a Muslim we would call all Muslims terrorists just because of the actions of one man. We Christians have a lot of lessons to learn from our Muslim brothers. Honestly
Opeyemiebun: Evening guys, please I will like to seek people's opinion concerning this issue that I have in my home.
I am a married Man with a Kid. Before marriage, my wife has a federal job outside Lagos while I run my business in Lagos. Due to Nigeria's economy, I asked her not to resign as she keeps working while I also keep on with my hustle. I have to be fair to her as she has been giving her all in this marriage and I so envy her strength to make things work despite the distance.
We had our first child last year and she is going to a year.. We both contribute financially and bring something to the table as we run 2 different homes.
I know she goes through a lot taking care of the baby without a car and I know how tedious it is for her to manage.
We are both young (I am 30 while she is 28) We got our first few properties this January and we planning to do other things as we both bring money together to get things done.
We have plans of getting our first car within a month and my wife suddenly demanded that she also needs a car where she is due to the stress she goes through daily picking my child from creche and managing that with her own job. I asked that I employ a helper for her but she doesn't want.
She plans on getting the car within the next 2months with her own money. My issue is that I am business oriented and see it as a waste of money buying 2 cars when we can buy one and invest the money for the other one.
I am a Civil Engineer and my Job requires I get a car for mobility. I feel guilty by trying to stop her from getting the car while I get mine and at the same time, if she get one I will also need to get.
I have been cracking my head up trying to see how we can go about it without hurting her and be fair to her as she is the best woman I can ever ask for.
What should I do, should we both get cars and let other stuffs take it course?
you are on fair let her buy the car, and you continue to trek till you are bless to afford two cars.you are a man is easy for you to manage yourself.how will you feel when your wife is trekking with your kid under hot sun and rain with this Ash weather? you must be selfish a man.i myself sacrifice my car for my and family for bicycle and happy with it.when I see them enjoy my car I feel happy because have made them happy as a good husband and responsible father.
when sacrifice for them God will bless you unexpected.
AlexReports: Imo billionaire philanthropist, Chief Ndubuisi Emenike, popularly known as Ototonwa is dead.
Ototonwa who was a senatorial candidate of the Action Alliance (AA) for Imo North Senatorial District in the 2019 general election was allegedly shot mistakenly on Sunday evening by an operative of Nigeria Security and Civil Defence Corps who was his personal security aide.
According to reports so far gathered, the incident took place around 5pm during a victory party for the All Progressives Congress candidate at the rerun election in Okigwe North Federal Constituency held on Saturday.
The Independent National Electoral Commission had announced the APC candidate, Miriam Onuoha, as the winner of the election when the tragedy struck at the APC’s candidate house at Umunachi in the Isiala Mbano Local Government Area of the state.
The NSCDC officer had escorted Ototonwa to the victory party and was shooting consistently into the air and mistakenly shot his boss which brought the victory party to an abrupt end.
The victim fell and lost consciousness and was immediately rushed to a nearby hospital, St Joseph’s Hospital, Umunachi, before he was later rushed to the Federal Medical Center (FMC) Owerri, in an ambulance.
According to an eyewitness, ” Ndubuisi Emenike has been shot by one of his security aides. He was shot during APC victory party at Isiala Mbano LGA. He was shot at his lower abdomen by his aide, an NSCDC officer. This is very tragic and very unbelievable. We pray he makes it. The incident has shattered our victory party.”
He was later pronounced dead at the Federal Medical Centre.
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As a born again Christian who is meant to speak the truth at all times, i think the only solution to these clashes is for all states to accept the proposed Ruga settlements for herdsmen for peace sake. Instead of setting up regional security outfit like Amotekun and forest guards, why can't we Christians states especially be tolerant and live in peace with our neighbors? We are all Nigerians and we have equal rights in every part of the country.