₦airaland Forum

FreeSpirited:
If sex in relationship is now generally accepted can we now agree infidelity in marriage is now a general thing.
I do not believe a lady who wasn't faithful in relationship can be faithful in marriage

FreeSpirited:
That means the person isn't your spec by philosophy or belief... Only a spec by physical form

FreeSpirited:
Is this an assumption or did u find out by dating the person?

seanwilliam:
Maybe you missed my point, what I’m saying in essence is whoever needs a car and can afford to buy it now should get it. They shouldn’t because they want to invest and not buy the car because by the time their supposed investment yields , the car price would have tripled and they might not be able to afford it again.
Buying a land when a car is what’s needed and more important at the time doesn’t make sense.

Buying a car of 4m four years ago would have sounded like a bad financial decision, but if you still own that same car till now it’ll be considered a smart decision.
We live in Nigeria, one should flow with reality on ground.


Take for example, you needed a car but u bought a land instead for 4m four years, the land now worth 12m right( that’s even if the land is in a very viable area ) but the car price has also increased to 14m..
if you decide to sell the land and get the car because you have a pressing need for it now and you don’t have any means to source for money , you’ll barely be able to comfortably afford it.


I know this might not apply to other countries and their economies , I’m talking from Nigeria perspectives .


If you need something now and can afford it, buy it and invest whatever remains. Don’t put everything on investment hoping to cash out big later thinking you’ll be able to comfortably afford that ‘thing’.



We all know it’s not a good thing, but one should always adapt and adjust accordingly until dem do the right thing.

seanwilliam:
I appreciate your response..

In Nigeria, you need to forget theory and take the reality serious . You need to operate in the present and adjust accordingly to situation on ground.
What you read in economy/finance textbook most times is not feasible in Nigeria of today. Example of such fallacy is believing that if you can’t buy something two times you shouldn’t buy it , I tell you, if you practice that now, you no go get one single property except you’re earning big!

If buying a car is what will help your hustle or make you happy , don’t even think twice , go for it and come back later for land.



Camry sold 3-4m 4 years ago is now 14-18m,
If you didn’t buy it then when you had the money and when cost of living was low , your chances of buying it now is extremely low because you need to earn x4 and dont forget cost of living has tripled ..

Let me add this, if you’re buying the land to build house , Walai you need to think am wella, body go tell u when it’s time for roofing and finishing.

seanwilliam:
In Nigeria, car is an asset, a car sold 5m two years ago is now close to 20m.
Even lands ( except the ones bought in the main city ) don’t increase in value like that.

Also a single person needs a car depends on his type of husle!. In Nigeria of today, car is a necessity’!

Kobojunkie:
The notion that Vashti made a bad decision does not come from the book which instead reveals the woman, likely a politically-minded one at that, decided that she was likely aware of the political and historical implications. The source of the narrative that Vashti was not a good woman or that she did wrong comes solely from religion.

Daniel equally defined Darius' orders at one time, clearly aware of the implications but was fortunately saved from the consequence of his action by His God. Why do the same religious horde not condemn Daniel for defying the king's orders in much the same way as it vilifies Vashti's defiance of the King's order? Why is Daniel celebrated among the religious for doing pretty much what Daniel -- whom they celebrate --- did? You and I know the reason for this, even though something tells me you would rather argue blindly against the obvious.

Kobojunkie:
We could on with the coulda, woulda, shouldas here, you know. The point which I made in the beginning remains which is that Vashti did nothing morally wrong and religion is in the wrong for vilifying her.

Kobojunkie:
1. The historical and political realities of her time are what led me to consider she must have been aware of the potential consequences of her actions before making that very decision that night.

2. The drunken state of the King at the time, and the historical and political realities of the time, equally lead me to consider that they may have merely told the King what they believed he may have wanted to hear.

Kobojunkie:
There was no law stated in the story that required Vashti to submit herself to such humiliation. Also, the fact that she lost the queenship may have not been as terrible a loss as those in the religious circle like to pretend in their religiously convenient narratives, considering the customs of the courts seemed like one no sane woman would wish to submit herself to unless there was a need to.

Kobojunkie:
Vashti did not fail in her duties. She was instead married to a sick man and refused to debase herself.

Slimplush:
See how you input a Daft comparison... No reply from me shaaa!!

OZIOGU1:
The biggest threat to various homes is Social media, most women don't know how to draw the red line when it comes to what they see and what they believe, it is very sad.

and i must say that, they new olosho in town are married women, trust me the rate is alarming, but las las, na man wey loseguard go suffer for woman hand.

Never empower a women to be more than you in any level, except her loyalty has been tested over and over again

themanderon:
It's not about treating their wives well. A lot of women do not know what they want. They want a rich man yet they cheat with their gatemen/house boys when married to one. They marry a poor man and leave him for a rich man. They marry a gentleman and leave him for a man who will treat her like trash. I know one presently who married a good man but is in a relationship with someone else. It usually ends in tears for them as regret sets in at the end.
Ever since humans abandoned the one that instituted marriage things came crumbling down. Many people marry for ephemeral things that have no long term values and regret it when those things eventually fade away. They go for looks, riches, education, body shapes and sizes etc forgetting those things will eventually fade away and what you are Left with is the actual person you married who they may not like. Many people have missed it hence all the troubled marriages.

Nnamdipapa:
Do not listen to op, live your life at your own pace and never compare yourself to others. Rather you should compare your present self to your past to ensure you are making consistent progress. I bought my first car at 22 and also bought for my dad the same day. I bought a 33,000ltr petroleum tanker for Ago business before 30 but still I do not diminish or look down on the struggles of individuals who do not have same opportunities I had in Nigeria. I was merely lucky to work good multinationals from my early 20ies.

Live your life at your own pace, try to be better every day in some form and take care of your health. Do not feel bad if you do not have a car or house at 35, you understand your own struggles the best. Life is a rat race and none of us is coming out of this race alive.

Starz825:
Its a serious issue tbh

even relationship is not the way they used to be now

i have come to notice a thing

men should also learn how to live alone

for some women...its not always abt that the man doesnt have money to offer them.

its about her ego, pride, beauty, money, her hunger for independence from a man.


Once a woman is pretty and rich and probably has a child or 2........SHE WANTS INDEPENDENCE!!

Most women are still with their hubby cos may be they are poor, cant bisect life alone and all... not really cos they love their hubby


The bible says :

when a man finds a wife, he finds favor before the lord.

do you know what this means : woman wey go dey with you till the end scarce (all things being equal; no health issues, no bad finances/investment). but if you are lucky to have that woman; bible say you have found favor from God.

for God to have related this with favor ...thats to tell you, its not a regular/common thing. its an uncommon favor. Only few will get it.

See how bad Queen Vasti treated a whole king in the book of Esther before she was banished like a plague so she wont be a bad example to other women in the province.

God so good, a humble Esther came in to replace the proud queen. For every stubborn/proud Vasti, there is a humble Esther somewhere... Even the Royal King didnt get it right until his second marriage...omooh

ewa20buredi100:
I love your perspective and the way your mind works

I followed this thread from page 1 to this very last page all because I wanted to see the very last of your contribution.

I love the way you handled your mentions, without having to resort to the use of abusive and derogatory words; though at a point I thought you were going to lose your cool.

Highly impressive.

You are very intelligent, respectful and open-minded.
Keep it up.

I am in love already.

Ingriid:
A special good evening to you.

I followed the thread cos of you and Crlomo.
You have really schooled everyone that cares to listen. Weldone!

Take your trophy jare!

numericalguy:
You are a very very dangerous person to women with your wicked and evil lies.

Women fertility declines rapidly once they clock 30 years
You may think you are attacking men but you are damaging women far more by making them to believe everything will be alright even when they are above 30 years.

cr7lomo:
After doing IVF ...ur gran ma must be Sarah in the bible ...

cr7lomo:
U have Google to help u instead of allowing ur emotions to get a better of u like every typical woman when facts are thrown at them and they are loosing.... at 30 , women loose 90% of their eggs ....I never said they can't get pregnant again, but at 30 the chances reduces drastically.... at 35 , the pregnancy could become geriatric.... it becomes even more difficult to conceive....not like it will become impossible..... but for men , it doesn't slow down, its still same like their teen years and 20s ... it remains same uptil their 80s , as long as he's healthy.... my uncle lost his only son at 73 , his son was 38 when he died... he had to marry another woman to bare him a son as his wife was aboutv60 at that time ... the new wife that was 24 when she married him, conceived within 3 months of the marriage and still gave birth to a 2nd 2 yrs later.... so this ur a man's sperm declines is just in ur head .... Trump is 78 while his last kid Baron is 18.... do the maths .... I remember the late fatai rolling dollars impregnating his 26yr old girlfriend at the age of 82 many years ago....as long as a man is healthy, he can impregnate a woman ( depending on the health issues ) ...but for a woman , even if she's the healthiest person on earth., once she reaches 40.... e don be

cr7lomo:
Madam ...stop deceiving urself....men sperms don't decline even at 70 ...as long as his healthy and lifestyle is not compromised negatively.... how many women can naturally give birth easily after 35.... Ned still impregnated Regina at 70.... a man sperms quality never declines a long as he's healthy .... feminists are just bitter and decided to throw lies cos they think everything na competition.... God has naturally blessed man to b able to father a child even at 80 .... men no de get low quality sperm unless he has health issues ....

cr7lomo:
Men hardly marry women in their 30s ...did she consider the biological factor ?? At 30 women loose 90% of their eggs and at 35yrs she could have serious problems conceiving

DyshApp:
A young lady who identifies as a Christian woman has advised her fellow women to make enough money and desist from getting married in their 20s

In the video she posted, Faithful Femininity advised Christian women to stay away from early marriage especially when they can’t cater for themselves.

The young lady advised Christian women in their 20s to desist from getting married when they make enough money.

Her words: “As a Christian woman, I have decided that my 20s are not for marriage. My 20s are to make money. Christian women stop entering into marriage so early.”

”Go and make money. You don’t have a dime in your account. God and find a way to make money. In 20s, in your 30s, go and make money. Stop following men around. Some of you are doing Hallelujah Challenge and wearing bridal gowns.


“Have you made money? Like, I will not enter a marriage without money. And I’m talking about multiple sources of steady income. I’m not that kind of Christian woman that will enter her husband’s house with nothing in her account. God forbid. My 20s now na to work hard. My 20s is to make wealth.”

Smile4mee01:
I'm a single 39yr old Nigeria guy in diaspora trying to settle down and going to Nigeria to marry is not an option.

I'm an introvert who has been through some childhood trauma in my family and really fear marriage because of what I have seen and how bad it can be sometimes.

However, an old female friend and colleague of mine who we worked together in Nigeria and now in canada recently contacted me and she is also single and not had children. She is doing well for herself and now a citizen there while I'm not. A part of me is concerned about

1. Fertility : I desire children. However, can she have me healthy children @ 39. How many can she have? I discussed us trying for a child , she appears to want a.marriage first. But what gurantees do I have to have children.


Should I be concerned? I dont want to enter one chance.



Please I use God beg you, no insults just advice. Abeg. God bless you.

cr7lomo:
Are u so misinformed not to know that women are more violent that men...just cos it's mostly unreported.... just look at the number of. Female teachers that are arrested and charged daily in the USA for child rape .... if men start to report the violence that they receive from women, u will find out that 95% of women are violent.... just look at Natashas conduct....imagine if she was in the house and was disrespected by a weaker person , she will unleash violence, all because women can't control their emotions.... men will go to war for a reason...women will go to war just for intimidation.... that's what ur gender is .... women don't have love in them , reason they never uplift anyone.... imagine if men were like women , hunger for don kill una finish

cr7lomo:
He is absolutely right.... women should not be given power , they can't handle it, reason they maim and kill maids ....women love to go violent against those that are weaker than them .... u talk about women being silenced ...women like the fool we just watched and Natasha.... I'm happy that the world is gradually seeing how evil women are .... soon no one will care if a woman suffers domestic violence or sexual harassment claims ... una don use una hand kill una self

Yugoslavia247:
Never give a woman power.

They cant handle it