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Breakfast-My My (moin moin) w/ fresh fish soup

Late night ugba.

armyofone:
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I like egusi and stew or ogbono and okra.

But you tried was it eba or iyan you ate w/ your soup?

Eba and semo.

Finishing leftovers. Okro, egusi, and stew.

uniklinkum:
Long time peeps so busy with work of late. Somebody just dash me the stuffs please I need the best ways to send them to the pots and finally my bowels. Will appreciate a good and tested recipe.

What's in the picture?

Yeah. . . just to be present.

Still use them well well ooo.

I'm going to try to be a good assistant and help him finish up his work projects. I promise not to complain. Then dinner and a movie if we not tired.

If you findings and suspicions are true, my advice is to put urself 1st. Do what you need to maintain your sanity and happiness (whatever that is to you), everything else is secondary, your children & husband. Once you find your peace, you can take of others.
* Me, I can't be in the same environment with a cheating husband. *

God, friendship, spontaneity, humility, finding our own happiness

I'm guilty of number 8. I hate for for guys I think that I'm "expensive" so I played it down a lot of times when they want to buy something for me. If I give in they will say "see money". Neither do I want a guy to think I owe him something bc he had bought something for me. It got to a point where I don't except gift or allow a guy to pay anything unless we are exclusive. Even then I tread carefully. SMH. ... me and my wahala.

Same topic with different OPs! So I'l give the same reply as before.
I don't like to cook (that doesn't mean I can't). So cooking for myself,let alone someone else is a chore. So I avoid it if I can. But I have to eat and save money so I cook. If my boyfriend want to chop he know he can come to my house and chop, he's just like any other guest. If I chop, my guest will chop. So I don't go out of way to cook for my bf, unless a occasion calls for it. It's a mutual thing. As long a two individual mutually agree to do this or that for each other, that one should no concern nobody. So there nothing right or wrong about cooking for your bf. In my opinion cooking, cleaning, doing laundry and the like on a consistent basis is too much if your title is just girlfriend.

My own viewpoint and my personal experience if it takes two people to get married, it also takes two people to plan a wedding. The planning should not be left to the man alone. Once two people agree to marry a budget should be set and both parties should save towards their wedding and bride price. Gone are the day where man takes and provide for all. Besides it said that two head is better than one.
OP as long u have a steady job your savings is good enough for a wedding. You and your lady should have a budget that non-negotiable and both of you agree to remain a united front. It not impossible. Remember there is life after wedding. My two cents.

I like men. Dark, light what have you. No preference!

Life of a public school teacher, indeed. I too have to put aside a small fund each month to provide my classroom/students with supplies. Kudos to Mrs. Opeogun! She's truly selfless.

Doesn't concern me he doesn't feed me.

I don't believe in man healing man spiritually speaking. All these deliverance, all night prayer vigil doesn't make sense to me. Sure I pray and pray for others. But all the touching, singing, dancing, screaming, fasting, speaking in tongues I don't entertain. I let God do the delivering.

I don't have time to worry about wether or not it my business. Or if my friend already knows or wether she'll be mad at me. Her health could be at risk so I'll let her know or at least get her to see it for herself. If she wants to get mad or ignore it then she can carry go. I have said my own.

As long as he doesn't do anything that is detrimental to my life, health, my family or goes against my morals or beliefs then I have no problems standing by him.

I simply ask him to help, if he doesn't I just take my sweet time and complete at times carrying over for the next day. At times he finds that it taking me too long he'll do it himself or help me do it.. I try to minimize my chores by cleaning and washing as I cook, so when I'm done cooking I have no dirty pots or utensils. We eat from the same dishes so there's few to wash.It just us two and we both work, so chores I'd the least of our concern.

As long as it looks good, why not. Clothes is clothes it not meant to last forever. I take Aba made anytime.

I don't like to cook (that doesn't mean I can't). So cooking for myself,let alone someone else is a chore. So I avoid it if I can. But I have to eat and save money so I cook. If my boyfriend want to chop he know he can come to my house and chop, he's just like any other guest. If I chop, my guest will chop. So I don't go out of way to cook for my bf, unless a occasion calls for it. It's a mutual thing. As long a two individual mutually agree to this or that for each other, that one should no concern nobody. So there nothing right or wrong about cooking for your bf. In my opinion cooking, cleaning, doing laundry and the like on a consistent basis is too much if your title is just girlfriend.

No, my first date was at an art /literary festival in PH. Super fun!

Late night snack, Noodles!

I am currently in a relationship with a nongraduate. Though a graduate myself I never felt that we are on different level. We can discuss and relate to just about anything. He has his own business and provides for himself. So I don' t see the problem neither do I understand why people equate a graduate to a person that is educated, established, successful, eloquent speaker, experienced and a good provider. Here in Naija you can buy an education and unemployment is high so nothing is promised. It's just a matter of ingenuity and hard work, trust and believe I speak from experience.

Why would anybody put your life on hold for somebody else? I'm so happy that my younger sister didn't wait for me, bc she'll still be waiting. She now been married three years with kids. She happy I'm happy.

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Getting 10% from your congregation is also necessary to do God's work!

bukatyne: .

I don't understand the bolded...
What's the probability that you will meet the man you love when you start work or you are 'matured' to marry?
What if the man destined for you was in your university?
What if you see the man you love in the university?



I see single here to mean unmarried.

I disagree that one must always attain a level of maturity to achieve those things. I have seen very immature people attain them



True the length of courtship doesn't always determine a happy home.
Married people always surprise each other so you can't know if a person is right for you or not within a short time.

Destiny na destiny. If something is destined to happen it will happen. No matter what path it takes to get there you eventually fulfill that destiny. Whats the probability u will find your man in uni and he will marry you? You take your chances. Overall if you don't want a long courtship avoid dating while in school. At the same time that doesn't mean be a recluse while in school, make friends just without commitments. Be single(not in a relationship). Personally I cant be a liability in a relationship, I have to make my own money. So just as I expect from myself, I expect the same from my partner. Im sorry but a student just cant do that.

Whether you date for a short period or a long period you cant know everything about a person. Marriage is a leap of faith. But usually in your head or on paper you have certain qualities that you look for in partner. Within a short amt of time you can automatically eliminate those who doesn't fit your criteria.

bukatyne: Don't make blanket statements...

A woman marries at 33yrs,

How many years should she wait?

2? 3? 4?

Even Omotola that got married very early still had her kids

Why should a person plan for his/her kids AFTER marriage?

Hopefully at age 33 you should be financially stable to be able to support children.
Whether or not you plan before or after marriage the time to have kids is not the point. It not always necessary to have kids immediately after marriage..it good to wait to there is financial stability. A lot of people marry w/o being where they want to be financial, but work together as a couple to get there. So during this time they will put off having kids.

adconline: It does not make sense in this day and age to get married and bequeath your kids with little or nothing. The circle of hustling or living paycheck to paycheck continues. " to be born poor is destiny, but leaving your kids poor or poorer is selfishness and wickedness. Most women want to get married without thinking of how to pay for it while guys want to pay for it before getting married.

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Then don't have kids. I don't see how people can immediately start having kids soon after marriage. Children should be planned. It should be marriage...years...then kids.

bukatyne: So you mean if you met someone you loved back in school you wouldn't date the person?

How do you know that finishing school and getting a job equals been matured? or that 18yr olds are not matured to know what they want? What gives you the impression that people dating in school don't enjoy their singleness?

Is it all short courtships that end in marriages or happy marriages?

I have seen work (mature) relationships that fail woefully. I would however agree that some school relationships were destined for doom from the very beginning.

U don't automatically love a person then date that person..... I avoid dating while in school, if my intention of dating is to eventually marry someone why get into a relationship if you cant see that person as a marriage mate or marriage in the near future. Time wasting.

You should be matured doesn't mean you will be mature...finishing school, getting a job, and being independent are big responsibilities u must have a level of maturity to be successful in these areas. An 18 year can be "mature" but is inexperienced, and is bound to change. I dont see how you can be in relationship and be considered single. Unless dating is considered hanging out w/ friends.

I don't agree with either long or short courtships. Now whether that turn into a marriage or a happy marriage depends on the two individuals it not a time factor. That notwithstanding, within a short amount of time you should easily be able to decide whether or not a person is right for you. Your relationships continue to grow and you continue to fall in love while married. So I don't see why courting should take years.

Any relationship is bound to fail it a given. It depends on the persons involve.