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It is the thruth you know that will set you free. Deliverance is majorly through having the right knowledge of the word of God and not necessarily prayers.

ToyBoyAaron:
They attacked their enemies and slaughtered everyone; men, women, children and even animals following the command of God. Will God really command men to kill their fellow men and even innocent children? This children didn't have a choice yet but they paid dearly with their lives. This wasn't Islamic terrorist or crusaders but the chosen people of God. Israelites! (1st Samuel 15) Many will justify the killings and say God is always right. So why are we condemning people today who are killing according to the command of their God?
Any extremists in any religion is capable of killing! Killing even innocent babies.

God is love, know this and know peace.

NewSoul:
I am not an atheist please. But I was just wondering what sin a year or 2 year old would have committed that prevented angels from keeping charge over his little children.

I did not purposely want to include the adults because a christian here (Dtrusthspeaker) will say that they are just church goers and that they are not true born again and that they must have done something to warrant their not being protected by God.

A man of God who was once a deep sinner has testified of how God made a bullet shot at him physically go back to who shot it. He was protected by a divine intervention but innocent children who probably have never even told a lie had to die just like that without no divine intervention. How please?

Contrary to what most people believe, God does not control everything that happens in the world nor does he allow it.

He has given everybody a free will and He doesn't interfere with people's free will. If a person exercises his/her freewill to kill you, God didn't make or allow him to kill you. I hope this helps you.

It's too bad that immorality is now the order of the day. I agree with you that adultery can lead to early physical death. It can't make a Christian miss heaven though, we're saved by grace and not works.

Ken4Christ:
First, get born again if you are not yet born again. To be born again is to accept Jesus into your heart as your Lord and Saviour.

Second, receive the baptism with the Holy Spirit. He is the helper sent to help us. He will guide you to make the right choice.

Third - Be committed in your service to God in the local church you worship. The scripture says that we should seek his kingdom first and things we desire will be added.

Fourth - Have a stable job as a man. Marriage without money might crash. Besides, you should be responsible as a man.

Fifth - Decide on the kind of woman you want to spend the rest of your life with. But she must also be born again. Write down the qualities you want to see in her.

Sixth - Commit it to God in prayer and ask God to direct your steps to meet such a woman.

Seventh - Make friends with godly people. It is in the cause of your interactions you will meet with your spouse.

Eight - When you see such a person, get closer and read her body language.

Nine - Get to know her better by asking questions.

Ten - If the affection you feel for her is strong and persist for a long time, tell her you want to start a relationship with her that could lead to marriage.

Eleven - Avoid sex as much as possible. It could ruin the relationship.

Twelve - Let your pastor and parents know about it. They will give you additional counsel.

I hope this tips were useful?

Thanks. You've been a great help. I don't know why people are afraid to share their experiences. Is it that no one has a good marriage?

IMAliyu:
You literally just made an agnostic's argument.

The only difference is you are still beholding to a Christian framework, so you make a set of logical leaps.

Why do you consider the bible to be God's words? A Muslim believes the same of his Qur'an, the Hindu believes the same of his vedas, so also was Krishna the incarnation to their true God.
So what standards or methods do we apply to distinguish who's book and claims are the real ones and which ones are made up and should be thrown out, since God and its will is outside the realm of our feeble minds?

Depends on your definition of God. If you see God as the uncreated supreme being, then there can only be one God that created every other thing. Do you agree?

HellVictorinho4:
I ain't asking for what can't exist.....let the proof go to hell!

It's difficult to believe God exists but you can easily believe in the big bang theory abi? Continue.

The God you pretend not to believe exists still loves you though.

God is a Spirit. You can only relate to God, spirit to Spirit by faith. The mistake a lot of people make is that they expect God to behave the way they want Him to behave.

The height of arrogance people have to expect the creator of the universe to think and act like them always amaze me. God cannot bend to Man's will rather it is man that should bend to God's will.

God's will is for man to relate to Him by faith and not by our physical senses and we just have to accept it like that.

I hope this helps.

Kobojunkie:
1. There are no such things as Christian marriages to begin with since over 2000 years ago, Jesus Christ, in affirming God's judgement in Genesis 3 vs 16 against even marriage of men, declared that your marriages are of this world(unholy) and not of the Kingdom of God( Christian)- Luke 20 vs 34 - 36.

2. Jesus Christ never taught His followers that divorce is sin so it is meaningless to pretend marriage a prison which you have to somehow endure pretending you do so for His sake. God allows divorce as an option for those who belong to Him. So what you believe of marriage is instead a lie.

You make an even bigger mistake thinking you can honor God by doing that which is not of God in His name.

3. God, in the beginning, defined marriage as an agreement between a man and woman, and it is simple as that. So it is expected you find for your own self a woman that is compatible with you in the way you desire, not in the way of others. Also of importance is the fact that since God's curse on marriage in Genesis 3 vs 16 is that of submission, should you desire Salvation from God's curse as offered by Jesus Christ, you refuse to bow to the curse of submission in marriage. Instead those who belong to Jesus Christ are equals and the only Head over each and everyone of them being Jesus Christ - Matthew 23 vs 8 - 10

You're a very funny person o. Na advice I need o.

chatinent:
God doesn't talk to anyone directly. You have to make a move now. There are many nice girls in almost everywhere!

How can you be a Christian and believe God doesn't speak to believers

OyeofIkoTuN:
oh good...Okay I am a Christian...

I think if you chase money,girls will chase you and from there you can select who you love to spend your money on for the rest of your life with christ as the rock

You Gerrit.?

You shouldn't live your life chasing after money. Seek first the kingdom of God and money will be added unto you.

Bluebrain101:
Read Paul letters to Galatians to see his advice on marriage

I'm actually looking for personal experiences and not just doctrine. I think a lot of people miss the significance of the book of Acts in the Bible. Doctrine is good but it's also good to learn from the experiences of others.

I'm not looking for 10 steps on how to have a successful marriage. It's good to have practical examples from people.

Kobojunkie:
Not trying to hold brief for the Op,but where does this idea in bold come from?

What do you mean by walking in spirit by the way?

2corinthians5:17 if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature. Old things have passed away and behold all things have become new.

OyeofIkoTuN:
So why did I suffer myself going through all that if not to learn about christ and believe.. ?

Why do pastors read bibles if not for headsense in christ?

You don confuse me like this oo..So I'm not a Christian bai. You wan judge me abi?

I did not say that head knowledge is not important, you have to start from somewhere. But head knowledge has to develop into revelational knowledge and faith in God which enables you to build a relationship with God. Which is true Christianity.

I don't know if you're a Christian or not. So I'm not judging you.

chatinent:
No two marriages can be the same. All you need to have is understanding, the not-always-right mentality, and genuine love. When you have these, trust comes naturally.

Marriage is a beautiful thing. Stop looking for challenges and start training yourself on how to be able to surmount challenges.

More so, have you see the woman you want to marry?

That's the major challenge. How will I know the right person?
Is it by hearing directly from God or following your heart?

Romanoff:
Any red flag you see in courtship will double and triple in marriage. Marriage doesn't change people.

Thanks. Noted

collinsfhk:
Please don't judge by people's experience, what didn't work for A might work for B. You are YOU, and a different breed.

Start praying not to make mistake in marriage and divine guidance. There are wolves in sheep clothing. Also work on yourself to be a good husband. Peter never knew that what it will take to deny Christ was in Him though he sincerely loved Christ. We know in part.

In terms of finance, allow God guide you. When you go in at the right time and with the right person, you don't have problem. Proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

Finally, at all cost, avoid sex before marriage.

Stay blessed

Thanks for the advice. How did you choose your wife?

OyeofIkoTuN:
hahahahahahahaha..

You say as Christians abi, i got 100 over 100 in BK, I also got B2 in CRS,attended Sunday school extensively ,got baptized, served mass for many years...haven't been to a church in 5years though..I think I qualify to comment

Carry me dey go....Jehovah carry my dey go my wife house..

You seek advise from Nairalanders......I foresee breakfast times 6,divorce times 2.....Then las las Jail for murder. This I've seen.

Cheating has a no religion fam....Even Jesus christ didn't allow them stone the prostitute in the Bible. Condemn none,love all... Stop looking for Jesus sent,e no dey..Get your sh€t together and look for money first a student..You never graduate,you never see work, you dey find permanent Vagi..na...it's not nice na

Christianity is not about head knowledge it's about relationship with God through Jesus Christ.

I've done my final exams, it's just project defence and one GES course that's remaining and convocation is in July. I'm not going for Nysc, so i will start working immediately (I'm believing God to provide a good job for me). Anyways, i still don't think it's too early to start preparing my mind. It's not that I want to get married today. I just want to know people's experience in marriage, so that I won't make the same mistakes others have made.

Are you married? What are the challenges in your marriage?

I reject your demonic prophecies btw.

I partially agree with you to some point. But when you become a Christian, your sin or corrupt nature in this case is changed and you now become a new creature. I agree with you in the respect that having a new creature does not stop you from being tempted by things of the flesh and it's very important to walk in the spirit like you rightly said.

Peace be multiplied to all my fellow believers. Please, I need advice from only people that are Christians and are married. Male and female.

I'm 31 years old and I will finish fully from school by July(due to some delays). So it's not like I'm actually in a rush for marriage since I will still have to work for like 2 or 3 years before I settle down. But I believe that it's not too early to start searching and preparing.

I believe that once a Christian gets married, they are married for life and divorce is not an option for whatever reason except threat to the life. So I don't want to make a mistake that I will regret for the rest of my life.

So please, I just need advice generally from Christians that are already married. I want to know the lessons they've learnt from their marriages and things that single men can avoid. Specifically, I want to know things like; how did you meet your wife? The finance situation in a Christian marriage and the issue of sex in a Christian marriage.

Thanks very much.

ernie1234:
Bro that is exactly my wife you just described. We have been married for 10 years. I had serious issues with her and battled with issues of kissing which she doesn't like, pre-intimacy for where, she only likes direct.
We are both believers so I had to endure it overtime and as we speak now bro, I had to find a way to leave with it bro. I now enjoy her just the way it is and had to enjoy our sex life with 2 kids. My brother It's not easy oh but I had to discipline myself that I die with my wife no matter what.

I fear God so I don't want to engage in adultery or any kind of nonsense with other Jezebel ladies. My advise get used to it. Give her time she will adjust.

I love this.

Very few people have respect for marriages nowadays, any small issue you'll see people recommending divorce or cheating. I feel bad for you though that you're not getting total satisfaction from your marriage, but that is how life is o. Apart from the sex stuff hope everything else is okay in your marriage?

I'm not yet married so do you have any advice about marriage for me, as a fellow believer. I might create a thread about marriage in religious section.

I want to serve God completely all the days of my life.

LeoJee:
I regret marrying a wrong man, who later rejected/seperated frm me due to ill health.
Regretted not ve married d guy that proposed to me after my Uni days, cos he wasn't born again.

Why will you regret not marrying an unbeliever? The situation could have been worse.

Never ever be unequally yoked together with an unbeliever.

Kobojunkie:
Ok, but Jesus Christ, the one who is God's Law and New Covenant is the Kingdom of God never gave you any such commandments as the one's contained in the above verses you quoted.

And no man has authority given them by God, or even Jesus Christ, to add/change/remove commandments from God's Law in the name of God or Jesus Christ. So?

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To top it all off, those commandments indicated above in those verses contradict
* God Himself by declaring His curse as instead commandments of some sort.
* Jesus Christ who proclaimed that He alone is Mastee/Head over each who belongs to Him.

I can no longer continue with this discussion. Every book in the new testament (Mathew to Revelation) is the Word of God, you shouldn't pick and choose which ones to to follow.

Kobojunkie:
What Two examples are you referring to and what have they to do with this?

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Col 3:18


Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Ephesians 5:22

Kobojunkie:
1. Genesis 3 vs 16

2. In Genesis 3 vs 16 God cursed marriage, and child birth.

3. There is no new testament commandment that wives submit to their husbands. Jesus Christ never gave His followers any such rules.

I just gave you two examples from the new testament or am i missing something?

Kobojunkie:
I never said submission in marriage is an Old Covenant commandment- God forbid!

Instead, submission is a result of God's curse on marriage in Genesis 3 vs 16, and it is from that curse, and all the others in in Genesis 3 vs 16 - 22 that Jesus Christ came to redeem us from.

I've modified my post. There was no curse for wives to submit to their husbands in the book of Genesis, if you disagree, you can show me. There was only a general curse for women and also men. I don't believe that women should submit to men. The new testament commandment is for wives to submit to their husbands, not for women to submit to men. Women are not expected to submit to every man the come across, they're only required to submit to their husbands.

Kobojunkie:
1. Nice try, but I am afraid you have it wrong!.

Jesus Christ made it clear to His followers that it is impossible to be submitted to two masters/head in the Kingdom of God. So it is impossible for a woman to submit to both her husband and Jesus Christ at the same time.

Also impossible to chose to live under curse and at the same time claim the salvation offered by Jesus Christ from the very same curse. You can't have one foot under the curse and the other foot in Jesus Christ- impossicant.

2. God's Old Covenant Law of Moses was given only to those who have the blood of Jacob coursing through their veins and this as Law for living in the Land of Canaan - Deuteronomy 30 vs 15 - 20. God never extended that Law towards the gentiles who didn't live in the land of Canaan, ever.

Now recall, when Jesus Christ came, He came to call sinners of the Old Law of Moses, to a New Covenant and Master, meaning the Jews who chose Jesus Christ were redeemed from following the Old Law and made alive in the New.

So, the commandments regarding honoring parents have absolutely nothing to do with anyone in Jesus Christ whose New Covenant Law requires instead that those who will become worthy of Him hate their parents, children, wife, husband, etc., for His sake..

3. Whenever you read anything in your Bible, always pay attention to the context of the messge you read and make sure to place God's Word, Jesus Christ, above the words of every other man's word contained.

If you has paid attention to context for instance, you would have realized then that the verse you quoted references Old Covenant Law of Moses Law - found documented in Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers. and Deuteronomy- and not New Covenant Laws given by Jesus Christ to His followers.

Submission is not an old testament commandment. Do you read your Bible?

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Col 3:18

Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Ephesians 5:21-22

From Ephesians you can see it clearly that you submit to God first, then to your husband.

I'm not talking about being condemned by the law. I'm not saying that if you don't submit to your husband you will lose your salvation or go to hell. Jesus Christ already paid the price for all sins, all you have to do believe in Jesus Christ and accept the forgiveness for your sins.

Rather, I'm telling you about the way that God has structured the home to work efficiently as specified by the Bible. Do you think that God wants women to be unhappy in their marriages? Obeying God by submitting to your husband won't make you unhappy in your marriage. God wants to bless your home, you just have to trust him and obey him.

Kobojunkie:
1. Interesting!

2. Aren't you one of those who teach women to submit themselves to their husbands because they are heads over them in much the same way Jesus Christ is head over His Church?

Why fault the same women you indoctrinate with your lies when they follow the same head over their head whatever direction he goes? Let me guess, your false doctrine should only be applied in one situation but not all?,

3. Jesus Christ's offer of Salvation is from the curse God placed on mankind in Genesis 3 vs 16 - 22. So any man and woman who submits to living life under the curse (even in marriage - Genesis 3 vs 16) forfeits God's redemption from the curse through Jesus Christ.

Your question is a very simple one. You submit to God first, then next your husband. The Bible also asked us honour our parents but that doesn't mean that you will honour them more than God. In everything, it's God first.

Nobody on earth, be it father, mother, husband, wife, pastor, children, boss etc is worth more honour, respect, submission and love than God. Whenever you read anything in the Bible always know that it's God first.

And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. Matthew 12:30

Sent87:
Thanks for the correction, I realized I was a little bit extreme in my response. I just wanted to prick his conscience. I retract my former declaration,him and his relatives are preserved and far from untimely deaths in Jesus name. Amen

Wow, this is nice. God bless you brother.

Dtruthspeaker:
True!

So it's possible for you to agree with me?

Sent87:
I wish you and your household what happened to Bamise, heartless human being. It will definitely happen to any of your relatives. Amen

Do you realize that you just wished death for other innocent people, do they deserve to die for being related to him. It would have been better to just wish him alone death.

Hoping someone dies because of an argument is still wickedness though, it means both of you don't have any regard for the human life and under different circumstances you will also commit murder. You should have just educated him and condemned his statements.