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That i can marry anybody irrespective of background or class.....
Any of my Boy that bring anyhow lady to my house as fiancee, will see anyhow from me in as much as I'm still alive.
I'm grooming them to know their self worth and class, so no need to loose too much sleep but any of them that want to be stupid will receive from me.

CuriousMind2022:
This last episode shook me very hard, and I have been asking myself whether I want to continue in this loveless marriage or opt out. Working and living in a different city will even make it easier for me.

Let her go for family planning.. don't have another child with that woman untill you're very sure your marriage will last. Separation affect children more than you can think.

Nation1:
Hello people,

Am married for 6 years with two kids. Some months ago, my wife started denying sex so much that we hardly have 2 times in a month. Because of this, I no longer disturb her this days cos it's better to let her be than to be rejected since most times I expected her to say no or give an excuse or the other which am always about 90 percent right about.

This days, I don't feel attracted to her sexually anymore. I have never cheated on her but this days, the thought of doing so is gradually creeping in. Have tried talking to her about this but no change. I don't want to start what extra marital affair but am tempted to.

I need your advise guys.

Women are too selfish and very insensitive.
They're very unstable. Why should you struggle with your wife before having sex.
Sometime they make men loose their pride, ego and self confidence.
If those stupid species do somethings to you, you will look at yourself and say "Na me be dis".

kettykings:
Again where will the power to charge these busses come from, 280km per full charge, is it with traffic or without traffic.

Will these fare better than gas powered and diesel powered buses in the long term

Pele Electromechanical Power Instrumentation and Control Engineer. Like as if you're more intelligent than the person who conceive the idea, take it to LSG for consideration, LSG engaging Consultants and now implementation and commissioning.
So they must have missed the part of how the Electric buses wiould be recharge.

AntiChristian:
Islam is coming up!

Islam is always up..
Let the Western countries allow Christianity to be preached in its pure form and you will see that number goes down drastically..

Fidelity001:
Hi viewer, my name is Paul, I am a final year student of The Polytechnic, Ibadan department of Architecture.
How can i get the floor plan of university of portharcourt senate building?


I need it for my final year Project buildup.

Thank YOU SO MUCH

Go checkout BUK senate building..
If you like it, I can link you up to get whatever plan you might need for your project..

Its Friday and no Any Islamic topic on the front page.
Does it mean that their is no moderator that can do it or no moderator to do it.
Is it enough to say MURIC, CAN and every other religious body are truly needed and required?
A forum like Nairaland shouldn't allow itself to be wrapped and drag into religion bigotry.
I am actually waiting Sunday 21 to clear my doubts.
Must every sect keep fighting for representation and inclusiveness in every sector. Why those that are there can't be Neutral and Just
Nairaland and Social media space should do better.
Why should every facet of our lifes be about religion bigotry and ethnicity.
Its almost a duty and custom on Nairaland that Fridays and Sunday mostly have religion topics on the front page especially before noon. We don't care who is moving it to front page. If the Muslim moderators are unavailable on Friday, the Christian mode should do it and vise-versa.
This is extremely worrying.

Feintline:
When you see barbaric things as these, you know how white powder politics has damaged the minds of young men.

That must be a druggie trainee.
His fellows are littered here.

Nothing like druggie trainee..
That's the language Igbos in the southwest need to be hearing day-in day-out.
How can you come to kano and because of Sabon gari is freely given and dominated by igbos, you then say kano is a noman's land. I bet, the state governor will lookaway just for two days and allow indigenes destroy sabon gari from top to bottom without police intervention.
Igbos are really stupid people...
Sardauna and Ahmadu Bello have foresaw all this long ago and have putting measures in place.

Martinsmine:
Who said it's ipob

If a northerner mistakenly openly say this as regards to Boko haram, social media space will be burning by now.
Who are Ipobs

Okwyjesus:
That's patriotic in clear definition.

It's not about him it's about a WORKING NATION.

Those bigot above me won't understand because they are blinded by hate.

Its you that don't understand. Obi is a bigot and will never repent
Tinubu brought Osibanjo, Nominated him for the position of vice presidency but now, that same Tinubu is incapable and Osibanjo is the capable person. It just like the usual myopic saying that "Jesus will heal you" while knowing clearly that only God heals.

Igbos are taking this things too personal and too far..
For sure, they cannot try this trash to northerners....
Yoruba laxity is becoming stupidity. How can you allow a total strangers to get too much grip and hold in your mist.

LeoDeKing:
God bless Dangote, the CEO
God bless BAT, the president elect.
God bless PMB and PYO
God bless Nigeria and Nigerians
God bless SW SS NW NE and NC

Where is SE?

dapsoneh:
So, of all the hospital in Naija, he couldn't do ordinary knee surgery in any?small thing he will start spewing rubbish. Mr VP had his knee surgery done in naija and he's doing g perfectly ok
So, if you want to do rubbish activism, live by example

Don't mind the fvckards..
Doing activism just for the name.

eepeepook:
Let’s pause talking about waist beads for once.

This is a topic which affects many Nigerians. Funny enough, I’ve never seen it posted here. I know very well some members have experienced it.

How will you cope with discovering your father had a secret family? I can imagine the rage and betrayal I’ll go through from such revelation. Many learned of it after the death of their fathers. Some accept the new family while few reject them completely.

What will you do? Has it happened to you? Do you know anyone who’s faced the situation?

Wetin be your own rage and how does it concern the situation..
The only person that have the right to be rage, is your mum..
Yours is to look-on.

Robertgreene1:
l swear bro...my problem with that Meghan Markle is that she seems so toxic(black American ladies are naturally toxic to start with)...she divorced her first hubby..and has issues with her dad...that's a red flag Harry should have seen...and not like she was even whole when he met her.. she's half chop...wit a child for her first hubby...
Harry should av asked himself if she would av looked his way if he wasn't a prince
If l happen to be a prince or a rich male celebrity..do u know d only girl l will marry?...that girl that fell in love with me when we were still in Nursery/primary/ school...l mean like..that my childhood lover..that fell in love with me when she was so young to understand what it meant to marry a prince or a very rich man...any other thing apart from that...l won't marry!!!
Women Sabi use person eh!!!

Haba! This your story too plenty.
African American ladies are toxic....
Might not look his way if not for him being a prince....
I would rather marry my first love than to settle with all these gold diggers.

My Son will one day become King of England ....
Already grooming Fadil.

Klass99:
I honestly think one of the ways to achieve some of your dreams is to permanently end child birth. As in, do not have anymore children! My father had 7 kids and in one conversation he said two children are more than enough in this present age, because children are going to be more difficult to manage and our economy keeps deteriorating. Grasp some worldy wisdom from an old man who has lived 7 decades on God's earth.



I know you said this but think about making it permanent. You already have 5 kids as far as I am concerned, there is you, wifey, your sister and two kids. Consider yourself a child who also needs to be taken care of as well (mostly by you and wifey sha).

You still need to buy good shoes, underwears and shirts for yourself, visit the hospital when sick, get a haircut, eat shawarma or suya, etc. So, don't over do it with a large sized family. Think quality over quantity, the fewer the better!

I don't know how old your sister is but if she's old enough to find a legitimate income source with your help or by herself, that will take a load off you and free up some disposable income for you. Try to get her self sufficient and financially independent so she is not a life long responsibility of yours.

Keep trying and doing your best, the good book talks about time and chance, perhaps it is not your time and chance to blow yet, but that shouldn't stop you from dreaming and working towards it. Saka, the Etisalat/9mobile ambassador talked about finding success at a later age in life, let that encourage you while you also take the time to enjoy the good things you have now.

Please stop spreading birth control as an option to make it in life...
Having enough good educated , respective and Responsible children is extremely good with countless advantages.

Fear of Incest...
I thought everything and anything goes in the Western world.
I thought nothing like abomination in their dictionary..
Yeye people.

Fineman2:
My name is John. I am 35 years old. I lost my first wife in 2020, so I remarried in 2021 so that my daughter can grow up with a motherly love.

However, my new wife has made it a point of duty to always maltreat my daughter.

Each time, I want to interfere, she tells me to stay out of it. I know I should stand up for my daughter but I am in love with this woman because she came into my life when I needed someone the most.

I reached out to the family of my late wife last month to allow my daughter to stay with them while I send money for her upkeep, but they refused. They said my daughter cannot grow up without a mother and still grow up without the presence of a father in her life.

I have had several conversations with my wife and I have begged her to accommodate my daughter since she is yet to conceive but she told me to get rid of her from the house.

She practically complains about everything my daughter does. I am unhappy about this but at the moment, I am caught in between the woman I love and my beloved daughter.

Please what should I do?

Hummm

Mission of saving Niger from what exactly?
It disgust me, whenever I see a post presenting Obi as Nigeria saviour.

tafabaloo:
If she believes, Jesus can heal her.

So is Jesus that heal not God?
I dont know who's more confuse between the tweet I read today and many Christians.

Jazakallahu khair

Brunosamel:
I just got a message for my first job interview it's a four star hotel I applied for an accounting position I'm not even prepared and I feel anxious. Please guru's in the house how did you handle your first interview enlighten me

If you like be confident, if you like be stammering, if you like go fvckup... all I know is, there are no jobs outside. Dont panic and don't be afraid.

stopthecycle:
So my elder brother just got married to the Love of his Life. I got to know his wife's family about two months before they got married. The lady has a younger sister who is super attractive, intelligent and nice. We've been talking for a long time and got close and we really like each other.

But I feel we are doing something wrong. Is it okay to date my Sister in law? Some people keep telling g me it's a taboo. I need advice...

You don't need opinion of children on this topic..
That is where Islam comes in.

1.The mother, which includes grandmothers on both the father’s and mother’s side

2.The daughter, which includes granddaughters

3.Sisters, whether full sisters or half-sisters through the father or mother

4.The paternal aunt, which also includes the paternal aunt of the father or mother

5.The maternal aunt, which also includes the maternal aunt of the father or mother

6.The brother’s daughter, which includes his granddaughters

7.The sister’s daughter, which includes her granddaughters

Hope you're guided.

Kobojunkie:
Microwhy, why are you trying to derail this thread abeg?

With what..?
I'm confused..

Joemavel:
So I've been running some businesses for some time and it turns out during this Buhari regime business went south lol.. As in, we all know the situation in the country.

What even dashed my hopes finally was the kinda election we had in this country where I had hoped for a true change as I've always been vocal against japa and why it's okay here and no place like home. But since the last 1 month I've been buying into the japa syndrome.

But I'm I to blame? E no easy with wife and 2 young kids of 2yrs plus and 4months old.

Please I need help with ideas on IT courses one can learn with the internet as I got access to not top notch but substantial amount of internet access.
Or even a good handworking skill that are lucrative abroad.

A skill one could possibly japa with, because I wanna start considering my options. I do not see the next 8yrs having anything significantly left for me in this naija.

If you want to seek anything on social media,dont stupidly go political.
Must Obi before Japa will stop?
You said you have two kids but you're yet to have sense.
Your wife married a baby.

Modify....!

Took a chill pill..

nicej2:
Dear Nairalanders, i am not really good posting my issues online. But this time i need your advise.

I have been married for 9 years now and my sister inlaw has been living with us( I, my wife and the kids) for the past 6 years now, although I am not always around.
I have never imagine any negative thoughts toward her. I always see her like my younger sister, i have been taken care of her. She is 28 years old and I can't really says if she have a boyfriend cos I haven't see one around her. She is a boss in her working place but yet i foots all her bills in the house without bothering anyone, including my wife that is also a boss .Until of recent she started wearing seductive clothes around the house, Some how i started developing feelings for her As if she knows, she continues wearing those clothes and started showing more caring towards me.
I can't believed that i am having feelings for my sister inlaw cos i am a disciplined man to the core. Even during university days girls do come to my apartment passed a night without molesting them. I am well brought up. But is like that disciplined man in me started degenerating as i began to see this girl in my dreams.
There was a night i returned from travelled, i started feeling the urge to go to her room. My wife almost cought me that night cos we lives in 3 bedroom, I have my own room, my wife have her own and my sister inlaw have her own room. So we sleep in separate rooms except some occasions my wife decided to stay in my room. That night i was pimping through her door. I have been trying to control my feelings and I believed the reason why I have not sleep with her is because i am not always around and I also the fear of traditions implications of sleeping with sister inlaw . And my wife is not helping matters, she can leave both of us alone in d house and go to all night church program and the children will be sleeping.

I don't really know what to do. Should I tell my wife so that we can get her accommodation or just let the sleeping dog be. Though I don't really want her to leave cos is my wife and the children are alone in the compound. I just want to kill that urge before I return from travel.

Sorry for the long episode ..😀

Don't dare it..
She fit change am for you. Women are wicked.

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