₦airaland Forum

We all have spiritual connections with our children and those who meditate and know how to listen to their inner being, can feel this. Asides from the timing of her pregnancy, and the striking resemblance she has of my family, i have a strong connection with her little girl.

mrksquare:
A man that brazenly violated the Upland-Riverine dichotomy of power sharing is today propagating equity. A man that succeeded another governor from the same Ikwerre extraction in the same Senatorial zone. A bigot that ensured that 8 overhead bridges was constructed in his Obio/Apkor LGA in a state were most of the hinterland that are riverine are yet to be connected to the State capital by road.

A man that commandeered and ensure that his Ikwerre people got 80 percent of the jobs at the Rivers state University and Ignatius Ajuri University.

Is someone that doesn't know Wike that will empathize with him. As for your illicit Sim, I am still waiting to see how you will do the magic by ensuring that he wins the governorship election.

What makes you think Sim will lose the governorship election?

SyrusdeHansome:
All i can say is that u're not a good man nd i am not either. Ur fellow man had a gf but u kept fucking her even when u knew everything nd 2moro if the truth comes out abt the little girl's DNA we all will focus on rubbishing the woman while u'll be treated like a king.

Guy, we all make mistakes. I really loved the lady and was hoping she would chose me. They weren't engaged at the time.

ictplotter:
Layman opinion.
Pls in ur future struggles stay away from politics n leadership tussle because it's crystal clear u lack total understanding about politics n leadership tussle.
Atiku will have been dead Politically by now if hav agreed for wike camp to produce the national chairman and control the party.
Wike vision is to bring Atiku down by any means, they are just using southern agenda to blackmail pdp n his national chairman.

I think it's stupidity for Atiku to decamp and come back to pdp and not only struggle for power, but reject a person like Wike who's not only been there all the while, but has been one of the biggest drivers in pdp all the while.

They say desperate times, desperate measures. Things went abnormal, crazy, unjust, disgraceful and shocking. It does demand really desperate measures to match it....and that's why you have the G-5. Pdp have to know that there are consequences when they don't keep to agreement. Let them win without the G-5 let's see.

zicoraads:
I would have sacrificed Ayu too if I was Atiku. Then plan and deal with Wike and his friends after the election has been won, or lost.

But I think I have come to admire Atiku's position as the crisis goes on and on. I like the fact that he has shown he is not someone to pander to anyone's selfish interests and wants.

He called off their bluff. And it looks like he knew what he was doing. Seeing how a lot of people have gotten tired of all the noise.

It's not about his reaction to the G-5 threat than the outcome of their actions. What happens if he calls them ordinary miscreants only to lose the election to Tinubu by some margin?
People may begin to wonder what would've happened of he had made peace with Wike and moved on United.

Thank you.

Dimples2022:
Do the right thing, it’s not that complicated, since adults are meant to clean up their messes and face the consequences of their actions. That’s what an adult does.

If I tell my wife this...she will be upset with me. If it turns out Rita's baby is my daughter, I'm afraid she may leave me. But this all happened before I met her.

GboyegaD:
When was the last time yourself and Rita got down together?
You may want to have a conversation with her. There's also the possibility of the baby been pre-term, her husband's baby etc. Stop creating confusion particularly in your head where there is no need for one.

Ok, I know the possibility of the baby being her husband's and I have considered it. What makes the chances slim is that he'd travelled throughout the entire month of October, and in October, from my knowledge we had the highest number of sexual activity. He only came back early November, proposed to her and got married to her in December.

Coupled with the fact that the baby looks like me and my family and also has similar behavior with my daughter.
I know that a DNA test should be the only way to reveal the truth, but everything points the fact that she's my daughter.

Foodqueen:
Na so.

Because she didn't practice that law of once bleeped can be refucked, or what do u guys call it.

U want to scatter her marriage, so that she will become your baby mama, so u could av access to her again all in the name of checking up on your daughter.

All those sperms you do throwaway with CDs, why not go and gather them together and look for your children among them.

Look, i love Angel. When i look at her, I realize that sometimes Gods blessings are different from what we had wanted, but it is the best. i havent cheated on her since i married her.

Mindlog:
Where I come from, even if the DNA results shows that OP (though a fake story) is the biological father, he can't claim the child, even if the marriage of the woman in question ends with the husband and he moves on, the child will bear the maternal grandfather's name, be it male or female.

Bro, this is my problem. I could've chosen to be silent about it, many people don't make anything out of things like these, but I'll feel like a failure if that little girls life is messed up while I'm alive.

JONNYSPUTE:
...... Please take it easy on him. I think he has realised that what they did then was wrong but you should also understand that
its going to be difficult for one to be aware he or she has a child somewhere yet can't get close to that child.
No be small matter oo.

I think to a great degree you do understand my situation. I feel so destroyed knowing she's my daughter and I can't care for her or protect her. I can't play a fatherly role to her. One thing Rita complained about her boyfriend then was that he doesn't have the time for her she needs....when I watch her WhatsApp status, I see that he's almost never present cos of work.

meobizy:
Fake story.

Look at the story, the timeline...it's true and its what has happened to me. The more I see that little girl, the more I see I'm the father. It's what I'm dealing with right now. Not every story you find hard to believe in untrue. I've had this bad feeling for months since I saw the little girls pictures, I just decided to post it today to know what people will advise.

Cutehector:
The only thing i am thinking about right now is Peter Obi winning the election. Any other thing is inconsequential.

Obi may win the election, but you will still wake up with your problems staring you in the face. Better look for happiness somewhere else than hinge it on man.

advanceDNA:
Oga Ade...Face your marriage

U want to complicate things that look simple

So the easier thing to do is forget about my daughter?

immanuelsize:
Mind your business because if you don't, both your marriage and that of rita will crash. If you want to destroy your marriage and that of rita's, tell rita that you need to do dna test to confirm whether that child is yours. After the dna test confirms that the child is yours, know that both marriages are destroyed!

And forget about my daughter?

Richy4:
Please do not destroy someone else's relationship... While you were having sex with her,... do you think she was only speaking in tongues with her boyfriend (now Husband) during intimate moments?...Or do you think you were the only virile/ fertile man that have the ability to impregnant a woman?

She has been nice to you...Even picked a wife for you, so why do you want to encroach in their organised space?...Have you considered the fact that she was unhappy and frustrated because she might be missing the sex only?...Assuming she envisioned you as the husband she wanted to marry she would have broken off whatever engagement that was keeping her... Just store her memory in the Archive of your heart...Do not be a home wrecker..

Does that mean that I would forget about my daughter, my flesh and blood and let her be with a man who is not her father?

I'm a married man, been married for 3 years. I'm happy in marriage with a daughter who is a year and 6 months old.

Before I met my wife in August of 2018, i was in love with Rita, a beautiful and intelligent lady. I'd known her for some years but I'd never been free to pursue a relationship with her, I was engaged to another, but it didn't work out. So, by April 2018, I broke up with my fiancee. I wasn't so affected by the break up cos at that time I had understood it wouldn't have worked out between us. After the break up, i ran into Rita and we hung out. I realised to my excitement that she was sweeter than I imagined. She was a beautiful soul and we kinda fit hand in glove. The problem was, she had a boyfriend and she wanted so much to end up with him. Now, she would prefer me to him in many aspects, but he was rich and I was, well, just there. That didn't stop her from giving herself to me. We made sweet love many times, mostly at my place. I was so in love cos for the first time I met a woman who loved love making as much as I did. Everytime, we had s*x raw. She was on daily pills. We would gist after making love and get aroused again and go on and on. I felt jealous each time her boyfriend would come to town and she has to go visit him. Once she consoled me by saying when she has sex with him, she's thinking about me. The thought of her being with him broke my heart, but she says to me "just enjoy all this while it lasts".

This carried on until August, at this time I realised I have to look for a girlfriend, someone I would get married to. So one time she came to my place, after we had s*x, I told her about some girls I planned to approach. She picked one for me her name was Angel. She said I should try that one. (Angel is my wife now). So I got to know Angel, asked her out and she said yes. During the early part of my relationship with Angel, Rita and I were still fu*king. Once, we lodged in a hotel and slept over, the s*x was mad, so sweet, at the time, I hadn't had it that sweet before. After then we would make love only twice before her boyfriend proposed to her suddenly. Even if I was determined to pursue the relationship with Angel, I was jealous she was engaged. But a week or two before the engagement I noticed Rita was unhappy and frustrated and I asked, but she waved it off. She got married on December 22, 2018 and I became more serious with Angel and got married to her in August of 2019.

Rita gave birth to a baby girl in July 4, 2019. This left me thinking, she was pregnant before she got married?. We hardly talk these days because Angel is a jealous wife. She doesn't like me to keep in touch with my female friends. So Rita and I talk sparsely. The thing that convinces me even more that her baby is mine is that, my daughter who is 1 year 6 months, she was born 15th of July 2021 looks exactly like Rita's daughter born 4th of July 2019. Both are carbon copies of my mum and younger sister. I think she knows and has refused to tell me. But why would she hide it from me? I don't even know what to do with this knowledge. This is my story. What do you guys think?

My uncle who has lived in the UK for more than 33 years says people can change careers by obtaining degrees and become Professors in any area they want. Why should Nigeria be different?

What I realized is that most very practical and specialized disciplines require you to have a grassroot-level knowledge in order to be qualified to lecture. They don't want a half baked jump-across lecturer.

Richy4:
Have you tried Abroad?...U are really qualified honestly... By Abroad, I don't mean only US or UK... Just try different countries... Honestly, I like the combination of the course...
And only six applications submitted without response should not demoralize you..

I haven't tried that yet.
Thanks for your encouragement. I will not stop sending applications.

Richy4:
Have you applied in any institution and they rejected it claiming that you were not qualified?

I've applied in 4 institutions already and haven't been called. They haven't said it's because of my maths background, but the rejection is making me think it may be because of that.
I have 6 papers and an experience as a Graduate research assistant. So I'm qualified, but I don't know why I haven't been contacted.

yomi007k:
It's not easy going to a new terrain to continue.

It may not lead to creativity , proficiency in the long run.

If he gets his phd in maths related course, he can easily work abroad.

I think it's pointless if there's really a discrepancy because of my maths background. I say this because, nearly all disciplines are now quantitative. Everyone has to apply mathematics and statistics in research.

They all have to learn research methods that apply statistics. So a mathematian should fit in to many disciplines. In case, I bridged the gap with my PGD, although many would argue that a PGD bridges the gap when someone branches out of their subject area. Then I went further until my Doctorate. I should have an edge in research with my maths background.

merieam16:
i guess he doesnt like maths again lolzz

I don't love it....but I love it's application in geography.

yomi007k:
You self reason am now.
From maths to geography.

Why not do phd in something mathematics or statistics related. You can end up being consultant for FG or UNESCO on INEC and census related issues.

I love Geography more...I just didn't know it would be a big issue. When I got the admission I was going to turn it down and start all over with jamb...but my dad advised me to just do it.

LordIsaac:
I want to learn too. However, I know of a lecturer who was stripped of his PhD title and rank because it was discovered that he got his PhD from another faculty. They've asked him to go for another PhD if he must stay in the department.

I can understand that one. He has studied until Masters, if he leaves his area entirely when studying his phD it adds little or no value to what he has already built.

Greetings all. It's my pleasure sharing the same space with you all.

Can I get a lecturer job in the universities in Nigeria if I have a PGD, MSc and PhD in the area I'm applying for the job but a BSc in another area?. Say for instance, I have a BSc in Mathematics n Statistics, a PGD in Geography n Environmental Management, an MSc in Environmental Management and a PhD in Geomorphology.
I've asked some people, but there seem to be divided opinions. I've also applied and I've not gotten anything positive, I don't know, but I think the first degree is throwing a spanner into my works.

I know there are people here who are academics in the university or they know what applies in the universities in Nigeria. Please I need to know what the standard is.

Mods please help me push to front page, pasisei.

Wike get mind and i like him. Anything he does in support for the Niger Delta is acceptable by me.

Celestine Omehia is seeking relevance by dancing with Atiku against his helper Wike. If Atiku loses the election and PDP wins Rivers State, Omehia would be in deep shit. He could go as the sorriest loser in Rivers politics

tuoyoojo:
There is no way this brazen theft can go on successfully without insider help and collaboration

Nigeria is rich but the greed of some few people is what is depriving over 200 million people of the good life

Look! If the people (ethnic groups, clans, communities, families) of the south had been consulted and agreed to being in a country called Nigeria, this would not have happened. Here in the south, we believe the oil belongs to us. We are not wrong for thinking like this because the oil is found in our ancestral land. We think it is oil theft, when government explore oil and use it to develop Nigeria, while bribing our leaders to keep the people quiet.

Start the bank job, very likely it will pay more than the government job. If they start you as a marketer, it will be excellent...in that case you can work in the government (as this would not require all your time as the bank job) and keep your bank job as a marketer.

In the event they change your position in the bank to maybe say, Teller. You have to quit the bank job, but before then you must've saved up something from the bank job.

Islandlady:
Actually most people are guilty of lying to their Lovers and partners about the actual amount they earn from their salary.

I believe most partners especially the Men have a reason for doing it, I think this can cause disunity and lack of trust if the other partner finds out about the actual amount you earn! What are the reasons behind this lie?

I came across the screenshot below from my IG story while scrolling about this lady asking for advice on this issue!
Experienced Nairalanders should share reason for this secret abeg!

Its not a red flag. Please love that man, he is a very cautious person and he doesnt want you guys to go begging in the middle of the month.
I do it with my girlfriend, only she hasnt found out and probably wont find out. The idea for him doing that is this: He wants to be able to call the shots when the money finishes. No man wants to be in that situation where his woman and himself are stranded without any help. He also has to do it because he's noticed that she's not as conservative as he would want her to be, especially considering his income, so he still wants to have some money left when she thinks its finished. That helps the situation.

StilmaVsBorn2w:
This is so embarrassing to say, I would never advise a man to be so sluggish in life. It pains my heart having to experience this several times but since he is an elderly bro that senior me very far I can't put my mouth in his family affair because of this.

I went to visit my brother yesterday, was surprised while we were seated in the parlour... the wife told her husband to go check if the woman selling provision is back.

This wasn't the first time, my brother stood up and went.. I was looking at her the whole time, she was looking at me. The anger was so deep but there is nothing I can do.

They are different instances I can give but no need for that...All I just want to say it's not good to be that calm type of guy.

This is not about being the bread winner of the house, my elder brother is doing very well for himself so is his wife.

As a man, it's just not good to be quite always or be quiet all the time.. gentlemanly. I just don't know how to say it.

Guys what do you think?

I'm not in support of men who are clueless and weak...they allow the woman be the man of the house, but i want to point out that there could be more to the story.

I say this because i have seen different families and how they could differ due to the personalities of the couples involved.

On this note, imagine if in this story, both husband (his elder brother) and wife are career people and they have 1 or 2 small kids and they don't have a house help. Maybe wife just got pregnant. Wife comes back from work, does her house-keeping and kitchen stuff...many wives in her circumstance need assistance. Maybe she cooking and wants to buy stuff from the provision shop, which is just a few steps from their house and the husband isnt doing anything at the time...she might have also asked politely...why can't he help out? i'm just telling you how it may have happened and how the OP may not have gotten all the details.

I do also think that African civilized society has gotten past that point where the men heaps all the house work on the woman. Some assistance is needed.

RepoMan007:
The rrot of this problem is the demonic structure that is built around sharing resources of minorities to another region. Once those favoured by this structure ha e interest in an issue, God help the logical reasoning prevail.

Why is Dangote building refinery from scratch but none of four comatose refinery cannot be repaired? Why is Dangote getting forex ahead of small businesses. After giving him billions in forex, they cut out the small business man looking to buy electrical component or medical reusables of 50 USD. Is that fair?
They gave tax waivers of 16 trillion Naira out but could deny about 2 trillion of that to varnish ASUU strike for eternity.

How can i like your post twice?

The economic policies of Nigeria are just appalling. Oil is the reason why the Government has refused to restructure. Restructuring wouldve solved theses economic issues. I think that the northern elites are oil-crazy, and this is reflected in the thinking of the average northerner. They are the reason why Nigeria has been solely dependent on oil. Their idea i think is that if we restructure, they will be the losers. Restructuring instead helps the states or regions look inwards, manage their resources efficiently and contribute to the center. The solution to Nigeria's economic problems is not rocket science, but some people have decided to hold the entire nation down, preventing others from progressing.