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Lalasticlala what's your take on this?

This post is to those guys out there who believe having a baby mama is more restful, secure and enjoyable than having a wife.

Your fear of marriage and clinging to baby mama hood doesn't guarantee you a less strenuous life as some of you may think.

There are more challenges and difficulties when you have a baby mama which might even lead you to an early grave which I will be highlighting here.

Here are the reasons why I believe having a baby mama is a bad idea...

1. You'll have a whorish woman to deal with

In the case of having kids with a random woman or women, if you don't marry her, she is not exclusive to you. So you may have other baby daddies to compete with which you may not be able to handle.

Do you know that a man is reduced to nothing just by means of contending with a whorish woman? A man with a whorish woman will never go to the grave in peace.

The ways of such a woman will make you sick and she will be like rotteness in your bones.

Moreover trying to persuade her to stick with you only will yield no fruit as she will only refuse.

As a matter of fact when a man tries to tame a whorish woman, there will be no rest.

2. You might have a scornful child

Growing up in such a household could be detrimental to your child to having a well-balanced life. Also considering the high tendency that women fall for bad boys, your co-baby daddies could be drug dealers, scam artists, etc.

Exposing your child to these men when they come to visit their own children will teach your child crime and cause him/her to be scornful and such a child will not be a joy to you, his father.

He/she will tend to despise upright things and cleave to atrocious ones.

He/she will also despise you as well and would hardly listen to your corrections.

3. Your child will be poorly cared for

Besides the irresponsible mother, such men are likely to be less responsible with child support for their kid(s), so whatever you pay for your kid(s) will also be shared with the irresponsible baby daddies kid(s) leaving your kid(s) with less.

4. You will contend with an unapologetic manipulative woman

A whorish woman perpetuate evil but will only rub her hands and clean her mouth and say, "I've done nothing wrong."

That is how she is and that is who she will be to you.

Besides poisoning your child's mind about you, she may also deny you the right to your child(ren) when you fail to meet to her requirements and there's very little you can do about it.

5. You may contract sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)

If by chance you sleep with her again, you might end up having health problems gotten from co-baby daddies such as STDs.

6. You might get into trouble

You may have to battle jealous co-baby daddies and might end up in trouble due to a fall out with them.

7. Your life becomes more difficult

You're more likely to have difficulty in various aspects of your life, financially, socially, spiritually and mentally.

8. Your reputation might suffer

Society will deem you irresponsible and you'll be shamefully categorized as one of the grown irresponsible fools around.

On pure thought is it worth it?

Let's not deceive ourselves. Marriage being natural is more restful and enjoyable than having a baby mama.

When you marry the person compatible with you and you are up to the task of being a true family man, you'll have a beautiful home.

Stop looking at those with failed marriages if you're a man driven by bad news and learn how to lead a home properly, then every other thing will fall into place.

Don't know what's on your mind...

Lalasticlala

Surely we all have dreams and aspirations and hope to live them someday, somewhere in time, but not everyone defines success the same way.

We have those who believe that having excessive money is true success and all their real need will ever be - awon #30/80/300/700... billion gang, there are also some who believe that having sex with a large number of women/men is an achievement, some also believe attaining a high position somewhere is true success.

Not disputing these beliefs but there is a level in life we have to maintain, - a level of convenience which can only be derived through moderate living, as unchecked continuous increment in status will bring us a feeling of sickness, emotional dissatisfaction and a strange feeling of vanity.

If a man has too many ladies around him or none,
If a man has an excessive amount of money or none,
If a man is too educated or a total illiterate,
If a man has too many friends or none,
If a man has too much power or none,

As time sets in and as he turns older, he will begin to feel wanting, displeased and frustrated as too much or less of anything is bad.

Many people have tried to grab everything to themselves but ended up emotionally disturbed and unhappy even after acquiring their targets.

All because life demands we do things in moderation, without a greedy eye or uncontrolled lust.

From all the works of men till today,

Which man has gained a city speak less of the whole world?
Who has ascended to heaven and descended?
Who has gathered the wind in his fists?
Who has bound the waters in a garment?
Who has established the ends of the earth?
Who has made himself immortal?
What is his name and where does he live?

Just as we thought - No one.

Personally, I wish for only two things

1. To be far away from vanity and lies people deceive themselves with and to live right to my own happiness.

2. To have neither poverty nor excessive wealth but to be granted what is convenient for me else I become full of myself and deny the things that are right or be poor and resort to a life of theft and take the right things in vain.

The actual truth is moderation in everything brings about convenience and happiness and this is the best feeling a man can have here on earth.

Don't kill yourself competing with others or trying to be like them. Do not be greedy of things nor be given to untamed lust. Happiness becomes more expensive when you are greedy and when you're too overfed.

Love and appreciate what you have while working for what you want and live moderately.

There is no award for being the man who slept with the most ladies nor the man who has the largest amount of resources everywhere. Relax.

Life is easy and sweet to only those who understand the principle of moderation and satisfaction.

Don't know if I am making a point here...

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AngelicDamsel:
Life is simple, but men men and women made it complicated.

Fixed

mykealpha:
In conclusion, every human being is a mix of the three elements

Na you know. The post doesn't disagree with your position, It only implored you to lay up knowledge and increase your wisdom and to do it early before the days of trouble.

Starz825:
Your post and observation is cool but then even if you have the whole wisdom of the Earth...it still doesn't stop trouble from entering into your life as a person...
Some trouble comes into one's life unannounced...not because you exhibited foolishness or you weren't wise but they are just normal affliction of life that comes your way as you journey through life....

One could even gather wisdom and still fall prey...
Check out the life of Solomon in the Bible....funny enough the wisest man on Earth ended up being foolish...
You can't always be your best no matter how wise you are, Nevertheless gather wisdom!!

That is all to say, nothing more. Thank you.

Manq:
I think there are hybrids! Mixed behaviors from 1,2&3.. typing from experience

Course there might be some people who exibit more than one of those natures but one can only be classified based on the trait he exhibits most.

Karlifate:
Nice one, Mikester.



In this life, the strong rules the weak, while the wise rules the strong.

...and the weak first just like the scornful will fade away and be forgotten more speedily than the wise.

Karlifate:
Nice one, Mikester.



In this life, the strong rules the weak, while the wise rules the strong.

Very correct.

Lalasticlala pls help push for more views. Thank you.

It is an interesting and undeniable factor that as people we're bound to have a nature we exhibit subconsciously or otherwise, and our nature is undeniably who we are and determines what will be attracted to us, good or evil as the case may be and what we shall eventually get (good or evil) based on who we are and what we made ourselves to be.

In this post, I will be sharing the three natures of people in the world to the best of my knowledge and I urge the reader to read with an open mind and a understanding heart to key into the point I'm raising.

The three natures of people without much talk are:

1. The simple (weak) :

Having no specialty or sophistication. Just there for being there.

These people

- Just take life as it comes
- accept anything even when it is bound to be detrimental just to avoid stress and complexities
- often choose to "leave everything to God or a god somewhere"
- are always lamenting about their troubles instead of toughening up to them.
- can't stand trouble when it comes but resort to complaining and casting of blames
- have an ill entitlement mentality
- have a false understanding of "being good and humble" unknowingly to them that they depict idiocy.
- are weak men and women with little understanding to life and it's complexities.
- perpetually follow the multitudes to do what they do and hardly discern for themselves.
- usually make foolish choices and regret afterwards.
- accept mediocre and damaged things and are easily satisfied.
- inherit their foolishness usually from their herd mentality and their turning away from critical discernment and understanding.

These people just exist, have little credible purpose and honour, neither cold nor hot, just want to live without troubles and wish life would be easy for them.

Rebuke them for their simplicity and they will tell you to just let them be and shun your counsel and avoid you eventually.

Yea, this people exist amongst us.

2. The scorner :

One who shuns rebuke and choose to follow his own delight in wickedness.

These people

- take delight in immorality, atrocities and wickedness
- live life carelessly and cause shame to their household
- sleep with people's spouses
- have another definition of smartness
- engage in "fun" at the expense of time, seasons and youthfulness
- always justify their scornful living and don't seek the truth
- subconsciously and consciously give deceitful advise(s) to others.
- carry about an "I don't care attitude"
- abide by the counsel of devils and fellow scorners than the truth
- hardly satisfied with their own and think life is a competition
- consumed by their own scornful living with little to no effective remedy

Do not rebuke scornful people else they will hate you and seek to bring you shame and hurt. Ignore them and leave them to their own scornful living as it easier. Only counsel them when they seek so from you.

Yea, these people live amongst us.

3. The wise :

The aware, the informed.

These people

- hear and increase their learning perpetually
- seek the truth early and walk in it
- bring gladness to their households
- are not froward and speak less
- value their time and use it early
- lay up knowledge and hide them in their hearts
- fear the things the scorner delights in and avoid them
- rule the other two

Rebuke a wise man and he will ponder, adjust and love you, as it is easier for rebuke to enter a wise man than 70 strokes of cane for a scorner. The wise hardly despise nor scorn.

Yea, the wise rule amongst us.

Conclusions

Save the wise, the scorner and the simple are quite similar and attract a lot of sorrows and complications,

- the scorner due to his scornfulness and lack of understanding.
- the simple due to his weakness and lack of understanding.

The gravity of troubles is equal for both. Though the simple feel they're innocent, they also suffer the same level of crises like the scorners.

Just as a weak husband and a scornful husband have similar home crises, a simple son and a scornful son both bring shame to their households. All leads to shame, painful regrets and destruction.

Therefore In all our dealings, let us seek understanding so that we would make wise choices and walk on straight paths. Until people's minds are healed and turned from folly, there will always be endless strife and regrets.

Let us hold unto wisdom and live by understanding. This is my observation which I've shared and is open to discussion, agreement and criticism. Have you anything to add, correct or refute, pls share on.

free2ryhme:
You are a content thief



https://www.nairaland.com/5246864/wifes-sister-crash-marriage-please

[color=navy]I was just about to prove that. Thumbs up for realising sooner. The whole post is a lie. [/color]