₦airaland Forum

kmaster007:
My wife with a kid wanted to know to my ATM pin. I thought she was joking but I noticed she's serious about knowing my pin. She was saying some of are colleague at work both their wife and husband knows each other ATM incase if something happens... But me refuse ooooo... Does it makes sense at all....

What is wrong in knowing your wife's PIN and she, knows yours?

If you can trust the food and water, your wife serves you.....what is PIN?

"incase if something happens" is a reality we cannot shy away from, no matter how uncomfortable will feel about it

"UNESCO in September announced that Nigeria now has about 20 million out-of-school children"...... Nigeria is sitting on a powder keg.

beejay85:

Doing it d nigerian way..
"Oh am sorry i put ur mum and y'all thru all these"..."its d devil"...i wont do it again...dad sobbs..
"I ll make it up to u...we all going to visit Grandma in Nigeria for Xmas- all expense paid of course by me!!"
Upon arrival in Nigeria u beat the devil out of them...any one still sturrbon- passport seized
,isolate her with Grandma for 2yrs..nigeria has a way of reformatting stubbornness

You can't do that! Their schools in the US would raise questions about their whereabout and even incommunicado with their friends, the relevant authority would visit their father and if he claims he has relocated them to Nigeria to continue schooling, they would demand to video chat with the children and if he resists, he would be arrested and the children would be tracked down in Nigeria by the US Embassy in Nigeria.

BABANGBALI:
no they are Americans based in Afghanistan

At the time I posted what you quoted, the OP only posted the video and a few words that did not include that they are from Uganda and based in the US but having lived and worked in East Africa, I knew they were Ugandans from their accent.

obinna58:
Is this what redpill thought you, after Messing around you still claim right and punish people for it.

Redpill? It doesn't exist in my world.

Kingsmm55:
Really there are things that confuse me ...yes the man cheated or about to...and so fucking what??is it in their place to scold the man??.are they even supposed to have access to the man's phone or even evade his privacy They should also check on their saintly mother.....the man has trained dogs that are biting him ....! They should go and scold their boy friends not their father.....

It shouldn't confuse you as this is a sneak peek of what would become common in the coming years..... children calling out their promiscuous parents and feel cool about posting the bashing.

They are in a country, their father can't do anything to them as he is still obligated to continue to be financially responsible for them despite the bashing, not like in Nigeria the man would have kicked the wife and their children out with many supporting him.

Love the poem.

It makes no sense the entire family travelling at the same time as many thought they would gat accomodation easily upon arrival, only to find themselves staying in an Airbnb for some weeks.

Game plan.

Premium humiliation.

I guess they are Ugandans based in the US.

VictorUSA:
Sir this is real and if i yarn this to my mom, she will curse me.

Curse you because you are "trying" to avoid incest?

VictorUSA:
you won't understand until when you wear my shoes.

Which shoes?

Your tales are unending, on this issue whether real or your imagination.....tell your mother to enforce her sleeping in your mom's room.

You are already aroused by her, your likely being sexual with her is perching around 50-50 because you self no well.

"This is my submission to be Ooni’s 8th wife. I’m also a Medical Doctor and I will represent Twitter and Ekiti community well”.....

truthsayer009:
2013 is a very very long time wow! You should be a grand-mother by now

For your mind!

Those who relocated in the 80s, what would you call them?

jetwonder:
their juju were their parents put hand to become famous turn back and carry those children

Even one whose son died from the complications of sickle cell anemia, is also juju?

Even fools are thought wise when they keep silent; with their mouths shut, they seem intelligent........[Proverbs 17:28]

Very offensive

Karleb:
It is your type that makes people think all women think the same.

Do you know a wife is also a mother and vice versa?

My type? Where did I generalize?

Right from my earlier posts, I have maintained that it is not about mothers vs wives as the OP has projected it. It is so infantile because a mother can never be his son's wife nor is his
wife be his mother, just as it is wrong to ask a woman to choose between her father and her husband.

Our parents have their spaces in our lives just as our spouses do and we should be smart about navigating these relationships in a healthy way.

Karleb:
It takes a terrible wife to think a mother would expect such from his son.

Shey you dey whine me ni?

It is not about a terrible wife "thinking" but even the mindset of a mother who feels because she has "suffered" to raise her son, she has the first and final say on his life...his finances, his marital life, how he raiaes his children ......that is an unhealthy attachment.

Most mothers who have choking grips over their sons, didn't/don't have good themselves and expressing themselves through their sons

The toxic mother-in-law roles Patience Ozokwor played, is not a figment of imagination as they are evident in some families around us.

Karleb:
These women lack foresight.

They can hardly see beyond what's infront of them.

A woman who expects her son to always defer to her and place her above his nuclear family, certainly didn't have a good marriage herself and needs to compensate through her son.

Really rare.

Nice one.

finishmatter:
A man's mother generally loves him no matter what horrors he commit. She would even take a bullet for him while his wife is more likely to put a bullet IN him.

A mother's love is generally unconditional. A wife's love has conditions - one slip up and he will find yourself on his backside.

In this context, should a man love his wife more than his mom?

In this context, he shouldn't even be married in the first place. He can contract a lady for surrogacy, he goes to fertility clinic pay for eggs and have it fertilized, then inseminated into the surrogate mother.

After the child is born, he hands over the baby to his mother to nurture......you see, he doesn't need a wife and there wouldn't be mother vs wife scenario.

Sad.

Richy4:
That was a very good and cool measure...

I can't really blame the parent or domestic staffs on this because it can happen within seconds...

The domestic staff can keep the child in the sitting room to make food in the kitchen, within that little space of 3 mins, something might happen if the kid is the hyper type...

The only fault is not having a barrier to protect the kid from the pool... And I believe in Nigeria, U can basically count households that got barrier around their pool area...

maybe Nigerian government should make that law that mandates swimming pool owner to make a child barrier or fence... it doesn't matter if a kid is in that property or not... This could reduce unbearable losses like this one...

Yes, alongside enlightenment around childproofing our homes as many take the safety of their children in their homes for granted.

They say with toddlers, one second is too long a time to take eyes off them because of their exploratory nature.

Richy4:
What happened to the musician's family actually brought a memory I will never forget for the rest of my life.....

I went to South Africa in 2016 to visit my elder brother and his family...I remembered that it was a winter period... They got a pool at home...

That Saturday morning around 10am, I heard a splash around the pool, I came out to know who has the abnormal body condition to jump inside a pool in a freezing weather condition...

I saw the youngest (6yrs then) and asked him who was inside the pool...He did not answer and was just looking at me,.. then l approached the pool...

My dear sister, it wasn't a good sight to see... My nephew (8yrs then) was struggling inside the deepest part of the pool, consuming all the chlorine inside the pool..I didn't wait to remove clothe or shoes, I jumped in...

It turned out that both of them were playing around the pool he pushed him inside the pool...Since that day, If I hear stories like this, the memory of my nephew fighting inside that pool came back....I have tried to wipe out that look I saw from my head but it couldn't just go..

Though he is a big boy now representing his school on lawn tennis, he's still afraid of swimming according to his father...

We just have to make effort to be extremely observant. When I worked in a children residential setting that had kids between 9 and 15 (about 4 of them), upon resuming shift, part of the handing over procedure was to count and record the number of knives and other Sharp objects, have it locked up in a safe and if one needs it in the kitchen, you collect key of the office and take it out of the safe and
have it recorded and signed, they must be placed back immediately after use and signed again.

The windows of their rooms are checked frequently, to make sure the window stopper have not been breached.

Bleach must NEVER be in the house, else....

UK government no dey play with child safety, reason one MUST undergo several trainings in so many child related safety courses before one can be employed to work with children, so when gbege happen, you can't claim ignorance

Richy4:
It's a serious law in some country like Australia to put child resistance barrier in all pools whether a child is living in that property or not.... No one jokes with that law...And that has saved a lot of kids from drowning...
Noone can be sure when those little bundle of joy can crawl out or walk out just to make a splash... But that can prevent them from entering...

Risk assessments in the home is very important especially when children are around, I brought up that when I saw the video of Davido in the pool with the son and saw no noticeable barrier around it as children are naturally drawn to water because of its sensory stimulations. Many tend to ignore childproofing their home.

I discouraged a couple from having a swimming pool in their home because they have 3 under 9 children and one happens to be autistic. Autistic children are more drawn to water and likely to drown, so it made sense not to even have one at all, no matter the "supervision" one thinks would be put in place.

Sad.

All these online universities that sell degrees.

Vision101:
You live abroad. I can understand. That's how Nigerian women abroad think.

The man has given you two options....invest in family name and you have your marriage....invest in your name and you have a divorce.

Choose one and case closed.

Threaten a Nigerian woman living abroad with divorce, especially one her family sponsored her going there.......this must be a joke.

Nancyashu:
He has continued building on this assets. This is something I have been meaning to do even before I got married. I don't think marriage should deter me from achieving a long term goal of mine. I just want to know if it's wrong. Cos regardless of whether I am in a marriage or not, I have the right to financial security as long as I am keeping the goals of my family in check.

Don't be a bystander, invest also in assets as life is unpredictable.

As if LASG have not been benefitting from the extortions.

Endorsement indeed.

Obi will be roped into the discussion.