₦airaland Forum

Motherteresa:
May other young girls date your husband and make him spend his life savings on her ,
While she is at this, may you go through worse emotional, mental and physical trauma this woman went thru,
May the young girl also block your husband after all his investment in her that should have been spent on his family.
At the end, may you and your children be thrown out of the streets, and then you can have GENUINE EMPATHY for what you caused this poor woman and be truly broken in your spirit.

Until you go and confess and beg that woman for forgiveness, your money means nothing to her... and I pray and hope for your sake that the husband did not die because of your actions...

Why did the man invest on a sidechick?

She is but one who came forward, what about the other likely sidechicks the man wasted resources on?

Water9430:
he is actually suggesting something that work, and I have tried this ( my wife) if your next question is have you seen it work.

That it worked for your wife, doesn't mean it is good for the baby. That is alcohol and would want you to google and extensively read the risk of consumption of alcohol poses on the development of a baby's brain which tend to be more reflective at school going age.

fleshbone:
Maybe not. I would rather we advocate that parents get the right knowledge an do so.

My fear is not how innocent the intention seem. But what it grow up to become.

Kids are enlightened on gender selection as well. God forbid. I don't want my male child knowing they can identify as female or vice versa. And this is already happening in the so called advanced country.

A male child can decide to go into the female rest room and claim he identifies as a female.

Like I said, the fear remains what it become.

Who is to provide that "right knowledge" to parents?

At what age did he start school, I mean Kindergarten?

Lotechi:
I relocated in 2019 for my Masters degree, and that is by far the best decision I have made in my life.

Good to know. I also did my Msc in the UK , which boosted my skillsets in working with children and adolescents.

fleshbone:
My boss lives in the UK and said he had to ask the school to exempt his daughter from the sex education class - Grade 7. He said the school went as far as showing videos to the kids (true/false but there's nothing the west won't do to make the world crazy). Though this is the most inefficient Minister of Education we've ever had, I am with him that parents should take control of the sex education of their children (Not any religious leader).

Is your boss and his wife offering their daughter sexual education at home?

Kobojunkie:
Did this ruling happen to depend on the type of marriage - traditional or court- that the two had between them or the state where it was officiated?

Mind including a link to the video please.

The marriage was under customary law.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jdamPbxBiGQ


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ha6Ra89DrbY

Exceed15:
.yes

Coincidentally, I was watching a program on YouTube, Justice Court (recorded in Lagos)
when I just saw your mention. In that case, the Judge clearly told the man who has remarried that by law, the 2 children with the ex-wife will remain with their mother and would only spend time with him during holidays but obligated to pay their fees directly to their school, hospital bills directly to the hospital and the amount he would be sending monthly to the ex-wife for their children' upkeeps...that is the law of Lagos State not sentiments nor cultural beliefs.

naniawini:
baby no go high ni

Don't ever try that Palm wine suggestion as you would indirectly feed your baby with alcohol which is a huge risk to brain development.

naniawini:
Flourish is saying “Hi”

Beautiful baby you have there

Add fenugreek seed/powder to your pap, it helps breastfeeding mothers in milk production.

amliftedhigher:
Even if you regret it you will never tell us

Why should I regret studying and working in the field I have aspired for, in a more conducive environment?

When it is almost done, do let me know so I can start sorting out my pap.

Deeprooted:
Parents in the house, kindly suggest ways to stop a 2-year old from bed wetting.


Note: He just stopped using Pampers last month.

Abeg, let your toddler wet in peace .....no pressure as his brain still believes he still wears his diapers.

Just less consumption of liquid at night and waking him up intermittently to ease himself.

ukandi1:
I really hope you do

Or do you have an insight, you do like to share?

Let your husband be the one to do the talking.

ukandi1:
U won't understand

I already understand what I want to.

jeromestarks:
Don't worry. The Op will soon meet her own problem too. The problem will be greater than what anyone around her can handle. She might even commit suicide.

Nature is designed such that nothing goes to waste.
Everyone pays eventually.

Commit suicide for having been a side chick, say wetin happen

World over,what is the statistics of side chicks, who have committed suicide because they slept with married men?

The problem here is the man left his family behind, homeless and penniless. I know you are very angry on behalf of the dead man for being dumped, a sidechick do not owe you loyalty, na transaction......know this and know peace.

pasuma:
A fool that thought himself to be wise, that's what you are..

What made you think he didn't plan for his family Do you know if it's the relative that took over his belongings or he spent all in sickness before death or it's even the wife that is responsible for their present situation

Think before spewing rubbish ignorantly instead encourage the lady to do her charitable work

Feel free to spew whatever you feel like, it does not in any way bother me as I don't take it personal because I work your type regularly in the psychiatric wards.

Yes, he planned for his family but his relative took over his belongings as in his properties were legally secured in the name of his wife and children but his relative still had the means to convert them to his?

Man was promiscuous, wasted resources on a young adult in exchange for sex up to the extent of facilitating her relocation abroad, what he didn't do for his wife and children.

The lady was smart enough to cut him off because it was transactional, you give me your money in exchange of my body. Who knows how many other sidechicks he had after the lady dumped him in 2011 and the diseases he bagged along the way?

The man messed up big time, infidelity is not cheap.....his wife and children are now paying for it.

kabukabu50:
Nigeria is lacking behind in health infrastructure.

The entire country can't boast of a single bone marrow transplant center

If you have cancer or any sort of heart disease,you are pretty much a goner in Nigeria.

If you have a stroke,ambulance is over an hour away or even never.

Get stopped on the highway in Nigeria by kidnappers
Police is not showing up

Pensioners can go years without their monthly payments in Nigeria

The negatives far outweigh any benefits

Regarding health especially mental health, Nigeria with a population of over 200 million people has less than 500 Psychiatrists available to them while the UK with a population of about 69 million people has about 15,000 Psychiatrists and they are still complaining of shortage of staff

ariesbull:
lol

Don't be surprised since that 2013 that dude never come back... To afford air ticket easy?

Eyah, how much be a return ticket from London to Lagos? . Even some of those working as live in carers who earn decently every week after tax, I guess can't also afford it?

Lekan239:
lol. If you have not make it big since you relocate there, then you are using Nigeria present situation to console your self

I am not complaining.....life is good.

malali:
Why do individuals with an autism spectrum disorder diagnosis have a higher risk of drowning?
We have found that 4 main factors contribute to the increased risk of drowning for children on the autism spectrum:

Wandering or Bolting
A characteristic of those on the autism spectrum is that they can be impulsive and this contributes to them being unsafe around water.
Attraction
They are attracted to the glistening light and movement of the water and love the experience of feeling the water surrounding their body.
Lack of Experience
Often drowning anxiety from parents/caregivers, leads to an avoidance of water or an individual’s behavioral challenges, or fear of the water, can lead to ‘putting off’ swimming lessons.
Lack of training
Parents often experience challenges in finding swim instructors with the specialized training necessary to be able to teach their child how to swim.

Autism is not new to me as I know more about it than you think but my question remains, why posting it in different threads?

abokikhalifa:
No worry, when one 19 year old girl collect your husband from you, you will understand better.

Is a man a goat, that would be dragged away against his will?

Focus on the key lesson, invest your resources in your wife and children not side chicks.

malali:
Ifeanyi Adeleke was autistic.
His death reeks of orchestration.
Societal stigma of rich wealthy people having autistic children should be softened.


#Autism speaks.

What is your aim with your littering of this same post in different threads?

Carcholce:
The man is dead, he has already faced condemnation for his wrong life choices.


But the OP here must have subjected the man to make the poor choices that one way or the other must have led to the man’s demise. The question and condemnation should be directed at the OP because many years have passed and who knows how many more married men are going to die in the near future because of her.

Fidelity in a marriage is the sole responsibility of the couples involved not an outsider.

A 35 year old man at that time started a relationship with OP who was 19 and still an Adolescent by World Health Organization's classification, is the one who subjected him to make poor choices in life, same man who probably was constantly reminding his wife who is way older than the 19 year old that he is the boss in their home?

Every married person, be it male or female must take full responsibility and let not lust, guide him or her.

Infidelity is poisoned chalice.

faceland:
You escaped. Many of our people are in denial.

True though I respect every individual's decision to either stay back or seek better opportunities outside Nigeria but I just knew I had to relocate that year.

Carcholce:
See what you did here, Women are very crafty. See the way you condemned the man and removed the OP from every faults. What will you teach your daughters?

At 19 She was more than matured to turn down the “married” man’s advances but She accepted to ruin his home, used him to travel abroad and eventually contributed to his death.

She "accepted" to ruin his home?

Why did the man in the first place "offer" her the opportunity to ruin his home, so his wife and children he is obligated to protect means nothing to him because of sex?

If he had other sidechicks, are they obligated to help his wife and children now?

ariesbull:
we have been there... Dude when you start paying folks hourly come let's talk... I dolt talk to hourly earning folks...

Like noted earlier, low cognitive ability.

If someone bills you $58 per hour for their skillset, your type go become disoriented.

Carcholce:
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You must have contributed to what killed him.
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By breaking the heart of a married man?

I guess she dragged him away from his wife and children, put a gun on his head to spend time and money on her, a man supposedly the physical and spiritual head of his family?

Madampauline:
She knows me well

Do it anonymously since she knows about the affair. Her husband failed to secure his family's future but rather spent on his infidelity thus leaving his family penniless and homeless upon his demise.

You can go on and help with accommodation, so she can have all her 5 children with her and assist her with money for business.

ariesbull:
so how many clinics do you have or are you busy earning per hour... Is your purpose in life to earn per house been paid by others to you...

I pay others and that is my purpose... I have been to abroad and I know Nigerians are living rat race

In as much you exhibit low cognitive ability, you can as well ask a medical doctor working in Mayo Clinic in the US, how many clinics he or she owns or a Vice-chancellor how many universities he/she owns.

I don't know you neither do you know me, so how does your paying others be any of my business? What is wrong in one's productivity be rated hourly, in terms of remuneration?

That you have been to abroad and know Nigerians living rat race, how does that connect to me?

I don't demean anyone of any nationality whose livelihood is tied to minimum wage or even less, in any part of the world as that is their reality even though I work only 4 days a week.

ariesbull:
are you now richer Than INNOSON, AIRPEACE, JIM OVIA OR SLOT

Do I need to be richer than the names mentioned to feel connected to my purpose in life?

I am in the field of Clinical Child Psychology, my dream is not be another "INNOSON, AIRPEACE, JIM OVIA OR SLOT"....I am proud of my path, one I deliberately chose.