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Way better than killing themselves.

She should go get a job.

Fiscus105:
Since u brilant than Freud that gave out the theory.....afterall naija always knowest than thou, yet society is going backward....but for me, I insist denial (in form repression)

That's (Something really happened to u but u behave as if not existence, if u re not mad u will know that its in existence)

One clear example, Nigeria is disunited but keep singing one Nigeria.

Bye .

Freud himself distinguished the difference between Denial and Repression!

When asked to list defense mechanisms, "Denial by Repression" , doesn't come up!

Fiscus105:
Google is ur friend....browse denial (psychology

He will explain for u

I do not need to google because it is part of Freud's psychoanalytic theory taught in details to those who majored in Psychology, they are part of my educational background and my daily working life.

Fiscus105:
In psychology, there is something they called "denial by repression". Meaning, denying obvious as if it's not happening. At my bolded,it's nothing but truth in reality.


They asked about reasons why women fear divorce than men and I told you biggest reasons, if you like accept if you like deceiving urself from reality.

Uncle, in Psychology there is nothing like "denial by repression" as denial and repression are two distinct defense mechanisms.

Promicah:
This my family story is something else.

My elder sis got pregnant out of wedlock and the guy that got her pregnant wasn't aware. So, she travelled to Abuja to stay with her friend, who told her to come over to learn hair plaiting business.

So my sister called the guy and told him and he was surprised and he refused to take responsibility.

To cut some details, her friend suggested she should meet someone at a close by hospital in Lugbe to sell the child.

She added that she shouldn't tell the guy. My sis refused and immediately her friend started treating her badly.

Last two weeks, she delivered a boy. It was like hell went loose. The friend kept maltreating her. Thank God for the woman who she's learning braiding hair from. She do bathe the boy.

Now, my sis just told me on Sunday that her friend chased her out of her house. She is staying with the woman that is teaching her hair with her family. I pity this young lad. What should I do now mature people here? I'm just a student.
Nlfpmod I need a wider view. God bless you mod.

What is your family doing about bringing her and your nephew back home?

GabrielVOG:
Hello everyone,
I’m an average guy but my girlfriend is shorter not just short but she has a small stature hoping if she will add up soon��... the true is that I really love her and she loves me too, but deep down in me I always feel if we are compatible due to her stature

Please I need an advice because the way I feel for her I’ll love to spend the rest of my life with her but still considering If it’ll affect our children?

Specify your height and that of your girlfriend's.

Fiscus105:
One thing is certain, women scare divorce because perceived devalued outside marriages. Also, one thing is 100%, different kinds of guys and men ask divorce out farrrrrrr more than married women. They asked them out not for remarried on many occasions but just to use them to relieve tensions

Have you pondered on the reasons, a Nigerian woman based with her Nigerian husband somewhere like in the UK, US etc will be more at ease divorcing from her Nigerian husband?

Lepon02:
Is the JSS2 student old enough?

If yes, then i see no problem.

Married man can resolve any issue with his wife, young girl will have to live with the consequences as long as she wasnt abused, she is of legal age and it was consensual.

What is your definition of "old enough"?

There is nothing consensual about it, before the law she was abused being a minor and the Police will arrest him for defilement.

Impressive, it would stimulate learning.

Courtesy of APC.

Evolutionlove:
Infact Immediately I saw that Thread, What you Just posted was what came on my mind with full speed. I will continue to sat It. Most Nigerians are "Extremely Mad People With Serious Mental Issues" I'm not sorry to say this. A failed and deeply rotten nonsensical society. Tueh..

Which one be serious mental issues?

ahnie:
I think a man once complained about this same boy last month.


How Dem dey always locate themselves to nairaland still de surprise me

The "man" and the "boy" is the same person.

Mother murdered by their father, father will be spending the rest of his life in prison....I feel for the children left behind.

There is nothing heroic about hanging on to a toxic marriage.

Blackgurl247:
Lols

How old is she?

Biglittlelois:
The annoying fact of this story is that, Op won't take care of the kids on his own, he will push them to a relative or another woman that will abuse and batter them, he simply forcefully got those kids to spite the wife.

He has NO RIGHT to push them to a relative or another woman when the judge has not granted him the freedom to do so, the birth mother (ex-wife) has every ground to sue if such happens because that is an indication he has no capacity to be their primary caregiver.

HarlequinLekex:
She should not divorce so her children won't be suffering from the effect of broken home.

The home is already "broken", ending the marriage is what is best for the woman and their son. He should be free to have more with other women but must make sure he tells them before hand that he is aversed to providing for his children before one whey her nut lose sort him out.

Helpout12345:
How you people end up marrying this kind of women ?

Please take good care of your children. As for the woman, give her some taste of her bitter pill for some time before you allow her visitation to the children.

If she gets visitation rights from the court as the noncustodial parent, OP can not decide when to allow the visits because the judge would decide that.

So wrong.

He is already messed up.

Betterone:
Not when he's sold his properties to japa

Then he should focus on his hustle.

anthonyuncle:
take those kids to a female relative or friend at a secured location.
they need a mother at this stage of their lives

Has the court declared the birth mother unfit to actively be in the lives of their children, where a female relative of his or a "friend" is better capacitated to provide maternal care?

[quote author=Richy4 post=117547870][/quote]Na question I ask o.

Which state is she residing?

NeckingNgulping:
Will you get yourself in such situation or not?

A man who intends marrying a lady who is still schooling away from his base, certainly has to factor in the duration she still have left there.

Which type of help do you need?

Is she expected to drop out because she got married?

Buhari's presidency is winding down.

Another way to say, no comment.

He wants to put his loyalists as local government chairpersons.

FFK is loyalty for hire.