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Advocating for what he cannot accept, if the table is turned.

The hypocrisy is that, these same people would vehemently reject a Southern Muslim-Northern Christian ticket not to even talk of Christian-Christian ticket!

They want others to accept what they cannot tolerate.

Fiscabally:
Alright, thanks for the info

You are welcome.

Fiscabally:
Na wa oh

Drop by Catholic Parishes near you and ask for the St. Vincent de Paul society of the Parish to see if they have baby items in their collections.

I see guns blazing in a knife fight!

Humge is bad.

spiritualmubi:
Only did that when I was admitted, for now it is only medication and regular follow up in the hospital

I understand as our health system is poorly organized as you ought to be accessing psychotherapy alongside your medication.

spiritualmubi:
I was diagnosed at 18 by a psychiatrist. It is an ailment that it's relapse happens occassionally if drugs aren't taken or cos of too much stress. My first encounter with it mandated me to stay for two months in a psychiatry.

Okay. Are you offered psychotherapy alongside your medication?

DAMIMONY:
Learn to arrange your words with sense,mk it simple.your grammar is confusing you, making what you say useless

I still insist you have no calling nor the skills to be a counsellor.

Fahdiga:
That's what a good wife will say to her husband. Osinbajo needs the support of his loved ones at the moment before he runs towards third mainland bridge

Third mainland bridge because he is yet to achieve what you have achieved academically and politically?

Kidnappers are having a field day.

DAMIMONY:
Are you an oppressive mother?are you always on social media?are you promisious?are you an insultive mother? Are you a power toxic person? Are you the type that curse ur kids? Are you the type that claims superiority? Are you the know all mother?Are you a moody mother.please check yourself,check where you went all wrong,check how you have treated this boys without apology,check what they have caught you doing.consider that this guy's hustle to maintain their self.its the little care and love he couldn't get from you that's making him spend on a little girl.be careful what next you do else you might loose them forever.wisdom is not power,not by age.send me your number for more counseling.but u Bleep up that I know

With such thinking, you have no business being a counsellor because you would seriously struggle with unconditional positive regard.

GloriousGbola:
@mindlog, methinks this gentleman is throwing words about. Paranoid schizophrenia is nothing like what he is describing

He has to be clinically diagnozed by a Psychiatrist for him to say that is the disorder he is living with not only basing it on what he read online because some disorders overlap each other.

[quote author=Movingon5 post=113647553][/quote]Congratulations, I can imagine the happiness you are experiencing having the children back with you.

It proves going legal is the best way, so that each party can defend their position before the court.

Please do create a new thread to highlight the legal process that got the children brought back to you, so others can learn from it.

EdwardRandy:
There's nothing wrong if he uses a belt on his kids, my dad did same to me and today I'm a better man. What matters is how he does it using the belt, he doesn't have to beat them like criminals.

It is interesting reading views on the "effectiveness" of using belts and other "tools" in instilling values in children....hmm.

thrillionaire:
Using the belt or "rod" once in a while is an effective way, don't be e naive. The whites you're trying to copy are dealing with delinquent youths now shooting everywhere up at the slightest issue.

Trying to copy the whites? Nah, my perspective is based on my specialization in Clinical Child Psychology here in Cambridge and continuous research on Conduct Disorders (CD) and Oppositional Defiant Disorders (ODD) in children and adolescents from a multicultural perspective.

ibechris:
My Bible recommended a rod...so I don't even see any wrong in using a belt after all,my neighbours used 2.5mm wire while we were kids on his children yet,they turned out well in life.

What works for u can't and will never for me. Parenting is a serious business for responsible parents.

Na talk like this dey make some children feel say them dey Europe or America.

Oga,we are Africans okey?

"Do not with- hold discipline from your son; if you beat him with a rod, he will not die" (Prov 23:13).

Yes, we are Africans and the use of 2.5mm wire as a means of discipline I would believe has made us better adjusted adults than the Europeans and Americans you mentioned.

If you happen to find yourself relocating to Europe or North America with your family in the future, Uncle person no go tell you to readjust.

In parenting, know when you cross over from disciplining to abusing and that is responsible parenting

ibechris:
I picked my belt to beat my children yesterday,and lo and behold my wife said,I should take it easy before they will hate me when they become adult. I then asked,is it that women aren't good in training up children or what?...although we laughed it off

U see,my father beat the hell out of us when we little children and today, I cherished the discipline,the shouting and all sorts as an adult and I have come to love my dad more as my mum never like us to be caned.

Today,many women are complaining just like the above,but how does that solve the problem when the problem couldn't be nipped in the bud at a tender age.

This is no time to complain,have u sat down with them instead of whining and complaining. I remembered those days when my father used to stand us up for close to 2hours talking sense to us.,in fact,my immediate younger brother would be standing and sleeping but in all,it all turned out good today.

Solution:

Ground them, but reasonably. Grounding children is an age-old disciplining technique. ...
Take away privileges. ...
Your house, your rules. ...
Let them face the consequences. ...
Do not issue commands. ...
Let them mend things. ...
Give them more responsibilities. ...
Befriend them.

Come up with more effective ways of disciplining your children without having to use belt on them.

Nice initiative.

Hmm.... will the core Northern feel represented by a VP who is a Northerner but Christian?

Get your male relatives and that of your late husband's to get involved in talking to them though I doubt anything much coming from it because those adolescents are already set in their ways as you ignored so many red flags.

It is high time, you live apart from them so that they can fend for themselves.

Political clowns, everywhere you go!

Chamakh93:
I have this same eye issue. My eyelid is also black . it started when I was very young , I will scratch my eyes till I begin to see stains of blood on the cloth that I am using to scratch it. I use to enjoy it. As at then , I used to feel the urge to scratch it every night around 7pm. After scratching , I will now have swollen and red eye balls. Although, it has reduced drastically now , I only feel the urge to scratch maybe once in 5months or more sef.

For those saying the OP should see a doctor , una no know anything. There was roughly no drug I didn't use wen I was younger ,from eye ointment to eye drops . He no gree go. Till tomorrow , doctors could not get the name eye problem , they will just keep recommending eye drops for you.

Did you see a general practitioner or an ophthalmologist?

Disheartening

What was the result of the tests you did? I am assuming the ophthalmic exam was done by an ophthalmologist.

When it comes to issues relating to the eyes, self-medication is a VERY dangerous pathway.

De Emeka, never stood a chance and should redirect his effort towards senatorial or gubernatorial position.

Hmm.... should Tinubu win today and being Muslim, who will be the Christian from the North that would run as his Vice?

As if he stood a chance of winning.

inspectorg:
Africans and CLOUT chasing ehn!!


Like I don't get it ; who is supposed to be donating to who?? , a kingdom in Canada to Benin or the reverse.

Abeg somebody should explain to me, so dat I will be calming down ooooh!!!.

Na so we see am!

There certainly are dilapidated health facilities in Warri.

KiNg0G:
you as always can never understand

You got a minor to pay for your alcohol, even if it is a teaspoon of it and still believe you did the right thing.