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awoo10:
Obi would have been a better choice...Peter Obi made a big political miscalculation, he shouldn't have come pit yet for the presidency, he ought to have supported the Atiku candidacy, help him win with his SE votes...this will surely align him for the presidency in rhe next 8years which would have definitely been the South turn again, by then he would have had a massive Northern support...With this mistake Obi will forever be at the fringes of power...I love the man, but he didn't choose his fight rightly...

8 years is too long in politics to be certain that Obi would continue from Atiku if he was his Vice, is Atiku still talking about serving only term as President if elected?

That is brutal!

Uprightness100:
The rotten apple, aka Nomerica is officially the capital of lawlessness and Newyork is the Headquarters of today's Sodom and Gomorrah.

The city has become a den of all sorts of dirty and evil habits. Physically it is a full blown mess .

The Destruction and annihilation of Nomerica and its evil cities is just a settled matter.

We are living in the Last seconds of the Last Moments.. The Coming of JESUS Christ is sooo near.

Your hyperreligiosity is just a settled matter!

What motivated him to marry with such income, should continue to motivate him.

Ekweremadu is desperate!

Raalsalghul:
I'm not moved by all these tales.

We keep complaining but avoid those uncomfortable discussions that'll make this country better.

Thank God say I never born; it's just me, myself and I.

Worst case scenario, I go soak garri with salt drink.

Add a little groundnut to the mix, I had it for lunch today .

On what grounds can a mother-in-law take a child away from the birth mother? :

tollyboy5:
It would be regulated

Regulated? If psychotropic drugs that ought to be under strict control is floating around easily in Nigeria, you think it is guns that can be regulated?

The bandits, unknown gunmen, kidnappers etc, how far has the government gone in recovering the guns they operate with?

Cursed or not, disowned or not....as long as she is still under 18 and gets involved in a situation that involves the Police, your parents must show up at the Police station by fire by force.

GloriousGbola:
The fucking bet naija shops are like 711s. There are now three along my daily walk. If you take accident hook, you are done. No way you can avoid them.

Behavioural addiction like gambling tend to be more difficult to deal with than substance addiction because the gambler tend to rationalize that at least he is not taking substance like the alcoholic etc.

It takes so much willpower not to get yourself into any of those betting shops and like you said once hooked, you are gone!

Worked in rehabs and knew that addiction psychologiy wasn't my calling as I regard it as trying to fill a basket with water, I opted for another specialization.... can't kill me myself!

I hope the police have taken her to Aro Neuropsychiatric Hospital for psychiatric evaluation before anything else, she looks
like someone experiencing catatonia.

Gainman:
I am not supporting gambling. Has he started doing that before you married or after. And if is after you married, can u say what might push him into gambling?

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Did I create this thread? It seems you are struggling with identifying who the OP is!

A gambler is the only one, who can authentically tell what pushed him/her into gambling, not another.

In rehab, the addict is the one asked how he/she became an addict not the spouse!

It is so sad that after dispossessing him, they still killed him.

Gainman:
yes I don't support men gambling but I put it to that leaving him can't solve your problem. What of if a man leave u when u have one bad character,what will u tell d world? For your information,50% men gamble. And they gamble because they don't have better option to make money.though gambling is not an option. He is not in this because of himself but in order to win money to cater for his family. I believe as u plan to leave him today, if by chance he won 5m today through bet,u will not leave him again. If u leave him I know u mean business. If is your brother wife or your son wife that is planning to leave,will u take it like this? I can only agree with u blaming him if he has money and not bother to care about u and d children or he's lazy to work.
I will tell u no man is happy not be able to run his home financially. Instead to help him spiritually with prayers now u want to add to his problem. U are happy doing this because u already have what u wanted from him. That's d children. You want to replace your husband with your children. Don't do to him what u don't want another woman to do to your son.

Don't mistake me for the creator of this thread.

Being a pathological gambler is way beyond "bad character' but a mental health disorder!

Please do send me links to researchs that reached the conclusion that 50% of men, gamble.

You think it is only men who are financially struggling, that gambles? You certainly need to read wide and be more observant!

"If by chance" is the anthem of gambling addicts when they zoom into their
daydreaming zone .

How many gambling addicts around you have achieved sustainable means of livelihood to cater for their families through gambling?

If the OP's husband wins N5m today, he would "re-invest"at least N4m back into gambling. Read up on neurotransmitters in relation to gambling.

lilyheaven:
her husband loves her, he is only addicted to something, which he has been even before they said I DO.
she should find away around it , with love and respect.
her husband will change, it's not by gra gra .

Love and respect does not help an addict change, don't oversimplify gambling.

It is a mental health disorder that an addict don't have control over and can't choose when to SWITCH OFF because it is neurologically compulsive.

Many seek professional help only when they have hit rock bottom and unfortunately dragging their families down with them.

Not being present for an intimate partner
who is a gambling addict, is one of ways of helping the addict as most times the presence is an enabler.

Gainman:
I know u will not tell us d truth. If u want better future for your children u better stay with him. Women shaa. If u don't have small money dat is deceiving u,u will not say u will leave your husband or if your husband is rich

How do children benefit from a father who is a pathological gambler, please do share.

pocohantas:
And drop their account numbers everywhere to gamble yet again. Yet they say gambling is not a problem. Retards.

Many choose to live in denial that gambling disorder is a mental health issue.

enumerica:
I said it, women are marrying men for economic gain. Once the gain is off they move. I can never have mercy on women in this life.

Women don't need your mercy, you and the women need God's mercy.

Richy4:
It's really hard to imagine honestly..

I personally can't deal because I know I would develop Panic disorder.

Richy4:
<<It is wrong..

<<if your brother in law is working as u claimed, Then common sense should have told him to get a one star hotel or a cheap place where both of them can have quality few hours together if they can't help it...Not taking his brother's kind heart and your sister's magnanimity for granted...

<<They can always come back when they have had their fun, and can still pretend to be virgins to none prying eyes.. instead of inconveniencing you..

<<Honestly, your sister is a sweet heart... Just one room and a parlour and she got mixed multitude? Honestly both u and your brother in-law are not supposed to be there.. assuming it was 3 or four bedrooms... Then..

Just reading it made me feel claustrophobic, imagining that confined space with 5 adults moving around!

blazingblender:
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Pope Francis kwa
Oh na
But i want to ask
Why is it that the igbos are mostly Catholic
Abi Are they the foundation of Catholic church in Nigeria??

The eariy Catholic missionaries found Igboland fertile to spread the Faith and the Catholic Church played a key role helping the refugees during the Biafra/Civil war and also sow the seeds of Religious vocations among young men and women that has translated to the interest in becoming Priests and Reverend Sisters over the decades especially after the war.

The Catholic Church was the major driver of Western education in Igboland as there is always a school attached to a Parish over the century.

Gabby2022:
Bro code I guess,they share a close relationship.

I am just imagining how many beds are in that space, where the husband and wife sleeps, the younger brother and his girlfriend sleeps then you!

deborah29:
4- 4.5kg ma

Price?

Gabby2022:
They both spend majority of their time at work,its only twice a week all of us are gathered

Ok but it is still very wrong bringing a girlfriend into a married sibling's home! I am wondering why your brother-in-law (your sister's husband) allowed the girl to come stay!

You mean the entire space where your sister, her husband, his younger brother, you and now the girlfriend stay, is a room and parlour self-contain?

HUSTLER001:
kindly tell me where in all of these have i lied? If you check,they where threads i created based on necessity as at that time. Anyone can have problem at any time. Just because this is a public forum doesn't reserve the right to just creep into people privacy.I just can't believe how someone would think i made this up. Okay i was into selling female slides and so what? Did you check my previous threads to see my products. Someone wanted me to pay a certain sum for registration for a job at a time i was broke and so what? My wife got pregnant and so what? As far as my conscience is clear i don't care about your opinions. I'm a hustler and i do anything legal to put food on my table.

I guess doing anything legal to put food on your table includes creating multiple Nairaland accounts since 2020 to solicit for fund's thus making it your source of income?

No one ran him street, he self-sabotaged

I can relate because my cousins stopped my Aunt from selling smoked fish at Oyingbo market which was what she used to raise them. It was really difficult convincing her, it took almost 2 years to get her to leave because it was no longer about the money but having to stop seeing her fellow market women who have been part of her life, her customers over the years who have become friends etc.

They got her a shop close to where she now lives, a walking distance. They stocked it with a deep freezer and a fridge alongside drinks that is being delivered to her shop regularly.

She opens her shop at 8a.m as against the 4.30a.m she left home for Oyingbo market , for over 2 decades. She goes back home at 1p.m for her lunch and a nap and re-opens the shop at around 3p.m and closes for the day at 8p.m and by then the little girl living with her, who is in secondary school is back from her evening lessons and has prepared supper.

No matter how financially comfortable we become and wants our parents to rest and enjoy, we should get them something not stressful to be in engaged in. Boredom is not good for their mental wellbeing.

After all these complaints, you will still invite another girl to your house because you need them to come to your place, so who is the one that can't do without?

Fraudsters prowling, looking for who would be stupid enough to send them money.

You got a LAPO loan, secured a POS machine and gave your brother to manage the business, while you were doing what?

Sweetmaama:
Thanks for the advice, all you said still have to do with funds. Remember, I live in Rivers state. Relocating is like starting all over and I have away from Lagos state for long years ago. I do not have friends there.

You should not be relocating with your family, you move to Lagos alone while they stay behind till you stabilize.

I don't know if the building is partitioned into flats or it is a a face-me-I-face-you, whichever you have to issue quit notice to tenant(s) presently living in the space that would serve you as your living quarter ( a room for now) and the remaining space for the tutorial centre and give other tenants quit notice as you expand.

You already have the most critical thing, which is the building, so you have to be resourceful as reality is that banks would not financing you at this stage and loan apps, a very frightful option.