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At his age, there is nothing much that can be done. Just make provisions for your mum to spend time away from him, intermittently.

Has the Authoritarian style of parenting which is more of the default in Nigeria helped to raise well adjusted people.

There is nothing wrong in being in touch with one's emotions irrespective of gender but emotional regulation is KEY.

Awol1:
Lol.

My Igbo brothers are gonna cash out fulltime.

Our Aba brothers are gonna delay supply just so they can hike price.

Those selling in Lagos will have to take their cut too.

"Ala ari mma, wu uru ndi nze"

See Owerri dialect!

Babies learn to sit independently between the ages of 4 and 7 months, by the 8th month they should have achieved that developmental milestone unless there is a presence of Rickets which causes weak, soft bones and such a child should be taken quickly to see a pediatric occupational therapist for early intervention and it would be corrected.

OP, there is no cause for worry since you said she is very strong physically, kicking and everything. Give her more time and she would achieve it.

Eternal rest grant unto him, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him. May his soul and all the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen.

NextD18:
Any marriage without a son is statistically proven unsuccessful.

So you haven't seen separated/divorced couples with sons?

Acidosis:
In whatever you do or read, please note that the very fact that a man and a woman live together as husband and wife doesn't necessarily mean their marriage is "successful". Being together for one, two or three decades is not a true test of marital success. You can't be tolerating your spouse or threatening divorce and tell me your marriage is successful.

This thread to the best of my knowledge is not for homes where tolerance and endurance are the main ingredients. Love is supposed to rule, not tolerance and endurance for rubbish. Please take note OP. You can't be enduring rubbish and tell me you're successful.

I agree with you as many do mistake years couples hang on to toxic marriages as successful.

dubajek:
Please gurus in the house, can you recommend any university that can offer me masters in social work with accounting background.
Thanks

Also had my first degree in accounting, lost interest in it. Went back to school to get a bachelors in counseling psychology, now am going for my masters at Swansea University come September as I intend specializing as a Child and Adolescent therapist. I encourage you contact as many schools as possible, you may get lucky.

There are always an exception.

They make fortunes from estimated billing.

Dependent Personality Disorder is what he is dealing with.

cyndy1000:
Are u a clinical Psychologist?

A Counseling Psychologist

NaBanga:
Henry, I have a friend just like you. There are people talking to him. There are 3 people following him. What he does is listen to music all day to drown out the voices. He also gets a medication from his doctor, that he takes when he needs to make the voices rest. Find your favorite music and listen to it. Take your music with you wherever you go. See a psychiatric doctor and get the right medicine. You don't have to take the medicine all the time. It's for when you need to rest. I wish you the best.

Please NEVER advise anyone on Antipsychotic medication to take it whenever he/she feels like, there must be high adherence to frequency and dosage.

crackkhaus:
You understood him I see.

Are the soldiers real or in his head?
What has the church got to do with it?

It is called persecutory delusion, it is one of the feelings that ticks schizophrenia.

From what you shared, there is an indication of schizophrenia though you need to see a psychiatrist for diagnosis. The hearing of voices (auditory hallucinations), fear, persecutory delusion are some of the signs that you are very likely schizophrenic. The psychiatrist would prescribe you antipsychotic drugs and this must be accompanied with psychotherapy, both one-on-one and family/group therapy.

You will feel better when there is high adherence to your medication and therapy sessions.

Also stating you live with sickle cell anemia, there is the issue of comorbidity, make the Psychiatrist aware of this so that he/she will put that into consideration while making prescription.

LaaJiblik:
Go to UK job sites such as CV Library, Indeed, Total jobs etc...
Look search for your dream Play Therapy Job.
Look very carefully at the desired attributes.
Have a checklist and see which of the requirements you surpass.
When you have satisfied yourself that your experience and qualification puts you in the 75th percentile of applicants, then you are Good to Go

NB: I saw this type of advise from someone on Nairaland, and I think it was a great advice.

Thank you for the response, I appreciate.

STENON:
He has said the most important thing and the rest is for everyone to make a decision

Most especially for those resuming in September .
Time is not on your side at all, from first semester to second semester and straight for your dissertation. No time to explore other opportunities of meeting prospective tier 2 employers. Even with the tier 2 visa sponsorship, I have seen engineering graduates here that find it very difficult to secure engineering job because ordinarily certificate will not get you the job here,
This is a country with the latest, modern and digital technology ( no source ). You must have their licence to practice coupled withgood knowledge of your field software package e.g. engineering field. UK is more than I have first class in mechanical engineering with 15 years working experience in Nigeria and I wish to apply for tier 2 Visa sponsorship

Insightful.

Am intending to do my Masters in Developmental and Therapeutic play as my background is in Psychotherapy and upon graduation next year, I will be licensed with the British Association of Play Therapists to work as a Child therapist using play... will this improve my chances of Tier 2 visa sponsorship?

Zerities:
@mindlog you are going to swansea when?

Yes, September 2020. One year M.A program.

Zerities:
@mindlog you are going to swansea when?

Yes, September 2020. One year M.A program.

Hmm....another thread of sexual fantasy!

In

Theyoungmatron:
What you did is not wrong.
The attachment she is forming with your baby is unhealthy especially for her own mental health.
She needs to seek for professional help ASAP, as it is obvious that she is still in the early stages of grieving after almost 3 months.

You are right, she needs to have therapy sessions with a professional.

Chiomamoses:
We stay in the same compound but different house

But you posted that the house belongs to your husband's brother.

kay29000:
I already condemned the man. You can see that in the screenshot below. I'm not like you who hates the opposite sex with a passion. You need to change your ways madam.

You didn't condemn the husband's infidelity but your reservation was on him not using condoms while cheating on his wife.

chukzyfcbb:
It doesn't always apply to all families.

it's in these scenario that we know how strong our relationship amongst our siblings are.

I am not a fan of selling and sharing all the money from late parents properties, it always lead to waste!

Typically, there should have been a joint acct amongst two or three siblings where they put their late parents money into, that way there is transparency.

Any project, medical expenses and what not to be carried out will be done with the knowledge of the others (joint acct)

Usually when properties are sold and shared like this, give it 5yrs max, you will start hearing Stories of how the money was squandered from dablling into a bizness that crashed and what not.

Now is the time that they all put heads together and see how to grow thier late dad's wealth, but it's all dependent on their relationship.

There is strength in unity, this is how families build an empire! not selling properties and sharing it like rats!!!

There is nothing like sharing it like rats, it is being realistic and not sentimental. With all the siblings all married except one and each in a different part of the world with their spouses and kids, why should there be the need for joint account with siblings when you are already married? Each used their share to invest in properties/portfolios in their own personal and nuclear family's name.

EdwardRandy:
Oga or madam, he said the gospel truth. Men are polygamous by nature, when a man sees a woman the first thing that come to his mind is sexx. A man loves with his d*ck first before his heart.

Because men who make effort to have self control around women are weaklings? Don't mistake promiscuity for polygamy, there is a difference between having the urge to have random sexual partners and having more wives who would have more children for you and you would be responsible for them all.

Transcribing really do pay well, if you have your own clients who sends you their audios to you through your email with prior non disclosure agreement. $36 per audio hour do worth the stress.

Smartchoiice:
No where in the marriage covenant that says you'll marry only one wife

Apart from Moslems, are other men willing to marry more wives, have more children and see that there is love and peace in the family between the wives and also among the children from different mothers?

Acidosis:
The moment you got your dad's pension, money ought to have been shared among the family members (your mom and children). E.g. 40% can go to the mother while the children shares the remainder (60%) in whatever ratio they decide on.

You do not keep monies meant for the entire family in the pocket of an "administrator", usually first-borns.

It will save you lots of stress and also caution individuals to mind their business. It wouldn't be your business if your sister decides to spend hers on her hubby.

How can you trust a woman that "abandons" y'all to spend the rest of her life with another man with your collective wealth?

You people overate this family thing too much that you feel money can't separate y'all.

I agree with you on that. Our firstborn son suggested that he solely manages our late parents' properties and would be remitting quarterly to us his siblings but we refused because we have clear idea of firstborn sons and their sense of entitlement when it comes to properties, we had the properties sold and shared the money amongst us, each choosing how to spend/invest their share and that got my big bro angry, saying we have no clean hearts towards him and his wife but in the real sense it is for the good of everyone, to avoid unnecessary claims in the future.

Contrary to the agenda of the video distributors, the senator will not face the Senate Ethics and Privileges Committee for interrogation. He has the sympathy of his colleagues. In fact, he received more sympathy visits in the week than those bereaved. One of the senators was overheard saying : “We all do it but we are smarter than one another. Some are too trusting.......

Smartchoiice:
So far so good...men have been advocating for random sex partners

They don't want the commitment and responsibilities tied to polygamy or are men no longer "polygamous in nature"?

IyaTola:
why?

Because of what you just narrated.