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fashionale:
My brother, she's not into the relationship as you are, I doubt if she truly loves you. She's in for your money.

Solution: first, make up your mind to be the man in your relationship. Call her and communicate with her on this her attitude, how you feel about it and if she doesn't change, you will not be in the relationship. Because this her attitude is as a result of lack of respect for you. And there's no true without respect.
Secondly, check how you correct her when she how's wrong. Do you do it with harsh voice or you usually lash out on her even in public. There are people who don't like been scolded with harsh voice or in public.
In all, communicate calmly with her. But if she refuses let er go bro. A woman that loves you will do anything to make you happy.

Nobody would actually.

veraiyke:
This is one thing I hate. A girl never seeing a reason to say sorry. Rather defence mechanism will be activated and next you will become bad cox you talked about what you perceive is going wrong. Never be afraid to lose a woman. I think some of them play on it

I have had friends who were like this. Always NEVER accepting their wrong. They will drag it o, defend, put up silly exuses, try to trade blames, beat about the bush and the worst of all, guilt-trip you and end up making you feel bad for saying anything in the first place. God! Those emotional manipulators!

I had like 3 friends like that. One was a love interest. The good thing was that he was able to adjust. I started by explaining to him that doing all those rigmarole when its clear you are wrong and eventually saying "sorry" takes the value and weight out it. You have put me through emotional stress and I won't accept the sorry again. Tomorrow you will say the person is keeping malice with you. I did this with him for a while until bam! He adjusted. I watched him say, "I'm sorry" without lame excuses and I respected him the more.

The other two friends didn't. And there's nothing I detest than someone who is too full of him/herself. You will be dropped like you are hot cos it's a very bad attitude

Tomoyayi:
England Bawo, we no go hia word again. You go wait tire

Lol. Don't be too sure.

Ekaka1:
This is really interesting..
Courtois has been great tonight...

Hey! I had to search you out to tell you one half of my prediction has come through.

Well done France!
Waiting for England to join them tomorrow .

I'm confused o. I'm supporting France originally but cos of Hazard, I'm also supporting Belgium.

Which kain wahala be this now?

milemimi93:
I've dated a girl till we broke up even till today she doesn't know my last name and my state of origin..

She cared less.


And my motto is "DON'T TELL IF THEY DON'T ASK"

Lol....you see what I'm saying. Would you or anyone else around honestly open their mouth and give confirmation that the girl loves you? Love gbakwaoku!

All these fake love people do up & down. Men do it to get into our pants. Ladies do it to get money from you guys. We have all abused that word. It's like thrash in the mouth of people now.

@bolded, thanks. Thank God I'm not the only one that reasons like that.

samysmoothfresh:

nah!........................you had your chance and now it's gone


i'm listening/reading



you slept off by 3:52pm
wait, do you visit sleepville often or only a0 night time and when you tired?

3.52pm? No, that was 6.43pm. Check.
I just came back from work and I was tired.

If I have the chance, I sleep when I'm tired. Not just at night.

sirBLUNT:
i won't as much as we need you here too esp...okay

Heyyy...I'm waiting for food.

samysmoothfresh:
oh really


ok you tell me then so i dont make assumptions, how is it complicated?

Hmmmm....it's complicated because....shiit! Can I use the "chill" option?

Sorry. I visited sleep ville shortly after sending that message.

Wow! I thank God for the progress so far.

samysmoothfresh:
ok


it's complicated cos no party (you nor "the guy" has come out to say "we're dating now" or cos you still havent picked one from the 28-32 guys asking you out maybe because you're still using your super powers to discern which is the right guy?

But I didn't see any question. All I saw were statements, hasty conclusions and assumptions.

samysmoothfresh:

ok....-....,.......i'll assume this is facebook and take that@embolden as an "it's complicated"


should i push for a direct answer or just chill and take it like that?

Exactly. I like that. It's complicated.

What's the direct question you wanna ask that will birth the direct answer? Shoot let me see. If I can't answer, I will use the "chill" option

Henitan24:
Yeah he's spiteful but those words.hardly get to me because I've never find into the category of ladies he has been referring but I think it's high times these slowpoke on romance section known the stuff we are made, I've personally had enough and I won't watch them dragging my womanhood into dirt. I'm fucking ready to give it to them anyhow they want it.

Exactly. It doesn't bother me too. I don't give a damn about anonymous people here except I know you offline. How will I be bothered about people I don't know & that might be portraying what they are not in real life?

Henitan24:
No I dont really he's one, Donstan18 only speaks the ugly truth as it is and appreciate any that deserve it though can be naughty most time but there are still countless unintelligent bittered guys here that lives and mode of thinking about ladies is already upside down

Oh he's definitely one. I won't deny that he speaks the truth sometimes but other times, he's just plain spiteful and making a poor attempt at being a misogynist.

PrinceCharmings:
sorry I mean , have .

I mean I have seen some of the so called alpha males

and it's Donstan18(this guy got zero respect for women).
.

Ok...lol. That's definitely one of them. Them plenty o. And they know themselves. One of them is already on this thread doing what he knows how to do best.

PrinceCharmings:
I know I ever encounter one of them


Donstand18 .

I don't understand please.

PrinceCharmings:
I'm telling you. It's very very worrisome . Sometimes it's feels like it's only thugs and wayward peeps that are on this section

I will almost agree with you @bolded.

PrinceCharmings:
as a guy it's embarrassing.seeing them behave like uncivilized cave men it's such a crying shame.

Lol...you haven't seen anything yet. Most of them have gone out. Come back here in the evening or better still, visit some of the topics in this section, you will vomit before you finish.

PrinceCharmings:
No, not NL guys. It's guys on this romance section. Guys on the religion section do not act and behave like this.

Still wondering what happened because they have no respect for women here especially Nigerian women.

Not just Religion section o. Almost all the other forums. The other day, I visited a section I have never visited before since I entered NL and I was amazed. I saw I was missing a lot. Romance section was like chaff compared to some other sections o.

It seems like all the boys and girls and immature men and women are on this section. The disrespect, immaturity, stupidity, foolishness, idiocy, silliness, mental instability, hate, bashing, shamelessness, misogyny & misandry is worrisome.

macbede:
It's quite unfortunate I've never been blessed with such female folks. Just leeches here and there.

And here I am thinking I have not been blessed too with men who knows how to spend before we now know whether I'm a leech or not. Chai! This world eh.

Ndi Igbo si na uwa ezughi oke (the world is not enough).

samysmoothfresh:


so is super woman joy by any chance still single?

Lol...I definitely don't know how to answer that.

Please o, I want to know, this healthy "relationship" she's talking about, is it marriage relationship or pre-marital relationship? It's really important 'cause it wasn't specified.

samysmoothfresh:
oh really?........................so it's safe to say you've got special powers huh?





yea i did sleep well..................thanks



i would ask, but then i'm sure you slept well and/or even better...................................like who wouldnt sleep well when they've got super powers [5.]
.

Oh yeah. I have got super powers from ABOVE!

And yes I slept well, thank you.

Chai! Reminiscing....

Choir ministrations took me to a lot of parishes of my Church within & outside my state. First time I ever travelled to my Church camp far away in the West was for a choir ministration/competition.

It was a teenage choir. And maybe that was the reason for the messes that were created. After a while, our PP (Provincial Pastor) had to dissolve the "Sodom and Gomorrah" masking as choir group.
It was so shameful.

It's not just choir though. It's the Church in general. Especially campus Fellowships. My experience there was terrible, unforgettable & scarring.
God help us.

samysmoothfresh:
i guess i wasn't that far from sleep street afterall cos i slept off almost immediately after i sent that message



i see......................that explains the "no. 2, 5 & 7 you used to catch him"


hope you didnt realise this too late though

Welcome back from sleepville. Hope you slept well.

Yes. Thank God you noticed.

No I didn't. With the way I'm wired, it doesn't take time at all. I thank God for that.

samysmoothfresh:
it's not!!........................you can give me a call if you want



either you give me back my kb or you give me the full details of "the person", you, the state of your relationship with him/her and how you caught him/her...................... .i'm bored And far from sleep street

Naaa....I will pass. It's definitely incorrect

Well, as a way of telling the story, is it possible to say you love someone & yet you don't wanna know personal details about the person?

Is it good to make the person who claim you love feel stupid & worthless for pointing out some things about your character or is it good to always put up a weak and pathetic defence when those things are pointed out?

Lastly, is it good to make promises of change to the person who claim to love yet you even get worse after the promises?

KingTugreat:
any naija woman that doesnt fall under our mothers generation are all hoes argue with your brain

Ok...let me try that.

PUSSYHOE:
All women are different but when it comes to men they are the same.

Ok sir.
MrBrownJay1 has time sef for arguments with you. Unfortunately, I don't. So, let's keep our opinion to ourselves, shall we?

samysmoothfresh:




transfer my kb back to me ! or you.................


[f]
[o]
[r]
[m]
[e]

Why do I have a feeling this number is fake.

Or what?

boiz2men:
Mogbe what I do na..


You didn't tell me you had posted it. I don't follow topics when I comment

Pele.

Read it?

samysmoothfresh:
hey miss!!,


you owe me 136kb


i didnt want to click the link, till i saw your comment and got curious


only to scroll down and see you already paste the full list


i need my 136kb back!!

Eeyah....pele.
Lol.

It was boiz2men o.

"Lust is temporary, romance can be nice, but love is the most important thing of all. Because without love, lust and romance will always be short-lived.” – Danielle Steel. We always want to think that we can tell if someone is using us for our bodies, or if they really like us and want to be with us. Sometimes, it’s not as easy to tell as we want to believe. When you begin to fall for someone, things happen fast, and those things can also be intimate situations. Not everyone can be on the same page about what’s going on in a relationship, and sometimes things get lost in miscommunication.Partners who are only interested in sexual relationships are smart enough to avoid sexual conversation when they first meet you. Their goal is make you feel safe and seducible by giving you the impression – they are not like “all the rest,” says business consultant, life coach and astrologer Larry Schwimmer.If you’re confused as to whether or not your partner is really into you and wants to be with you out of love, or if they’re just using you because of your body and the things you can do together, check out these signs and see how your relationship measures up.

8 SIGNS YOUR PARTNER IS USING YOU FOR YOUR BODY

1. THEY’RE ONLY AFFECTIONATE WHEN THEY WANT SOMETHING

And that something is usually … you. If your relationship doesn’t have casual affection like kissing, holding hands, cuddling, but you do have plenty of intimate moments together and s*x … then it might just be a sign that your partner is using you for your body. Affection is a way to be intimate and grow close together, but if your partner is only interested in the main course, they might not care about getting closer.

2. THEY DON’T WANT TO GET TO KNOW YOU

Can they name your favorite movies, books, music, or anything about you that they can’t tell by looking directly at you? Do they want to hear your thoughts and opinions on things? Are they interested in getting to know the real you? If you can’t definitely answer ‘yes’ to any of these questions, it might be a red flag that your partner is just using you for your body.Dating expert Mark Stefanishyn says, “If his eyes glaze over every time you start talking about your love of knitting, if he always turns the subject back to how great he is at Call of Duty, or if it just never really feels like you have his full attention, then chances are, he’s not interested in moving forward. If a man wants a relationship, he naturally wants to know who you are and what you are up to…”

3. THEY NEVER TAKE YOU ON REAL DATES

If you only ever hang out at your house, or their apartment, and call that a ‘date’, it might be a 0date’, it might be a sign that they’re not really invested in taking you out and showing you off. After all, hanging out at the house means that you can get intimate together all that quicker. If they don’t want to see you outside of that, it might be a sign that they’re not all that into you for your heart.

4. YOU NEVER MEET HIS FRIENDS OR FAMILY

Not even once. Any time you bring it up, he changes the subject. When someone is using you for your body, they’re not invested in having you meet their friends or family, because “the less information you have about him, the easier it is for him to ghost you. If you don’t know who he hangs out with, or where he lives, or what his last name is, he can disappear like a phantom into the night,” says Frank on Cosmopolitan.So, if you can’t seem to ever meet their friends, or they don’t want to meet yours, it’s a sign to ditch them for someone who cares.

5. THEY DON’T FOLLOW THROUGH

If they’re always promising that your relationship is going to change, that it’s going to get more serious, that you’re going to start being a real couple soon, but nothing ever happens … it’s time to stop holding your breath. If they can’t follow through with taking you out on one nice dinner, or meeting your friends, then it’s a sign that they’re just trying to stall so they can keep using you.

6. THEY ONLY MAKE PLANS LATE AT NIGHT

When was the last time you saw your partner during the day? Have you ever met for breakfast, gone out for lunch, or went to a midday movie together? If the plans that your partner makes with you seems to always be at nighttime, it might be a sign that they’re only interested in doing one thing with you, and it’s not a romantic lunch date. Or as certified sexologist and author Dr. Sonjia Kenya says, “He’s always trying to see you, but never makes plans to do anything outside the bedroom, because he only wants to see you in the bedroom.”

7. THEY’RE INCONSISTENT

They’re always telling you that they’re too busy to hang out with you during the day, but seem to always have time with you at night. They say they have to work late, but then you see them on social media hanging out with their friends. They can never seem to keep their story straight about when they want to see you.

8. THEY AVOID TELLING YOU HOW THEY FEEL

Do they like you? Love you? Are they happy to see you? You never know with this person, because they avoid it at all costs. If your partner doesn’t seem to be willing to share their feelings or how they feel about you, but they always want to hook up and get intimate with you, then it’s a red flag that it’s time to bounce.

FINAL THOUGHTS

Falling for the wrong person can be frustrating, especially when all they want is to use you for your body. Knowing the signs of this type of person in a relationship early on can save so many people the heartbreak that comes with realizing that your partner doesn’t care about your heart, and only wants you for your body. Hopefully, these signs have helped someone realize that they deserve so much more in their unsatisfying relationship.