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noob03saibot:
hahahaha! Now that's a funny one. I remember calling a girl once almost 128 times within a day. All because I wanted to say sorry and hear what I have dome wrong. I have latered the babe though since last year

Awwwww....I understand. We have all been there.

I don't understand your last sentence though.

Sansa143:
I used uziza.My dear,a taste will make u 4get dere is ogiri inside.

I bet it will

Well done ma.

Sansa143:
Oha soup,bin awhile(thick one sef not all dis watery ones the sell in d restaurant).My house now smells ogiri

My best soup in the whole world! It can go with uziza, uha,ukazi, olugbu or aňara leaves. But I'm not Anambra nor Enugu so I don't cook with ogiri (never eaten it before) or even cocoyam. I thicken with achi or ofor (rarely).
Again, I like my native soup not too watery but definitely not too thick. It should be in between.

But my dear, the face of this soup(so green and fresh) makes me wanna forget that there's ogiri in it & devour it. Well done.

This is soup!!!
#clean and green

itsmeurLady:
I am telling you, some guys are just confused! please ignore that dude that calls himself elder, he seems like a woman hater to me... So no matter what u say, he will always find loopholes in it and attack you still, so just ignore

I noticed that so I just sidestep his bias attacks.

omooba969:
You know that you haven't satisfied my curiosity - calm down ok, I am cool as well.

Were you curious?

I'm relaxed & calm.
We both cool.

omooba969:
What part of 9ja u from?

Another place other than the western part.

omooba969:
What part of 9ja u from?

Another place other than the western part.

omooba969:
What part of 9ja u from?

Another place other than the western part.

omooba969:
Igbo or Hausa?

Are those the only tribes in Nigeria?

Btw, does it matter? What matters is that I didn't understand what you typed in Yoruba.

itsmeurLady:
As a supposed elder, u should know when to talk and when to keep shut. I believe u lack comprehension skills and dats y u can't comprehend my statement, u are the one that is archaic but u just don't know it... Na u bring independence? Hypocrite!!! Was it not the Supposed "Oyibo" people that brought about this independence ish. Na you bring am U obviously don't know what to say, u are just looking for who to vent your frustrations on but I am just going to ignore you. Elder that will not respect himself, Elder indeed!!! Where did u see me write that I will sit down or u did not read the part where I said A woman should contribute as well,Abi? U lack comprehension!!! It's people like you that will read the bible, take what they want to take and start turning the bible upside down causing chaos! U are a troublemaker, learn to talk like a man, a real man does not talk all over the place looking for cheap likes And attention

Everyone is entitled to his/her own opinion on this forum, so I don't see why some people here will want to bully people and force people to bend to their own school of thought

Thank you. He needs to be schooled. I'm beginning to think he's a troll. How else can I explain someone who takes what another person says out of context and purposely misunderstand the person just to come and be quoting upandown things that sometimes don't even relate.

I noticed he was doing same in my mentions & I just sidestepped irrelevant arguments. So kindly do same.

itsmeurLady:
I can't stop laughing because this just shows that NL never forgets... From the look of things, Not much people agrees with your point of view because they don't see you as someone that will come up with such words. They feel like you are seeking attention!! But I don't see u as an attention seeking person, I feel like u like saying it as it is, as e dey do u no filtering, no sugar coating which has its pros and cons

Back to the topic, if your husband doesn't buy you stuffs, I believe u will be concerned and u will be the first person to rush to this forum calling him stingy. Yes, women should not totally depend on men, it's okay to have something on the side and all, but that is not to say that the man should not provide for his home or his girl. They were raised with that mindset, to provide, Women HELP! Just like we were raised to do house chores, to cook and clean but modernization has changed everything. If you type this, then you should also be able to create a topic like " Dear Men, Women do Not Owe You Food" ... Even though most young dudes these days know how to cook their meals, it doesn't change the fact that they love it when the woman cooks. That is the same way it is for ladies, ladies can only help financially when there is a need to. As a matter of fact, if as a man you are comfortable with a woman providing, something is wrong with you. It's either you are lazy or you had a poor upbringing that needs to be corrected. We are not in Yankee, Na Naija we dey! Dats why the white ladies are dying over our Men because when they are with them, they take full responsibility and treat them right, no splitting of bills and you see them tweeting later " African Men Know How To Treat Their Ladies Right".... Why? Because a true African Man (correct bobo) takes Charge, he stands firm like a lion and handles responsibilities. These Days, the reverse is the case, So Sad!

I desire a man who will spoil me oo so for those of you forming strong, continue forming strong! I am not lazy,never been and never will be.

Elder001, come and see someone with sense. And she wasn't there when I typed exactly same thing she typed here to you yet you were arguing upandown.

I even took the time to highlight her points that tally with what I told you so you will grab better.

Ma, the funniest thing is that a lot of guys are confused. They don't want a dependent lady because she's a leech. They also don't want an independent lady because she will be controlling. What then do they want? They shouldn't say an independent woman who's submissive abeg. Why? Because they don't exist in a weakling of a man's eyes since a woman is either one(totally independent)or the other(totally dependent) but never a hybrid.
And even when they manage to find her, they take advantage of her & collect the one she has & add to theirs.

They could be pathetic at times.

Elder001:
Ms.joy for the sake of God, become a feminist
Feminism is good for women

Is it really?

omooba969:
Why should that be my concern? The main issue is that the guy messed up & is now apologizing but the chick ain't having it - WHY na?

We ask God for forgiveness & He shows mercy and forgives.

Tí abán jà, bí ká kú ko....kílódé!

Well, never be too quick to judge a matter.

If you notice, I used the word "listening" to his apology not "forgiving" his apology. I see them as two different things. A case where someone always misbehaves and apologises, at a point, you have to see if it's a patten. Cos if that's it, I will stop listening knowing that it doesn't matter if I forgive that one or not, he/she will do another one intentionally cos they are aware there's "forgiveness" at the end of their drama with "I'm sorry".

I just gradually cut off from that person or take away that thing that's always making him misbehave constantly & cause hurt.

You grab?

Btw, I'm not Yoruba.

noob03saibot:
OK, thanks. Gotcha

You are welcome.

Another reason is when someone's owing you & you just feel like bombarding his/her phone with calls to pass across a message especially when they are dodging your calls.

LeoFish92:
Done. Thanks

Ok....you are welcome.

LeoFish92:
I've copied it, you can take it down now

Since he wants to take down the email, you should have cleared it from your end before quoting it.

So, you have to go back and edit your quote while he clears from his end too.

robotix:
lol... People actually make more than that. You can add upwork.com to the mix too.
If you also want to make more, search for Bamidele onibalusi. he makes as much as $4000per month without using fiverr or upwork.

It didn't come easily though but he has blue print that can aid you.

Search me and visit his site writersincharge.com he is a silent warrior and mostly heard off in the international space.

Wow. Just from writing?

What kind of writing? Fictional stories, articles, researches? Which one?

robotix:
Take that writing to fiverr and you will raise it to over 120k per month with serious hard work and determination.

Really?

omooba969:
Call her bluff & tell her to go fvck herself.

One less problem, without her...

What happens to finding out from him why she's not "listening" to his apology. instead of this thing you are doing now.

noob03saibot:
"or you want to make a statement?" Can you shed more light on this please.

Like sometimes when you wrong someone & the person isn't picking your calls like before. But you really need to call & talk to bring things the way they were before the offence.
You get?

This topic is very important. A lot of people don't know how to apologise nor how to own up to their mistakes & it causes a lot of fricrion in rekationships/marriage. It's as if the op reached into my mind and brought out the words there. Everything he/she said is right & I try to do it.

I also can't count the number of people I have taught these things to. And thank God they picked up.

Giving excuses, shifting blames, etc are one of the things I detest in a guy. The worst is being too proud to apologise.

Samiking:
#1 Making Excuses
Giving excuse does not mean you are denying taking responsibility of your action....some people will like you to explain reasons of your action cos something must have prompted you to commit. like for instance, you gave your partner 10missed calls and no picked then later the person picked to tell u that, "no excuse for no picking your calls, I'm sorry" just like that?

You are right. Because in this case, "I'm sorry" isn't enough. But the person apologising should go straight to the point & not wait to be asked before revealing why the calls weren't picked. Like, "I'm sorry dear I missed your calls. I was: in the bathroom/in the kitchen, on the road/Praying/in a meeting etc."

Btw,why give someone 10 missed calls except it's really urgent or you want to make a statement? It's creepy and disturbing to me o.

dopeJemi:
I do mine this way too, only that I fry the veggies in a pan with the chicken, then add water or the chicken stock. The first time I tried making it with thickener(potato starch) I hated myself that day, my sauce came out as Jelly, that was the last time I made anything like that. Now I just fry all together in a pan with groundnut oil, stock and curry and it comes out great

Exactly. That's how I do mine. I add the little stock from the meat.

The one you add thickener is different. Please scroll up to see where I explained the difference to a lady here. Thanks.

teenagetalks:
i can totally relate with this,most men that talks about women having their own money also feel intimidated when their girlfriends or wives have more money,in fact the woman will always be in trouble because they believe you can't be controlled or be submissive. you be surprise that the same guy you are working hard to impress will leave most bills for you to pay and always claim to be broke while getting loans from you and adding his own salary to take care of another girl that's even broke or a parasite to him. Look at tiwa savage that waa the breadwinner.What happen? the husband never contributed a dime to the welfare of his own child but was making millions from managing tiwa,never dropped money for food or anything but was spending on other women that probably weren't working.That's irony of life.Men dont really know what they want I swear.

So right you are! That's the irony of life true true. After my experiences with these people, I discovered there's no hard & fast rule to dealing with them. Just Pray for a good & God-fearing man who The Spirit of God won't allow him do most wicked, evil and shady acts most people do in relationships/marriage.

@bolded, it has happened to me. Not even with only one girl. I can never forget those experiences.

My dear, majority of these men are really confused & hypocritical.

Elder001:
What constitutes an insult?. How exactly did I insult you or generalize anything ?


A man shouldn't help out with domestic stuffs. You should do everything 100% and he should only help once in a while if he feels to.

Sorry, as long as you still hold the believe that one partner should spend more there's no way you two will be treated with fairness. TBH

I'm done with this topic.
...

I didnt mean you insulted me personally or directly. Apart from some of the words you used which were used to generalise, your tone was insulting and condescending. But not to worry, I may have misread the whole thing. I have been told I read too much meaning into things. Lol

Anyway, back to the topic. I told you right from the beginning cos I know we will have conflicting opinions on this. So, thank God you are done with the topic. I have been too. There's no point going back & forth on it.

But your third paragraph, talk about confusion and contradiction!

shilz:
try this with smoked Titus fish,make sure you fry the fish till its dried.you will enjoy it

I don't think so. I'm not really a dried/smoked/fried fish person. I love fishes but I love them boiled or steamed.

But I can try your method sha. I like trying out new stuffs. Thanks.

Elder001:
Madam this is 2018 not 1950.
Gender roles have faded into oblivion.

A man shouldn't spend more. Feminism preaches equality and you've to embrace the equality in all aspects.

Both partners should start and do the spoiling together not what you're typing now.

When it comes to sharing responsibilities it is then that Nigerian ladies will start talking about nature and blah blah.
Later they'll start complaining that men don't help out in chores.

SMH

Lol...I knew you would say this. That's why I said I have no strength for the argument this will generate.

Now, let me be straight. I'm not a feminist. At least not in the way majority of our ladies are explaining it. I only seek for fairness in the way we treat others (men and women alike).

On spending, I still maintain a man should spend more. Take it or leave it. Yes times have changed but I'm such an oldie at heart that I want things to be done the right way. Please note I didn't say ladies shouldn't spend. But men should spend more. Except he doesn't have much. Same way a man should help out in domestic matters even though it's more a woman's place. I see relationship/marriage beyond what a lot of people see. It's more like a partnership where anyone can contribute, chip in, gelp out, support and even swap roles without one taking the other for granted.

Having said all these, I feel you will still wanna argue. But get this, I'm not at all the typical ladies you all come across & rant about. No man I have ever been in a relationship with can boldly come out and tell you he has spent more than I have had in the relationship. Quote me anywhere, anytime. None of them. So don't think, when I say a man should provide more, it means I'm one of "your" leech.

Again, a man, a real man should spend more. Except he doesn't have. Thank you.

PS: try not to generalise and insult next time. I don't entertain those & I certainly will not exchange words with a faceless stranger. It's not worth my time.

Yuneehk:
Oh okay. I get it now

Ok...good.

sanpipita:
We all know some Nigerian men will look away an independent woman who can feed herself and go for one they can feed and buy everything for, we need to start telling ourselves the truth so we can sort issues if any, some men will complain about too much responsibilities but if a lady tries to do something for themselves they shut it down why?

My dear, you are right. Lol. A man will tell you he doesn't want someone who has her own money cos he thinks she will be controlling. On the other hand, he complains and whines about how ladies are leeches. Why don't you leave the dependent ones & chase the independent ones.

Please men, make up your minds which you want mbok...

Elder001:
There will be sense in it only when he says both partners should start the spending.
Which one is if she's an angel she'll spend on you?

We all know that Nigerian ladies don't like spending in a relationship. They only want to receive without giving (there are exceptions though)


Some manage to give cheap stuffs and expect costly stuffs in return.

I don't want to start another round of arguments here with my line of thought.
But I know men are naturally the providers. Just as women are naturally more domesticated. So this plays out in a relationship/marriage. A man should spend MORE if he has it.

On the other hand, the lady SHOULDN'T only receive. She is there to support & it starts from a relationship. If you are dating a lady who doesn't spend on you at least once in a month (when you know she can afford it) my brother, run! She doesn't love you. Nothing you say can convince me otherwise. I hear guys complain how they have dated ladies for years without the girl getting anything for them even on their birthdays. And I'm like, "it's not possible"!
And these are guys who know how to spend on a lady. One was paying school fees and house rent and pocket money for the girl. Yet, nothing from her.

Where are these type of men that I don't see them sef? It's so unfortunate.

Yuneehk:
No thickener? I've seen people use grated Irish potatoes or corn starch for theirs. Yours looks good tho

Oh no! This dish is totally different from the one you use thickener in.
1) You don't use a lot of the ingredients on this one. A lot.
2) You don't cut the ingredients here this small for that one.
3) I use only chicken for that one.
4)And yes, I use corn starch as thickener on that too.
5) This one I posted has less water in it than the other one which requires enough water(depending on how many people eating it though) before the thickener is added.

So, they are totally different.

This is a late post. I was supposed to post this last Saturday but my NL app was misbehaving.

Anyway, this is introducing my famous assorted vegetable sauce. I make it with:
*carrots
*green beans
*fresh peppers (yellow preferably for taste)
*green peppers
*fresh tomatoes
*spring onions
*white onions
*cucumber(I don't cook this. I cut it in small square shapes to be sprinkled on top of the boiled white rice)
*fried goat meat. You can still use chicken or turkey or even beef. But I have never used fish with it.

NOTE: this food can be eaten with boiled white rice, yam or spaghetti/macaroni.