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What a painful exit. After all the effort. I didn't even know who I was rooting for: Belgium cos of handsome Hazard or Japan cos of their fighting spirit.
One thing I know though is that I'm not happy Japan lost!

I say it every time: the emotion behind football is just too intense!!
Damn!!!

goldiam:
I repeat i ain't gonna preach the born again stuff once he discover the power in the word he would decide if he wants to give his life to Christ.

Point is that there are different ways of winning souls to Christ.With his kind of person he needs personal convictions and not one forcing him to do so.

Hope you get the drift dear.

I'm trying to. My own point was, you shouldn't have used crap & born again together. It sounds very offensive especially as it's coming from someone who wants to lead him to Christ.

Hope you get my drift also.

goldiam:
She wasn't into anything lol have you ever heard the saying "no peace for the wicked ". But the good news is that first be at peace with God and then yourself every other thing becomes easy.

Note, I am not ready to preach the born again crap to you but i can help you discover whom you are in Christ.

Once you make up your mind send me a PM.
You only need the word to be free.
I pray you understand it.

With all due respect ma'am, what are you going to tell him after saying/typing the emboldened words?

Scary experience. Very scary. Traumatising and deeply unsettling. I was greatly distressed while reading the story.

To think that one person has this level of wickedness in her...
Well, I just hope the story isn't true.

Wow!
Finally!!
Thank God for their lives!!!

BanigoCharlesP:
That is what i call submissive and faithful
Where can i get someone like you?

Submissive and faithful cos she knelt down for you? Lol.

I can do it. Have done it before actually(although I regretted it cos the guy didn't merit that action from me), others can still do it. But that doesn't in any way spell "submissive and faithful".

AkpaMgbor:
it is not risky..I've noticed that it is mostly women who don't believe in the "marrying the one you love " school of thought..I do not mean that as a disrespect, but most humans are not truly capable of true love. If you are a Christian then you will notice that the Bible only charged the men to love their wives but it didn't for the women..the Bible rather adviced women to honor and respect their husbands..the man is given the greater responsibility to love..a woman can be happy in her home if she honors and respects her husband and the man will be happy if he loves his wife..so the man gives love and the woman gives respect..and if you think about it, that is what most men want in their marriage..respect...

@the bolded, I quite agree with you. It's the bitter truth. That's why this thread is here in the first place because if we all know what TRUE LOVE is, there won't be need for this arguing back & forth.

kalu61:
l don't quite agree with you. This is not gender issue but I strongly believe a lady is more open to reciprocate love when it comes than a man.
lf a man treat and respect you to a large extent you should return the love even though you might have your choice of man but that choice may end up tormenting you in marriage.
l have observed those couple that killed their partner as those that have the feelings more.

my submission is "compatible not love, tribe and religion is should be the focal point.

Fashiola n Tinubu(not too sure) are Muslim with Christian wives. if about compatible and mutual respect. Love is just a fiction for me because if you take away those thing that make you love someone, what happened next?

@bolded, this means a man should also love that lady that respects & treats him well before marriage even though he has his own choice. If this were to be that easy, I don't think we will be having bad boys/demons/Bleep boys who specialise in breaking the hearts of most good & impressionable ladies & vice versa.

hippieguy:
The fundamental mistake we make about love is when we think love is some magic spontaneous emotion. Love is a decision and a responsibility. My little summarized opinion.

Exactly. That's the love I'm talking about. Not the passing/fleeting feeling we will all deceive ourselves we have these days.

PrimadonnaO:
I can perfectly relate to this.

I know right! Welcome to the club.

PrimadonnaO:
Ohh, how I want to believe this!

Me too.

babyfaceafrica:
if he is a good man and you are not physically attracted to him nor love him..please leave him because you will likely cheat on him in the future with someone you can't resist physically!!... that said you should look beyond this physical attributes ..as long as he is presentable,godfearing and hardworking.All this fine boy ..no pimples is not the way o.......as one grows older...the fine will disappear.. but behaviour will not o

I'm not saying I'm hung up on looks. I like what you said, "as long as he's presentable". He has to be to an extent.

Leave fine boy. Who fine boy epp?

kasmilla:
nne pls help me with this. I was born on 16 dec, whats the name of ma own star.

You are Sagittarius sir.

Luxuryconsult:
You sure do know alot and @Bolded, I'd suggest you let such person know who he is if he doesn't already know. Like help him to see and understand why he's moody though if he doesn't know ooo. Cuz i remember some years back when i don't know i was ruled by the moon. Most cancers are not happy being moody, most of the things the star does to a cancer are not all that perfect with them, so most of them that doesn't know, won't be able to find a way out. Back in those days, i get hurt when my mood swings, it's not like i'm happy about it buh i wouldn't have a choice than just to sit down and watch, i couldn't do a thing about it then untill i read everything about cancer. Now i control my mood to my best capability since i know the cause and it doesn't affect me that much any longer like it used to. And i remember those days when i wouldn't sleep all through the night, i tried, use drugs, even my dad took me to the hospital about 3 times to see maybe something was wrong somewhere with my health buh nothing after series of test. I'd not sleep in the night and if i mistakenly sleep during the day, it means i'm sick so i hardly sleep for just two hours (from 6am - 8am) in 24 hours. I was fighting that sleeping issue cuz i thought it was sickness untill i get to know it's one of cancers trait. Since then i got a solution and learnt how to go about it. So i suggest you help a cancer to get to know who they are so they can know how to manage their traits. It's not as if they can change their way of life buh they can manage it and derive happiness in it.


And what star sign do you belong to?

Maybe i should start searching for a lady that belongs to your sign also cuz the way most of my ex take suffer, no be here oooo.

You also tend to forget something. You guys are stubborn. I told him a lot of things about his personality. He told me too about mine. I accepted his. No biggie. But this guy is the last person that will accept anything. He will feel you want to change him or like he puts it, "bend him". Lol...never seen anyone so stuck in his ways after a close relation. He's not open to correction at all. I just Pray he allows God to touch his heart.

I'm Taurus. According to the stars, I have more than 90% compatibility with Cancers. But, sometimes, a lot of factors influence these things (background, peer influence, education, exposure/enlightenment etc). So most times, they are not always true. Although I have a Cancerian that I'm up to 87% compatible with.

How did your exes suffer?

Toks2008:
In fact you have gotten everything terribly wrong...A lady has no right to use her feelings as a prerequisite to be with a man..its a lie from the pits of hell..

In marriage your feeling as a woman is secondary but it is the way the guy feels towards you that is most paramount..

If he treats you well YOU MUST DEVELOPE STRONG FEELINGS IN A SHORT WHILE...This is a mystery...wonen are emotional creatures and they can't help but fall in love with a man who treats them like a queen even if he is a broke was.

What if you have feelings for a jerk who treats you like poo? Trust me,that feeling will fly out through the windows.

Give it time and AS LONG AS HE TREATS YOU WELL..you will develop strong likeness for him.

@bolded? Seriously?

Hmmmm...this is all confusing.
What if physically, he isn't what you desire? You should be able to feel a sort of attraction for your partner right? And something should sustain it. What if that thing isn't there?

@second to the last paragraph, I'd rather marry a good man I have no feelings fir than a bad man I have feelings for. So that's out of the way.

The emotions behind football is just too intense! Chai!!!

Luxuryconsult:
It really feels so good to see someone understand you. You understand me perfectly. And @Bolded, cancers don't get to heal that quickly when hurt so it's hard for cancers to just open up or trust someone. When they want to try and you unintetionally or intentionally do some crazy sorts, they'd crawl back into their shell. Even my mother doesn't know me too well cuz i don't tell anybody my plan, i can joke with people buh not my plans and i hardly get involved in serious talk with people, all i do is tease, tease and tease. I plan within me, and talk about serious issues only with myself. Hehehehe. My mum made matter worse for me though, she always use my word against me like 'shebi u said so, so, so the other day' she literally turned me a deaf and dumb human since then. So never would you hear me talk about serious issue to anyone. Well as for me have never met someone that deserves talking to (i mean secret). Buh i believe when some cancers get to some stage in life, they change and when some find someone they can trust, they talk. Don't just in anyway use a cancer word against him/her.. That's the end of everything... You'd never hear him/her telling you secrets anymore.

And i believe a cancer also deserves an emotional dependant partner buh except they are ready to date from their circle (i.e another cancer) then it is/would be kinda hard especially for male cancers since most ladies are emotional beings.

Oh I understand a lot of things perfectly .

One thing about "cancers" is that getting them to warm up to you poses to be a Herculean task. They are toooo secretive & untrusting. Sometimes, it borders on Paranoia and scepticism. But trust me, when a "cancer" trusts you & calls you a friend, you really must be worthy. Somehow, I think they are highly intuitive & sensitive too. Reason why they don't just trust anybody.

I understand them perfectly & click with them cos of my star sign. But one of them has proved to be a difficult nut to crack. Lol. His mood swings no be here o.

I enjoyed the purest and most sincere friendship I have ever had in my life with a "cancer". Two actually.

NightHound:
Two people must first come together in love before they can grow in love. It is a substance that grows. A seed grows into a plant; and if that seed is not there, there will be no growth of anything; it doesn't matter how hard you water the ground. Not every coming together of two people has the potential of growing into a loving marriage. Compatibility is important. That's why the Bible talk about the dangers of being unequally yoked.

All the bolded are true. Recently, I was faced with a tough decision about marriage. I used to think that it's easy to be with a good man who you are sure of his character (by God's Grace). Hopefully, you will grow to love him. A lot of things are easier said than done. I understood that statement perfectly when I was faced with living with a good man who I don't have any form of romantic affection for. I suddenly realised that this is a lifelong commitment. It's too risky for such a costly gamble. My thoughts were, "what if I never get to love this person? He's a good man but if I don't get to love him, I will be miserable and make him same too.

I refuse to believe that love is just a "passing feeling" that fades easily. So I know that love is important in marriage. How else will I be tolerant, affectionate & overlook some things he does?

Maybe I'm getting things all wrong & I'm seriously open to corrections.

Toks2008:
Unfortunately, those things that make us fall in love are the things married couples do so in most cases after you experience It, you get tired and break up just to start same circle with someone else.

So why not just marry the person and grow in love with such?

This is risky. Very risky. What if I don't get to love the person?

isidiwent:
You see some nonsense some cheap girls post why they cheat on their boyfriends. The truth is that cheating is a sign of being cheap.....If you are decent, you breakup!!!!

Instead of receiving joystick everywhere in the name of "the guy made me to cheat", be a decent girl, be faithful & marry..

KEEP YOUR VIRGINITY

Who's this person that reasons like me? This is uncanny. That's my principle. If you feel your heart is with another whilst you are with someone, break up. It's better than sneaking around & lying.

On the other hand, nobody said you should be breaking people's heart up & down & be loose all because you want to be jumping from man to man & still look "decent".

I can relate to your post sir. I also have a very close friend who incidentally is a "cancer". This guy is the most cold person I have ever seen after my brother. NOTHING, I mean nothing about relationships move them. You can only hear them talk about a lady if you are very close to them. These guys also have less than 20% social life. They are loners. I have never seen.

I don't like emotionally-cold people. They are very unsympathetic and rigid. It's scary. You should have that one or two persons you are allowed to be soft with.

But cancerians are the most nurturing & dependable sign after Taurus of course. Once you love a cancerian & he gets to love you back, you will understand what the word "security" means in love and relationship/marriage.

BabbanBura:
Yes Sir, that still doesn't change the fact that you are ignorant of what you are posting about.
I respect parents but it seems you lack this basic moral value.

Sweet. Upon all the insults he gave you, you still held your cool. Impressive.

XingXhang:
Yeah, you too.

Hope France wins.

Intermittently yeah

Of course. I'm rooting for them. Argentina can't play nonsense, edge us out cos they were favoured and I will still support them.

Good. Will be expecting.

Modified: heyy you

XingXhang:
He he he @ I'm gonna pay you right. Trust me.

Clean up here ends by 10am.
Already out

Those matches. I'll meet the the later one.

I trust you....

Ours end by 11am.
I want to go get ready.

I think that's the one I will meet too. By the time I finish everything, 3pm will have surely passed.

Go well. Keep in touch intermittently and take care

PreciousBro:
'Cum' lemme whisper to you.

Anyways I can see you're 'livin"...

The weather does you good huh ?

I'm close...

'Livin"...? What does that mean.

I can't complain, can I?

PreciousBro:
It's a skill. Yea I agree I should be a writer except that I don't write, I just like to communicate vocally. There are other talents that PreciousBro prefer.

Hmmmm...don't waste that particular talent o.

Other talents? Like?

PreciousBro:
lol wetin I do. Awww

OK. Let me stop flattering and tell you the honest and complimentary truth. You are a darling. Your personality in appearance would resemble that of an approaching featherless Angel

Lol... you should be a writer. Do you write?

Or be a poet. Are you one?
I like the way you use words.

XingXhang:
I know I can.

Okay, I'm also doing all three

No you can't. I'm too invaluable to be underpaid which is what you will do to me.

Really? That's nice. There's cleanup today which will end by 11. So I hope to finish writing both hard & soft copy and prepare for market before then. I want to be available for the two matches today.

PreciousBro:
I flew actually. It was only a matter of time the sweetness of your graceful personality tickled me out of my nest o lol

There he goes again....

LilSfc:
Their case always weak me sha, but I don't have their time. But I think have now meet a lady with different perspectives

Awwww...thanks

PreciousBro:

Lol...decided to crawl out of your hiding place?

XingXhang:
Haha, I have someone like you as a daughter you know

Alot like?

No you don't

Writing, market, cooking etc

Btw, who told you you can afford to pay me as a secretary?