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cassyrooy:
Great!

I'm not surprised o! A lot of guys just suffer from WOMB ENVY, but they're just misapplying it.

Lemme not go deep into another social problem that has perversed our world, another time. But its really becoming too annoying.

You're really creepy and weird, I seemingly avoided talking about my gamophobic sides and you just dived deep into my thoughts and now splashed it all over the place.

No lies, when my nice arrived in 2012, I just wanted a baby but avoiding marriage but I looked deep into myself and resigned that I MUST never attempt it, I'd practice serial monogamy than settling for "babydaddyism".

All men can never be the same, some are big, others small, some kind and some others the opposite, etc.

Scammers can't even near my side.

Toks2008:
Just send it to olakoredeh@gmaul.com and I will add it to my contact n send u a message.

Thanks

cassyrooy:
Lovely, don't lose it yet, else I'll follow suit o.

Hahaha! hahaha! hahaha! I'm having a very hard laugh here! Imagine what the dude had in mind. Only God will keep those type of guys out of ones life path.

He really had himself under control indeed. Biko, what's with sex talk and the likes? Perverse psychos scattered everywhere on the cyberspace.

@bolded, I mean, via the number on my profile, I rarely check my mails these days.

Thanks for the word, gamophobia.
Back in January, a friend had issues with her boyfriend cos he was seriously complimenting another girl's body(and overdoing it) even when the gf was obviously offended by the gesture.
Later, her bestie came around and started advising her to get a back up just in case the present dude messes up.

We're living in a messed up world!

Toks2008:
I will add your number to my contact n send you a message.

cassyrooy:
Okay, I might be wholly wrong but your optimistic sides are waning out, although you're still far from being pessimistic.

You just can't remove that from my friends, although some think I'm weird or something, but I'm just me.

I like guys who can explicitly discuss one issue and are well detailed about it, not touch it and have it over with, come on, we're discussing not mentioning/listing things.

@the bolded, firstly, I was being sarcastic, not implying he actually did owned you.

Second bolded, it happens! Just hope it doesn't degenerate to abuse.

LOVE!!! Indeed we've completely derailed the meaning of love to suit whatever we want it to be.

The hood were I was raised comprised so many things that scares me about marriage, cheating, abuses, unloved marriage, abandoned pregnancies, single motherhood and many things you can imagine.

Lemme just say love is still a myth, only certain people understands it and can truly show it.

I like it when people try to change other people, I only don't like when they try to impose.

Its good for you to try to change people.

And like you said, if you don't learn positive things you quit, hope you get to teach me positive things too.

@Toks2008, I'll email you, or you leave me a message on WhatsApp via the number in my signature.

Modified: Ms. Joy if don't mind, you can PM me as well.

Toks2008:
I have been following up on your convo and as a sapiosexual I am enthused to have you as a friend.

Unfortunately I don't send PMs so of you don't mind you can send your mobile# to olakoredeh@gmail.com and let me add you to my contact.

Even if you are married no worries...it's just friendship and I'm extending same to cassyroy.

DeadRat:
Missjoy29 as You Can See, my Experience Sexually Is Different from His so Its Quite Easier for Me To Draw The Line That They Are Same from What I See, thanks For The Correction...



The Munter that Drew The Conlusion that Nigerian Girls Dont Squirt; has He Bedded 20 Nigerian Girls Before Drawin That Line... Person Won Just Spoil The Thread...

cassyrooy:
Lol! I'm beginning to see another dimension about you.

Sincerely it's not always we should play the all round person, give me some distance to think and sort things out, trust me, many of the people playing cool everyday might not be cool, some just get bored and start seeking attention. Come on, apply yourself to something and watch it blossom into a beauty. Just disturbing others upandan.

For me being smart and very open to discussions are what makes me want to adjust and do things with someone, love can come and go, but intelligent and smart people are hard to find.

I do long calls and chats only with few guys. This is where being smart comes in, I mean the person you're conversing with gotta be smart.

There was this day I was discussing a movie with someone and he was like, "e make sense!", to me I was like that's all? A seemingly interesting topic can be watered down by just one comment, you get me?

You're his na! Lol!

I look at folks claiming to love, and I ask what do they love about these people and some just say she/he is beautiful or handsome! I don't talk, I leave them to themselves.

If its just love, everyone would have been where they were.

See how from loving you as he met you earlier, to remodeling you to his ideal expectations.
I've changed someone before, it took 3yrs to make it happen, I can't imagine myself trying to do it in one month, I'd failed.

DeadRat:
never Seen Them Come Separate actually

kwessiStewie2:
my hatred for rapists increased after I watched "I spit on your grave" very disturbing movie. After seeing the movie I fantasized about torturing the rapists to slow painful deaths

cassyrooy:
Yes definitely, you don't check up on me and expects me to regularly see how you're doing? Hell no, I'm equally important to myself, I play busy too.

I don't think its that big, I just outgrow them or get too cold towards them. Sincerely, as a nerdy guy(you never will know), my introverted sides will kick in, I'll become the listener, until you see I'm no longer interested in the interaction.

They obviously don't get me, I mostly change my habits if the person is not always a complainant, imagine you changed and later found out the person is a cynic, trying to alter everything about you in two weeks.

Lemme tell you this, I met a girl last year March, she collected my number and sent me a message, we got talking and emotions came in, she started telling me things I have to change about myself, long hair, calling always, chatting always, she never wanted to continue in my roles in politics(in school in particular), and of all keeping off female friends. I unknowingly grew cold and that was it o.

I work hard for everything but let advises be gradual not immediate demands.

pantherblack:
I wanted to comment further but the Lord has sealed my lips and has warned me not to say anything on this thread beyond my last comment. So, i'll pass, this subject matter has a knife somewhere in the corner

pantherblack:
oh fake repentance. Now i get, but blaming people not been able to handle the truth is what i disagree with, if we conduct ourselves properly they'll be fewer stories to tell

We should conduct ourselves wisely so we don't have stories to tell and blame hearers when they become intolerant of our baggages.



In life, we're always quick to blame people cause we place people on scales but exonerate ourselves. If we treat others how we desire to be treated, the world will be better. But no way, there's always a " user " feeling smart, and the used. When these pairs meet it can lead to a series of events, anything short of a give and take is unhealthy and bound to explode at some point


We should conduct ourselves well and expect less from people.

cassyrooy:
I see your points, I've adjusted myself to give everyone their own kind of required behaviour, you neglect or behave badly towards me, I don't bother you as long as its not anything major in my life.

Possessive people don't find their way with me, I shut them down easily, I had a life before knowing them and I'm going to still have one after knowing them.

pantherblack:
I disagree with people can't handle the truth. See if our actions are carefully weighed before we carry them out, there won't be much to tell. i.e. if we all do what is right to our capacity, there will be fewer stories to tell about tins beyond our control. But then even when we act, selfishness belies our actions, so when the future demands we open up we blame it on the hearer of our tales when we could have done better. The coin flips both ways.

cassyrooy:
Lol! Humans do different things for different reasons. God should just keep us away from such elements in the society.

@bolded, yeah! You see those ones? They tend to be insatiable, lie o, tell them the truth, they'll still find fault regardless of whatever reasons you give them, like you're flawless or perfectly perfect being.

Good day! My night? Was just there o, not smooth at all!

How's your day going?

pantherblack:
I evaluated my entire life this week, and each time i saw the devil cornered me, it was thru a friend

pantherblack:
What we avoid we tend to attract. These your self preserverance and self protective mechanisms. Humph. I dey looku looku. My own is to defend myself in event of any attack with an equal mesaure or ten times running over. I'm sure people know how it feels when they do odds. I tell everyone my good side is good, but do me back i run it over and give it back to you.

cassyrooy:
My ex lied to me at the earliest time of our friendship(in a special friendzone box), I got drunk one day like that and slept off to clear it, waking up I realized how I've been used by her.

Tell me the worse things in this life, I'll shake your hand anytime I meet with you, but lie to me(especially in a relationship) I'll plot your downfall.

Those little kinda lies, I get them daily, I just reposition my relationship with that person.

pantherblack:
I'm an eternal optimist I haven't lost hope in the world. Stop expecting people not todisspoint, stop measuring people with scales and stop placing expectations on people. Its our overly pristine set of judgement minds and eyes that's the issue. I told a lady ones, if you can treat your husband how ou treat your brother your marriage will be sweet, guess her response. Lai lai

pantherblack:
Oh, talking about losing hope in the world. Phew. I pass

pantherblack:
Since when did you join this team too ?
There's always an exemption rule. I triend my emotions, mastered things and was always in control. Never lost it until i met someone i lost it with. Better pray life doesnt make your path cross someone that'll make you lose it. It'll shock you how the wrong person will make anyone lose it in quick successions

cassyrooy:
Well, its just pronounced now. Its just too much.

I used to, until I discovered how satisfactory being blunt is. What's with telling people that you love them only to go round their back to thwart them?

I tell people be real with me, lies are hardly forgiven by me.

cassyrooy:
Amen!

You lost it before?

Hahaha! I'm many things my dear, admittedly, I've been a lot for some people but regardless my good sides are just my salvation from my bad sides. I no sabi lie o!

pantherblack:
I aint marrying any woman without seeking God. Not eeven Bill Gates's daughter. Make i no go carry load wey too heavy. Some of you our sisters no want marriage, na to dominate men and incapacitate men many dey find.

pantherblack:
People can sermonize easily. I'll never take anyone behind a keyboard seriously, not if i'm not the person.


Soemtimes some people bring the worst out of some people. So a good person at the start may not remain so thru the journey, marriage is God, luck and sense

adekhingz:
LOLZ......I will.

cassyrooy:
Thank you Ms. Joy, very interesting topic indeed.

The bolded areas of your post are just the two points I want to discuss from your very good post.

1. I'm a strong advocate for free womanhood, no matter how much will be said regarding how men and women interact, opposition is inevitable.

We just have to forget what we sometimes read on the virtually unrealistic cyberspace and concentrate on our jobs as husbands. And not just that, but as fathers too.

In marriage, no man is solely a husband and the woman a wife and a mother? Nope! Every stage requires a great deal of adjustment from both parties.

2. Men doing chores, tending to the house and kids isn't any big deal.
Those who contradict are sometimes egoistic and narcissistic. Does it matter who washed or cleaned? People get tall but they don't grow.

In reality, many of those who claim to not do chores will later claim to love their mom more than their dad who spends little time at home.

I don't have much to say but I admire men that are not only husbands, but combines fatherhood with it. Both the wife and children are his priority. Cooking to surprise everyone, understanding the make up of the wife and her moods and tends to her needs.

Many men should be handed Every Woman on their day of wedding and those who will read it will be glad they did.

pantherblack:
See we don't care if a woman can't cook, we can get a cook. na my money kill am.


We don't care if a woman can't wash, we can get a dry cleaner to do the work. Na our money kill am.


What bothers us is when we show care and love, they always throw it back in our faces. So we are careful in dealing with y'all our sisters

Not all women can receive good care without turning into something else. It's about meeting the partner with the right stuff

adekhingz:
I don't know what to say....

pantherblack:
I think women want men that makes life hard for them despite craving for good treatment.


Guys be careful how you help a woman. MissJoy29, you be my sister but i will say this oh.


When men show quality care to ladies, they call men weak, too emotional and all sort of names.


So allow me recommend that men need to increase the workload of their wives.


Increase the laundry, house chores, make them pound yam, reject eba, when they finish cooking, reject it so she can prepare a new meal. don't show satisfactipon in things she does, when a woman becomes too easily appreciated they hate it, so do things that will make them keep hopping up and down.



Follow this advice at your peril

pantherblack:
If we follow the formular of effective home planning, and not who wins like it's a competition, both parties can bring the best out of one another without making the climate around the home toxic.

Any man that embraces a woman to show care, support and love is easily termed a weak man, so men need to be careful how they express love for their women. If i use the few expereinces i've had i'll advice men not to overly help a woman in her responsibility oh, you're likely to be called a weak man by an unappreciative wife, the same one you're trying to help