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Marhyaam:
have replied you..

I didn't receive it.

Just email....

It'll be much easier.

Marhyaam:
aiit ma'am....jazakillahu khairan

I already pmed you. I will use a different email after you respond because I am having problems with the email I used to open this account.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JpgqjXWpPLw&t=515s

Abu Dardaa radiallaahu ‘anhu said:“For everything there is a polish and the polish for the heart is the dhikr of Allaah”.

Al-Bayhaqee relates from Ibn 'Umar radiallaahu 'anhu that AlIaah’s Messenger sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said: “For everything there is a polish, and the polish for the hearts is the dhikr (remembrance) of Allaah. There is nothing more potent in saving a person from the punishment of Allaah than the dhikr of Allaah.” It was said: Not even Jihaad in the path of Allaah. So he replied: “Not even if you were to continue striking with your sword until it breaks.”
[Saheeh: Related by Ahmad (4/352), from Mu'aadh ibn Jabal radiallaahu 'anhu. It was authenticated by al-Albaanee in Saheehul-Jaami’ (no.5644).]

There is no doubt that hearts becomes rusty just as copper and silver coins become rusty. The polish for [this rust] is the dhikr of AIlaah. This is because [dhikr] is like a polish [which polishes the heart] like a shiny mirror. When dhikr is left, the rust returns. But when dhikr resumes, then the heart is [again] polished.
And hearts become rusty due to two things:-
(i) neglecting remembering Allaah, and
(ii) committing sins.

The polish for these two things is:-
(i) seeking Allaah’s forgiveness and
(ii) dhikr.
[Ibn Al Qayyim; From al-Istiqaamah magazine Shawwal 1418H/ February 1998

Ibn-ul Qayyim (Rahimahullah) mentioned in his book Madarij us Saalikeen Vol. 2 Pg. 267 “Al Hayaa’ (i.e. modesty) is categorized into ten types:

1. The modesty of Shame: This is similar to the modesty of Adam (Alaihis salam) when he fled in paradise after eating from the forbidden tree. Allah asked him “Are you fleeing form me O Adam because of your sin?” He said: “No my lord! Rather it is out of shame that I flee from you!”

2. The modesty that results in you realizing your shortcomings such as; the modesty of the angels, those who praise Allah day and night and never enervate. On the Day of Judgment they will say Subhanaka! (i.e. Glory be to You!) we did not worship You as You deserved to be worshiped.”

3. The modesty of Magnification: This modesty is a result of knowledge. The extent of knowledge the slave has of his Lord, will determine how modest or shy of Him he/she is.

4. The modesty of Generosity: This is similar to the modesty of the Prophet (Sallahu alaihi wa salam) with those people he invited to the walimah (i.e. marriage banquet) of Zaynab Bint Jahsh (Radiyallahu anha)and they stayed with him longer than necessary, so he stood up and walked away without saying to them “Leave!”.

5. The modesty of Embarrassment: This is similar to the modesty of Ali Ibn Talib (Radiyallahu anhu)when he was too embarrassed to ask the Prophet himself about the pre-seminal discharge he was experiencing, because he was married to his daughter.

6. The modesty of Low self-worth: This is similar to the modesty of the slave in front of his lord when he asks Him for his needs, knowing that he doesn’t deserve it. In a narration of Bani Israel Musa (Alaihis salam) said: “O lord, a need or desire of this life arises and I am too modest to ask You for it O lord!” So Allah responded to him by saying: “Ask me for what whatever you like, whether it is the salt for your dough or the fodder for your herd!” And it is possible that this is because of two things:

7. The modesty of Love: This is the modesty of the one who loves another, and when he thinks in his heart of the one he loves during his absence, his modesty for him is greater than what he feels for him in his presence and he doesn’t even know why. There is no doubt that the love of a person has a stronger and more magnificent authority over the individual than the authority of the one who conquers the body physically. And because of this, kings and elite authority wonder in amazement about creation and how they are conquered because of the love they have for someone greater than they are conquered by power and physical authority. We asked Sheikh ul Islam Ibn Taymiyah (Rahimahullah) about this issue, and I mentioned this to him and he just smiled and didn’t say anything.

8. The modesty of Servitude: This is the type of modesty that is mixed with love and fear while witnessing that there is no perfection in his worship or servitude to the One he worships. And the slave acknowledges that his Lord is greater and more opulent than what he is offering of worship, so his servitude to Allah causes him to be modest of Him, and there is no way around this.

9. The modesty of honor and dignity: The modesty of the noble and prestigious soul. if he does something that is beneath his caliber, either by exerting himself or doing some random act of good, he is modest despite what he has exerted of himself with a type of modesty that is honorable and dignified, and there are two reasons for this:

10. The modesty of an individual regarding himself: This is the modesty of the noble, honorable and dignified individual due to him being pleased with the fact that he has some shortcomings. He prostrates himself out of modesty as if he has two personalities. He is modest with one regarding the other and this is the most complete form of modesty. If the slave is modest regarding himself then he is more likely to be modest in front of others.

“The divine decree related to the believer is always a bounty, even if it is in the form of withholding (something that is desired), and it is a blessing, even if it appears to be a trial, and an affliction that has befallen him is in reality a cure, even though it appears to be a disease!” Ibn al-Qayyim

Whoever would love that Allaah reciprocates his evil with goodness, let him reciprocate the evil people do towards him with goodness- Ibn Qayyim

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From Sheikh Assim

Question

my question Is concerned with college ya sheikh.I know I study hard during exams..I pray to Allah and also make tahjjud.but when results are out my grades are usually very low it makes me think I have some sort of badluck inherent in me.what should i do??

Answer

There is no such thing as bad luck in Islam and you should not think of failures in life as bad luck, this is what Allah has decreed. Either this is not a subject that would be of benefit for you to study, or you are not studying the correct way. Not everyone can become an engineer or a doctor!
Each one of us have his own ability and limitations.

http://www.assimalhakeem.net/my-question-is-concerned-with-college-ya-sheikh-i-know-i-study-hard-during-exams-i-pray-to-allah-and-also-make-tahjjud-but-when-results-are-out-my-grades-are-usually-very-low-it-makes-me-think-i-have/

Marhyaam:
Yes the doctor is.......The money as been paid,but if I need your assistance anytime I hp u willing to help? because I might need it and I dnt want you to see me as a problem or unserious type...tnx

Alhamdlliah!

I will PM you regarding the help.

Marhyaam:
Walaekum salam waramotullahi wabarakatu. ...Torh alhamdulillahi we are all good....Alhamdulillah with everyones help and Almighty Allah's help have gotten the sum of 28,600.....about the hospital issues my uncle thinks the one at osogbo is a better option cos of fund....their financial status is really down cos he as spent alot that was y I was forced to speak out and ask for help since we couldn't leave her to die.......the situation is really bad but we have no choice I strongly believe Allah (S.W.T) is in charge

Is the doctor seeing her now?

Has the 45 thousand been deposited or is there a need to raise that amount?

Op not sure why I feel you still need to check yourself.

Asides the pepper, what were are reasons for wanting more money for business? What if she really couldn't go on the errand you asked her?

You seem to have threatened her with divorce already and you are already telling her that its completely her fault which is most likely untrue. Someone who knows you don't like pepper won't suddenly decide to ocassionally put it for no reason. Have you changed towards her? Do you treat her the same?

What's the communication like between you and your wife? You mentioned her being disrespectful in what way? Have you sat her down and asked her what's wrong?

Alennsar:
humm you case is simple; what type of friends does she associate with? do you notice anything new about her of recent cos d things we listen to at times always have it's impact in our life without you knowing

This is sooooooo true. Had a talk with my friend about it last week. It's very important to be careful about who we listen to and who we follow.

That video brought back childhood memories (AIT &co).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=laa5ADzB_xM

^^
I thought I was the only one that noticed.

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[quote author=Marhyaam post=57493389][/quote]Salam alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakathu sis

How are you doing? Hope you are doing fine? How is Ramadan going?

I think it's important to ask about your well being as well. You have really put in alot of effort for your uncle's wife and may Allah reward you for it.

I just want to ask if any decision has been made regarding the hospital. I think it's important to ask about both hospitals and even do istikhara for whichever will be better.

I also want to ask if funds are still needed. What is the financial situation of the family? How have they been coping with the whole situation? How have you been coping as well?

Narrated `Abdullah bin `Abbas:

I had been eager to ask `Umar about the two ladies from among the wives of the Prophet (ﷺ) regarding whom Allah said (in the Qur'an saying): If you two (wives of the Prophet (ﷺ) namely Aisha and Hafsa) turn in repentance to Allah your hearts are indeed so inclined (to oppose what the Prophet (ﷺ) likes) (66.4), till performed the Hajj along with `Umar (and on our way back from Hajj) he went aside (to answer the call of nature) and I also went aside along with him carrying a tumbler of water. When he had answered the call of nature and returned. I poured water on his hands from the tumbler and he performed ablution. I said, "O Chief of the believers! ' Who were the two ladies from among the wives of the Prophet (ﷺ) to whom Allah said: 'If you two return in repentance (66.4)? He said, "I am astonished at your question, O Ibn `Abbas. They were Aisha and Hafsa."

Then `Umar went on relating the narration and said. "I and an Ansari neighbor of mine from Bani Umaiya bin Zaid who used to live in `Awali Al-Medina, used to visit the Prophet (ﷺ) in turns. He used to go one day, and I another day. When I went I would bring him the news of what had happened that day regarding the instructions and orders and when he went, he used to do the same for me. We, the people of Quraish, used to have authority over women, but when we came to live with the Ansar, we noticed that the Ansari women had the upper hand over their men, so our women started acquiring the habits of the Ansari women. Once I shouted at my wife and she paid me back in my coin and I disliked that she should answer me back. She said, 'Why do you take it ill that I retort upon you? By Allah, the wives of the Prophet (ﷺ) retort upon him, and some of them may not speak with him for the whole day till night.' What she said scared me and I said to her, 'Whoever amongst them does so, will be a great loser.' Then I dressed myself and went to Hafsa and asked her, 'Does any of you keep Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) angry all the day long till night?' She replied in the affirmative. I said, 'She is a ruined losing person (and will never have success)! Doesn't she fear that Allah may get angry for the anger of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) and thus she will be ruined? Don't ask Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) too many things, and don't retort upon him in any case, and don't desert him. Demand from me whatever you like, and don't be tempted to imitate your neighbor (i.e. `Aisha) in her behavior towards the Prophet), for she (i.e. Aisha) is more beautiful than you, and more beloved to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ).

In those days it was rumored that Ghassan, (a tribe living in Sham) was getting prepared their horses to invade us. My companion went (to the Prophet (ﷺ) on the day of his turn, went and returned to us at night and knocked at my door violently, asking whether I was sleeping. I was scared (by the hard knocking) and came out to him. He said that a great thing had happened. I asked him: What is it? Have Ghassan come? He replied that it was worse and more serious than that, and added that Allah's Apostle had divorced all his wives. I said, Hafsa is a ruined loser! I expected that would happen some day.' So I dressed myself and offered the Fajr prayer with the Prophet. Then the Prophet (ﷺ) entered an upper room and stayed there alone. I went to Hafsa and found her weeping. I asked her, 'Why are you weeping? Didn't I warn you? Have Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) divorced you all?' She replied, 'I don't know. He is there in the upper room.' I then went out and came to the pulpit and found a group of people around it and some of them were weeping. Then I sat with them for some time, but could not endure the situation. So I went to the upper room where the Prophet (ﷺ) was and requested to a black slave of his: "Will you get the permission of (Allah's Apostle) for `Umar (to enter)? The slave went in, talked to the Prophet (ﷺ) about it and came out saying, 'I mentioned you to him but he did not reply.' So, I went and sat with the people who were sitting by the pulpit, but I could not bear the situation, so I went to the slave again and said: "Will you get he permission for `Umar? He went in and brought the same reply as before. When I was leaving, behold, the slave called me saying, "Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) has granted you permission."

So, I entered upon the Prophet and saw him lying on a mat without wedding on it, and the mat had left its mark on the body of the Prophet, and he was leaning on a leather pillow stuffed with palm fires. I greeted him and while still standing, I said: "Have you divorced your wives?' He raised his eyes to me and replied in the negative. And then while still standing, I said chatting: "Will you heed what I say, 'O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! We, the people of Quraish used to have the upper hand over our women (wives), and when we came to the people whose women had the upper hand over them..." `Umar told the whole story (about his wife). "On that the Prophet (ﷺ) smiled." `Umar further said, "I then said, 'I went to Hafsa and said to her: Do not be tempted to imitate your companion (`Aisha) for she is more beautiful than you and more beloved to the Prophet.' The Prophet (ﷺ) smiled again. When I saw him smiling, I sat down and cast a glance at the room, and by Allah, I couldn't see anything of importance but three hides. I said (to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)) "Invoke Allah to make your followers prosperous for the Persians and the Byzantines have been made prosperous and given worldly luxuries, though they do not worship Allah?' The Prophet (ﷺ) was leaning then (and on hearing my speech he sat straight) and said, 'O Ibn Al-Khattab! Do you have any doubt (that the Hereafter is better than this world)? These people have been given rewards of their good deeds in this world only.' I asked the Prophet (ﷺ) . 'Please ask Allah's forgiveness for me.

The Prophet (ﷺ) did not go to his wives because of the secret which Hafsa had disclosed to `Aisha, and he said that he would not go to his wives for one month as he was angry with them when Allah admonished him (for his oath that he would not approach Maria). When twenty-nine days had passed, the Prophet (ﷺ) went to Aisha first of all. She said to him, 'You took an oath that you would not come to us for one month, and today only twenty-nine days have passed, as I have been counting them day by day.' The Prophet (ﷺ) said, 'The month is also of twenty-nine days.' That month consisted of twenty-nine days. `Aisha said, 'When the Divine revelation of Choice was revealed, the Prophet (ﷺ) started with me, saying to me, 'I am telling you something, but you need not hurry to give the reply till you can consult your parents." `Aisha knew that her parents would not advise her to part with the Prophet (ﷺ) . The Prophet (ﷺ) said that Allah had said: 'O Prophet! Say To your wives; If you desire The life of this world And its glitter, ... then come! I will make a provision for you and set you free In a handsome manner. But if you seek Allah And His Apostle, and The Home of the Hereafter, then Verily, Allah has prepared For the good-doers amongst you A great reward.' (33.28) `Aisha said, 'Am I to consult my parents about this? I indeed prefer Allah, His Apostle, and the Home of the Hereafter.' After that the Prophet (ﷺ) gave the choice to his other wives and they also gave the same reply as `Aisha did."

Narrated Abu Musa:
The Prophet (peace and blessing be upon him) said, "A believer to another believer is like a building whose different parts enforce each other." The Prophet (peace and blessing be upon him) then clasped his hands with the fingers interlaced (while saying that).

Narrated `Abdullah bin `Umar:
Allah's Messenger (peace and blessing be on him) said, "A Muslim is a brother of another Muslim, so he should not oppress him, nor should he hand him over to an oppressor. Whoever fulfilled the needs of his brother, Allah will fulfill his needs; whoever brought his (Muslim) brother out of a discomfort, Allah will bring him out of the discomforts of the Day of Resurrection, and whoever screened a Muslim, Allah will screen him on the Day of Resurrection . "

Narrated Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri:
Allah's Messenger (peace and blessing be upon) said, "When the believers pass safely over (the bridge across) Hell, they will be stopped at a bridge in between Hell and Paradise where they will retaliate upon each other for the injustices done among them in the world, and when they get purified of all their sins, they will be admitted into Paradise. By Him in Whose Hands the life of Muhammad is everybody will recognize his dwelling in Paradise better than he recognizes his dwelling in this world."

*I don't know why his hadith made me smile.....I guess it's because the worst is over and everyone ended up in paradise. Maybe it's also because everyone will recognize his place in paradise. So everyone will recognize their true home even though it was never seen prior to hand.

I can't marry someone completely opposite because we'll fight all the time. So I guess someone where both we share similar values but he still has some opposite characteristics but not to the extreme. So basically 75-80% similar and the rest can be opposite but not to the extreme.

Alennsar:
alright I'll be waiting then. my regards to your family.

Sent.

Alennsar:
assalamualeikum waramotulah wabarakatuh. I've been waiting for your message oo or did you change your mind?

wa alaykum salam wa rahmatullah i wa barakathu. Change my mind ke? Rara oo.

I sent an email to another mail address I was thinking I might be bothering by sending another one. I actually thought about sending one today.

I will send the email right now.

Sorry for keeping you waiting.

^^

Made me go but it's the truth.

Are we supposed to answer that question or is it for us to reflect?

Demmzy15:
So aljazeerah carries critical news, how did you get to know that aljazeerah Arabic carries critical news when you don't watch it? Is that not a form of bias that you claimed to be fighting, and does that not go against your so called "core values"?[quote]

I really didn't intend to carry on with this discussion but I am only responding to this cuz I think it's an attack against my person. Did u miss the part where I mentioned all external media outlets (outside GCC) I read mentioned the reason for the shut down was because the news was critical and no one mentioned that al-jazeera acually propagated propaganda. Didn't I also mention that I have read about Aljazeera Arabic being biased and if they truly are then Saudi can take legal actions? If I intended to be bias would I have mentioned that?

2) Air spaces and seports from UAE and Bahrain have been closed to qatari organizations and organizations registered in Qatar. These are the ports usually used by Qatar. Qatar Airways offices have also been shut and some of their staffs detained ( as reported by its CEO). All private companies/organizations in Qatar require that a Qatari co owns it * so I am not sure what will be allowed to pass through except Qatar finds external organizarions to ship things in. This is the reason Turkey, Iran, Morroco, and Oman have stepped in.
And yes it is still collective punishment because regular GCC citizens are the most affected. Families are being torn apart and are being threatned to return back to their countries or face severe consequences. People who school have to chabge school. People's who started businesses in those countries have to leave.
Before u mention the "hotline numbers" to call for help, those that I have heard of that called those numbers didn't get a response and only immediate family members are entitled to the 'aid services'.

3)I read all the link you posted, saudi is mad cuz Qatar supports Hamas, Qatar supported Arab Spring, and Qatar has a neutral stance with Iran. Did you also read the opinion article I posted? I find the opinions are somewhat biased against Qatar and mainly written by people affiliated with Al-Arabiya which was why I requested sources outside the GCC. The opinions on Al-Jazeera English * well the one's I've read also support Qatar which is another reason I was asking for news outside the GCC. I only refered you to that article to give you the perspective from within Qatar.

4)You made speculations as well. And I read years ago that exteimists being rehabilitated in Qatar but it's usually very secretive. But I am not sure if that only applies to Qatari citizens.

5) I am not sympathetic towards any groups. I don't know who the Ikwanis are and I am not sure why they are a problem. All I am aware of is Yusuf Qawadari who as I understood follows a wrong creed so maybe I need that lecture.

6) Haven't looked at any of the links u posted, but you honestly raised 'some' valid points. Even if I do read the links I won't be commenting on this issue anymore for safety reasons.

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