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One last thing.

Housewives are extremely underappreciated. When I stayed home during the holiday, I tried to do more house chores, cook, play games and do homework with my siblings. It was exhausting. Before completing one task, you realize its time to start another. Before you are done cleaning, you realize its almost time for the kids to come back from school so you have to start cooking. So husbands should appreciate their stay at home wives. Additionally, they should them monthly allowances.

Really, a stay at home wife does a lot to keep the family running and it only fair to give her an allowance for her personal keeping- not just money to go to the market and buy foodstuff. She should have her own personal savings as well. She has her own needs and wants. Its sad that a woman asks her husband for money to buy something as little as sanitary pad. Later if she starts working, the husband would be the first to complain that it's affecting the family.

Women should also know that they can demand a monthly allowance as part of the marriage contract.

^^

Won't derail the thread any longer.

There are some cases where both parents work and its up to the job of the nanny to raise the child. Picture this-

Nanny wakes kids, prepare their meals and takes them to school with driver. Nanny picks child up from school, listens to report from teacher, again cooks and serves child. The tutor or sometimes nanny does the homework with the child. Mum comes home from work the last thing on her mind is to listen to the child talk about his/her day or play with them. So she give the child a tablet or phone and lets him/her watch TV.

Children especially at a young age need their parents. If not, they get their values from other people. The child is closer to the nanny than the mum, the child gets his/her values from the nanny and sometimes even take the religion of the nanny * this actually happens*

Or let's say the mum stays at home and the dad works all the time. The kids don't know anything about their dad except that he's the person to ask for money. If you need money, dad will pay. That's the role the dad plays. If a dad isn't there for his kids when they are young, its a lot harder to change that when they are older.


The issue isn't about working or not working. Sometimes a mum stays at home and the nanny is the one raising the kids. At the same time, there are children there are parents who work and still raise their children. Its an issue of prioritizing and accepting the responsibility to raise children.

At the end of the day money doesn't buy a healthy family relationship. Money doesn't buy a child's love or respect. Money doesn't buy emotional bonds.

I don't see a reason why a man should stop me from working if the environment is Islamic and if it doesn't affect my obligations towards my family. This is especially true when there are no kids invloved. When kids are invloved, both parents need to modify their priorities and realize they brought these kids into the world and children have rights over their parents.

A nanny's job DOES NOT include raising kids and they CANNOT replace parents. Having a nanny is fine but the nanny shouldn't become like a parent to the child.

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Wa alaykum salam wa rahmatullah wa barakathu

You beat me to making a thread about this topic. I was still unsure about creating one so jazakallahu khyran.

Prepration: Making Ramadan a top priority, reciting the Qur'an more and making dua, one of ot is that I and my family live to see Ramadan and the months after it.

I don't have any particular advise but Ramadan is a great time to pick up a habit or drop a habit. For example praying the sunnah prayers and qiyyaml al layl.

I would like some tips on working out, particularly, strength training in Ramadan as well how how to prevent hypoglycemia.

Demmzy15:
Doctor, Medical Laboratory officer or whatever they call it, but definitely not in an office!

All offices? If no, what type?

Surat at-Tur verse 21
وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَاتَّبَعَتْهُمْ ذُرِّيَّتُهُم بِإِيمَانٍ أَلْحَقْنَا بِهِمْ ذُرِّيَّتَهُمْ وَمَا أَلَتْنَاهُم مِّنْ عَمَلِهِم مِّن شَيْءٍ ۚ كُلُّ امْرِئٍ بِمَا كَسَبَ رَهِينٌ

And those who believe and whose offspring follow them in faith, -- to them shall We join their offspring, and We shall not decrease the reward of their deeds in anything. Every person is a pledge for that which he has earned

In this Ayah, Allah the Exalted affirms His favor, generosity, graciousness, compassion and beneficence towards His creation. When the offspring of the righteous believers imitate their parents regarding faith, Allah will elevate the latter to the ranks of the former, even though the latter did not perform deeds as goodly as their parents. Allah will comfort the eyes of the parents by seeing their offspring elevated to their grades. Surely, Allah will gather them together in the best manner, and He will not decrease the reward or the grades of those higher in rank for joining them together.

Jazakallahu khyran.

I feel like debt is easily overlooked.

Regarding fast owned to Allah, there are instance where it doesn't have to be paid. If a person missed a fast as a result of an illness( which he can recover from) or travel or menses and doesn't have the oppurtunity to fast then his/her family doesnt have to fast on his/her behalf. For example, if a woman fasted Ramadan but was unable to make up the fast she missed as a result of menses, because she died, family members won't have to faston her behalf. Say for example she died on Eid or she started fasting after Eid but died before she could complete the days, then it doesn't have to be paid back.

Or a man was ill ( an illness that he can recover from) but dies before he is able to make up his fast then the family memebers don't have to fast back.

And Allah knows best.

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Pride (Kibr)

It was reported that the prophet (peace and blessing be upon him).“Whoever has an atoms worth of kibr (pride) in his heart will not enter Paradise.” So a man said: What about a person who loves (i.e. takes pride in) wearing beautiful clothes and beautiful shoes? So he replied: “Indeed Allaah is beautiful and loves beauty. Kibr (pride) is to reject the truth, and to despise the people.” (Narrated in Muslim).

Pride is of two types

1) Pride against the truth: This is to reject the truth and not to accept it. So anyone who reject the truth is proud and arrogant – in accordance with what he reject of the truth. So it is obligatory upon everyone to humble themselves to the truth which Allaah sent His Messenger with, and which He sent down in His Book. As for those whose pride and arrogance prevents them from totally complying with the Messengers (i.e. having eemaan or faith in them and their message) – then they are kuffaar (unbelievers) who will dwell in the Hellfire for eternity. Since when the truth comes to them via the Messengers, who explain to them the signs and clear proofs, they reject it and are prevented from accepting it, due to the kibr that they harbour in their hearts. Allaah the Most High – said:

“Indeed those who argue about the Signs of Allaah without any authority having come to them, there is nothing in their hearts except kibr (pride). They will never accept the Prophet Muhammad sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam as a Prophet.” [Soorah Ghaafir (40):56]


[2] Pride towards people: This type is to despise the people, and to look down upon them. This attitude arises when a person is amazed with his own self, thinks highly of himself, and thinks he is better than others. So this causes him to have kibr towards the creation, despise them, mock them, and to degrade them through both speech and action.

https://abdurrahman.org/2014/01/08/prideabarrior/

*Wealth isn't the only thing that can make one arrogant, knowledge can do that as well.

It is reported that on the first night of Ramadân, ‘Umar – Allâh be pleased with him – would pray Maghrib, then say (to the people):

Sit down. Then he would give a small address: Verily the fasting of this month has been made a duty upon you, and standing in night prayer has not been made a duty upon you, but those amongst you who can stand in prayer should do so, for it is from the extra good deeds about which Allâh told us: so whoever cannot stand in prayer, let him sleep on his bed.

And beware of saying: I will fast if so and so fasts and I will stand in night prayer if so and so stands in prayer. Whoever fasts or stands in night prayer, he must make this for Allâh. And you should know that you are in prayer as long as you are waiting for a prayer.

Minimize any vain or false speech in the houses of Allâh (mosques; he said this two or three times). Let none of you fast a few days before the month (in order to avoid missing the beginning of the month; he said this three times). And do not fast until you see [the crescent of the new month] unless it is overcast. If it is overcast, count [the previous month] as 30 days. Then do not break your fasts until you see the night upon the mountain (i.e. you are sure the sun has set).

‘Abd Al-Razzâq Al-San’ânî, Al-Musannaf article 7748.

2 things I want to highlight

1- thinking

2- post ( not thread) migt even be in my journal.

Came at the perfect time. Was thinking of making a post on the topic. Certain things money cannot buy or fix.

^^ and appreciated and that no one is equal to them in their husband's eyes. Women tend to like to be listened to. They should be treated nicely and spoilt with love.

With that being mentioned, sometimes a man might need to be firm. Being firm doesn't mean being harsh.

* This doesn't apply to everyone but based on things I have seen and read. *

Jazakallahu Khyran

AbdelKabir:
In order not to complicate things...... The short answer I'll give is...

"Salla" is a fi'l – verb, the kasrah comes in, if it were to be an ism – noun, adjective, pronoun..

And using English translation to judge is an error....

I can as well translate it may Allaah make blessings and peace upon him......

هل تفهمين؟

Yeah got it.
Jazakallahu khayran

Salam alaykum.

I am searching for the answer for a particular question. So its number 4. I checked the answer key but it wasn't written clearly.

So will it be Muhammadu sala allahi alayhi wa salam?

We say peace and blessing of Allah. So Allah is mudafu ilyahi. Be upon him- so ala is preposition so it is it changes hu to hi.

It was narrated by Muslim in his Saheeh (607) that Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: Whilst we were with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), he dozed off then he raised his head and he was smiling. We said, “Why are you smiling, O Messenger of Allaah?” He said: “A soorah has been revealed to me.” And he recited (interpretation of the meaning):

“Verily, We have granted you (O Muhammad) Al-Kawthar (a river in Paradise)…”

[al-Kawthar 108:1]

to the end of the soorah. Then he said: “Do you know what is al-Kawthar?” We said: Allaah and His Messenger know best.” He said: “It is a river that my Lord has promised to me in which there is much goodness. And it is a cistern to which my ummah will come on the Day of Resurrection.”

May Allah have have mercy on her and grant her jannah.

Ameen.

AbdelKabir:
Using a fatwa you dont know the situation that borders around the question and why the scholar replied that way is wrong...

I learnt from my teacher in a fiqh class that tbe prophet once gave two different answers to two different individuals with the same question after studying the situation around two questions, so you don't just pick a fatwa....

I was looking for the link, I waned to specifically link the book but here it is https://islamqa.info/en/22445
I still have more links concerning calculating prayer time but I wasn't sure if I should post them. None of the authentic websites I checked said it wasn't permissible to calculate time of worship except for when using it alone to determine some months of worship like beginning of Ramadan, hajj etc. There was no mention of innovation. I also thought I'd give op a chance to clarify the hadith issue.

That's BTW

I said, stipulating a particular time for acts of worship is an innovation, I don't know how else to say this...

And you shouldn't try to make it seem like error this timetable bring is minor, Fasting a day before or after the actual time is not small an error, or breaking before its time is not small an error...

I am not making any issue a minor issue. Like I have mentioned, when it comes to fasting the prophet specifically commanded us to look for the crescent.

Read the op again and see where the attention is directed to...

The op talked about starting of Ramadan, sahur, iftaar.....can you present anything other than this?

The op said this And this;

The topic of the thread is; Stop Spreading Baseless RAMADAN Time Table

The Op also said that there is a authentic prohibition on calculating the acts of worship and didn't specify. This was the original reason I commented. The mention of Suhoor and Iftar falls under prayer time so I assumed he included those as well. He called the calculations baseless and said it will misguide people. The way it was written condemns calculating time as as whole. When I asked abut the evidence, he mentioned I should provide evidence that it was permissible to calculate prayer times, so I assumed he was the opinion that it is prohibited. All I wanted was evidence for that.

As for praying outside Ramadan, although that's not the op concentration, its a different case, time for prayers fall in between a time frame, not a specific time...

OK

But the timetable says Ramadan starts so so and so date which might lead some to fasting before the day or after the day....

I have mentioned that people should sight the moon when it comes to Ramadan.

The seventh question of Fatwa no. 18457
Q 7: Here in Stockholm, we have Prayer timetables indicating the time of sunrise and sunset. However, observing the sunset and the sunrise with our eyes, we find a slight difference. We contacted the Meteorological Centre in Stockholm to inquire about their way of calculating the time of sunrise and sunset. The employee said that none of the Islamic organizations had contacted them to clarify the Muslim's need to know the timing of sunrise and sunset in their Shari`ah issues such as the time of Prayers.
The timing of sunrise and sunset recorded in the Swedish calendar is calculated for other purposes. They do not calculate the time of sunrise when the edge of the sun rises but when the center of the sun appears. In the same manner, they do not calculate the time of sunset when the edge of the sun disappears but when the center of the sun disappears. However, it is known that the validity of Salah is conditional on the beginning of the prescribed time.
(Part No. 5; Page No. 125)
Verily, As-Salât (the prayer) is enjoined on the believers at fixed hours. Allah (Glorified and Exalted be He) addresses His Messenger (peace be upon him) ordering him to offer the Five Obligatory Daily Prayers in their prescribed times: Perform As-Salât (Iqamât-as-Salât) from mid-day till the darkness of the night (i.e. the Zuhr, ‘Asr, Maghrib and ‘Ishâ’ prayers), and recite the Qur’ân in the early dawn (i.e. the morning prayer). Verily, the recitation of the Qur’ân in the early dawn is ever witnessed (attended by the angels in charge of mankind of the day and the night). According to the employee, they calculate the appearance of the moon using computers. They have never tried to sight the crescent since a long time ago. None of the Muslim officials asked for sighting the crescent in the beginning of Ramadan or any other month.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Fast on sighting it (the new moon) and break your fast on sighting it. (Related by Al-Bukhari) Scholars are in agreement on the permissibility of using observatories for the purpose of witnessing the crescent. However, they held different opinions with regard to confirming the new moon through astronomical calculations without practical sight. Some believe that it is impermissible to use astronomical calculations to confirm the new moon. Likewise, it is not correct to rely on astronomy, as it is guesswork. However, others believe that sighting the crescent means to make sure of the new moon and that the modern astronomical calculations are more accurate than sighting the crescent. Which of these ways do you prefer in Saudi Arabia?
(Part No. 5; Page No. 126)

A: It is not permissible to rely on the calculations or the timing of a Non-Muslim country in order to observe Sawm (Fast) or to offer Salah. This is due to the fact that the testimony of a non-Muslim is not accepted in religious matters. You have mentioned in your inquiry that they have their own calculations with regard to sunrise, sunset, and sighting the crescent that are not in conformity with the Shari`ah (Islamic law). This is an enough reason not to take their calculations into consideration.
You must depend on yourselves in determining the timing of the Five Obligatory Daily Prayers and the sight of the crescent. This is a feasible matter, Al-hamdu lillah (All praise is due to Allah).
It is not permissible to use calculations to determine the beginning or the end of Ramadan. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Fast on sighting it (the new moon) and break your fast on sighting it. However, if the sky is overcast (and you cannot see it), complete the term as thirty (days of Sha`ban). Many Sahih Hadith (authentic Hadith) have been narrated to the same effect. Shaykh Al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (may Allah be merciful to him) said that there is scholarly consensus on this point.
May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.

Fatwas of the Permanent Committee

http://alifta.net/Search/ResultDetails.aspx?languagename=en&lang=en&view=result&fatwaNum=&FatwaNumID=&ID=3498&searchScope=7&SearchScopeLevels1=&SearchScopeLevels2=&highLight=1&SearchType=exact&SearchMoesar=false&bookID=&LeftVal=0&RightVal=0&simple=&SearchCriteria=allwords&PagePath=&siteSection=1&searchkeyword=067065076067085076065084073078071032084073077069#firstKeyWordFound

AbdelKabir:
The op is talking about calculating the time for the kick off for Ramadan, iftaar and when sahur should stop, and you calculate time for all these and spread among the people, two things come in

1.) You are saying these timing are for the act of these worship and that's an innovation for which there is no evidence, the hadeeth comes in..

Study of the positions and movements of the stars (astronomy) is divided into two categories:

1 – If their movements are used to define things that serve a religious purpose, this is something that is necessary. If that helps in the case of religious obligations, then learning it is obligatory, such as using the stars to determine the direction of the qiblah (direction of Makkah).

2 – If their movements are used to define things that serve a worldly purpose, there is nothing wrong with that. This is of two types:

(a) Using the stars to work out directions, such as knowing that the pole lies to the north, and that the Pole Star, which is close to it, revolves around the North Pole. This is permissible. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And landmarks (signposts, during the day) and by the stars (during the night), they (mankind) guide themselves”

[al-Nahl 16:16]

(b) Using the stars to work out the seasons, through learning the phases of the moon. Some of the salaf regarded this as makrooh while others permitted it. The correct view is that it is permissible and there is nothing makrooh in it, because there is no shirk involved in it, unless one learns it in order to attribute rainfall or cold weather to it, and says that this is what is causing that. That is a kind of shirk. But simply knowing the time of year from it, whether it is spring or autumn or winter, there is nothing wrong with that.

See al-Qawl al-Mufeed by Shaykh Muhammad ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him), 2/102.

2.) You are not sure, yet you are spreading timetable among the people, then you have spoken without knowledge....

See above. No mention of innovation or

Again, the op is talking about Ramadan........

The OP did not differentiate between Ramadan and other months when he mentioned that a hadith prohibited calculating time for acts of worship. We also pray outside Ramadan.

AbdelKabir:
Setting up a time for an act of worship which have no evidence like the timing of a dua between adhan and iqaamq is an innovation....

How does this relate? The prayer times don't set up times between adthan ans iqama.

I will be posting some links in sha Allah.

AbdelKabir:
Actually you are, if not why spread timetable about if you weren't sure? Comparing this with weather prediction is an error, this is matter of deen and when you are not sure, you don't say...

Because it accurate most of the time with only a few minute difference when it isn't. Astrologers don't claim it's exact so It's up to the people to decide if they use it as a guide or if they firmly follow it. It is only a guide. If the time predicted stated 5:50 and I haven't heard the adthan then I know to wait until the adthan is called. I will still read up on this.

I don't know of such hadeeth, perhaps the op will provide it, but the hadeeth of innovation can also be used......

How is this an innovation?

AbdelKabir:
All acts of worship done without evidence even though no specific text prohibit them are rejected, so the issue of "generally permissible......." Does not come in, "generally permissible....." Comes in when we talking about mundane affairs..... That's 1

2.) when you specifically state a time to do an act of worship, we will ask you, where have you gotten your evidence for stating a particular time for that act of worship, only the prophet has the right to give a time like he has done in many instances like saying dua said between iqaama and adhan is not rejected.....so here we have a specific time.....so when you calculate a time, you have to provide evidence for it...

3.) Its known that timing for Maghrib do vary and it is sunset, if timetable says iftaar starts by 6:30pm but on a particular day the sunset came up like 6:50pm, the ignorant among the Muslims using that timetable will fall into error...

4.) Islamic calendar can be 29 or 30 days depending on sighting of the moon, we've seen people following timetable to start fasting instead by a day extra or less....

We aren't attributing specific time for any acts of worship when we calculate time. We are simply predicting based on calculations that that sunset will fall at a certain time. It is similar to predicting/guessing the weather. Yes it isn't a 100% Yes i isn't a 100% correct all the time, that's why one should be careful and cross check. If people are careless regarding that, then it's a problem is from their side. With regards to sighting the mood, there is an hadith that specifically says to sight the moon. The author claimed that there is an authentic narration supporting the prohibition on calculating times for worship.

AbdelKabir:
Not all things.....

I know there are exceptions but I don't know much about them. Does the OP's topic fall under that?

I just want the evidences because the OP's stance is new to me. I know he wasn't the one that wrote it but he shared it so I thought I'd ask for the evidences. Anyone who makes a claim should provide evidence for it.

AbuUbayy1:
Waalaykumussalaam-WarahmatuLlaah-Wabarakatuh, can you also provide evidence for using it?.

The general principle is things are permissible except there is evidence that prohibits it.

Can you provide evidence for the prohibition in using the calculated time for prayer and other acts of worship?

Salam alaykum

Can you provide evidence for not using the calculated prayer times?

Yes. I used to be pro live in house helps but I think its much better to pay them per hour and have them leave after cleaning. I prefer agencies as well.

^^

Hope that memory doesn't lead to keeping malice?