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sexkillz: [color=#000030]Things fall apart. [/color]

please explain

I was in South Africa a while back and saw this 1 lady who was staying with a guy from back home. The woman was unemployed and he was working as a camera man for one popular tv station. They stay in an apartment with another couple. The guy is a player. He left a woman in his father's house i Delta State and she has 3 kids by him the first one is 16 years old. The south african woman who he has a child with is about 30 and the brother is about 38. More than 3 ladies confronted her telling her that when ever she is not around he invites woman to his house and has normal relationships with them ofwhich they all dumped him when they learnt that he had a woman he was staying with.The lady has also confessed that she knows of his cheating habit but claims to be inlove with this man. in order to hold on to him , she gave him a baby last month and she goes around parading how happy she is What do you guys think of this whole situation

the post first said her baby daddy died then at the end it said he chased her out. which one is true

start small then grow gradually. i started with a tenth of my current salary. That was 7 years back

This is a question i have been struggling with. I look at all everyone around me and wonder if there is truely a short cut to wealth. My momma used to tell me that education was key and my friends used to tell me that business was key but the question would be, which type of business and what would it take to set it up. Guy please tell me how one can be rich

dude are you trying to say that ladies are demanding or are you trying to say that men should stay away from us with this your llooooooong list

it can be possible what then what would be the reason for getting marriage if you still wana stay in separate homes

dmcdad: After much whining about men and how ur father kicked the bucket, leaving u and ur mom to face all the challenges of life, all of a sudden u came up with the above, and at that time I knew u were... Anyway, I understand how it is with you but then, you really need help in order for u to be able to change this mindset of yours.

Well, you really need to change your view cause as it stands now... in fact, let me leave u to it.

tnx

dmcdad: Not like I expect anything else but the way and manner she comes up to change one thing or the other incessantly is what is startling to me...

give me an example of your concern because i only changed from the main topic once when i was analysing my feelings. please give me another example

i love u poster

shizzle11: Wooow! Now this is serious! Op truly needs help

already started seeing a therapist sir

dmcdad: This is definitely a joke... Dang!

sir this is not a joke. m sorry of you think it is

[quote author=Mynd_44]I would take Daily news's advise with a pinch of salt and a bottle of malt if I were you[/quote]done sirr

i think you have done your research bro but you said woman hate black whereas most woman love black coz it makes them look smaller

one can easly argue that if the wife trusts her self she has nothing to worry about but we all know that its never adviceable for a lady to work very close with a men. look at the rate house girls and secretaries bonk their ogas. plz do not employ a woman as your driver sir unless yuo want to driver your wife crazy becoz you will dfntly be sexually attracted to this person one day

poster maybe you can try talk to your men to pay for you but you still take your baby with. he is your responsibilty now. you do not need to stay on campus. you can share an apartment and look for a part time jiob too. blv me when i say a child who grows up with an absent parent become angry, bitter and hurt. plz do not put your child through that. plz.

DailyNews: I like this OP for one reason: openness and ability to take corrections, kudos...but try and love people...and don't blame your late dad for kicking the bucket so early, never his fault, and if only you could see where he is crying and watching over you....just take heart and be happy; you have a greater, ever loving father that cares for you always, and never dies, run to Him, and that's Jehovah!!!!

ncoooh thank you sir. i am sooo humbled right now

[quote author=tpia@]yorubas say ibi ere l'ati nmo ooto oro.

meaning even though you may feel you're typing in jest, or to get people riled up, it doesnt change the fact that you have a deep resentment towards whoever you consider a father figure. Vice versa goes for the women bashing males.


at some stage, it will be certifiable, just saying.[/quote]sister i already know what i am going through. i know i hate men and my dad too. i am serously. i am not trying to get people to feel sorry for me or manupilate guys hey. its just that i just realised that the anger i have had for the last 21 years has turned me in to a nasty sad person

that guy is really selfish. he says this because its not his child who was treated bad. sister pay for your own studies before you let an innocent child be hurt because of a man you are trying to impress, who might even lv you tomorrow and your own son hating you

[quote author=Mynd_44]You need a shrink[/quote]now i know

i would like to ask if he did mention this condition before the marriage or if its something he just introduced now after the wedding. Its unfair for him to expect you to follow this without him introducing it before the wedding coz you would have had time to decided as to whether to prepair for the new behaviour or as to divorce him even before marriage. he is being unfair really coz now i sense he thinks you are desparate for his marriaqe. please answer me on this question. other ladies do not have a problem with kneeling to their man as they love doing it anyway but if they never made him to get used to it from start why would they be forced to do something they never even expected from scratch. this is why people must always take time to know their potential future spouses before marriage and never rush even if it might seem like everyone has gotten married and you are a spinster. take time to know him. but OP for you i would say a wife has gotta do what a wife has gotta do. kneel for him if that is what he wants or divorce him or seek marriage counselling were both of you can talk about what to expect each other since its clear you never did pre marital counselling.

Nnekacherry: Dude stop acting like a sissy and act like a man..
Go and take care of your family..

tell him sugar

where is her green card? i wana see the realage

so what. y should men ask these questions in the first place and there is nothing wrong with her saying those things coz if she would tell the truth you would think she is ashhhy

[quote author=Mynd_44]I am shocked.[/quote]me 2

i love nicki . she looks good. as for the others ooooooooooo myyyyyyyyyyyyyy gosssssssshhhh

i just want to say thanks @topia you are a star. guys i apologies for all the hurtful things i have said on this forum. all the threads where i have made negative comments. i am really sorry guys.

wow i am soooo shocked at my self. i can't blv i am the one who just wrote all this. i actually never understood how i felt until a moment ago. wow and i am suddendly so calm. thanks nairaland for helping me see that i have a problem. i am really going to seek help. wooooow. now i hope you guys can see how important this forum is as for some of us its eye opening and life changing. thank you guys . from the bottom of my heart

i prefered her fat too. she shouldn't have worn that ugly top

Jumong1: . thanks

dont just thank people na, tell us your decision. what are you going to do now with all the advice people have given ( i am refering to your other post on the same topic as well)

[quote author=tpia@]^ do you hate your father?[/quote]tooooo much. the dude decided to die when i was 5years old and lv my mother to struggle so i hate him very much for all that i went through in life. if he would have stuck around and see me grow, i would not have soo much anger in me. i even got to an extend where i looked for the father figure in romantic relationships bcoz the bastard who gave birth to me was not around and not there for me growing up so sue me for feeling the way i do. i hate men period and its even worse coz all these bastard seem to just know how to make kids and lv the baby mommas to raise them alone. men will always be dogs to me and nothing can change that