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sillyboy:
FirstWe are not Jesus Christwe are only trying to be Christ like and also note that some are not christians and do not have any Christ to look up too.

We will only try to be like Him but we can never be a God like He is.

Girls are manipulative abi. . . .?
I have realized that girls are more manipulative when it comes to sexwhy?
I think because they love it as much as we do but wouldnt admit it.

Moreover, in the issue of cheatingif you ask me, I would say Girls cheat more.
It's more rampant to see single girls going after married men than seeing single boys going after married men. . .

85% of girls that boys cheat on has boyfriends or someone they are datingwhile the15% are are either married or are Catholic "sisters". . .even those ones sef. . . .

The only thing that makes it look like boys cheat more than girls is because. . .
we boys talk about our escapedes while the girls keep it as secret until they are caught red handed.

Lastlyanybody that doesnt cheat now does not mean he or she wouldnt cheat in the future. . .
Sh*ts happens.

First - I said strive to be like him.
Girls can be manipulative for different reasons. Sex is not such a big factor in that. Most times, it is jealousy.
Correction - Single girl going after a married man is NOT cheating.
Where did you get your stats?
I know things happen but we should try to let it not happen.

OgidiBoy:
My beat a woman WOW!!! that's totally out off the question for me girl, I'd cheat, say mean things, walkout on a girl but I'll never lay my hands on a girl. My mom raised my right dear.

I think beating a woman is much better than cheating on her. In one you're breaking her heart and in the other, you're just hurting her. Your mama raise you right. We can't say the same about the effect of alcohol on you. Get my point?

I'm so sorry. I can't say I know how it feels but as sistawoman said, find other things to do. Immerse yourself into anything that would make you forget. it's better and very therapeutic. Also, look forward to moving on with your life. There's always someone better than your ex. Trust me on that one. I know that for a fact.

OgidiBoy:
My dear I'm not an alcoholic oh!! I just can't help it to drink too much if someone else is buying.

Oh goodness me! You better start helping it before you beat your girl up by mistake. That's how it starts. The cheating, the lying, the beating. Guys are too influenced.

[quote author=*Toyinrayo link=topic=216081.msg3315430#msg3315430 date=1231374463]Sillyboy, why are you trying to justify those lying cheating naija (men) goats?[/quote]Please ask him for me.
Uncle Silly, why are you justifying cheating? EHN?
Why do you feel so attacked?

OgidiBoy:
My brother please help me ask J-girl oh, these women don't know how hard it is for us men

Everyman should know what bottle drives him to that point. Ah ahn! Most men know this now. Is alcohol such a big problem for you?

sillyboy:
Well, "getting drunk often" is just an expression meant literarily.
But , seriously its the devils fault.
LOL

MoreoverI'd like the ladies to understand that "it takes two to tango"
If there are no ladies to cheat with,. . .then men wouldnt cheat.

For instance, the girl-friend should know this is her friend's man.

The bottom line is that any human is like a potentioal cheating bomb to cheatit could go off anytime. . .
including you ladies in here, . . .

Stop blaming the Devil. You don't see Jesus blaming the Devil for temptation. Instead, he overcame it. Men should do the same especially since we are all created in his likeness.

Girls can be manipulative. That's another topic for another day. Here, we are concentrating on why MEN or WOMEN cheat. Friend is not an excuse. A man can hit on me for 5 days straight without me moving. It depends on the inner will of that man or woman to control his or herself. It's a matter of self discipline. It's hard but it's very doable.

Not every human cheats. We all have the potential to but most of us are good at controlling our bodies.

H2O2:
Haha how do you know u have reached ur drinking limit  

When people get tipsy, they know. Men should be more aware of that fact.

OgidiBoy:
I totally agree with you that cheating is not an accident, but honey we only humans and we are not perfect. God made us like that to trip up ones in a while but to learn from our mistakes and not do it again. And yes I was single at the time it happened although we were trying to work things out with my ex and her best friend knew about it.

I agree with that. You are human but then you also have to realize that you would not be so forgiving if it was vice versa. Guys get so offended at the idea of their women sleeping with other men. Most men cannot stand it. You were single at the time, that's a different case. You were not cheating on her. That is a case of taking advantage her best friend was just evil at the time. So that's a different ball game. God said he would not give us temptations we CAN NOT handle. Not every man gets drunk to a stupor. If we are going to put God in this. It is more advisable for a man not to indulge himself in so much alcohol. It is better for you to still be in control than for you to do something that will hurt a woman you claim to love.

SeanT21:
If my man cheated on me and cry for me to forgive him,I will.Everyone can be tempted now and then.


I always forgive the first mistake but next mistake is UNFORGIVABLE!!

Once bitten, Twice shy.
If a man beats you once, what stops him from doing it again if you forgive him that easily?

sillyboy:
God bless you. Most ladies forget that we get drunk often and sleeps with their best friends. . . .
women are just so "un-understanding" when we need them most.
They should realize that when the devil try to destroy our relationships with them by making us drunk and cheat on themis the time we need them the most.

Am so annoyed at their lack of understanding.

If you drink that often, there are psychological problems underlying it. Sleep with my best friend because of what? I will so drop the guy.
Drinking is a stupid excuse. If you get that drunk, you have no self-discipline and the bible calls you a fool in that case. Even God agrees that no one should be that drunk. I blame the man for allowing the devil to have that much hold over his life.  

H2O2:
I am not justifying cheating, but are you saying it is impossible to cheat accidentally?  You women have no idea how much chemical imbalance you can cause in a man's body. It's inevitable sometimes! The only way to avoid it is to avoid being in situations that can cause you to slip.

It is IMPOSSIBLE to cheat accidentally. It is not inevitable to cheat. It's a matter of a personal decision and determination. A man who loves his girl will avoid that kind of situation. Some guys willingly enter those kind of temptations.

sillyboy:
That is an attack on my humble and civil person. . . . . . .you of all people should know that.
And what is with the word: "Discerning"

i said you all . . . not just you. I am not attacking your person.
Discerning is the ability to differentiate between good and bad. These are the things that make you know that what you're about to do is bad or not.

OgidiBoy:
What are you talking about >: accidents do happen I've been so freaking drunk ones and was taken advantage of by my ex- girlfriend's best friend

Cheating is not an accident. It's something you can control. You were taken advantage of because you were not careful. Were you single at the time?

H2O2:
How come you only understand kiss? Why not sex?  He could be drunk and stressed.  Some desperate girl could take advantage of him.

Drunk and stressed? Then he can call me. I don't think that's accidental. No responsible guy will get himself in that kind of situation anyway. There is nothing like accidental cheating. . . the only thing that's forgivable is raping. Every other thing is not an excuse.

There is NOTHING called accidental cheating. What da heck? Was he sleeping when he was busy grinding? I can understand kiss but accidental sex? HECK NO!

Real love does not exist anymore darl. . . we are past that stage. Those were the days of our great grand parents.

Sillyboy, Blame it on the Devil! That is what you all are good at.
Cheating is not the devil's fault. It's the fault of men with NO self control and no self-discipline.
Men that lack discerning spirit cheat. If you have a discerning spirit, you would be able to abstain from cheating.

sillyboy:
@ Moonstone.
Okay ooo. . . .mo gbo ti e ooo. disrespectful omo.

@ Moonstone and Tope and others.

You guys need to stop this curse factor you bringing into it.
It's no curse at all. . . .he's just unfortunate.

I can't disrespect my uncle now! You should know that by now . Oya sorry.
Curse is a legitimate reason for this. How can a 34 year old man not have a gf? I don't care how ugly you are, if you don't have a gf by the age of 28, there's need for concern. It's an emergency.

[quote author=*Toyinrayo link=topic=216081.msg3315250#msg3315250 date=1231371496]We can continue to wonder on it, but it still does not prevent them from cheating. goats![/quote]Are you minding them? Just looking for justification to continue their lewd acts. It's all good. I'll play along - I love playing along

Lovers cheat for different reason. I think falling out of love could be a factor but mostly, I think it's greed that's the main thing. If you fall out of love with someone, there are ways to fall back in like with the person and tolerate that person. After sometime, it's no longer love, it becomes friendship. I feel if you have a strong friendship after the initial stage of love, there is nothing you can't overcome. Out of respect for that person, you won't cheat on him/her.

sillyboy:
Shior. . . .
Kan ran e ni ise ko ma le jise.

E fi mile o! Ah ahn! Mo wa je gege bi messenger ni?
So fun Toyin fun ara e.  

I think this whole thing is overrated. The guy was just not serious. He said himself, he loved the no strings attached thing. I think it's a curse to an extent but it's also very crazy to be that scared of commitment. Not one girl - Haba!

sillyboy:
@ Moonstone.

Moonstonemoonstone!
Apparently o jise mi fun Ebony lana.

I did not tell you that I would tell her now, did i?

Vonny:
Moonstone,

Clearly all the girls he's been into haven't been into him for the past 34YEARS, so how is that going to work now?

He'll have to try. It seems he's not trying to get the girls that are into him. He hates the attention. He needs to be with girls that he can't have but without bfs. He just needs to start looking for something else.

I think you were a little too late but you can possibly change. You need to consider going after girls who are probably not that into you. Then, they would not give you so much attention and maybe, you can work with that.

So crazy. We have all our men in. They should be resting jare. All ye hopeless gaynners, back off!!!

H2O2:
THE TEN COMMANDMENTS
OF LOVE

ONE
I am thy Main Squeeze;
thou shalt squeeze no others before me.

No others before you ke? Has the squeeze not squeezed others before the squeezer?


THREE
Remember our Anniversary,
and keep it holy. Or else.

Keep it Holy how?

FOUR
Honor MY mother and father.
THINE are too darn weird.

And he abused the partner too! It should be Honor my mother and father, nothing else.

SIX
Thou shalt not commit adultery,
nor shalt thou even THINK about it
if thou knowest what's good for thee.
What's the worst that could happen? It happens everyday.

SEVEN
Thou shalt not steal from my purse/wallet
while I am in thy bathroom, nor use
my credit cards, nor make long-distance
calls from my telephone.
When in a relationship - Mi casa e su casa and His wallet is my wallet. I don't consider it stealing

EIGHT
Thou shalt not talk about our personal
problems to our friends.
When guys don't listen, I'm sure this is a way of preventing madness

Na wa!

Na wa for this team sef. . . for this reason alone, I cannot be hypertensive.
They better equalize though. I'm not liking what I'm seeing.

JeSoul:
Lakers lost? so what? they're still better than the Hornets so Moonstone enjoy your 5-minute victory. I don't even see the Hornets defeating Houston or SanAntonio in a 7-game series. They are playing way below their potential.

Oh no you didn't! Girl, take your bitterness with the Celts far away from my Hornets o! Don't worry. I'm sure 3rd position is not as bad as they make it seem.

Hornets are good and they proved that yesterday because for the first time in a long while, CP3 was not the star of the game. It was D. West. Lakers played well and if you watched the fourth quarter closely, you would have seen that Hornets kept their composure quite well. How many teams recover from a trail of 7 pts to win by 11 pts in the fourth quarter against the Lakers? They were pretty much tied during the other quarters. And again, we defeated them at home. That's something that ended their 16-game home winning streak since November. So excuse me while I gloat over this particular victory.

Against Houston? Are you kidding me? Spurs I can understand but Houston? Oh no! I'm happy we have beaten those two teams this season. Playoffs are a long way ahead. I know the team is more experienced than they were last year. Last year was their first time in the playoffs in a long time. I am almost confident that if they do that 3 more times, they will be able to defeat the spurs and the Rockets in one swoop. The one thing I like is B. Scott is using his head well. We just got Daniels and Posey this season. He's no longer looking at just skill, he's looking at experience and I'm sure it will pay us in the long run.

It's the young girl using married man o! She can keep him under her thumb for as long as possible and she has a lot of options open to her. She can single-handedly destroy that guy's life if she wants. She has things to gain and less things to lose.

I am the Director
Iceblue - the wedding planner. Stop stealing my spotlight jare!

Oya sorry Ben. Who are you picking to be your Fiancee?

LOL - you're mean spiked and you are still on that list.

Sabuni, this is what I call illusion. YOU ARE NOT MARRIED. I need a wedding on NL. . . please give me a wedding.  
We need more guys on this thread. I can start my matchmaking in a half a second if we have just 2 more guys.
For now - Ben and Ice - COUPLE 1! To be married in June
Ice even the director and planner needs love. I am the director and you're the planner. Ever watch Wedding Planner?

Oooooooh Chamo and IBK - Couple 2!

LOL - He likes you Spiked! Stop putting me here. I'm trying to direct a wedding jare. Let's fufill Osisi's wish o!

Sexyleamon - married ke? When? that means you didn't report to Osisi - she would not have created this topic.

Iceblue - get in the mix - Ben likes you already. I want my aso ebi o!   better agree quick quick. LOL, you and this business. You should be the resident wedding planner. All we need is at least 3 brides and bridegrooms.

I want a Wedding this year. Start courting dang it!

Ben20001 - Sabuni is very available and pretty. You should go for her. Hauwa too!

M.I is very good but I think he's not that good YET. He's not the best for now . . but he's a contender.

LOL - Iceblue. You are too expensive jo! How can we renting NLers to marry again?
I want a wedding of Nlers but I don't think it's that expensive to marry jare. Na your own you wan take do business.