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[quote author=Laureen007 post=55572822]Indeed you are very lucky to be seen at 9wks plus. When I booked appt with Docs when i first found out I was preg, honestly the woman was like so what do you want me to do? I was confused cos its my first and I thought it was like as soon as ure preg o! antenatal starts ... yeah right! I'm like I just wanted to confirm to b sure we r preg (this is after ttc for 2yrs o) she goes they dont do anything to confirm as long as my HPT confirmed it then its true because thats what they wld use too. Was disappointed (actually maybe not really cos I dont even know what I wanted from the appt). Well, I ended up being directed to c a midwife from 12weeks and thats when I can confirm I first saw someone. ANC wasnt until maybe 28weeks or so in fact id say maybe 6weeks to delivery. I swore next time I get preg I wont bother because it was just useless IMO.

So gettin to see someone at 9weeks is good
WRT food, please eat anything u feel like eating, i dont think it really matters plus eat in moderation. People say they are eating for two (it is a myth), trust me this is not true. You only need to increase your calorie intake in third trimester (as we all know this is the point where baby gathers weight)

https://www.babycenter.com/eating-for-two


for me, i was overweight at the time i was preg, i was put under the care of a nutritionist (worst part she couldnt decipher why I was in her care cos my food diary actually did show i wasnt binging on food or making unhealthy food choices). There were times in the first trimester that I would go days without eating because I forgot to eat (I was a lecturer then and had loads to do) my nutritionist had to caution me when she found out and also rebuked me for not taking ebough calcium (she said i needed it and baby needs it and if baby isnt getting it, it will feed off my bones .. smthing like that sha).

Enjoy your preg self, eat what you feel like in moderation and bf you know it, baby wld b here.

ps my son weighed 3.5kg (7lbs 12.5oz) at birth and was told constantly that he was huge but no one cld actually tell me the exact weight each time i asked

[quote author=Fattamyfattamy post=55583963]pls go to hosp asap. it might be jaundice esp since he is only a few days old

with d circumcision, it might be infected so please again go to hospital

if in doubt at any point in time go c a doctor

[quote author=Giddyperson post=55581205]Baby is just relaxed

dont worry baby will come when baby is ready to come. They say its +/- 2 weeks but some come bang on their due dates and some even bf. When it starts getting to/past 42weeks thats when u r offiially postterm.

You are in my prayers (for some reason your moniker keeps popping in my head) same as your twinnie.

May she rest in peace and may Allah grant her janatul Firdaus.

Sorry for ur loss sis. May God rest her soul n comfort u in this difficult time. May his strength be sufficient for u n the rest of the family.

I'm just a regular ice chewer lol[/quote]Thank God for that. At least that's one less thing to think/worry about. Seems you and a friend of mine seem to defy theory of zero calorie diet and anaemia. Thanks for letting me know. GBY


Enjoy ur ice and ur 'me' time until LO comes x

[quote author=kemifemi post=55328850]Hi
diazepam from memory is valium (sleeping tab). Im unsure why you are asked to use it but like graciouscharis said, increase your potassium intake

my main concern is, high blood pressure in preg is quite a bad thing and pre-eclampsia is real and deadly (not wanting to scare you) please discuss with your drs again. Im sure they are doing the best for you and I pray that you will birth your lo without problems.

May God be your strength and may the peace of God that surpassss any understanding be with you

http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/hypertension-blood-pressure-pregnant.aspx

@giddyperson tanx for d update. I hope they will say it is just an ordinary craving. By his grace all will be well. Enjoy ur last few days bf baby comes.

Moyosblog123 pele. I suppose that's all they can say. Praying it subsides. Try and bite on the cloves, it does have some weird taste but its quite good for such. It is also good for teething (i used the essential oil but in minimal form) as I am all for home remedy + docs

pele babes gby

u can try chewing kananfari. dat spice dats use in making kunu.I duno d name in eglish[/quote]cloves
indeed it is good for toothache
hope it relieves you soon cos dentists wont be able to help once you've reached a certain stage in your preg.

@giddyperson hope you have checked re:anaemia?

evening all

@giddyperson i understand u very well but I live in the UK and had my son in winter - cold i know but u know preg women get hot quicker. Also, like i said earlier i craved ice during my labour and afterwards too. Some people say it is good but after eating ice for 3weeks nonstop pp, i realised it wasnt normal so went to the docs and found i was actually anaemic - u might not be

I wouldnt rule out checking for anaemia anyways cos it also does occur during preg. at least you have a peace of mind

Goodluck with the rest of ur journey x

Giddyperson:
Who else is obsessed with ice cubes, one of my fav cravings

babes I did crave ice when i was in labour and after I had my LO. This is a sign of anaemia. Kindly talk to your health care provider

This article might help

https://www.bellybelly.com.au/pregnancy/eating-ice-while-pregnant/

enjoy ur ice

sansa143 u r too funny. c ur other friend giddyperson sef dey say ure going nowhere! (i cant get tired reading your lovely banter)

baby will come when baby wants to come o! una have agreement or not. Our prayer is that both Jay and urself will be ale and hearty.

If you've got no one about please contact them, even if its false alarm its always gd to have sm1 with you.

Try and calm down and breathe!!!!! U need it.

God is ur strength. Jimawa za mu zo mu ci shinkafa

Afternoon to all of u. May God b with us as we bring forth our little ones. To those who just birthed, may he give u strength to take care of them. To those looking for the fruit of the womb may he grant you ur hearts desire and may he bless you according to your faith.

All those who just got +ve enjoy ur preg self and may we not lose our LOs ijn.

@alphahandmaiden

With cerelac u just add warm water. Like you said the instruction is on the tin. It has different ages from 6mths, 8mths, 12mths each with different composition

Hope it helps

Cc mhizlateefah

@liftedhands i concur
This is because I had hemorrhoids after delivery. In fact it was a week or so after delivery. The nurse who came to visit me after we got discharged asked if i had hemorrhoids and i said no next thing she goes you will have it and in my mind im thinking na curse? She goes if you dont have it during pregnancy you will have it afterwards. True, i had it afterwards. The doc gave me a cream called anusol and within days it disappeared!

Cc akorkor, bolaalimat

Gdevening all. Many congrats realdentist, yesitsme, giftedofgod and those I haven't mentioned but have birthed their los. Gods blessings and favour to all of us

@zaynie i love you loads
First for the firsthand experience. Whilst it is difficult to recount, you told it anyways. I agree will missmalachi, indeed we all have dark secrets but not everyone is willing to share. U r a strong woman n uve got my respect.

May God grant you peace and restore life into ur Lo with a heart condition.

Morning everyone. Godspeed in a ur dealings

Babes there is nothing to b ashamed of
Not asking for help is worse than anything else

Glad some people are there to talk whilst others are there to listen.

Like someone pointed out earlier about giving marriage advice, i guess im also like that. I can't honestly advise you on what to do but can only give generalised info.

I pray people who have better knowledge and understanding offer you something on which you can build upon.

@Abbynhummy i was meant to respond to you. Thank you so much for your words re: my BS. Pls note, i am not a writer

@iyomomoreloaded n @liftedhands i believe your wise words would help @britneystacy

My own take is this: first its hard to give advice when you haven't really been in a similar situation. Second, what works for pne person might not work for the other person n lastly, its hard to draw up the real perspective of things based on just one person's info as im of the opinion there are three sides to a story: he said, she said and the truth: which only God knows.

All said, please note a baby changes things. This is something people don't really know and perhaps hardly discussed by women and their siblings or girlfriends. Yes we probably all dream about how the wedding should be (forgetting the marriage), we dream of being a mother (not thinking of the hardwork it entails) dream of the kind of household we want (forgetting its alsp hardwork and loads of prayers plus patience), we dream of being the best thing since slice bread to our partner/husbands/offsprings (forgetting we are not perfect). Why do I say all these? Honestly, I am unsure but the truth is IMO, everything i have mentioned is hardwork and we need to keep at it and also be prayerful (or if not prayerful, worship). Worship God like no other.

I said earlier baby changes things. For first time mum, you are navigating this new phase in your life where I dare to say; the lo demands constant attention from you. You want to protect them constantly and do all you can for a helpless tiny you tiny dh so much so you are constantly tired.

Ive been told your hormones are just settling back down at this time too. But guess what. Reality sets in. Baby is not what you thought/dreamt about. The constant attention is quickly draining your batteries and its worse when we feel that the closest person to you, your dh isnt helping out.

Tell you one thing: men unlike women are not wired to gear baby crying in the middle of the night. Some women asks kindly or even meanly wake up the husband to also help take care of baby so they can rest a bit. If you are EBF, pump and ask him to feed baby so you can take a shower (a long one) because with a baby to look after, shower is like the last thing on your mind sometimes (because you perhaps dont want to leave baby for 5 mins).

A man might promise everything before baby arrives but when baby arrives they might change or keep to their promise. If they change, you feel you are the only one who is constantly doing everything and then resentment sets in, you fight and fight and yoh know what silly words are said. If its a person whp hardly forgives or takes long to forgive then na Gobe.

What to do in this situation is think before you speak (say it to your self and if it would hurt, do not say to your partner/husb).

As per being pregnant again 5months into your los life, its not the end of the world. We are all different. I have a friend who has been looking for this samething forever because after so many miscarriage she had her girl and hoped to God she wld be pregnant again asap technically age is also something she was looking at.

I know people who fell pregnant 3 weeks after baby they didnt wait for 6 weeks clearance and some 3 months after. I suspect it is hard but you know what, some of these people claim that its always nice seeing their kids grow up together. I suspect you would be happy when they grow up.

Walking away doesnt help anything, suicide well yes it all ends but what happens to your soul? Think about the lo... do you want him/her being raised by someone else? Or not having a loving mum around? Do you think he/she would be haply knowing mum committed suicide? God forbid he/she gets told a different story, would they forgive you? Abortion? I can't judge anyone but would you feel better for it? Have you thought of how you would feel? Have you thought about it enough to count as an option?

All I am saying is and im sorry its long: we shouldnt cloud our judgement by thinking all we dreamt of about great wedding, happy home, pregnancy or being pregnant is enough to cover up all those challenges that we will face.

Dont let people lie to you that its easy (have you being to their house and seen how they live?). God will direct your steps and send helpers to you. If you need help ask.

I dunno how mothers with more children do it but compromise is a big thing which we probably need to start doing more of.

I guess ive digressed a lot now but i hope you understand that baby changes everything and that adjusting can be difficult for both men and women. Moreso when men believe you actually know everything not knowing you both are learning at the sametime.

[quote author=SisiNini post=53618584]Awwwwwwwww. I am so sorry to hear. I will read it. Hope all is well sha?

I will den comment again. No vex

Sixx thank God o! Na so den for carry wetin no b urs dash u so. May God keep u and bless the little one. No one wld care for your child other than u by his grace. He wld strengthen u daily.

Omoloulah glad it went well. Many congratulations to you and ur househould. May Janelle b a blessing and may she b favoured everywhere she goes.

God is indeed awesome. He's made all things beautiful in its time

Iyomomoreloaded you have spoken wisely. Be it the first time, second time or even umpteenth time, no preg is the same! If in doubt ask someone, ask your doc, ask google. Then discern, do not just take their words for it.

When I bled @28weeks or so, after all the checks and there was no evidence for placenta previa or so, i had the gut feeling it was due to the whooping cough injection i was given. Drs n nurses said it was a coincidence so did my husb but i was adamant and researched and found it could have resulted in me losing the baby.

Na prayer finish the pregnancy. I couldnt afford anything happening, and since my son's name meant God is my rock i kept calling his name and asking God to b my rock throughout until he came.

May God direct our steps and give us the wisdom and understandng we need

[quote author=AbbynHummy post=53579960][/quote]In addition to what you have said episiotomy is more controlled than allowing you to tear.

Ny concern though is why do they just give it anyway? Most esp to FTM.

I've heard you can do perineal massage so that on d d-day you are not going to have as much wahala. But how far true is this?

I know someone who had a VBAC and she tore from front to back .... 4th degree tear even with the aid of birthing device.

Only God fit help

@nicoleswizzi I pray God grants u an easy and successful L n D.

@omoloulah how are u getting on? It will end in praise

[quote author=Onaswu post=53571691]Good evening ma
Got your message.

Hi so sorry wrong email
Its mooretes@yahoo.co.uk.

Uw. Pls im just a normal/ordinary person o i no b madam no vex

U can reach me by email if u want. Sorry it was wrong

Enjoy this time. Waiting for your gd news. May God bless you both @omoloulah


@yesitsme thanks
@bolaalimat thanks for letting us know d update. You will be fine by Gods grace

Here is my BS even though its been a very long while, I still share something's in common with everyone here.
Bear in mind I was size 18, I didn't gain any weight in preg and was back to pre-preg weight immediately.

Took me two years to get a BFP (was busy with studies so didn't bother too much, however also concerned a bit cos MIL had alzheimers and I wanted her to see her first grandchild)

There was no MS, no cravings, nothing special or out of the ordinary, well except I had carpal tunnel syndrome @ 5mths
went to gym since I found out I was BFP and got chased out a week to delivery

Didn't feel LOs kicks at all (I had a bit of tummy bf preg, so my sis said perhaps na fat dey cushion am), felt it once though and I disturbed baby by beating my tummy like a drum until I felt someone hit me like 'do not disturb'

Developed gestational diabetes (inevitable, family history of diabetics and sis had GP) so was termed high risk, as if being fat wasn't enuf (had to be seen by dietician, story for another day)

@28 weeks, woke up and was greeted with blood stains, so much like period at started overnight and didn't even know. Ambulance had to take me to hosp and checks came out with nothing at all. My take, the previous day I had gone for whooping cough injection and I still till date suspect it was the culprit.

More panic when I didn't feel LOs kicks anymore (bear in mind, I never felt it in the first instance, but after the incidence, I was more aware that something could have happened)

Due to GD, I was to be induced (which I wasn't particular about, so had hot curry to bring labour but no show) and Drs set date for sept 9th (told them I wasn't tired carrying the preg). My DD according to LMP was sept 11th, scan was sept 15 +/- 5days. Got to hosp sept 9th, was put in my own room instead of a shared room in the prenatal ward. First set of pessaries (it looked like the thread you find in lantern, dunno the name) was inserted. Few mins later, it fell into the loo so had to have another one done. This is meant to act within 24hrs. I went on walks, climbed stairs, nothing happened. Was asked to rest 24hrs so nothing for the 10th. I was only 1cm here

Sept 11 (I didn't want this date, don't ask why) They inserted a tablet (4hrly) to ripen the cervix, still no show by the time they were going for the 3rd, I was tired and wanted to go home cos I was dying of boredom, however, due to high BP (already had bf preg so not preg induced) Dr refused me going home. The nurse who inserted the third goes well I hope this is the lucky bullet! This was abt 8ish. 9PM husb had to go home cos he can only be around between 8am-9pm. BTW, I was into essential oil and dropped a lot in my room to keep the room smelling nice and peaceful.

He left, and I showered, in fact I wanted to stay in the shower but then also needed to use the loo, which I found difficult. Had to tell the nurse and she prepared a bath with lavender oil for me. Stayed in bath for 1hr, was able to use the loo. By the time I got back to my room, I noticed I couldn't really climb the bed or find a good position to sit down, at about 12 or so, I rang the bell to get the attn of the nurses. Bf then I felt this sharp pain across my pubic region (it felt like a knife had cut me there from left to right) and I said to myself if this was labour pains those who said I can do it are lying (I've got a high threshold for pain) but I kept calm and didn't shout.

PS: I rubbed some clary sage, lavender and jasmine oil at the points I was meant to and I think it might have helped with bringing labour

Nurse was like its not 4hrs yet, they are not meant to check me, so weren't particularly bothered but checked anyway. All this while, loads of shout from women from other rooms was just irritating me but I calmed down by moving holding onto radiator and I remembered pulling so hard it almost ripped from the wall .. that's when I walked away as I didn't want to owe NHS.

I sat on the toilet and laboured that way, the breathing technique I had learnt I forgot, but the nurse was really kind, she reminded me how to breath and said it was ok to labour on the toilet cos her daughter did same.

Note: by the time they checked me, I had progressed so fast it was time to push. Both nurses were so shocked that I had to be put in the wheelchair and rushed upstairs in the lift to L&, my husb catching us as we were going. I said to Lorraine, I can feel the head, she goes do not push.

Next thing, we raced up, she pushes me straight into the room, I got onto the bed, facing the wall and on my knee (which the midwife was saying to we didn't let her prepare) and before we said Jack Robinson, 2 pushes or so, baby out. They were unable to listen to baby's heartbeat or anything cos it was too fast. Baby weighed 3.5, though was told would be bigger according to scan, smh. I finished and laid on my back but my legs where shaking uncontrollably for quite a while.
Forgot to say: cos they couldnt hook me to lostening device, Sue said just follow what your body tells you. No assitance o! They just collected the baby when it came out and handed to me. This was the first time we would know the sex too so I told my husband 2 things
1) its a boy
2) how come he doesn't have a lot of hair! Then they passed him over to husb

We forgot out babys' bag in my room
I didn't really have my full cloths so was given theirs
and we forgot to video the birth

I didn't have an epidural (never wanted one, saw one that failed and vowed not to have one)
Didn't want a CS cos I didn't know how I would heal
Didn't want drugs cos didn't know how I would react to it

In all God was faithful. I didn't have any of the above but had a little tear which I had to use Gas and air for when they stitched it. Felt it all, told Dr, I know what you're doing, just kept saying it and everyone present was laffing at me.

By the time we got home, we found my labour from start to finish was 37mins from the records given to us
I was FTM and my friend had a baby previous year and she had abt 27hours of labour.

I have now been told my second can come even faster.

Truth is whilst people would say this is really good and all, I would say, it has its disadvantages too. It is traumatic for your HU-HA and you. It doesn't give you enough time to process things and for weeks on end, even today, I cant sit for too long or stand for too long. It gets better with time.

I know each pregnancy and labour is different and you cant prepare enough but in all, follow your gut instincts. I never read a book and you can never plan your delivery



This story was for delivery back in 2013 and I am just getting my head round thinking about another one not because of discomfort of preg cos I never had anything, but cos I dey pity my Hu-Ha! I'm sorry its really really long but hope someone can relate to it.

Anyone here who has gone through “precipitous labour" (where you give birth within 3 hours of labour), it would be nice to share your experience.

Onaswu:
thanks so much for your gift
God will replenish your pocket

Hi,

I have been trying to reach you a while. But didnt remember your userID. Unfortunately I havent got your number but shouldn't be too hard. Pls you can reach me by email mooretes@yahoo.com I think. Better still what is your no?

Got your account details from the other thread you created.

@omoloulah pele. It will resolve very soon
@yesitsme every pregnant woman gets hot only God knows why that is.

I was pregnant in d winter and still had fan pointing permanently to my face. Don't ask me.

@giddyperson and realdentist, the thing long small 1) na background of d belle itself
2) the BS

Truth is d background of d pregnancy ties all together. I'll try and make it short and simple

Abeg all dat pushing looking at ut navel na story. A woman can be in whatever position she finds comfy to have her baby. If na kneeling position you find yourself and you are comfy well then have your baby that way as long as someone/ something soft is there to grab baby quickly.

Help gravity by finding a gd position. Your body ultimately knows the right thing to do.

May God give us all strength to b able to birth our young ones. Praying we don't weep over them and that everyone will rejoice in the end.

I feel tempted to drop my BS even though its been a while now. I believe not expecting anything cos things are different for everyone made life easier IMHO

@roseeyo
May the lord bless and strengthen u in your time of grief. May he restore your mourning with dancing. He knows everything and would never give you what you will not be thankful for.

To all who have lost their los either through miscarriage, stillbirth or illness, may the good lord be your strength and portion
Lam 3:24, ps 16:5

@liftedhands

Awwwwww those girls are soooooooo gorgeous. May the lord bless and keep them, may his countenance shine upon them ijn.

God bless you aunty n God bless urs too.
Will keep praying for my own twins o by his grace.

Bless them all n may they be a blessing to your family

Just my 2cents on baby umbilical cord cleaning. When I much younger, I believe people where using spirit to clean the umbilical cord. However, life has moved past this period. Enough research and enough dos n donts but truth is we probably should always do what we feel is best for our child especially following an informed decision.

Me, I decided to read about esential oils and found helpful information that attracted my curiosity. In the end, myrrh essential oil was said to be ideal. It sorts out infection and dries out cord which falls off as early as 3days

I am pleased to say I used it for my son day 2 of his life n day three it fell off! 24hrs in total.

After which life continued. Ive now suggested to my sis n others and it less thing to worry abt as a ftm or new mum.

Or read this info. It might help sm1

http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/infant-and-toddler-health/in-depth/umbilical-cord/art-20048250?pg=2

@bolaalimat dont worry God is in control and wld use the Dr to his glory.

U will not weep over your baby by his grace. Let us know how you get on. Our thoughts and prayers are with you x

@bolaalimat

You have a good attitude towards babys coming which is gd.

To your post, please can you let us know how far gone you are so one can be in a better position to respond?

Truth is high bp in pregnancy is not gd more often than not it leads to pre-eclampsia which is not good for mother and baby (my intention is not to scare you, just saying)

I would suggest you see the docs asap, let them monitor you as they can n also not risk anything, if baby is ok to come out then they probably should bring him out so that both you and your baby would be here.

My BIL gf had pre-eclampsia this happened after her preg had gone over 2 weeks. She wanted a home birth but eventually had a CS. Her own story for another day.

Please head to hosp if in doubt

Much love x