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Should zodiac sign be put into utmost consideration when choosing a partner?

SultanOfPuna:
I have lived alone in apartment from 2019 to 2023
Due to financial struggles i relocated to my parents house 2023 since then i'm still with them

Now its 2 years and i have gotten financially stable and solid.
I want to leave but my parents are old and they want me to be around them at this stage of their life.


My parents are really old
My siblings are all married except me. My siblings are in different states far away from my parents.
I'm the only one closer to them

I'm the one taking care of the house and making sure things are in order.
But deep down i want to leave the house and go create my own family.

If i leave them and move out i fear that things will be out of order and disorganised due to old age.
Unfortunately no younger sibling to help look after them.

What should i do?

Bros if you are transfered to a place of work farther to where you are staying won't you go? And also I believe moving your family in is a risk. There might be issues with your wife and your parents. No privacy, grandma is a nitpicker blah blah women will complain. And you will still want to decide to move out again. Why not arrange with your brothers and sisters and look for how to go about it. There will still be someone left.

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I believe all she want is freedom. She wants to do things on her own whereby no one will check her. Most likely she planned for the wedding and not the marriage. Marriage is like when you are airborne and someone beside you mess, will you jump out of the plane? No, you will just have to endure it. One day she will still accuse you of holding her back, not wanting her to leave. She believes she will live fine without you. If there is someone who has been there(A woman with experience ) that can advise her that separation will only bounce back on the little one, this might convince her to stay. She might be the type tht take to outsiders opinion over yours. So look for someone reasonable (a woman) that will not add salt to the wound to advise her. Single parenting is not easy but a woman not happy inside the home might opine to leave. So try and make her happy(You cannot satisfy a woman, you can only try). You are the only one that knows what is happening inside your home. No one is there with you. It is what you tell people they know. I will advise you to look for another way to please her if one is not working . When you want to drive a new car you will be the one to adjust the seat to fit your size, no one will do it for you. Also maybe you give her distance. I mean go in the morning, come back in the night(Not too late though ). Don't choke her by staying too much around making it seeing each others fault easily. As time goes on she will change her mindset. Above all try find a way to be happy yourself. Be mindful of your BP.

press9jatv:
“Once you discover that you cannot submit to a man, don’t marry. You can be fulfilled without a man”

-Pastor Abel Damina tells women


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dckLMGK5Syk

It takes a lot of patience to deal with an independent woman. And I believe this is part of the hullabaloos in most homes 'cause a man will always want to Stand as a Man.

UnknownQueen:
Hmmm, it might interest you that I fell into same with a pastor transferred to our church, and u know what , the pastor really liked me , we were quite close but luckily after few years he was transferred from our church and that's how the feelings died, I don't have this feelings often but on the three occasions I've had these feelings, the other person usually feels same, I don't know why it's like that....

I believe the feelings is normal but the ability to control yourself is the most important. Most esp.as you are a married woman. I was watching the TV. with an aunty of mine and her husband one day and she saw an actor in one of the scenes. She spoke out right there in front of her husband expressing her feelings for the actor, his muscle his height everything. (And the husband is like a drum). If she by chance meet the actor one on one I wonder where it will lead to. But if she's a disciplined person then that's good for her. I believe all these happen but to stay disciplined if you are married that's the utmost.

UnknownQueen:
I'm not gonna lie, we would have engaged what we felt for each other, cos it was an instant attraction, it felt like a classic Nollywood love at first sight moment, afterwards we exchanged numbers (he asked for it) following the test I went for, but because of the love I had for my husband I told him, cos the feelings I had for this guy I just can't explain, it was too intense and real but I knew it won't last, hence why I had to help myself by myself by speaking to hubby

Okay by now if I may ask, as you're into years of marriage if you fall into such situation again how will you treat it?

UnknownQueen:
Pursue your feelings my guy, cos love knows no bounds..

I remember when I newly got married , I started crushing on one guy in my organisation's Clinic, I told my husband about it and he asked me to resign, I respectfully did and the rest is history.....but you're single, pursue it and enjoy life cos it's short

A ask, if your husband did not tell you to resign what do you think might have happened?

Dailylady:
https://www.pulse.ng/articles/entertainment/celebrities/actress-omotola-jalade-warns-against-seeking-social-media-validation-2025051510431247184

The way in which people hurry to bring out their phone to record an event they feel is interesting is something else. A man's phone was collected and wiped by a policeman few weeks ago at a party due to this. The man insisted he wasn't recording but the policeman claim he was recording him during an intense argument with someone. The man was really angry, reported the issue to the celebrant but sorry was all tht was given to him.

pansophist:
Yes, arranged marriage is good for men that work offshores, or men that lives abroad.

Of all the broken marriages that I knew of with Diasporeans who imported their spouse, their relationship either started online, or they met somewhere and just kicked it off.

There was no thorough background checks from those who knew her from when she was little. This is how lots of men marry problems without knowing.

A woman once said she married her childhood friend, they knew she each other in and out but still they were having issues when they got married and they later divorced. What if the woman comes from a background the man is desiring but the woman's behavior is out of it. She might be of good character when little till growing up but upon entering her husbands house, another story.

uchkochi:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1M2CnrXY9W/

The only prayer while searching is that God should give you your own partner regardless of where you meet.

Na wa oo. There is hunger in the land oo. Pls assist oo. When there is food in the stomach, the pressure will subside. Pls oo. 0990034592. Eco bank

If you reside at Abeoukuta there is a man called Aliu, he is a barber, his shop is beside Matta school Olorunsogo. Rumors has it that after barbing, he gathers people's hair for ritual purpose. True or false pls be prayerful when you go there to barb.

If you reside at Abeoukuta there is a man called Aliu, he is a barber, his shop is beside Matta school Olorunsogo. Rumors has it that after barbing, he gathers people's hair for ritual purpose. True or false pls be prayerful when you go there to barb.

fadilaMaikiriki:
Alright. So this married man has been disturbing her to get down with him. The thing is, she doesn't know how to tell the man no or how to discourage him. She doesn't know how to turn him down in order not to come off as rude, and also because of the money the man gives her.

Please, how best do you think she can do this. As a lady, how do you put off a married man who wants to get down with you, without sounding rude? And also without affecting the friendship you have with such person. She said she wants to do it in such a way that the man will not be offended. And also she doesn't want the issue to affect his financial gestures towards her.

Your opinions will be appreciated.

Thanks.

A man will always be a man. A man will disturb you soo much because he wants to get down with you. I once chased a lady for good 8 Years before.. 8 years! A man will always chase you just because..My opinion, I believe she should just open up her mind and let him know straight up he should just take her like his daughter. But she will have to say it politely and that is left for her. And she should stop collecting money from him!!!! The man will have a point 'cos that is moreless like extortion. My opinion

But why do most ladies go back to their mother's/ father's house after marriage?. Some gave birth out of wedlock while some wedded before birth. Is every man not good after wedding?

Not all men cheat. Some men do that at times 'cos of home.

saphiere:
4. Men are polygamous by nature.

Not all men. Some men may forced into such if they don't have rest of mind at home.

Funny enough..A situation occurred whereby the man found a man on his wife on their matrimonial bed. The wife pleaded guilty, they called a family meeting and the case was resolved. They are still living happily together. Trust!! This is not a movie. That is why when couples are fighting, be in the middle..Soo they won't put you in the middle when they resolve their disputes.

Please what is the English translation of aganrandi ?

Pls what is the English translation of aganrandi?

Houseontherock1:
If prison sentences are concurrent, it means the inmate will serve them at the same time. For example, if he gets one 6-month sentence and another 3-month sentence, the total sentence will be 6 months. This is because he will serve the 3-month sentence at the same time as the 6-month sentence. However, if prison term is consecutive, it's one after the other. Baba Ijesha's prison terms are concurrent sentences, I think a total of 16 years or so. The longest of them is a 5-year sentence while the others range from 5-4, I think. Since he's serving them concurrently, he will serve the longest of the sentences (5 years), because he's serving the others at the same time. I hope this helps sir.

Okay thank very much sir. I appreciate

Houseontherock1:
He's serving concurrent prison terms...they are running at the same time. Apparently, he has 4 years more since the longest is 5 years. I hope he learns his lesson while there.

Good day sir, can you please throw much more light on this? I want to learn about this. Thanks

scoobyblogspot:
I was having a discussion with my friend and he told me his wife ex still calls her on phone. Infact her ex called her when she got married and she told her husband that her ex is on the phone and wanted to congrate him, he spoke with him and appreciated his kind gesture . Just last week he called her again but she didn’t pick and she told my friend about it. Could there be something fishy

The woman is the one at fault here. I once called my ex to ask her something, she told me straight up why am I calling her by that time of the day? Don't I know she's in her husband's house? Reason be was because I called her in the night. I said I'm sorry and we ended the call. The woman ought to go straight up with so called ex.

Adachizzy:
Let women breathe. It's not like we don't know the best for ourselves, or y'all care about us more than we do.

There are many options to making babies now, at the end of the day, what matters this day is taking care of a child, not bringing it into the world.

As long as it isn't hurting you, a woman’s age should not be your concern.

Women this, women that, haba!!
PS: I'm not 30 or 35, before some bitter people here misread and misyarn.

I think what he's trying to say is that age matters in child bearing. A friend of mine nearly lost his wife 'cos she got pregnant again after 7 years of the first child. That time age is already telling on her. He told me she laboured for several hours. He told me the money he spent. And it's all because of her age. Age matters with women. I believe a man of 60yrs can still impregnate a woman But for a woman of 60 to conceive...Uhmm. Women are mostly on the receiving end and age tells faster on women. I'm very sorry if I've wrong you anywhere with my words. Blessings!!!

Some people believe Ghosts usually come to visit their families on Thursdays..Is this true?

tomi4life:
I am 35 and my wife is 29, we have been married for 6 years now, we have 2 children a boy and a girl. We didnt court much during our courtship because of long distance.

I really have a problem with my wife and not sure what can be done to address, now I must be very honest am not sure there is anything I can do I just want to use the platform to vent my frustration.

My marriage has not been very good, lately myself and my wife leave like room mates and not lovers, despite the age difference between me and my wife she doesnt really respect me. For the 6 years we have been in marriage 3 things have caused all our fights: cooking, Sex and finance

My wife rarely cooks in the house, things around welfare are not taken seriously, actually in a week, my wife can cook for me just 1 time. She cooks for the children and baths for them daily, we also have a help who does alot of cooking. She rarely askes me what I will eat, honestly I always have to go to the kitchen to sort myself, sometimes I buy food outside from eateries and bucker. Sometimes when she cooks it usually very late 10pm. I have complained severally and what happen is she tries to change, after a week, we are back to the same state. My wife can do without cooking for me for weeks. It really really pains me cos am a foody and I knw hw my mum treats matters of food. she is this person that forms busy, either she is busy with work or some church activities, she always has an excuse. She goes to work only ones a weeks the remaining 4days are remote. To address this issue I now order soups from major restaurant outlets, An example is today easter sunday, I had to tell our maid to prepare rice for myself and the kids, cos my wife was in church, we all went to church but she decided to stay back, knowing fully well no food was prepared.

Sex: [/b]our sex life is very boring, when we got married we always fight about sex, cos anytime I ask for it she always complain she is tired, so what I now do is ask for it only sat morning, brethen this is only day I get sex. If I miss that day, it is still next week. We sleep in different rooms, she sleeps with the children in the master bedroom while I sleep alone in another room. I can tell most time she doesnt enjoy it and never ever askes for it, I always ask and initiate it. She just lays like a log, even kisses is a no no, except she is really on, which rarely happens.
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Finance: I have always earned more than my wife, when we got married, I was earning 3 times what she was earning, but she changed jobs and got promoted severally and we were earning the same amount. she also does alot of side runs where she gets 200-300k monthly as side hustle, there was even a time she was earning more than I did. I dint let it bother me I continue to foot the entire house bills. 95% of the enitre house of comes from me, she only pays the maid , buys cooking gas and my sons diaper. Every other thing in the house is covered by me, house rent, school fees, project, all the bills. I give her 75k as food money monthly. I have continue to question her why I should give her food moeny if I still have to end up going out to eat. I think the only reason she sometime listens to me is cause i still provide the finances for the house. The time she was earning more I could see how she belittle some of my decisions. I just prayed to God, cos I noticed the respect was gone, when I talk to her about her role as a mum and mother to the home, she says she is working, she is busy, I mentioned to her that the money she works is for her, she doesnt share with the house, I have never asked her for it and am not against her working, she however should not neglect her responsibility as a mum.

I'm facing this issue also. But I believe distance can solve the issue. Go to work on Monday, come on Friday. That is my own point of view. I may wrong. Some women believe they can survive on their own without a man since they are working and henceforth the respect for that man dwindles

oladahunsi:
I got a job with a school recently and I did a month training by the school based on the job. I wasn't paid salary, please is there a polite way of asking for the salary?

Did they tell you they will pay? If they did then wait. I once did a training and I received alert two months after. Soo if they told you they will pay then they will.

Nsogbu001:
I'm from Ebonyi state and it has been from hand to mouth. No long stories. This picture shows how God transformed my life

Hbd.. Blessings!!

CaptMarvel:
don't you have your own mind and conscience towards a preferred political party or candidates. If you do and you were swayed away by money to vote for someone else, whether you are a Christian or not, this means that you are a betrayal, you've betrayed your own candidates of choice and such is wickedness.

What I'm asking is is it right for a christian to collect money either to vote for his own party or for another party. Is it right to"collect money" as a christian?

Maximus692:
Are you a Christian?

Yes I am

Is it right for a christian to collect money from a politician to vote ?

Roseodd:
I am going to be honest here,I had sex with my girlfriend before traveling, and now my penis is removing milky liquid, and also it pains me sometimes when I want to urinate.

What medicine can I take please.
Help me with the perfect drug name.

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