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the woman is deluded for demanding any more money from her ex, or even talk of cheating, the day they divorced AND SHE TOOK HALF HIS PROPERTY (after only 2 yrs of marriage, kai!!!!) is the day she got all she should get out of this unfortunate deal.

the man is insane for reacting the way he did, instead he should have simply ignore her, OR better yet, propose to take away the other child from her, if she cant care for it properly.

ima30:
Well, I really just want people's advice, I don't want to reply everyone. I have to reply yours humbly. Yes, I may not have so much trust in him right now for so many reasons in our rship I didn't put in my post. I do trust and believe in him enough to marry him sure. Even that at times is not enough, I need a little more sense, I m working with time here. Two, I do not want to cheat on him, I mentioned that I don't want to be in two rships. The idea came up from ppl, I spoke to. Three, I think very straight. You cant tell how much money he is expecting to know if it is enough for a fancy wedding in the first place, we all r in the labour market, I mentioned that I would run a collective marriage. Thats to show, I m not a careless woman that wants to spend all her man's money. Anyone who uses their entire finances for a fancy wedding is stupid. Lastly, yes, I m a bit confused not totally, I want him but sometimes we need more advice and understanding, that's is why I m here to find a bit of clarity. Taking a bit of everything from the advice I get to guide me, even yours. Thanks.

- you dont trust people "enough" to marry them, you either trust them fully (to be your partner for life) or you dont. you are trying to find "excuses" to marry this guy, while frankly, you shouldnt marry him yet. marriage is supposed to be for life and you should only do it when you are 110% sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy

- you are NOT working with time, instead what you are doing is stressing yourself with time and body clock (and probably stressing him too in the same process) thinking of stuff that is irrelevant in LOVE... and this will instead have you take the wrong decisions in life. do what is right for BOTH of you, not what is right for the selfish thought you women have when you get closer to 28/30yrs old.

- if the thought of cheating has not come into your mind then you shouldnt have brought it up here. this is very disrespectful to the man in your life, but it also shows us how LITTLE your family/friends think of him.

- money is your problem today, and therefore, you guys shouldnt even spend a dime on a wedding, and instead save everything you got for the possible tough future ahead because, come on, if you already talking about body clock then we can all assume that you will make sure he gets you pregnant in no time.

- so you say that your man is strange sometimes, well here could be the clue:
A) the man wants to marry you but has no money;
B) he knows that he will have to do a free civil wedding (at best) because you are stressing him about your body clock, and if he doesnt marry you now, you will be gone;
C) but he also knows that (because of that same "body clock) the minute you guys are married, there will be a baby on the way;
D) but any intelligent person knows that if you are stressed enough because you dont have the finances to care for two people, then imagine the EXTRA stress when there will be a baby in the picture (and also your friends/family talking even more shiit about him)
E) looking at it from this angle, its a lose-lose situation!

i actually feel bad for this guy...

this stuff happens all over the globe. i once met a group of African teenage footballers in Argentina who had come for trials to play for River youth team. believe me, they were so happy to be there. the deal was that they would stay and train for about a month, and at the end, 1 out of them all (Nigerains, Ghanaians, South Africans and Senegalese) would be given a contract.

ima30:
Hello ppl. I met him when I was 18yrs in my second year in the university. He was 21 and had just graduated. That was back in 2008. We were friends till 2010 that was when we become official. So I have known him has a person for almost 7years. But we have been lovers for 5years. We have had our good n bad times n all what not.. He is now 28 and I would be 25 in October. The thing here is the financial part. He has made me understand that the only reason we are not married is the fact that he doesn't have the money. He works, I m yet to find a job. If, I had a job I know living as a couple would be easy, cuz it would be a collective effort. He is saying I should gv him tops two years. But if he gets some money their family is expecting, he would use his share for our wedding. D money hasn't come for over a year now. I don't know what to do. My family is telling me to see how I can breed a relationship on the low just incase he is not forthcoming by next year. I dint know how to date two ppl. I really can't wait two years. He is young at 28 but I can't give excuses at my detriment. I m on d big side and always looked older than my age. Plus there is the thing with never knowing the heart of a person. He can wake up on day and be less interested and vice versa. My mom says I should sit down with him, talk thing's through and gv ourselves milestones.. I do love him n he loves me too. 5yrs is a long time, I even feel the love wearing thin. Please men n women, honest advice. Some guys may be in my bf's shoes, maybe u can speak from that perspective. Thanks.

sadly, you are already failing... for so many reasons:

- you dont BELIEVE in your man and/or TRUST him
see how you have doubts about this man you supposedly want to marry

- you are ready to cheat
how can you even contemplate cheating on him and in the same sentence say you "love the guy"?!

- you are desperate
here you are taking of your age bla bla bla as if this was relevant

- you dont think straight
you aint got a job, you guys have no money, yet want to spend the little he will get, to do some fancy wedding.... and then get right back to square one ( aka BROKE) after the wedding. whats the point here?!

- you are confused
sit down, and ask yourself "what do you really want?" it seems you have no idea and just want to marry... anybody!

hebenezher:
got it, should I take it hard on her? like start avoiding her, telling her if she truly loves me, she would have accepted at least a kiss??

at least, you should put some game on this babe so that she ACTS her words (as you say she has feelings for you). you either go in fully or you free the babe.... but let me ask you, what do you actually want from the babe?! if you just want to fukc then there are plenty of babes that would be "easier" to score than this one. so why go through the headache?

cococandy:
read the sorry first na

i had to edit my post to make my point clearer

NONSENSE BS STORY from all the Harry Potter believers! people are quick to call evil on what is wrong in their lives, and miracle from god when something good happens!

6/7

yeah right!

dude, number 2, 3, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9 and 10 is valid for men AND women... especially number 7.

iRepNaija1:
Going through these comments makes me laugh and makes me sad. I've seen some other topics where the situation is reversed and posters have responded that the wife must submit. No one asked questions about the man's appearance, the man's weight issues, whether the man is doing enough to please his wife. No one blamed the husband. Being a Nigerian wife seems so undesirable sometimes.

OP, I'm not going to assume anything about you. All I have is what you have given us. All I'm going to say is that the both of you need to sit down and have an honest conversation about your lack of relations. Communicating is key.

people who responded that wifey must submit are gullible people... whats good for the goose is good for the gander. NO gender hipocrisy here.

@francescainnoce
you are entitled to call men (who desire for sexual practices that you dont deem "righteous" ) whatever you like, but what you wrote is exactly the problem. your partner shouldnt have to go to some ashewo to satisfy his libido, thats your job as a wife. the fact that you think that wives dont do an.al (and/or all other practices that you dont deem righteous) is your FIRST mistake on this issue. the fact that you believe that only who.res and ashewos do these practices is your SECOND mistake in this issue. your FINAL mistake in this issue is to believe that women can only do an.al etc if they get paid for it, while many do it simply out of PLEASURE!!!

as for your question, why would i pay my woman for sex? she is not an ashewo but will do all what i desire in the bedroom (and vice versa). the day this arrangement doesnt suit any of us, thats the day we will part ways.

now again, you bring religion to this issue, like the hypocrite that most Christian people are. does your bible tell you its ok to give b.lowjob to your man? no, but you probably do... so here is below a list of verses that your bible tells you to do, care to tell us which ones you follow? or do you selfishly disregard them because it suits your needs?! please, do take the bible for ALL ITS WORTH or nothing, sista!

MURDER/INFANTICIDE IS OK
- If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and that, when they have chastened him, will not hearken unto them: Then shall his father and his mother lay hold on him, and bring him out unto the elders of his city, and unto the gate of his place; And they shall say unto the elders of his city, This our son is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton, and a drunkard. And all the men of his city shall stone him with stones, that he die. Deuteronomy 21:18-21

SLAVERY IS OK
- You may purchase male or female slaves from among the foreigners who live among you. You may also purchase the children of such resident foreigners, including those who have been born in your land. You may treat them as your property, passing them on to your children as a permanent inheritance. You may treat your slaves like this, but the people of Israel, your relatives, must never be treated this way. Leviticus 25:44-46

CANNIBALISM IS OK
- If in spite of this you still do not listen to me but continue to be hostile toward me, then in my anger I will be hostile toward you, and I myself will punish you for your sins seven times over. You will eat the flesh of your sons and the flesh of your daughters. Leviticus 26:27-30

- I will make them eat the flesh of their sons and daughters, and they will eat one another’s flesh because their enemies will press the siege so hard against them to destroy them. Jeremiah 19:9

RAPE IS OK SO LONG AS YOU MARRY YOUR VICTIM
- If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and rapes her and they are discovered, he shall pay her father fifty shekels of silver. He must marry the young woman, for he has violated her. He can never divorce her as long as he lives.
Deuteronomy 22:28-29
MURDER FOR BESTIALITY
- If a man has sex with an animal, he must be put to death, and the animal must be killed. Leviticus 20:15

BANG YOUR CHILDLESS BROTHER'S WIFE
- Moses wrote for us that if a man’s brother dies and leaves a wife but no children, the man must marry the widow and raise up offspring for his brother. Mark 12:19

STONING OF NON VIRGNS
- If, however, the charge is true and no proof of the young woman’s virginity can be found, 21 she shall be brought to the door of her father’s house and there the men of her town shall stone her to death. She has done an outrageous thing in Israel by being promiscuous while still in her father’s house. You must purge the evil from among you. Deuteronomy 22: 20-21

CURSE YOUR PARENTS, YOU DIE
- anyone who curses their father or mother is to be put to death. Because they have cursed their father or mother, their blood will be on their own head. Leviticus 20:9

WEARING OF CLOTHING MADE OUT OF DIFFERENT MATERIAL
- Do not wear clothing woven of two kinds of material. Leviticus 19:19

YOU SIN WITH YOUR ARM; LEG OR EYE, YOU CUT IT OFF
- If your hand causes you to stumble, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life maimed than with two hands to go into hell, where the fire never goes out. And if your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life crippled than to have two feet and be thrown into hell. And if your eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out. It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into hell. Mark 9:43

SOMEONE STEALS FROM YOU, GIVE HIM MORE
- And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well. Mathew 5:40

NEVER GETTING A ROUND HAIRCUT OR CUTTING YOUR BEARD
- Do not cut the hair at the sides of your head or clip off the edges of your beard.. Leviticus 19:27

A BASTARD CAN NEVER EVER BE A CHRISTIAN
- No one born of a forbidden marriage (bastard) nor any of their descendants may enter the assembly of the Lord, not even in the tenth generation. Deuteronomy 23:2

OK TO THROW KIDS ONTO WALLS
- Happy is the one who seizes your infants and dashes them against the rocks. Psalm 137:9

WOMEN CANNOT TEACH MEN
- I permit no woman to teach or have authority over men; she is to keep silent. Timothy 2:11

WOMAN TOUCH ANOTHER MAN'S DIKC, CUT OFF HER HAND
- When men fight with one another, and the wife of the one draws near to rescue her husband from the hand of him who is beating him, and puts out her hand and seizes him by the private parts, then you shall cut off her hand. Deuteronomy 25:11-12

WOMEN UNCLEAN WHILE MENSTRUATING
- When a woman has a discharge, if her discharge in her body is blood, she shall continue in her menstrual impurity for seven days; and whoever touches her shall be unclean until evening. Everything also on which she lies during her menstrual impurity shall be unclean, and everything on which she sits shall be unclean. Leviticus 15: 19-20.

LOOKING AT A WOMAN IN LUST IS A SIN
- But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (Matthew 5:28)

CIRCUMCISED MEN CANNOT BE CHRISTIAN
- No one who has been emasculated by crushing or cutting may enter the assembly of the Lord. Deuteronomy 23:1

SHARE ALL YOUR POSSESSIONS
- Anyone who has two shirts should share with the one who has none, and anyone who has food should do the same. Luke 3:11

WOMEN MUST PRAY WITH THEIR HEADS COVERED AND NEVER SHAVE THEIR HEAD
- But every woman who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head—it is the same as having her head shaved. 1 Corinthians 11:5

francescainnoce:
hmmmmmm hun you had me half way through your reply until you got to that back side ooo...
not just is that against religion and beliefs, it is also very unhealthy...c'mon man, your ass is designed at the back for a reason, every part of your body is actually...
let me ask you, will you put food in your nose for your husband to eat from??
a healthy marriage don't need yash sex to last.... a good and understanding loving man does...
for some men, even if you open your nose, your eyes or even your ear for them to f^ck, if the marriage will break, it will dear....
if they want to mastur**, they will... regardless....

I am just giving you options here, there are gazillions of them... but the fact that an.al sex is a no no to you will most certainly result in you failing in the bedroom. using condom during an.al sex clears any misconception of "unhealtiness" you may have. a healthy marriage needs SEXUALLY SATISFIED partners, and the minute you say " i wont do this and that" is the minute you are making yourself vulnerable. how can you talk of understanding when you wouldnt even try something you partner may desires OR is into?! i am sorry, thats being "closed minded".

of course, if your marriage will fail then it will, but let it be after you have done everything in your power to make this union work. the minute you say " i dont do this or that" then you are working AGAINST your union and might as well divorce. take that man for ALL he is or nothing... or simply pretend that all is well when you fully well know that he is getting his freak on with his mistress (like many fake and miserable married women in Nigeria)

here is your education for the day: do you know that one of the most common fantasy of men is to have sex with two women? if this is what your man desires, what would you do? would you A) foolishly tell him that it will never happen (and thus he will secretly fulfill it with some stranger) B) try to talk him out of the idea because you fear that the other lady might be better looking, better lay than you or C) would you accept to do it providing it is done properly (aka he has no way of contacting the lady afterwards, he focusses equally on both ladies during the act, it should always be done with you etc)?

5minsmadness:
After all you have said, marital rape is not prosecuted in Nigeria. I didn't mention bible.
Finland, Germany, Iceland, Netherlands, and some other countries in the REAL world as you call it (says a lot about your self esteem) only recently made marital rape illegal after lengthy, sometimes decades of debates.

again, if in Nigeria a man can RAPE his wife whenever he feels like having sex, and will not be prosecuted for it, then yes indeed this is a 3rd world country with a jungle court of law... but then again, any country in this world TODAY where they allow adult men to marry children is considered NOT the real world (to me)! so yes IMHO Nigeria is not in the real world!

I am not advocating for wives to be raped. I'm just saying it's strange for a couple that profess to love each other to not be able to come to a compromise on the issue of sex esp as most times the man has a higher sex drive than his female counterpart.

couples argue, couples have differences, couples dont always get along... its called LIFE. but if you believe that a man can forcefully have sex with his wife, when she clearly says that she does not want to (for whatever reason), then you and your state of mind are part of the problem

francescainnoce:
Thank God for Nairaland as I am able to learn from so many people and experiences.
I see most comment on the first and second page points to the fact that child birth and weight add might be the possible and likely reason thus my question...
Should we not give birth again? because we fear our PUUUC might be too open and chase our husband from having sex with us...
weight add could be controlled but defo a husband do not expect where a head and a body comes out from should be as close and tight like a concealed evaporated milk... obv there gonna be a huge difference...so?

giving birth and putting on weight can be fixed by daily excercises and a balance diet, and big vagi.nas can be tightened with Kegel excercises.. but the problem will always be SATISFACTION. a good woman who want to have a healthy sex life with her man will turn into the freak that he desires. You have to do all the nastiness that he longs for, and if you dont, then he will always be lacking in the bedroom. during and after pregnancy then focus on Blo.wjob, handjobs, titjobs, footjobs to satisfy his sexual hunger, AND if your toto isnt tight enough then give him your asssss!!!!! if this is against your religious/ethical beliefs then blame that for the failing of your bedroom act.vities, not your man.

remember, it goes both ways, so you can also tell your man about your own desires, so that he can help you fulfill them too.... and if you are too shy to open up and let him know about them (for fear to be seen as a freak) then the joke is on you!

5minsmadness:
. Shouting yes yes yes a thousand times doesn't make it true.

'Marital Rape' is not prosecuted in Nigeria and it only became legal in Norway a few decades ago following an overhaul of thier legal system.

rape or "marital rape" is legal in most countries of the REAL world. the fact that you believe that a husband CANT rape his wife is the reason why you cant understand this issue, while you should instead check the definition of RAPE.

stop using your bible to judge this issue because it has no weight in a proper court of LAW, and instead use your brain by understanding the definition of sexual assault (whether married or not).

shiizzy:
If you are married... Y the moniker "misshipsy"... .. If you are... Your husband was probably a yabaleft escapee coz i don't see y a good thinking man will rather masturbate then Bleep a pussy.... Even if you are the ugliest in the world... He should still Bleep it.... Its nt too late... You can still take him back to yabaleft

you sir are either very young or have never lived with a woman before.

r0cky:
there is something u are not doing right. No man in his right sense that will not want to experience the real deal!

it all depends on A) how BITTER the "real deal" has become and B) what person/body is attached to the "real deal"
the fact that you believe that a man will mount any heavy tokunbo toto shows us all that you have no idea what you are taking about.

but here is a clue: most men who are married for about 10yrs would be more excited in fukcing a gal that is uglier (and less sexy) than their wives, instead of fukcing their wives... and thats all down to arousal/excitement/satisfaction, and this is why you have so many men fukcing their maids, its not because these maids are better than the madam, its simply because its DIFFERENT than the same old toto the oga has been mounting for years.

justmi1:
Exactly what have been thinking of getting for my future wife cos am "small" and it makes me feel terrible, my esteem is bad, my relationship with gals is bad, i hate my self everyday cos of this, i need help.

getting your woman a dil.do because you got a small dick wont solve your problem, you should instead find a wife who can work with what you got.... if you are ashamed now, then imagine how you will feel when she will play with herself (with her new dil.do) while ignoring you. a dil.do should only be an accessory to enhance your bedmatics, or for her to satisfy herself when you are NOT around.

A DIL.DO CAN NEVER BE A REPLACEMENT FOR A MAN!!!!!

seems to me that you are simply a means to an end, so as much as she is happy to get married, she doesnt really like you.

here are some of the questions you need to ask this lady:
- what do you like about me?
- what do you think of me?
- why do you want to marry me?

if she gives you flimsy answers, RUUUUUUUUN!!!!!

chris4gold:
on point, but can such wife file a raping case against her husband knowing fully well they are legarly married

YES YES YES, she can, and would certainly win. just because you are legally married to someone does not mean you can do whatever you please with their bodies (like a slave). it is still a UNION, each of them have their own rights, and the definition of rape does not change because you are married to the victim. rape is rape because the bible verses have no power in the courtroom.

here is something to think about: let's say you have a wife who doesnt like to give head before sex, and every night before sex, you are forcing her (against her will) to go down on you... technically, in the real world, you would be guilty of sexual assault.

true story: a good friend of mine nearly ended up in jail in Norway because he dumped his gf. the jilted gf (that he dated for about a year) went to the police to "report" to them that he was forcing her to have an.al sex every time they made love. guess what?! the police went to arrest him straight away because the law for rape in Norway stipulated that the offender must stay in jail while they investigate the matter (max 3months)... and if it wasnt because he had one of the best lawyers in Oslo, he would have done 3 months of jail time (and possibly more if convicted).

there is actually a story behind this picture, the gal's name is Viky Xipolitakis, she is an Argentine bimbo who took a local plane and after taking a few pictures in the cockpit with the pilotes (and posted them online), the pilotes got fired. so the "joke" in this picture is that now that she was photoshopped with the pope, he also should get fired!

Rajjah:
Is it possible to totally forgive(and forget) a partner (man) who cheated on you, sleeping with the other lady? If it is, please advice how one can go about it.

you should never accept such disrespectful act, and instead you should look for a man that will value you the RIGHT way. forgiving a cheating man is just another way of telling him that its ok and he can do it again because you are a weak person.

at least, have some respect for yourself, even if he doesnt have any for you.

many women are now having sex with dogs, donkeys etc, bestiality at work.... to each their own!

the lady was wrong in how she handled the issue because accepting a d.ildo wont change the fact that this man is still gonna last 5mins... she should have taught that man how to mount her properly. its actually very simple so long as they are both open minded.

HELL NO.... the only person that can receive any of my (non vital) body parts are: my parents (siblings included) and my children

^^^lol, see women now advocating for rape. women and their double standards bwaaaaah!

misshipsy88:
For sometime I have noticed that my husband would rather masturbate instead of having sex with me,even when I try as much as possible to spice up our sex life.please what do I do to stop it?

let me be the bearer of bad news (please dont shoot the messenger):
i am sorry to tell you that there is very little you can do about the fact that you dont turn your husband ON any longer.
but here is how you need to look at this issue:
A) did you always satisfy your hubby's sexual needs in the past? did you have a healthy sex life in the past? do you even know what turns him on?!
B) pls go get nekkid in front of the mirror and look carefully, while asking yourself if you remotely resemble your old sexy self.
C) then ask yourself if you have always been the freak that your partner was seeking for in the bedroom... or better yet, what have you done all these years to spice your bedroom activities? if you think that you can revive something that you overlooked and dismissed for year, then the joke is on you. when its dead, its dead!
D) most importantly, your husband must be masturbating to something that turns him on.... so the question you should ask yourself IS:" do you remotely look as sexy as the women he masturbates to OR do you do the type of stuff that he enjoys watching while playing with himself?"

the fact that you would want him to stop doing it, without thinking or asking the important question, which is "WHY/HOW has it come to this?", is the reason why you can never succeed in solving the issue....your answers are right in front of you.

babyfaceafrica:
@brown....u try..but please be realistic.... One...you can chase two things at a time..but priority is the key or else you will losee both..if you don't have money yet..do not chase women..cos if eventually u get that woman and you don't make money in tyme...she will leave you for a man that has it..its not her fault...women like success!!! Two........unfotunately our morals in this part of the world has been jettison..peoplenow respect money and power over intergrity and loyalty,that's a fact...I agree with oda points though..nice one

yes, priority is essential in life, thats why we spend up till 8 hrs per day at works (some even more) whie we only spend an hour or two per day (at best) dating. there is time in the day for hustling, and time also for women, no biggie! its when men want to impress women with massive BS that there is a problem in mixing the two. if you meet a good woman and she leaves you because you have no money then LET HER GO and count your blessings, because she is a liability!

we have to get our priorities in LIFE back, no matter how these lazy women would have you believe otherwise. GOOD MORALS/INTEGRITY etc is what really matters in marriage, and the reason so many fail is because they focussed on money!!!!

dangotesmummy:
Lol many relationships in nigeria is more of a trade by barter, do me I do you or mutual benefit thing.you spend money on the girl, she becomes more like a sex machine or trophy wife aka talk when I say you should talk and keep quiet when I say you should. Nothing like love. Kilonjebe.its a matter of convenience or paying for the services that's why you see some nigerian women running after a rich man even if he has 50 wives They don't care at least they'll be guaranteed a free house car and monthly salary. All they need to do is spread their legs anytime oga comes and when money goes off they go to the highest bidder and they carry another mans child to another man's house. At the end of the day they have kids for four different men in a bid to live a life they're not ready to work for. Besides what work will you do being a rich man's 10th wife. Just eat sleep watch keeping up with the kardashians and go to party.

bro, you are mixing the issue here... it doesnt matter how many women a rich man wants to have OR what they want to do if/when they become rich, the issue here is when young men believe (or are raised to believe) that they MUST have money before they can seek for a partner. do you see where i am getting at?! yes, a rich man will attract a lot of goldigger, but at the end of the day, both rich and poor men have equal chance to meet a GOOD woman.

So blame the men for encouraging lazy women and luring them with car and money and if you talk you will be labelled enemy of progress or bad belle who doesn't want her to give testimony in church for how the Lord has blessed her with a wonderful husband who provides all her needs

you are almost making it sound like its bad to be successful, lol!!! remember, what i am saying is that the value of a man lies in his character/morals/integrity etc, not his wallet, no matter how some women would have you to think otherwise.

jabojafa:
my dear God's word which is d bible can neva be outdated. Whether u agree or not everything pertaining to life n godily is found in it. It is only a sheep dt hears d sheperd voice n obey. Wolf dont hear.

well i suggest you read that bible again MR sheep and educate yourself about it, especially these (outdated) following verses:

MURDER/INFANTICIDE IS OK
- If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and that, when they have chastened him, will not hearken unto them: Then shall his father and his mother lay hold on him, and bring him out unto the elders of his city, and unto the gate of his place; And they shall say unto the elders of his city, This our son is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton, and a drunkard. And all the men of his city shall stone him with stones, that he die. Deuteronomy 21:18-21

SLAVERY IS OK
- You may purchase male or female slaves from among the foreigners who live among you. You may also purchase the children of such resident foreigners, including those who have been born in your land. You may treat them as your property, passing them on to your children as a permanent inheritance. You may treat your slaves like this, but the people of Israel, your relatives, must never be treated this way. Leviticus 25:44-46

CANNIBALISM IS OK
- If in spite of this you still do not listen to me but continue to be hostile toward me, then in my anger I will be hostile toward you, and I myself will punish you for your sins seven times over. You will eat the flesh of your sons and the flesh of your daughters. Leviticus 26:27-30

- I will make them eat the flesh of their sons and daughters, and they will eat one another’s flesh because their enemies will press the siege so hard against them to destroy them. Jeremiah 19:9

RAPE IS OK SO LONG AS YOU MARRY YOUR VICTIM
- If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and rapes her and they are discovered, he shall pay her father fifty shekels of silver. He must marry the young woman, for he has violated her. He can never divorce her as long as he lives.
Deuteronomy 22:28-29
MURDER FOR BESTIALITY
- If a man has sex with an animal, he must be put to death, and the animal must be killed. Leviticus 20:15

BANG YOUR CHILDLESS BROTHER'S WIFE
- Moses wrote for us that if a man’s brother dies and leaves a wife but no children, the man must marry the widow and raise up offspring for his brother. Mark 12:19

STONING OF NON VIRGNS
- If, however, the charge is true and no proof of the young woman’s virginity can be found, 21 she shall be brought to the door of her father’s house and there the men of her town shall stone her to death. She has done an outrageous thing in Israel by being promiscuous while still in her father’s house. You must purge the evil from among you. Deuteronomy 22: 20-21

CURSE YOUR PARENTS, YOU DIE
- anyone who curses their father or mother is to be put to death. Because they have cursed their father or mother, their blood will be on their own head. Leviticus 20:9

WEARING OF CLOTHING MADE OUT OF DIFFERENT MATERIAL
- Do not wear clothing woven of two kinds of material. Leviticus 19:19

YOU SIN WITH YOUR ARM; LEG OR EYE, YOU CUT IT OFF
- If your hand causes you to stumble, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life maimed than with two hands to go into hell, where the fire never goes out. And if your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life crippled than to have two feet and be thrown into hell. And if your eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out. It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into hell. Mark 9:43

SOMEONE STEALS FROM YOU, GIVE HIM MORE
- And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well. Mathew 5:40

NEVER GETTING A ROUND HAIRCUT OR CUTTING YOUR BEARD
- Do not cut the hair at the sides of your head or clip off the edges of your beard.. Leviticus 19:27

A BASTARD CAN NEVER EVER BE A CHRISTIAN
- No one born of a forbidden marriage (bastard) nor any of their descendants may enter the assembly of the Lord, not even in the tenth generation. Deuteronomy 23:2

OK TO THROW KIDS ONTO WALLS
- Happy is the one who seizes your infants and dashes them against the rocks. Psalm 137:9

WOMEN CANNOT TEACH MEN
- I permit no woman to teach or have authority over men; she is to keep silent. Timothy 2:11

WOMAN TOUCH ANOTHER MAN'S DIKC, CUT OFF HER HAND
- When men fight with one another, and the wife of the one draws near to rescue her husband from the hand of him who is beating him, and puts out her hand and seizes him by the private parts, then you shall cut off her hand. Deuteronomy 25:11-12

WOMEN UNCLEAN WHILE MENSTRUATING
- When a woman has a discharge, if her discharge in her body is blood, she shall continue in her menstrual impurity for seven days; and whoever touches her shall be unclean until evening. Everything also on which she lies during her menstrual impurity shall be unclean, and everything on which she sits shall be unclean. Leviticus 15: 19-20.

LOOKING AT A WOMAN IN LUST IS A SIN
- But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (Matthew 5:28)

CIRCUMCISED MEN CANNOT BE CHRISTIAN
- No one who has been emasculated by crushing or cutting may enter the assembly of the Lord. Deuteronomy 23:1

SHARE ALL YOUR POSSESSIONS
- Anyone who has two shirts should share with the one who has none, and anyone who has food should do the same. Luke 3:11

WOMEN MUST PRAY WITH THEIR HEADS COVERED AND NEVER SHAVE THEIR HEAD
- But every woman who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head—it is the same as having her head shaved. 1 Corinthians 11:5

athough Nedu's action not wanting to pay the upgrade was wrong, i can certainly understand the taxi expenses. if the company just provided for a pick up at airport and a drop off then how will he go from hotel to training center?! if a car was provided to him throughout his stay then it is a matter of fraud.

dangotesmummy:
Lol Mr Brown Jay you can like to deceive yourself sha

If a man doesn't have money if he likes let him know book pass prof wole soyinka or speak grammar pass prof Patrick obiagbon a regular nigerian woman will not respect you talk less of send you. It's in civilized societies that intellect is respected and celebrated . Here it is about how fat your pocket is

yes, you are right that many Nigerian women would value a man via his wealth, but thats because these lazy women are looking for a free ride, and sadly, many clueless men are falling for this stoopid act. men are to be blamed for these women's foolish actions!

here is a simple clue for you: if your woman is with you because of your money then A) that union is based on how much money you have (aka ashewo and her customer), and not the type of man you are; B) just like pay as you go, the day your money finishes, is the day you will realise that your were alone all along (what kind of BS stressful union is this?); and most importantly C) if money is what attracted this ashewo/goldigger to your life, then i am sorry to say that you are just a "temporary" measure until she can find a man with more money than you. what a miserable life to live!!!!

now, i dont know about you, but i would rather settle for something REAL, with someone who truly cares for me as a person (whether rich or poor), instead of some phoney r/ship based on money, with someone who probably dont give a fukc about who you are as a person, and is only interested in what she can get from you.

you should value a woman by the character she possess (and nothing else), but if 9ja men see this goldigging/ashewoism BS as something to value in a woman, then we are certainly doomed... but hey, to each their own!