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BRATISLAVA:
We have heard you.

She should kneel and beg her tin god husband as he has the ultimate power to forgive her wrongdoings, being that he is pure and holy himself. If she doesn't...

Nevermind what their real issues are, they will come up again and you and the hosts of Nairaland men will tell her to kneel and beg, kneel and beg, kneel and beg. The penitent wife cycle, right? Well, that's good for god, but will achieve nothing.

Anyone who brings fantasy to this forum is justified. But anyone who brings their real life issues will be doomed to opinions that are far from reality.

again, the current beef needs to be squashed before they can look within and fix whats wrong with their marriage. SHE created this madness thus SHE should be the one asking for forgiveness! let her cry, crawl on the floor screaming and/or kneel and beg... but until this is sorted, they cant go nowhere.
now it is obvious the husband is taking this tit for tat to another level, so i suggest she start begging asap before this goes WAY TOO FAR!!

cheating is cheating, whether with a man or woman.... same DECEIT, same DISHONESTY, same LACK OF RESPECT, same LOSS OF TRUST.

you did no wrong in all this issue, and now you need to be honest with us about what you want. if you want to get rid of her and her foul attitude, do it,.... and if you want to squash things then do it and accept her back.

...but know in the back of your head that this is something that can happen again, and again and again!

BRATISLAVA:
LMAO.
Behold! The antidote to every Nigerian marital problem: beg on your knees to your savior, without which you will be dumped. In the end, you must pay him back for kneeling to propose to you. It is the only way and ordained by...?

No root cause analysis. No counseling. No communication. The woman will always be wrong. She must just kneel down and grovel for him and everything will automatically be fine.

The children on this forum can be amusing at times.

no matter how you wanna look at this issue, the woman IS/WAS wrong and she started AND fuelled this madness. as i stated, she needs to look within herself whats bothering her but ultimately something got to give... and by the look of things husband is not letting go after 5months (aka he is better at this childish "silent treatment" game than she is).

so that childish woman better open her eyes, give in and hope that husband forgives her childish actions.

Idaytesj29:
Who is this one sef? Keep all these werey advise for yourself and your male children. You are man with a slippery wet pvssy. Cover your head in shame.

super alpha man!!!! i can already see you beating your chest like a gorilla. i guess in your world, you'd rather destroy your family and stay away from your kids for 5 long months, just to spite your childish wife, abi?

what you wrote is the exact definition of "Cutting off your nose to spite your own face"...at the end of the day, you and your yeye wife would be the one losing here.

Wealthbrain22:
Women have one tactic that works all the time for them against men. They make you feel like you’re not man enough. They know men have ego and so they use that against you most times. If a lady stops you on the road to help her fix her car, you will most likely say yes, not because you can fix it, or because you don’t have important things to attend to instead but you will most likely try to prove to her that you are a “real” man.

in this day and age of kidnapping and ritual killing, people still stop for stranded strangers?!

Have you heard women say “real men wash their wives clothes” “real men cook for their wives “ etc , they say these things to emotionally manipulate you into feeling less of a man and once you fall for it you become her slave, she owns you because she knows how to emotionally blackmail you into doing anything she wants. That’s the mindset of a woman, the ultimate manipulative gods on earth.
Avoid manipulation my brother, you’re a real man no matter what decisions you make, don’t allow anyone make you feel less of a man for being your true self.

sadly, konji is a bastard and many will knowingly accept to be treated that way simply to have unrestricted access to that manipulative demon's honeypot

chigoizie7:
Communication is part of making women realise when they F up? What do you want this man to do? First day after the quarrel and disrespect, he called, she ignored him, texted, she ignored him, sent voice notes, she ignored, he continued, day 1, no response, day 2, no response, day 3, no response, day 4, no response, she got tired of his incessant calls, texts, voice messages. She decided to block him and cut him off entirely. For how long? 9 weeks. This man did his best to do what you advised. COMMUNICATION. Is that his fault that she cut him off entirely? Out of the blues, she texts him over unrelated issues. And all you could say in all that is that he is CHILDISH? I pray that you never find yourself with a woman like this very lady in question. From all indications, she isn’t remorseful, she doesn’t care about him one bit, all she is concerned is him not talking to the sister about her education and wedding. And you think that kinda of woman is one to live with? Hell NO, it is never ever EGO, it is about maintaining your sanity to live longer and not die prematurely in the hands of a woman who doesn’t give a Shiite about you.

in life, you need to learn how to DEFUSE situations. its not all the time that you need to be the one winning and on top of arguments and/or disagreements at home. whats important right now is the family/kids and if the dude is tired of this BS marriage then let him get rid of the headache called "childish wife"... but playing tit for tat with a gender that are emotionally incoherent for a week every 21 days, is insane!

MufasaLion:
Bro, you're off point but to you, they are good points. Enjoy your principles, Mr. Emotions.

you are the one who is not making any sense....so your "immature" wife alienates you from your children for 9 long weeks, and the day you can resolve this immature BS silent treatment issue and get in contact with your kids again, instead of defusing the issue, you decide to give her the silent treatment (of your own) for 3 more month... in order to make it 5 months without any contact with your kids?! does that even make sense to you, really?!

pls tell us again why you are still with that man?

MufasaLion:
Stop throwing word (CHILDISH) around unnecessarily. Why are you ruling out the fact that this might not be her first time of such behaviour?

so because she does it often, does not make it CHILDISH any longer?! this is a childish/immature behaviour.

Also, even if it was her first, is it ideal for the kids not to even talk to their father for 9 weeks? Even if parents despise eavh other, do you think it's ideal to deny them the right to talk to their father?

again, if you understand that what she did was wrong, why would you continue this arrant nonsense behaviour, instead of DEFUSING IT?!?! what would that man gain from alienating himself even longer from his children?!

In this digital age that things are easier, you can't use anything as an excuse for kids not to have access to their father. What she did clearly shows how vile she is and a shame to womanhood. She's selfish and didn't consider her kids mental health!

as i stated earlier, any smart man knows that some women are irrational and emotionally incoherent. thats the type of animal they are, you cant blame an animal for being an animal.

Even the reason for speaking out now is because of her sister, not even because she is remorse or consider the kids. Shame!

i believe she came here for moral support....aka women telling her that what she did was "right" and/or men talking down about what her husband is doing.

chigoizie7:
Can you even listen to yourself? This man was disrespected by his wife, he became the bigger person despite the disrespect and then called, sent texts, sent voice messages for four whole days to sort things out, what did she do? Cut him off for a whole 9 weeks. You think that while 9weeks he wasn’t trying to reach to her or the kids? And then out of the blue, after 9weeks, she reached out to him over an unrelated matter, bro are you even listening to yourself? And all you could do is try to blame the guy for not being mature? Where is this world sense of equity and fairness? All the time people find means to blame men even on the mistakes of women. Bro men are human beings too with emotions too, he have lives to live too, they shouldn’t always be emotionally blackmailed or abused. They also have the same blood running through their veins. They also have the right to be angry too, they have the right to express their emotions too. Atleast this woman was the one that brought this her problem here, she is reading the responses from others. And instead of correcting her mistakes, help her find solutions to save the marriage she messed up, you are here talking rubbish. I pity men. Alternatively you are telling this woman that what she did was okay that the fault is from the husband for not being mature and man enough. Cut men some slacks, call a spade a spade. Tell the woman that she is wrong and she should find a way to fix it.

A) that man never became the bigger person, he lowered himsef to his wife's childish level.
B) there is a time when you have to understand that marriage is not a war to see who is the toughest person out there.
C) husband should have defused the issue, instead of taking it to EXTREME LEVEL. what is he gonna get by that?
D) there are so many ways to make a woman understand when they fukc up...and COMMUNICATION is one of them. but one thing is certain, playing childish tit for tat is certainly not the solution here.
E) men like you should remove the misplaced ego in front of your common sense. marriage is not always about "YOU" winning

MufasaLion:
You keep screaming communication as if we are ignorant not to know how vital it is in human's life. The man really knew the woman he married. It's most likely this wasn't her first time of exhibiting this bullshit behaviour. People like her can't be bowed down to. If the man had been a coward and tried his best to resolve things, the malice wouldn't have happened and everyone will see them as happy couples.

Individuals need to take the bull by the horn. Never let anyone play smart when they shouldn't. People should learn to understand that marriage is a partnership and not some slave-master shit. Most people are used to suffering in marriage all because they want to maintain the aesthetics.
I'm proud of the man. You can't manipulate some men/women like us.

Boss13:
I would rather think this may not be the first time and the man wants his wife to grow up. How long would he continue to tolerate the disrespect. If she is not ready to be married, come forth. Please let's stop cutting slacks with these women. We only encourage them to continue in their bad behaviours.

sadly not many people know how to COMMUNICATE and would rather burn their house down, while we all know how irrational some women can be at times. what wifey did is CHILDISH, playing tit for tat with your wife is equally CHILDISH. none of what these people are doing is right, and understanding the type of woman you have is key. your wife gives you the silent treatment, big deal... just understand that this is how childish she is, play hard to get for a few hours and basta. taking this shiiit by the horn and carrying it for months is truly immature. at the end, none of them is winning shiiit, the "family/kids" is who is losing here.

you should instead look at the smile you put on your wife's face... marriage is also about having fun, so its all good. now, you should stop claiming all type of nonsense to your wife (you are a better cook bla bla bla) and instead accept who/what you are before it backfires on you head again.

Sureboyy:
It's a typical issue of "you go low, I go lower"
That woman na something else... Imagine not responding to her husband for 9 weeks (approx 2 months and 1 week)
The man wan do him own na... As they say first to do no dae pain, na second to do dae pain pass

nine weeks of silence in some people's mind it is like a break up/divorce... this woman is really not thinking straight. thats why i always say:"COMMUNICATION is the key to a better r/ship"

iLegendd:
You almost made sense, but @bold is just you SIMPing. What makes him childish?

bro, a married couple should look at making sure that their family AND children is the most important thing in their lives... mummy and daddy not talking to one another (for months on end) is highly childish. i understand that the husband is repaying back his wife with her own medicine, but at the end of the day, only the family&kids will suffer.

sometimes women are very childish, irrational and emotionally incoherent, but you have to accept that this is how this gender is, and live with it. giving the silent treatment to your spouse is ok for a few days, but for weeks and/or months is very immature. sometimes you just have to be the bigger person in the room.

Sweetplum:
You v described your kind of person.
May you meet a family that ll hold you by your balls if you impregnate their daughter.

if my daughter comes home pregnant by some irresponsible ignoramus i will first A) blame my own yeye daughter for being so IRRESPONSIBLE and B) blame myself for not instilling in her the proper values....

BeanmanX:
Arguing with sweetplum is a waste of time,,,you will only decrease you IQ...

i can understand that now.... what she says is so one sided, she must have some type of hatred towards men.

who cares? why do you even care what your girl thought of doing back in the days? and so what if she wanted to fukc him before?

Evilblackman:
I feel Hot
But I have to masturbate to reduce it
I don’t like ashawo
And I’m an introvert I don’t really go out

remember, masturbation should be a temporary substitute for real toto/sex, not a REPLACEMENT!!
go out there and get yourself a good woman.

Evilblackman:

So lately my neighbor , these guy has been yabbing me because I haven’t had sex for a Almost 3 years now , I’m 22 and my body count is not upto 10 ,he also asked if i was gay , presumed i had no game too
Omo i felt sad .....
Please is it a bad thing, and can it affect your health??
I need opinions

important question should be: WHY havent you had sex in 3yrs?! are the oloshoes in your area extinct or what?! dont you feel like getting jiggy sometimes?!??!

she is wearing panties na.... and by the look of the vid, she is just wearing a white dress, not marrying anyone!

collapse ko, collabo ni!!!

apart from the USD being as strong as ever lately against every currency on earth, the GBP rate is exactly the same with any other currency! GBP vs Euro is the same as it was 1 yr ago and/or 5 yrs ago. same against other currencies.

just because the USD is stronger lately, doesnt mean all other currencies are "collapsing".

KUNG FU HUSTLE


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xssCyfRu3iM

another donkey bites the dust!

BTW la click la Bendel state...

Sweetplum:
You v rum in your head.
You just typed gibberish. You got examples of pregnancy that was conceived legally and men still ran away. Some ll say cos it's twins, triplets or multiple birth. You are your fellow shameless men v been bailed out by govts so many times in the news where they pay for expenses of such runaway father.
I told you your brain is narrowed towards boyfriend and girlfriend issue. Graduate to mature level.

there are irresponsile men EVERYWHERE... if you think that marrying someone makes a man "responsible" then the joke is on YOU!

No matter how irresponsible a girl may be, the person that impregnated her is meant to stay when he's informed.

BWAAAAAAH! stay ko, steady ni!!!!
if a girl is irresponsible enough to keep an unwanted child (fathered by some irresponsible stranger), then that irresponsible stranger has all the right to abandon that deluded woman and her future child if/when she refuses to ABORT that unwanted bastard child.

So many of you come out at old age to claim kids you never raised. Some ll eat from such kids success and die suddenly cos such success is an automatic poison to them. Moral of the story, when pregnancy occur anyhow, you stay to handle it. If it can't be aborted, raise the child.

accidents during sex do happen and therefore everyone has the right to decide whether they want to be parents or not...if a man doesnt want a child while the yeye irresponsible woman CANT TAKE CARE OF A CHILD ON HER OWN BUT STILL DECIDES TO KEEP IT, then let her raise that child on her own. what to do with a pregnacy is a mutual decision, not a selfish one made by yeye deluded women.

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you made a few mistakes (and so did he)...
A) just because you work hard, never assume that others dont (simply because you dont see/feel it)
B) cutting off your husand and giving him the silent treatment for NINE WEEKS is insane. is that not the father of your kids any longer?!?! why such harsh treatment?
C) your husband is as childish as you are and now playing your own game by ignoring you for months... blame y'all childish self, which ultimately will only hurt the children.
D) look within yourself to see what is bothering you so much that you could take such a small statement from your husband, and turn ii into such a big deal... then put your pride aside, get down on your knees and beg him to forgive you (because it is obvious, you aint gonna win at this "childish" game)

Sweetplum:
Shebi your eyes nongetbpepoer and you can see my response above.
No just do face black like charcoal and be prejudice about women. After all na woman born you and your mum is a Nigerian.

get your mind out of the gutter... this has NOTHING to do with women and all to do with RIGHT vs WRONG!
stop trying to make any issue about men vs women, and instead use your mind to judge each and every issue.

Sweetplum:
Be calming down you this boy.
You really need prayers.

but of course, i guess you believe that this man should stay married to this deceitful/disrespectful/unfaithful/dishonest woman, and raise another man's child, abi?! i guess in your world, no woman can do any wrong!

Sweetplum:
Omo ase, na you make you meshonu. Shut da fuc k up!
There are numerous cases of failed abortions. There are people who also used family planning and it failed.
While am taking with experience of deep reality from ordinary boyfriend and girlfriend relationship that resulted in pregnancy, am also talking from marital couples who had unwanted pregnancy. Cases like people wey don born 6 sotey wife carry twins for 7 & 8 children.
Last Bullet
The most honourable thing to do in life whe mistakes occur is to be responsible. But it's so obvious you and the redpillers of this site aren't responsible and lacked empathy. And that's what's spoiling things in this world. Lack of empathy and responsibility. It's you and others that ll demand good deeds from a lady you didn't treat well.
It's this same BrownJay abi na brown bread that I v met across different topics on this site defending evils that men do. Ori yin o pe sir!
I hope you all starve from responsible ladies.

who gives a damn what YOU think irresponsible people should do?! yeye woman who is quick to blame men, while the deluded ignorant woman who open her foolish legs unprotected to this yeye stranger shouldnt be blamed abi?! you can believe all you want, but irresponsible men who fukc yeye strangers will rarely take care of the bastard child these yeye women decide to keep.... and you know why? because thats exactly what IRRESPONSIBLE PEOPLE DO, DUH!!!!
stop talking about nonsense online... the most honourable thing to do is to not have unprotected sex with strangers, and if you ever get pregnant by accident, then abort that bastard child from this irresponsible stranger.

how can such a deceitful/disrespectful/unfaithful/dishonest marriage ever work?! you can still be a great father to your kids without being married to this woman.

Monday60655:
He didn't say 80k. He meant 80%. Let's assume he defraud him 500k, now he has 400k in his account.

thanks for the correction. fixed!

Sweetplum:
You v changed the whole plot and digressed just to score a cheap point that's useless and ll only encourage your fellow men to be more irresponsible.
There are scenarios that happened to couple living together. The man ll suddenly abandon kids so why won't others be abandoning pregnancy.
I sighted where abortion and other prevention methods failed. And you are here with your shallow mind to write balderdash of epistle.
I thought you are intelligent but am disappointed.
Men can become irresponsible in relationships and marriage. So don't tell me it's a woman that wasn't calculative enough. If men also carry pregnancy, they ll know that they need to be with their partners, wives or whoever they impregnate more.
The reason why we v heartless boys roaming around Nairaland and Nigeria is cos some never knew how to raise a family. Too many irresponsible boys from irresponsible dads, irresponsible homes.
Woe is the portion of people that defend evil while cursed is the irresponsible male that impregnates a female and abscond.
And as you dey quote me this time, sha make sure you really use your sense cos what you ll get from me ll be devastating.

SHATTAP THERE!!!!
an ABORTION can never fail...stop writing arrant nonsense online. if irresponsible people are NOT EMOTIONALLY/PHYSICALLY/FINANCIALLY ready to have a child, then they should ABORT at best! why are you so hellbent on having two yeye irresponsible ignorant people bringing an unwanted child to this world, that they cant take care of?!
then years down the line, that same child will be begging at traffic lights for handouts. abi?

no wonder so many women bring bastard unwanted children to this world when thinking the way you do... and with the way African men look down on single mothers, i understand why these yeye women end up abandoning these child.
***spit on floor***