Yuneehk: Okay. There are jokes I wouldn't take, that was one of them. I don't know the senseless agbaya but now you've mentioned, I'll just ignore the do!t. Thanks.
...calm down baby..no need acting like a semi jagoravastic solomagarrrabin (wot ever that mean)... Am from London, ain't on yor level so please please please please..if u want a shance with a Londoner, be nice!(real talk)
Yuneehk: And where did this unfortunate thing crawl out from? You're not only blind but you can't read or understand. To think people rejoiced that a male child was born, ha muru nwa nwoke . Tueh!!
..and sadly..u ain't even lightskin like petyprincess & u stand no shance. ..growwwwwup please!(kmt)
Yuneehk: And where did this unfortunate thing crawl out from? You're not only blind but you can't read or understand. To think people rejoiced that a male child was born, ha muru nwa nwoke . Tueh!!
..u ungracefull scangokuladticl dongpyaro.. u create thread say on yor mum want hard meat. I offer u hard meat. ..did I say somtin wrong?...and then u complain u can't find man on nairaland (goat)
McCoy662: Good morning Nlanders, I have this very issue bothering me. I have been in a relationship with this girl for about 3 years now. I love her so much, and she loved me until of recent when she told me that she's no longer interested in the relationship. She told me the stern truth that she was seeing someone else.
It's not like I don't take care of her, because I have given her almost everything she requested from me. I bought 90% of her clothes myself as she can't even buy for herself if I give her the money. I pay her bills too.
Just about 2 months ago, the said guy called me and told me that his gf (my gf) said I'm her ex, and they are now together. This guy is not that rich, he's just on average income scale, he's not super handsome and the worst is that, this girl calls and comes to my house for sex anytime she feels like. But that's all, we are not friends like before, we don't go out together, she don't even oblige my requests anytime I ask her for anything. She doesn't even visit on a regular except for sex.
Right now, I'm fed up; I'm tired of being in this love triangle, though I love her so much. My guys advised me to beat her up and warn her never to come close to my house again, but I just can't. Though I feel used as a sex object, but I just can't say no to this girl's request.
I don't just know, am I being stupid?? Is there a Best way to handle this in a more diplomatic way?? I really love this girl.
kaiiii..sex object ke?... bro please please please please..gimmmme her nomba n let me help u talk to her nicely so she can respect us!
cybug: As promised, Psquare's Rudeboy has finally released the full video of his hit song, 'Take It', today, 11th February 2020 and it has set social media Abuzz.
The music video features Big Brother Naija winner, Mercy Eke, adding that juicy touch to the video.
The video is going viral already, in less than an hour, the video has already garnered hundred thousands of views
funmisticqueen2: Sooooo, now I know that going 50/50 is a terrible idea and a sham. However, in the past I did not know any better as I thought I was being progressive or that it made sense.However
My friend's Story:
She well to do, about 3 years my senior and very staunch in her beliefs also now a chartered accountant.
She was dating a guy for 4 years then(I know, ). It was her first serious relationship. She's super smart, like getting scholarships and a philosophical kinda smart, and a feminist to the core. Since the start of the relationship, He suggested that a relationship is a partnership, hence they should do everything 50:50. she used to have the mindset of "It makes sense to go in half of the bills because this isn't the 1960 anymore and many women are working now. It's not fair to the guy to pay all the bills". I loved her a lot, but it was one of the topics we both disagreed on that time.
I told her that everything wouldn't be exactly 50/50 as that's impossible, but her expectation was that it would be close. That also included housework as well.
Things became interesting when she and her boyfriend decided to rent a flat together.
They decided to split the bill and house chores. Even though at first he cooked, he stopped doing that as she began to learn how to cook soups from his tribe. There was a time when she lost her job at the beginning of buhari regime, so of course he had to pick up all the bills. She did all the cooking and housework and continued to look for a job because she felt it was the right thing to do. He would come home to a neat house, a hot meal but tired girlfriend. She eventually found another, but the pay was less.
However, he too lost his job about a year later and she was paying all the bills, there was almost no reciprocity. She would come home to a dirty house and no food. That was the time that she was working and going to courses to write her ACCA exams. Back then she would complain to me, since also was friends with the guy. She was so frustrated.
It became so bad that she had to resort to nagging when she got home and asked why the dishes were not done, he'd begin to do them while she would do other house chores....but he had all day to do them, . On a side note, she then began to fail her papers, and all he had was the audacity to say "Maybe you should find more time to study. She was making good grades when she was working and writing exams." All she kept telling me was, "IF HE HELPED AROUND THE HOUSE AND COOKED I WOULD HAVE MORE TIME TO STUDY!!" Not only that, he had an online course, for 2 months which hardly count as full time But she didn't say anything.He eventually got another job though.
People suggested that she was emasculating him, so she said calmly tried talked to him about his lack of effort on several occasions but it didn't seem to matter although he agreed he'd do more.
He had a bad habit of starting chores and not finishing them (whether he had a job or not) and always had an excuse:
"I got distracted." "I'll get to it later." "I'm too busy"
It didn't help that family members were excusing his behavior. They claimed they always had to do his chores as he never finished them either, when they were kids. She didn't care about that. He wasn't a child anymore and that screamed lack of maturity.
She got so sick of it that she decided to be petty (she still regrets it). She didn't wash dishes for an entire month just to see how far it would go. Well, She only washed what she needed personally and left the rest. Surprisingly, he complained within a week. "The dishes haven't been done in a few days..." And she immediately proceeded to give most of the excuses he gave her the MULTIPLE times she confronted him about it during that month. He was pissed, but yet, only did the dishes a total of three times that month and had an attitude doing even that.
She ended up doing dishes again because she was tired of the state of the kitchen although it was only twice a week and that still wasn't enough for him.
Eventually, her new company was downsized and her salary was slashed. So she couldn't pay half like she used to. It was agreed that he'd pay rent and she'd pay the utilities and cable. Yeah...he eventually didn't like that anymore either.
He also started proposing marriage and wanting her to get pregnant before that and she said no. He asked why. She told him it was because It felt like she was doing most of everything. She did most of the cooking and cleaning still and having a baby would be more work for her. They had an argument about it. She honestly felt bad and thought maybe he would be a good dad but in any case, as if she didn't have enough red flags, this was the moment that confirmed 50/50 ideology was not working out for her. Just the thought of bringing a child into the world when she felt he wasn't even helping her or being supportive at that point was too much.
Eventually the relationship ended (I was the only happy one) . Her reasoning was because they weren't making each other happy and she couldn't take it anymore, and his was because she was a lazy woman who wasn't sacrificing for the relationship like he was (rolling my eyes at him).
She is in London today, doing her master's under a scholarship tuition free and all expenses paid. We still keep in touch. The guy is married. But he complains of how dirty his wife is. Ain't karma a bitch. The end.
Anyway, all that to say 50/50 is a scam. I feel like there are too many guys who proudly exclaim, "It's not 1950 anymore!" Or "It's 2020 now", but it obviously only applies to bills and NOT housework. They want the woman to still embrace her "gender role" 100% and do all the cooking, cleaning, and child rearing if a child or children are involved but also want the woman to step in HIS gender role as the provider and pay for half the bills as well. That's already 150% at least on her part while he's doing 50%
Also, I know that a financially well off man is not the only qualification because some will financially abuse women and I'm not advocating for complete dependency on a man either. All men have to be vetted the same in many areas no matter what.
..yor friend story or yor story? .U tink we here to sell ground nut?(really really really really shaking my head)
funmisticqueen2: Sooooo, now I know that going 50/50 is a terrible idea and a sham. However, in the past I did not know any better as I thought I was being progressive or that it made sense.However
My friend's Story:
She well to do, about 3 years my senior and very staunch in her beliefs also now a chartered accountant.
She was dating a guy for 4 years then(I know, ). It was her first serious relationship. She's super smart, like getting scholarships and a philosophical kinda smart, and a feminist to the core. Since the start of the relationship, He suggested that a relationship is a partnership, hence they should do everything 50:50. she used to have the mindset of "It makes sense to go in half of the bills because this isn't the 1960 anymore and many women are working now. It's not fair to the guy to pay all the bills". I loved her a lot, but it was one of the topics we both disagreed on that time.
I told her that everything wouldn't be exactly 50/50 as that's impossible, but her expectation was that it would be close. That also included housework as well.
Things became interesting when she and her boyfriend decided to rent a flat together.
They decided to split the bill and house chores. Even though at first he cooked, he stopped doing that as she began to learn how to cook soups from his tribe. There was a time when she lost her job at the beginning of buhari regime, so of course he had to pick up all the bills. She did all the cooking and housework and continued to look for a job because she felt it was the right thing to do. He would come home to a neat house, a hot meal but tired girlfriend. She eventually found another, but the pay was less.
However, he too lost his job about a year later and she was paying all the bills, there was almost no reciprocity. She would come home to a dirty house and no food. That was the time that she was working and going to courses to write her ACCA exams. Back then she would complain to me, since also was friends with the guy. She was so frustrated.
It became so bad that she had to resort to nagging when she got home and asked why the dishes were not done, he'd begin to do them while she would do other house chores....but he had all day to do them, . On a side note, she then began to fail her papers, and all he had was the audacity to say "Maybe you should find more time to study. She was making good grades when she was working and writing exams." All she kept telling me was, "IF HE HELPED AROUND THE HOUSE AND COOKED I WOULD HAVE MORE TIME TO STUDY!!" Not only that, he had an online course, for 2 months which hardly count as full time But she didn't say anything.He eventually got another job though.
People suggested that she was emasculating him, so she said calmly tried talked to him about his lack of effort on several occasions but it didn't seem to matter although he agreed he'd do more.
He had a bad habit of starting chores and not finishing them (whether he had a job or not) and always had an excuse:
"I got distracted." "I'll get to it later." "I'm too busy"
It didn't help that family members were excusing his behavior. They claimed they always had to do his chores as he never finished them either, when they were kids. She didn't care about that. He wasn't a child anymore and that screamed lack of maturity.
She got so sick of it that she decided to be petty (she still regrets it). She didn't wash dishes for an entire month just to see how far it would go. Well, She only washed what she needed personally and left the rest. Surprisingly, he complained within a week. "The dishes haven't been done in a few days..." And she immediately proceeded to give most of the excuses he gave her the MULTIPLE times she confronted him about it during that month. He was pissed, but yet, only did the dishes a total of three times that month and had an attitude doing even that.
She ended up doing dishes again because she was tired of the state of the kitchen although it was only twice a week and that still wasn't enough for him.
Eventually, her new company was downsized and her salary was slashed. So she couldn't pay half like she used to. It was agreed that he'd pay rent and she'd pay the utilities and cable. Yeah...he eventually didn't like that anymore either.
He also started proposing marriage and wanting her to get pregnant before that and she said no. He asked why. She told him it was because It felt like she was doing most of everything. She did most of the cooking and cleaning still and having a baby would be more work for her. They had an argument about it. She honestly felt bad and thought maybe he would be a good dad but in any case, as if she didn't have enough red flags, this was the moment that confirmed 50/50 ideology was not working out for her. Just the thought of bringing a child into the world when she felt he wasn't even helping her or being supportive at that point was too much.
Eventually the relationship ended (I was the only happy one) . Her reasoning was because they weren't making each other happy and she couldn't take it anymore, and his was because she was a lazy woman who wasn't sacrificing for the relationship like he was (rolling my eyes at him).
She is in London today, doing her master's under a scholarship tuition free and all expenses paid. We still keep in touch. The guy is married. But he complains of how dirty his wife is. Ain't karma a bitch. The end.
Anyway, all that to say 50/50 is a scam. I feel like there are too many guys who proudly exclaim, "It's not 1950 anymore!" Or "It's 2020 now", but it obviously only applies to bills and NOT housework. They want the woman to still embrace her "gender role" 100% and do all the cooking, cleaning, and child rearing if a child or children are involved but also want the woman to step in HIS gender role as the provider and pay for half the bills as well. That's already 150% at least on her part while he's doing 50%
Also, I know that a financially well off man is not the only qualification because some will financially abuse women and I'm not advocating for complete dependency on a man either. All men have to be vetted the same in many areas no matter what.
Makavelli25: This shit is common nowaday and i dont know how guys manage to do it. I fvck£d a girl with full awareness that you are toying with unwanted pregnancy,the matter come happen you will now reject the product of your labour. My sis is four months pregnant for a fool who rejected. Guys that do that shit is just a morrally corupt and wallows in abstract stupidity. And i was discussing the matter with a friend yesterday he said he can come back after many years for the child Is it possible? A child i will give my surname A child that its going to be taken care of by my dad and i. How will he na comeback.
bro u not making sence... serrŕioosly ...r u say in we should not pour inside?
Makavelli25: This shit is common nowaday and i dont know how guys manage to do it. I fvck£d a girl with full awareness that you are toying with unwanted pregnancy,the matter come happen you will now reject the product of your labour. My sis is four months pregnant for a fool who rejected. Guys that do that shit is just a morrally corupt and wallows in abstract stupidity. And i was discussing the matter with a friend yesterday he said he can come back after many years for the child Is it possible? A child i will give my surname A child that its going to be taken care of by my dad and i. How will he na comeback.
so because rain fall on a governor house..u home base people say mysterious rain fall on government house....what the heck! ..seriously ..u can't try this $hit hear in London town!!(real talk)
Iykenuwa: Now that you've told us you live abroad, can you please get back to what you were doing before?
So you believe that living abroad makes you more enlightened than others? your comment proved you wrong
sir, off course we on Londoners r more 10000.000.000000.0000% advance pass u Homebase people anyday. We spek queens English.. U people spek pigeon English, I lie? Also ..For rain information we rely on weather man....for rain information u Homebase people rely on juju witchcraft doctor..like the op is describeing..I lie?(shaking my head)
Nigeria will all ways remain 60 years bush & backward for ever & rever ..everything is juju juju juju..mystery mystery mystery..mysterious mysterious mysterious..dyamm ...when is education goin to be legal in that Nigeria place??((You Homebase people mennnnm)
Kentucky fried chicken (kfc) officialy started selling jollof rice today. ((Hurrrray)) ..GUYS.. Technicaly, this mean we no longer need to waste our hard earned moiney takin ladies to any expensive restaurant..nada . ((Hurrrrrrray again)). ...juss take her to KFC, order jollof n chicken ..she be grateful ....and truss me in return.. this means ...**u** gettin ** that punnny!!! ((hurrrray hurrrray hurrray))
Romance › Re: What Is The Worst Valentine's Day Experience You've Ever Had? by MrCork: 10:36pm On Feb 12, 2020
