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ThreeEyedRaven:
Yes but they should both have equal share of the shame instead our current society would put everything on the women

Oh ofcourse the man should be ashamed aswell. Its the woman that's married n pregnant n being disloyal to her husband in many ways doing that
So although the man should know better, sometimes most men are just being men, I think it's more on the woman in this case tho.

Truvel:
U Are Right Bro. Many Girls Vision Is Just To Get Marry, Produce Babies, Watch Movies, Eat & Grow Fat. Just Like Dis Pics Below.

Hahaha

fati2001:
if you even get head.

Lol

Truvel:
So, U Don't Know My 1st? It's Obembet. It's Just Dat She No Dey Reason My Side. Final Ans Obembet.

Oh ok. Na ion know her moniker

ThreeEyedRaven:
Everything is on the woman. Nonsense idiot that was fucking a married and even a pregnant woman no shame to even talk am for public. Stupid set of men. Woman na olosho as if she dey Bleep herself.. the useless men that created a market for them dunno they're the real oloshos

I agree. I blame the woman. Even a man tries sleeping with you n Ur married/taken it don't mean U must open Ur legs.
Who is pregnant with her husbands baby but let's another man into her panties
Some women really have no morals

Poshriel:
yes he cloned his whatsapp and sent it to me. afterwards all his chats dropped on my phone

Oh ok. Thanks. Was only curious bout that for a while now how it works.
I'm sorry Ur guy did U dirty. That sucks

IntersexSherry:
I met this guy that lives close to me, well he has been hitting on me for sometime, i kept ignoring his advances because am trying to play hard to get but the guy is too fine and he has a fit body too, my type. So later one fateful night, i came to buy something at a shop, i met him there, he greeted me as usual and this time around, i decided to give him attention. We talked and exchanged numbers, ever since we been chatting on whatsapp and got so fond of ourselves then i texted him if he would want to come over to my house for some fun and he agreed. I dressed very well that night, sprayed my perfume, did my hair and makeup very well, had to wear a sexy cloth that can bring out my breast cleavage, i was set for that night. I waited and waited for him but he never came, then i called his phone, i was so angry and he told me he is sorry, he can't come and he is too scared to have sex now and he is not ready for sex now. I have never felt so low in my life.. I'm still angry now!! He normally wanked to my sexy pictures i send to him, i was so surprised he did this. Thats why i hate all this fine boys, their shakara too much.

Update: I'm reading some pretty sad comments from some pathetic people. You think you gonna make me feel bad about myself, well guess what? You don't. He knew quite alright i am an intersex girl and i made it known to him and he accepted, even told me it was my difference that attracted him the most. He told me after his ex girlfriend broke up with him, he started seeing all girls as evil and hated them until he saw me and saw i was a different type of girl, this attracted him so much to me. So you all hating on me because am intersex, you have no idea the amount of men that are dying to get into me but i keep turning them down, i only accepted him because i like him, i don't even like all these fine boys, i prefer elderly men, they are more matured in their thinking. Go get a life, haters! Being intersex doesn't make me less of a woman. That's just some medical problem i was born with. I'm a complete woman, beautiful and strong too

Wat is intersex? Gay?

thatsleepboy1:
We'll back to that.

Ok

Poshriel:
if you check or spy on your spouse's phone and you dont find him or her guilty of anything, pls that person is a rare gem.
i wil keep saying it try to find out what your spouse does on social media. it will shck you. especially whatsapp and facebook messenger.

my love story ended two weeks ago when someone from nairaland here helped me hack my man's whatsapp. what i saw and read made me walk out of a relationship of two years. i loved him yes but i dolged a bullet by leaving.

pls check them out before saying "i do".

the tech guy is here on nairaland. i can drop their contacts if you wish.

this is my mail dami.ojo@yahoo.com

Lol. Do U need U guys ph to do it? I've been wondering for ages how they do that. I thought WhatsApp unhackable

Truvel:
My 2nd Crush In Nairaland. Who Can Guess D Person's Monker?

Ur second crush? Who is de first ?

Tinksh:
cap28, Thanks for your time. I am proceeding in caution cos i have a child to consider and my son is my first priority. I have been single for so long cos i wanted to focus on raising my son right and not have men in and out of his life but thought i would take a chance with this guy but am trying to be careful. It is difficult cos i have asked a lot of questions that go unanswered so thats why i came on here, to see if i can learn anything. But my eyes and ears are wide open. I would love to relax and enjoy the ride but have to protect my son in case it falls apart.

Hi, I know this thread is super old but I see Ur still active on NL n just wondered how Ur relationship turned out

odinson1:
Which is why Marriage is a cage,Meant for modern Men

Woe betides any man who marries a Hoe

Not always. There are some good women out there. U just gotta find them.
Always get to know a person before U rush into marraige cos it shouldn't be taken lightly

Barristter07:
With more and more women seeing money as all in all, Most men see no reason to improve on the bolded. We now have low quality characters of both genders here and there because people now see money as the main key.

True. N it's sad.

Jodha:
My point still remains that....if yhu think yhure a perfect catch because yhu have money then yhure a clown...

Ur right. But they think this way cos girls today majority do prefer money over love. They'd date the ugly, the dumb, the arrogant etc etc as long as he has money.
That's why some men think this way.
I think a man should be funny, kind, gud manners, intelligent, family orientated, loyal, trustworthy and most of all love you unconditionally and it goes both ways.

Jodha:
I'm sorry yhuve not been fortunate to find a lady that loves yhu for yhu....

It's probably because of this yhur pessimistic mentality

He is right tho.
Alot of girls won't date a broke guy.
I don't know bout U personally but U must admit alot of girls these days prefer to date a guys wallet than to love a broke guy and build wealth together.
I personally can't stand any person who uses ppl for wat they have. Money is a necessity in life but it should have nothing to do with love.

mumumugu:
Nothing wrong in giving out ones number to a girl . Lawyers, buisness neb give out their number to any one.

Lol lawyers n business ppl have good reasons as it's for work.
Why will a married person give out numbers to ppl (for non business purposes) if they're happy in their marraige!

craigkoel1989:
Last week I went to relax in a fast-food and a girl sat close to me, we started talking and before I went she asked for my number, I thought it was rude to reject giving her my number because I am married but I gave her anyway, then before I got home she called me to check on me, for the past three days she was calling me almost 3 times a day thus forcing me to put off my phone, I knew she was calling and didn't want trouble, yesterday night I sent her message that I am married and that I am not available for anything with her only for me to put on my phone and she called me this morning saying she saw my message and that it doesn't matter that we could do continue that anytime my wife is not around I should call her and when she calls me and I don't pick she will understand that my wife is with me
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I went to buy phone for myself, I bought an oppo a93 for myself and samsung a21 for my wife only for me to receive a message on WhatsApp from a girl I don't know who took my phone number from receipt to ask me how I was doing
What is responsible for this desperation among girls even knowing I am married they are not even moved

Be careful cos her saying u can continue wen Ur wife is not around...she's a homewrecker. U don't need the wahala or stress. Block her if I was you

craigkoel1989:
Last week I went to relax in a fast-food and a girl sat close to me, we started talking and before I went she asked for my number, I thought it was rude to reject giving her my number because I am married but I gave her anyway, then before I got home she called me to check on me, for the past three days she was calling me almost 3 times a day thus forcing me to put off my phone, I knew she was calling and didn't want trouble, yesterday night I sent her message that I am married and that I am not available for anything with her only for me to put on my phone and she called me this morning saying she saw my message and that it doesn't matter that we could do continue that anytime my wife is not around I should call her and when she calls me and I don't pick she will understand that my wife is with me
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I went to buy phone for myself, I bought an oppo a93 for myself and samsung a21 for my wife only for me to receive a message on WhatsApp from a girl I don't know who took my phone number from receipt to ask me how I was doing
What is responsible for this desperation among girls even knowing I am married they are not even moved

Are U planning to cheat on your wife
U shouldn't have given her your number.
How will u feel if your wife passed out her number to strange men?

JaneYave:
Pamper her, Learn to appeal to her rather then giving orders.

Exactly

Sinensis:
My wife doesn't listen to instructions. What I tell her to do is totally different from what she will do.

Hahaha.
Maybe compromise? Lol if my hubby wants me to do exactly as he says all he gotta do is ask me while he's kissing softly all up my neck n I would say yes, even he ask me to birth quadruplets twice in two year period, I would agree

Na on a more serious note, even tho I was serious before lol, talk to her, ask her why she does this. Communication is key in any marraige

Jodha:
If yhu really care/love someone...yhu wouldn't bother about such frivolities ...

Exactly. What U said goes both ways.
Why should a man only give?
To love is not bout giving.
It's bout loving someone unconditionally.
It's giving AND receiving.
It's to encourage, inspire, stand by each other thru good times and bad.
So if a man doesn't buy you frivolities and buy your food n pay your bills he doesn't love you? What has love got to do with material things?
Yes a man should look after his wife n his children the same way a woman should take care of her husband n children, but if a man is only dating you why should he have to support you lol.
I can imagine the stress of struggling to support himself aswell as help his family if they need it plus support a girl he's only dating would turn a man off from dating a girl who has that kinda logic I expect it has soured many a man's feelings toward women he could of loved unconditionally.
Just because we are women it doesn't make us entitled to sit on our ass n make a man struggle to support us.
Especially if the woman expects it and acts entitled to it.
This kinda logic gets me angry because in Nigeria every day is a struggle n women should be doing their fair share instead of just expecting a man to love a burden.
Relationships here are more like an escort transaction. U pay me sir n I will let you think you're my boyfriend! I can imagine how much stress, struggling and heartbreak alot of men have gone thru just to try have a girlfriend.
No wonder I see how on here nairaland men constantly have no respect for women in this country.

lkillbrokehoes:
I once had this pretty girl that I crushed on, I was 12 thereabout. we were both neighbours and attended the same school, this girl was so pretty, slender and a light skinned shuwa Arab, boys were mesmerized by her beauty and it took a long time for me to woo her. when I finally did, I didn't let no nigga talk to her or let her near any nigga, I was so stupidly in love and I spent all my life savings on her, she was the first girl I ever kissed during mummy and daddy's play back then, those halcyon days I won't forget easily

Hahaha wat life savings you have at age 12

Gayatri:
Hm,, oh God...

Goodluck

Gayatri:
Hm,, oh God...

Exactly. He needs to choose.
Loving a guy who's with another girl he won't leave for you.
Can't U see the heartache ahead for you?
I know it's hard when U love someone but just imagine U love him now n if U stay in his life how much those feelings will grow with time and if he doesn't end up leaving her for you.... imagine how much hurt that will cause you.
If U want him bad enuff I suggest U make him fall for you, be everything's he wants in a woman, then tell him to choose because you're just going to end up hurt otherwise you need cut him out of your life if U can't deal with the hurt that will come.

Gayatri:
I do not know how to start this but i will write as it comes... I was in a 2 year relationship that ended in march this year.. I was so commited in it like naturally when im dating, i DO NOT notice other guys and i DO NOT ask my boyfriend for financial assistance because i feel im not his responsibility,, what i do appreciate mostly were little things like, chatting, kindness, hugs, opening and closing of doors for me,, just little things, coz i adore them so much.. But anyway it ended.. And i vowed never to date again come what may.. During the break up process, all my friends (guys, hardly have a girlfriend) were there to help me pull through.. Calls and texts constantly because, according to them, they knew my type, thus the help.. Funny enough, i never got attracted to any of them (even the ones that initially asked me out when my friendship with them was fresh) and im not the sex sex type to just fall for any to satisfy my desire.. Though i got advice from neighbours to find someone else than staying alone, i said no especially as i am a loner but a happy loner.. I keep myself busy with work or any stuff that makes me happy.

Fine, two months later (june), some guy reached out to me even as he knew he's got a girlfriend, whixh according to him later, they were in an open relationship.. He stays in oshogbo, his girl stays in kaduna while im in sagamu..Before then, he reached out online by first stalking me on facebook (even though we did same online business), after a while he got talking with me.. At first, i was harsh, very harsh to him but he never minded.. At a point i stopped talking to him.. A month later he reached out again, asking if we were still friends.. I was like yeah, not nice to him at all but he was patient with me..

From mid-july we started talking well as friends, he was very open as i was to him. We flowed well that things were happening to us coincidentally.. Whenever he yawns, i do at my place, if im having a scratch, he does too.. There was just plenty of this connection that we never got tired of each other.. In the procesa of our been honest, he told me about his girl and how she was still keeping her ex and all whatnots... I didnt feel any iota of jealousy because i had not feelings for him yet.. I asked to talk things through with his girl and he says well if she gave the chance.. So laters, by august, september,october, feelings grew.. He got so fond of me... According to him, he has not seen my type before.. Fine! During my birthday, he wanted to do something for me, i said no, then two weeks to his birthday in nov, he asked that i visit him at their family house, that i did..

What struck me most was how the elder brother (married) took care of me... I was not allowed to do nothing.. The brother even cooked for me.. God, it made me fall more for the family.. The kind gestures i have never experienced in my life.. There are kindnesses but there is kindness, the real one.. I felt it.. Every thing that i want in a man, those little things, this guy has them all.. According to him, it baffles him that with the little he shows me, i do not take for granted even before he told me he's having a girl..

When i returned home, we continued our normal talks and he then said, that his girlfriend would be visiting during his birthday.. At that point i went silent.. (Meanwhile he met his girl this year but before me, also during her break up).. He was unhappy that i displayed this little jealousy.. So he says he has not broken up with his girl to start a new relationship and he is hurting that he is hurting me.. He's got feelings for me but he loves his girl.. So i said i was going walk, even though i never meant it, twas hard to even say that but i had to and he says no... That he's become so attached to me even his family thinks he's dating me.. That he controls his feelings for me, could i do same and i said no.. I could not be friends with him when i know that feelings are involved.. Finally, we came to terms to just flow with things since he was not engaged or married to her.. Even so, this guy just lost his job and he says unlike his girl, im the one pushing him to have something doing, he says i help him alot but i wouldnt know.. So we continued to let the whole feelings to flow until last week, when with my help, he was called for an interview in lagos..

As usual we talked and i wished him well.. I always pray for him.. In lagos, we talked well until the third day, our communication changed and before it did, my heart was literally aching, so i knew something was wrong.. I called to know why but he was telling me that he'd let me in when he got back to oshogbo, which he did.. He said his girlfriend who was having something to do with her ex, called him and wanted to settle things with him.. But the truth is, because this lady already had his facebook password when they were together in kadauna, she 3 days before her birthday on the 8th of this month wanted to know why her boyfriend was no longer perturbed over her behaviour, so she saw my chats with the guy and decided to do something,,, this now pushed to talk things out with the bf and apologise to him.. Then she asked him if anything was going on between is and he said no.. That we just friends,close friends.. He lied to her but opens up to me.. He says he doesnt want the girl to ask him to cut me off totally.. So the whole thing got him confused.. He says he's never double dated and he isnt happy that he's hurting me and im taking it... I asked him again if i should walk and he says no.. He does not want to lose me and i do not want to lose him either but i want to prove my love for him so that he one day sees that the girl, probably loves him but she's got no integrity.. And i purely love him.. But because i respect his relationship, i CAN NOT TELL HIM TO BREAK UP WITH HER but wanting him to see things himself but the question is for how long.. He says they are working things out now but he doesnt want to lose me esp as a friend... Difficult.. Out of God knows what, we agreed to let things flow since i will respect his relationship, like whenever his girl is around, i should make him believe that i will be fine.. Now, he isnt happy because he said if he hadnt met the gf, he'd have gone ahead to date me.. For me, i cannot sleep, ive been typing this since God knows when and this is 3:36am.. Since he is confused now, please people, friends, family, can i use love to make him see the difference between his girl and me.. He loves his girl, he is controlling his feelings for me and afraid to let it grow because he knows we'd bond, while my feelings toward him is real.. Money has not been involved in this.. We are 6months now.. I believe in true love and that it does not come easy.. Talk to me Y'll because i have no parents to talk to,, i would have talked to my mum now but she isnt here... I want to win with true love.. I turned 27 this past november and he turned 30 same november.. Thank You and God bless..

U shouldn't have got involved with a guy with a gf. Especially if he planned on staying with her. It's just giving yourself heartache.
If he can't leave his gf what then do you want? Surely not to be a sidechick

igbwmedia:
We are now in a generation where almost everyone uses atleast a smartphone.

Gone are the days of regular, buttoned and JAVA phones. We download our stuffs back then from websites like: sefan, wapdam, waptrick, getjar and so on.
This awesome platform (Nairaland) also spranged up during this period of regular phones.

Things have changed in this present generation. Everyone uses either Android or iOS device(s). These devices are more durable, efficient and faster than the buttoned phones (symbian, java etc.)

Everyone that has a smartphone uses aleast 3 apps everyday.
You can't feel complete and okay without using these 3 apps atleast a day.

Mine is: Gmail, WhatsApp and File Manager.

What are your three (3) most used apps?

Please share them with us. Thanks greatly.

WhatsApp
Utube
Chrome

JONNYSPUTE:
....And after a man shows up with all these qualities you stated. What will be his reward?

Lol

SILENTandSMART2:
I hate housework die

I will go for cutting grasses or trees dan washing plates, it is so boring


Dat job is for the girls jare

Lol that's wat my brother's say

SILENTandSMART2:
Lmao

Hahahaha

I'm lazy abi ?


Alaye aswear I'm not lazy at all , the thing wey always tire me is dat washing plates always give me bad vibes , the thing is so boring as forkk , infact if i wanna wash it i will be listening to music cus washing plates is so boring,

I prefer working with my power dan washing plates,


Moreover aswear no flies at all, the fact that everywhere is neat , and i use water to rise the plate before dropping it in the sink,the plate juss need soap dats all,

Lol. No mind me. I'm just stirring you lol.
Yeah I prefer doing housework listening to music. Yeah it's boring asf but the way I see it, well I tell myself the quicker I do it n get it over with the quicker I can relax lol.

CalliDora1:
Oh no. ... Now I'm even more scared.. .

Na just dont approach a horse from behind and you'll be fine

SILENTandSMART2:
hahahaha

so to you I'm very dirty , abi ?


even if e get to the sink e go use 3 to 4 days unless i get a wonderful visitor dat wanna help me out


hehehehehe

but there's no flies at all, no dirty place in my area at all

Haha no not saying U dirty. Just maybe a little lazy Flies come to clean houses too.
Those little basstards find their way in anywhere lol.

Twoclans:
My love for better Prick will not put me into temptation.

So help me God.

Get behind me Satan (lumi).

Lol chai