I need a copy pls.Elourukpedi@yahoo.com

donchris369: For all the men claiming to be very lovely and caring to their wives than i am are all big hypocrites. You can kill your siblings and your parents for your wife, that is all your businesses. As for me, i still stand by my word, never and i say again never will i beat my elder sister because of my wife. What makes me a man is to be able to manage love, marriage and reason to the betterment of myself and wife. What if something happens to me(God forbid), then the wife will now go back to her own family abi? I laugh for all you men who beat up ur parents and siblings because of your wife. Yes, you have to love and protect your wife, but, be a man, never you resort to violence because, it is still that your wife that will suffer the aftermaths.

But you can beat up your wife for siblings abi,since she didn't soak garri with you in ur struggling days.now where is your sister when you need kids,someone to manage your home,pray for your success,Take good care of you,your food,your clothings.I think if the man had beaten up his wife because of his sister you would have been ok by it.Fyi,the man didn't beat up his sister cos of his wife,the sister came to his own house to disrespect him,showing to him that he is not man enough to manage his marriage affairs.literally saying to the brother that your wife is a piece of trash and I can deal with her at anytime.if the wife really said some wrong things about her sil what stops her from calling her bro to seriously warn the wife.and what do u even mean by if something happens to you won't your wife go back to Her pple.na wa O

debrief08: He even stole from her mother who came visiting. It was so e$barssing because it was only 3 of them at home.
The mother cried and cried because the bangle was something she never went without, a gift from a her late mother in law who loved her so much and that was all she had to remember her with.

A friend of my friend shared with us how she went to represent her Dad at a wedding, she went with his official car driven by a driver that's how one guy stayed glued to her through out the wedding.
Every morning woke her up with prayer text and BB, 2 weeks after proposed marriage then 2 months into the relationship called her and said he needed to clear some containers and needed a balance of 3million.
The babe told him she is a civil servant and has never seen 3 million in her life, he reduced to 1. 5 furthered reduced to 500k, the babe told him that all she had on her now was 5k, the criminal asked her to send it so he could buy recharge cards and source for the money else where. I laughed so much that day I almost miscarried

Lol.funny enough some of these guys are now in Lagos.shop rite has become their spot.most times they walk through the car parks searching for a lady with a hot ride.the lady doesn't even notice,but the guy keeps a eye on her.initially they approach you as if its a businsess deal.most painful part some of the guys are not even wise enough to take some few seconds to atleast see if their a wedding ring on the lady's finger.from business in turns into Love.they are tired of where they work.they want to invest.talk so negative about their family members.need some loan

This house help issue has it not been too flogged on this section.well if a woman decides to have a househelp or not that's her own.their re some certain kind of jobs/business you do that you might just need someone to live with you.I personally have some business dinners with my husband in the evenings,their are reasons why we both have to be their including his manager.so do I take my baby along?we are trying so hard to conceive this client why he should use our company and then my baby in her car seat is causing lots of distractions.she wants to get down,she creams,she cries.am not the only one with a baby nah.Last week we went out with our baby like around 8pm.immediately she saw the pool she was just fighthing to get down.and all of a sudden she just forced her way out of my hands was running to the pool.people started shouting madam madam.and when I caught her everyone was blaming me and my hubby for coming out this late with our baby.so not having a househelp can't work for everyone especially when you are in naija no matter the dish washer and all you have.every mum with young kids might just need a matured person around the house to lighten some chores run errands.

To me oh,since its 7 months and not 7 years I believe the father of the kids might come around some time later.everyone handles situations in different ways.let him take some time to clear his head.the ex wife had dealt with him seriously.its not easy abeg.The kids are very okay,who said they won't be?.kids only miss their dad when they were really close.my dad wasn't really present in my life am I not ok here?anyway maybe its because of the naija harsh economy,any way we struggle to survive.I didn't end up in the hands of a wrong guy.didn't get pregnant,started dating when I was in the uni even.I have so much self esteem,I always knew I was so intelligent,smart and pretty an I had so much love from my siblings and my precious mum.I didn't/dont feel the absence of a father till date.so wat am I trying to say?I believe their dad would eventually come around but for the time he will be absent from their lives the girls will do just fine if brought up properly(which I doubt because of their kind of mum)

Thanks @ mena but is the op saying she hasn't viewed this thread to show some appreciation.Na wa O.but I have some issues with age thing as a lady might be 20 last year december so what age does she make use of this january

KINGwax: why dnt u jes talk ur own?
I'm repeatin wot said; there's nothin u can really do to determine the sex u want. Forget wot u knw, u can only try d scientific method. God dey

I forgot a long time ago.

@ op na u sabi oh.chief lesson learner.can see u have really learnt well.am sure with time all your trust is going to be concubines

mondi_cheeks: Bodily features should be secondary cos if we were to pick men according to how they look...only 18% of the male population in the whole world would be married

you re wicked.

feminine A: The plain truth is there's really nothing you can do to determine the sex of the baby but to pray to God and all will be well. Give it a try!

Who gave you that false information?

bjcole: Greatgod, i hope u r not trying 2 end this, we ve just scratch d surface, there r plenty to still discuss. Debrief said proper nanny or educated nanny, which one is proper nanny? i dont knw, i thought i saw a pic of a guy putting his pp in d mouth of a girl of abt 6mths old, d girl sucked it dry, i dnt knw if some of u saw it, God help our new generation mothers. Now Op i also want 2 add this; how r u ladies(married) coping with sexual desires 4rm ur bosses? b'cos its also affect family too.

my thoughts exactly.graduate or not it doesnt make a wicked person less of a devil.

jidegirl12: I'm exhausted ..... Didn't get enough sleep last night cos the baby's teething( honestly I don't know what's wrong with her) .... but work dey ..... no calling in sick irrelevantly .... I could , but no... not life threatening and he'll take her in after hours. See?

lol,but you know no two individuals can be same.just the way mr A and B respond differiently to malaria.so if another mum called in sick because her baby was teething,Na she sabi.its her sick days that would be exhausted.you are a strong mother.thumbs up but other people that cant be like you shouldnt feel cheated.am just speaking generally not defending myself cos i dont even work for now until my baby starts pre school in april.

Truth be said,if a mother has a time consuming job and the husband also has a worst kind of job the upbringing of the kids are left in the hands of either relatives,nanny or friends.their is no proper way of planning when you fall into such condition.But both parents have to work especially when the husband's income is not on a very high side.and as fpr employing proper nanny where does one get such from? God will help us all cos a wicked person is a wicked person.i got a proper nanny from a know agent when my baby was 2 months old.i wasnt working but i just needed someone to assist.she beats my baby when she refuses to sleep.pls who beats a 2 months old baby .@ debrief to me their is nothing like a proper nanny,someone could just be lucky to get a nice person thats all

All of you talking of sending a mail so you don't know Some offices in Nigeria don't even have internet services or the boss hardly checks his mail box.am sure that's why she called because that must have been the normal routine in her office.is it when u send a mail and then your boss opens it in a weeks time?Take the police for example,when I went to report a case in their head office in Asaba it was just an office that had a computer and no internet service.so if her company was in lekki and she lives in the mainland so she would drive with her sick baby to the office first just to see his face and then what next?even some our senators,personal assistants to the president hardly make use of their Email adress.I remember when my hubby had a presentation in Abuja and Mr president was suppose to be present he kept sending mails to ministry of petroleum and some guys involved their was no response.he had to call them and they said abeg oga dey call us O nor dey send dose mails we nor they even get time to check

Let me give you my story.actually I have taken like a year off to take care of my baby since her birth until she starts pre school.when my baby was 2 months old I employed a nanny.who beats up a 2months old baby?that was what she did to my baby.now how did I know.I have always wanted camera's installed in my house But my hubby keeps saying tomorrow tomorrow.I went out to a super mart one day and left my baby for my nanny.I just decided to install some voice recorders to clear my doubts.I played it when I was less busy you won't believe the beating she gave to my daughter.the number ofslaps,insults on d poor child because she refused to sleep.I stopped her immediately.so pls be wise

Pls don't leave your helpless baby in the hands of a nanny all alone.their should be good daycares where you live or work.few babies to a teacher,well taken take of but more expensive.my friends son started at 3 months.this daycare is owned by an american married to a Nigeria.the woman is so devoted.she personally goes round and check on the teachers.well spaced rooms,good ventilation.a lot my dear.so pls start the search for a nice daycare

It depends on hw much you are talking about.I have actually begged for money before and I was so well dressed.is not as if I didn't have money but I just needde 20 naira note.it happened when I was stiLl in school.I actually went shopping and I can remember so well I went out with notes comprising of 1000 naira note and I took some change for taxi.I just can't explain how it happened that when I was finally through with my shopping the last change with me is what took me to my school gate.I needed to take a shuttle to my hostel which was 20 naira.I searched and searched all I could see was 500 and 1000 note .i was so confused.I couldn't just treK and before anyone boards the bus you make a payment.when it got to my turn,i was trying to explain that I had 500 naira,the kind of embarrasment I received was horrible.the driver sent me out of his bus immediately.i stood for about 15 minutes.I couldnt spot any of my friends or room mate.I approached a guy and begged for 20 naira with proper explaination.

Pls where can I get a good baby shop in Lagos.I need some funky shoes ,sneakers for my daughter.if anyone can still assist where I can get adult shoes.Thanks

Genius100:


Absolute nonsense. Please post the bible verse that say the man should take care of 100% of the family expenses. When the husband starts cheating on you all now, you will start complaining..

Their is no bible verse but what is the relationsh between providing 100% for your family and cheating.if the man cheats won still provide for the girl he is sleeping with?abi na free?

debrief08: Mrs.Masson, I am not the one who described or defined character of a couple based on their spendings oh. What I said is what works for A may not work for B.
You are a up and coming medical Personal and thankfully you have great supportive husband. If along the line you get a great Job in let's say UNFPA will you still in all good conscience let your husband carry all the load and still demand for an allowance?
Even on a 50000 salary if I am the one I will contribute something even if it is simply buying gas or PHCN Units I will add my small contribution. Believe me even the best most generous people appraciate a helping hand

I won't and I don't even demand for an allowance.From the monthly upkeep he gives to me for the house at the end of the day I still get some change atleast to shop for myself and my daughter,maybe get a human hair or even get some cool shirts for him and if I need some quite expensive things I can tell him and if he has the money he does it.its not like I don't contribute @ all even while we were still dating I was using a little portion of my monthyly upkeep in school to get some few gifts for him.but in the op's case if for example the wives salary is 25k and after transportation and feeding while at work she has noting Left to get some stuffs for herself and the hubby is more than ok to provide like a 20k allowance I don't see anything wrong

@ CC,I should have explained earlier what I meant by support financiaLly,I was talking more about splitting bills or contributing some part of my money in a project.am not saying is wrong to share bills with one's hubby. I wouldn't definately tell him to give me #500 for recharge cards or small stuffs.I get him his underwears,toiletries and so on.so its not like I just stay put without buying even 100 naira bread for myself.my husbands stress is not as a result of how to put food on the table or buy me this car or not for xample his stress is more from how his company can go into subsea installations.the engineers would understand this better.as far as I support my husband through prayers,good planning and the likes am also so relevant to him.Thanks for your advice.you have better experience am still growing

@ madam debrief and cc,since i dont support my husband financially does it make me less of a good wife will he see me as a trash bag? or does it prevent us from planning since he makes bulk of the momey.am a young medical practitioner what i might make in a whole month is what he makes in half a day.plus he is not over stressed making this money,as he has people wprking for him.just as debrief said what works for A might not work for B.Every thing just depends on the pocket of the op,as i can see is causing him alot of stress.The bulk of stuffs i have are all from my hubby.so far we are happy together and this has not reduced his respect for me.

Still available?don't need a black leather interior anyway

Has this car been bought?is their any other way u can help me with stuff like this

@op am really ready to help you,but am so confused.each time i log into the thread its always one thing or the other.is it coincidence that you nd joe4christ are from school and asking of same money.pls dont try to explain to me further,i just need smetime to really think.

Ikanium: its about 25USD

250usd not 25usd.

You can try seba med baby lotion.its nice on my baby.I use it together with the bathing soap.

Am so interested

Thanks debrief.I know I will overcome it with time