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chaircover:
To me the guy is just trying to prove a point, especially as he only says it durung an argument.
Even if you had 10 children he will still say it, just to hurt you so I dont think its becasue you want 2 and he wants 4

My little advise to you both, dont fight to the extent that you kill each other and the relatiobship with bad words. You can disagree without stripping each other naked and most inportantly not all things have to be proven as right and fought about. In short just leave some battles for now and come back to them later or not even at all. What is the point of being right and unhappy?

You get out what you put in and patience can only birth patience. Peace can only birth peace.

As for killing him, If you love your kids that much you wouldnt want them to be orhans and being tossed from one relative to another as glorifoed househelps, becasue their dad is dead and their mum is in kirikiri.

greatgod2012:
I just saw this now.....
https://www.nairaland.com/1427496/legal-pistol-nigeria


Please, op, if you haven't gotten the legal pistol, please don't try to have one. Someone with this type of bad temper shouldn't have pistol abeg, if you do, you would have abuse it before the realisation of the gravity of what you've done is clear to you. Please, don't!
And please don't ever think of killing anyone because of difference in opinion, please. Infact, you both need counselling, but i think you need it more.

I will send you a pm.
It is well.

Nikkygold4life:
It appears from what u said dt u always want things done ur way, he sensed it and he's trying to claim his position as d head, pls stop rubbing shoulders with him, be humble, patient and come down from ur high mountain and give him d respect he deserves, in no time, he'll be dt man u've always known. Maybe uve been claiming equality wit him, men, are quick to change wen dey notice dt in dir wives. Pls change and u'll be happy u did.

bukatyne:
How many kids did you plan to have during courtship/early marriage?

Have you gotten to that number?

Is your husband saying 'you must get to the agreed number (if you have not gotten there) of kids else he will have kids outside' or "He must have kids outside wedlock whether you birth the agreed number or not?"

Get a grip maám; when you are done with murder, you are going down for it. Are you 100% sure you are willing to sacrifice your lifetime for your hubby (because that is what you will be doing)

It is well with you

byvan: Whatever gave one the morale to cheat, should also enable the person keep the secret.

mummymax: I av a maid which am considering taking back,immediately I brought her I enroll her into a school and feed her the same food I give my kids but nothing I do that pleases her.there is a particular woman that sells things in front of my house so any time I send her out she always go to her to tell her things that happen in my home.so later i get to know and I ask to tell me everytin she has being telling her, i was shocked.no matter what you do to them they will always see you as a stranger.

Bigsteveg: its just an adage, should i start spellin dat out.

Perhaphs, even d holy book supports beating because in their heart has 'madness'....(Am sure u'llstart readin anoda meanin to d madness now)

Bigsteveg: Id.iot, its just an adage, should i start spellin out wot an adage means to ur small brain.

Perhaphs, even d holy book supports beating because in their heart has 'madness'....(D freakin id.iot wil read anoda meanin to d madness now)

Rawpidgin: the truth is, if the first house help nor fit stay with u, the second nor fit stay & the third nor fit stay my sister u need to check ur attitude

Bigsteveg: Solution my foot....u cant correct someone else child d way u can do to urs....a yoruba adage says ' ba na omo mi ko de inu olomo' meanin help me beat my child, d mama no fit take am

Ewuro707: Because..You're vindictive and fake. By the way I'm throwing your 'sorry' back on your face!

Ewuro707: Babyme & Mrs Masson, your displayed guilty conscience and fear of being perceived as lazy bones is very understandable. What are you trying to achieve? Nobody is judging you so please let others live.

Would you please allow people of OP likes to share their opinion and time management skills?

Thank you.




LoL.


OP
My other secret is a crock pot, that thingy cooks everything in this world, name it. All ingredients in, turn on , food is ready by the time you get back from work. And no fire hazard too, so no need too worry.

Ewuro707: Babyme & Mrs Masson, your displayed guilty conscience and fear of being perceived as lazy bones is very understandable. What are you trying to achieve? Nobody is judging you so please let others live.

Would you please allow people of OP likes to share their opinion and time management skills?

Thank you.




LoL.
Guilt or Fear?
You are a big joker
Abeg op Ride on



OP
My other secret is a crock pot, that thingy cooks everything in this world, name it. All ingredients in, turn on , food is ready by the time you get back from work. And no fire hazard too, so no need too worry.

byvan: Try not to yell while your husband is already doing so,silence can be a very effective too.i don't speak when am really angry,i rather send a BBM where I can re read before sending.Many marriages have been ruined due to a moment of anger,anger ll make you say things you wish you hadn't,words once spoken can never be taken back.

jeffizy: I e-laff at everyone saying she should be wary and all other negative stuff.
Marriage, as I know it is full of surprises and that is the ingredient that makes it interesting.

If you can't survive being away from your spouse for at least 5 months, then you ain't matured enough for marriage.
What if opportunity for family advancement via better job comes up? You will prettily sacrifice it for "no long distance marriage" ?
NO!

I suggest all the couple has to do is gain each other's trust and both should be busy.
Get into something/job that takes your mind off being lonely and unhealthy thoughts.
Lastly, be tech savvy... Manage on skype, whatsapp, bbm, video call, etc.

For me, it makes re-union a happy moment.
For once, I'm with Kanwulia.

remsonik: . Thank you for your advice, we have endured a lot together and waiting for our perfect moment to tie the knot, now job has seperated us.

greatgod2012: can you imagine
And when that BIL is trying to play some pranks with her, she will start to shout and run to NL that she needs help, her BIL want to sleep with her, when in actual fact, it was she and the BIL that was joined together.
Confused people.