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my hubby says" I love u baby"most times but am always shy to reply especially if am in a public place.I just reply "OK" and end the caLl immediately.he calls back and say"baby I said I love u,did u get me?"And I might start Laughing or pretend like its a network problem.pls don't judge me O its just that I get too uncomfortable replying "I love you too"in a public place,but if am alone or with few friends I initiate the "I love you " call

Vikin: My friend! Do I know you? U Berra face your tiny little life to your self and stop quoting me! I stated my opinion, why not state yours and hit the back button! For your info, I have achieved enough more than you ever imagine!

Mon.key!

Yeah I can really see what u have achieved.The black pants and the amoeba shape.so who is the monkey?

Vikin: Does it make any sense to you?

No! It doesn't make any sense to me. Just a quick one to fame as some people practically think they can be famous by displaying their family and lives on a public forum just like the kadershian.

I wonder how they sit to type all these long epistle instead of doing something useful with time.....it's a different thing to type and another to act!

But, I just flip through it, and since it doesn't make sense to me, I hit the back bottom. Shikena!

Joy killers.Enemies of progress.since you don't type such long epistle how much have you been able to achieve in your small life.why do you flip thru it @ all.just ignore since it doesn't make sense.

Why is it Taking the op so long to reply back.thought he needed help Asap.

Ur threads eh...

Love how my Delta brother is keeping it real.siena's.@ naija babe,are ur kids not wondering why the trip was aborted.am so sorry.its not easy O.@ jarus ...

debrief08: Greatergood believe me pretending to please in laws is behind so much unhappiness, aggression and frustration in marriages.
I don't know why we teach children that marriage is suffer suffer

I don't pretend to anyone and that has actually made my life sweeter.some inlawa get wahala sha.my MIL was initially refering to me as "you"she couldn't even refer to me as "my daughter"or even call my name.sometimes she will say" hey you" or way you"(pple from delta will actually understand).those are very degrading way of refering to someone.one day we were on a visit I just told her politely not to refer to me with such names again.even my mum won't then why should she.my MIL is funny sha,she is of the opinion that pretty women like me are flirts.she believes I was over pampered because of my looks(light and soft).she believes, a strong lady should work herself out like a machine.my hubby was like,"shey I told you to just ignore her since u rarely see her"and I totally ignored him,because he lives his life in a way of always ignoring pple.can't ignore all abeg.Now the woman doesn't even talk to me,she sends pple to communicate with me.not my business anyway

chaircover: Mrs Mansson Please sign up for the reality show. The sienas are doing a good job of it and it will be nice to hear from more couples.

Mr CC she you don hear . . .some people have been driving X5 since tey tey! so forget all this lovey dovey muah muah muah biz of yours and step along to the nearest BMW garage. We have to keep up naw since its a competition and we must to win by force or fire

Would really love to but since after my kidnap have been security conscious

Some marriages are truly so sweet and peaceful tho not perfect.so not everyone here is faking.if i probably sign up for nairaland's reality family show,am sure some ladies might feel cheated or say stuffs like am "sugar coating".women wahala

@ bjcole my mum did all that for my late dad.what did she get in return?

Are u on contraceptives?what kind of child spacing did u go for?those things could make a woman grow faith even if u eat or starve,

rukayatd: Am a young married woman wiv two kids delivered thru C.S.after my first child my husband complained about my weight nd it almost broke d marriage.after my 2nd child i bcame slim but nw after 7mnths he said am beginnin to grow fat again.am nt fat but he wants me to b lyk i was wen he met me in school.Ve tried cuttin down on my food ,no changes.pls wat r d feasible fins i can do.note in nigeria oooooo.pls no insults nd stupid comments

If not for my husband's unending love and patience am not sure marriage would have taught me anything.am no longer self centered or proud,am open,no more secrets.marriage has made me work on my anger,also made me realize i cant just change a grown adult within hours.when i was single i was a bad spender but now ...,still working on that anyway.it has made me cherish my friends,loved ones.its endless

Thanks but i wasnt discussing with them for approval.one thing lead to another and dont even know when i let out some stuffs.

Pls i have a personal issue that is disturbing.my hubby and i planned having 2 or 3 kids.i have a baby girl now and would love to give birth around next year.i need my next babies to be a set of twins(boys) so i know am done with reproducing.anyway i have a history of twins in my family,my late dad was a twin and my paternal grand mum was a twin also.so i contacted a reproductive endocrilogist/gynaecologist in america on how to increase my chances of getting what i need.so its near possible all i have to do is visit with my hubby.now i was just discussing with my mum and my pastor and it lead to me telling her of my plans.all she and my pastor said was that i dont want to have kids through the Godly way rather am putting aLl my trust in a man.they said i have to pray for forgiveness.i have been having deep thoughts since they said that to me.am i really not believing God or not.

i just noticed most married men lock their phones with a security code.is my hubby wrong not to use security locks?is he wrong for giving me free access to his phones.i really wonder what marriages are turning into these days.is it because of ponographic pictures or probably girls snapped during sex or wat.so wat are your genuine reasons men?

Thanks alot.we ve tried talking to her over the years,she doesnt even see any reason for help.will apply as you ve said

debrief08: Mrs. Manson, so sorry to hear your experience and am so glad you stayed strong and as I read before got a wonderful man. Attitude really helps because it makes us not settle for less.
Hmmmm, for your sister, she must see the need to get help first, because anything you do if she is not on board may be seen as wanting to break her home by causing her to rebel.
Love her, counsel her first, tell her gently that she needds self love and self respect.
Call project Alert lines if you are in lagos, they will have someone to speak with her when she is ready. Let her understand that it is not about breaking her home but about her learning to stand up for herself.
However, when she develops self esteem, there will be changes in her home, is she ready for that or is she in love with pity parties?
Believe me, I was in this with several women, 8 years down the line most of these women I left behind still take the life of abuse and are just happy with someone saying "sorry" whenever there is physical or emotional abuse. If she gets esteem back, she should be ready because she will rock their relationship boat, and some men may react violently.
My dear the issues are so many, if she is willing to love and respect herself then the battle is half won, but she has to want that first.
Esteem has nothing to do with being pretty, most times the pretty ones are even the ones who get most insecure and don't want to be defined as arrogant and when they get involved with an abuser possibly fade away.
Abusers sabi like good thing, lol. They mostly get the finest women and break them down totally

@debrief how can self worth/self esteeem/self love be inculcated into the minds of abused women?because that is another very sensitive issue apart from finances.i grew up in an abused home.my mum was abused in both verbal and physical ways by my Late dad.my mum was ok financially (Mathematics lecturer)still my dad had no atom of respect for her.am the last child in a family of four am so proud of myself,have a high self esteem and dont take crap from whoever calls himself a man,and God did well by bleSsing me with a best friend as a husband.fast forward my elder sister who is married has no iota of self esteem for herself ,she looks down on herself her husband abuses her verbally alone.and she told me one day that am the way i am because i know am very pretty.so how we can help such people because they would never want to visit a counsellor even closest to them

My hubby cried all through.i was in labour for good 2days,when he got tired of crying he started praying,and when my cervix couldnt dilate further despite the fact that i was induced ,all he was saying then was "if i knew i wouldnt have gotten her pregnant O"the nurses laughed at him eh.Finally when i was going into the theartre he looked @ me like it was the last time he would ever see me.Thank God everything went well.

ebony13: Ohk let me use myself as an example, i was the first child of my parents while growing up, when i was in primary school,i used to wash plates for my mum,wash my socks and pants and those of my younger ones,come home with my younger ones after school even though i was supposed to attend lessons,but because my parents were working, i cldnt stay for extra classes i bring my siblings home my dad always taught me @ home so i wasn't rily missing anything,i swept,bathed my younger ones,never did anything that was too hard for a child my age to do. So in actual sense i was 'helping' my parents. So would we say i was being abused? Or because i was doing everything a help that age would have done,but since i was their child i wasn't abused?
What am i saying in essence? If you bring in a child to help around the house, send him/her to school,practically take care of him/her like your older child,the child dsnt do anything a child cannot do,is that still child abuse? I'm curious.

Some people here might say u didnt ve a childhood.i laugh in urhobo.

@debrief i fully understand you,but its difficult in Nigeria to reach out to those poor kids without getting anything in return.which would u prefer a young girl acting as a" slave" according to you and maybe sometimes ends up a graduate or she staying back in her village and end up marrying a farmer @ prob @ 17.my mum is a proffessor 2day in our of our federal universities in Nigeria because she had to stay with her uncle.she is the only graduate among her sisters and ask me what the sisters are now.

So people really believe this poster.its funny oh,and she is not new to nairaland either.

[quote author=Angelahoney]Already passing judgment. I tot someone would support me. [/really a
someone should support u?so u still dont get what everyone is saying.why did i even waste my time replying earlier on

Madam this issue didnt just start from the catfish,if u keep seeing tins in the home as a small issue its going to keep upsetting him.i personally dont like fish in a soup especially when its not dried.so pls try and do d little tins he asked for just as exactly as he wants.initially i was doing that to my hubby like he kept on telling me stop wearing undies when sleeping close to him,he was feeling i wasnt free with him i took it as a liitle deal and kept on doing it,till he really got mad.so pls if u can still prepare the soup just exactly as he wanted it,things will resolve sharp sharp

Sugar

armyofone: Wait, why are you people using house help? Holy Mary nne Jesus Christ!!

what's in housework that wifey and husbandy can't do?

maybe God is giving you sign you shouldn't use other people for your own task?

expensive blender kwa, the glass ones or plastic? very funny!

I honestly dont like men/boys that reason the way u do.if u and ur wife were to be going on a date for example who do leave ur baby for?and hw much house work can u do?Getting a help its not all about cleaning.pls change ur school of thoughts.

freecocoa: Story

Show us picture of just laptop you no fit and you expect us to believe whatever you say, abegi.

The poster herself knows its a false story.

[quote author=190-the-clown]No man earns 1millie a month in dat country called nigeria [/quote]Ignorance of the heighest order.pls dont say this outside

There shouldnt be any time table,it comes naturally

nonylove: How do you achieve a firm breast after breastfeeding. Is there any type of cream or drug you can recommend to help.

Their is a Forever living product that can help alittle.cant remember the actual name cos i wasnt really interested.Try talking to an FLP agent.

The man has actually spent some time away from her sef.3yrs without seeing your wife.am sure the wife knew the kind of marriage she was going into and she still went in.People should know what they want before marriage,either distance or staying together.i met a friend who prefers distance marriage and so far is working for her.like my husband personally cant stand not seeing me even for a week.

BluStreak: Straight to the point of my biggest concern on the matter. It hurts really bad but I won't be the one to report either to the guy or his parents. Everyday for the thief, one day for the house owner. E ∂єƔ pain me sha wella I no go lie. This guys works 16hrs a day & sends this beach like N150k (so she said oº°˚, no proof sha) every month for upkeep. She's never been able to save a penny of this upkeep allowee from all indications, its not my concern sha oº°˚ but its hurts. I am a man & I don't pray my wife does same to me.

So is 150k so big for a woman and 3 kids to spend that it has to show on her and how can it show pls.U seem like a woman wrapper to me.

This story is so false.Op why dont u snap and show us how damaged the Laptop is.This section is becoming a joke