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Romance / Re: How Do You Handle A Mummy's Boy? by MsLurker(f): 8:24pm On Nov 11, 2008 |
You need couple time too!!! Your family and parents can't be up in everything all the time. If they think so then there will be nothing but havoc in you and your partner's relationship. |
Romance / Re: How Do You Handle A Mummy's Boy? by MsLurker(f): 5:41pm On Nov 11, 2008 |
~Sauron~: I don't see it as coming in between. She doesn't want to alienate the woman (at least I don't think she does) but what is so wrong with asking for some "US" time. It doesn't have to be this long thing. I'm a daddy girl and he is overprotective to boot and I'll never choose a guy over him but I do realize I have to set my boundaries. I am not marrying my family nor my parents they are an extension of me. |
Romance / Re: How Do You Handle A Mummy's Boy? by MsLurker(f): 5:30pm On Nov 11, 2008 |
michelin89: I think any male can exhibit those qualities but I see it more in the African men that I know. I think some have stronger maternal ties (or have stronger ties to any female member of their family i.e. sister, aunty, etc). I don't think you have to push the mom out of the house but I don't see anything wrong with having some alone time. It could be something simple like watching a movie or having dinner NOT some grandiose thing. I don't think her request is that far fetched, how else will you get to know each other? |
Romance / Re: How Do You Handle A Mummy's Boy? by MsLurker(f): 4:57pm On Nov 11, 2008 |
michelin89: And women really go for that? Maybe he has a fear of checking his mom. Some guys are like that. I've met my share of momma's boys. |
Romance / Re: How Do You Handle A Mummy's Boy? by MsLurker(f): 4:40pm On Nov 11, 2008 |
michelin89: May I ask, what is a typical African relationship? |
Romance / Re: How Do You Handle A Mummy's Boy? by MsLurker(f): 3:41pm On Nov 11, 2008 |
He wouldn't have changed when you married him. I am sure he wanted to marry you but only if you were okay with how he is with his mom. I don't think that's an unreasonable request. After all, you two would be building a life together not you three. |
Culture / Re: Breaking Cultural Barriers Through Music by MsLurker(f): 9:51pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
<object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value=" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EkHTsc9PU2A&hl=en&fs=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src=" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EkHTsc9PU2A&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object> or: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EkHTsc9PU2A Makes me think of my biscuit. And it always cheers me up, regardless! |
Romance / Re: Miss Independent by MsLurker(f): 9:48pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
LadyT: Amen. I'm not a fan of pretense. If I need your help, I'll ask (took me awhile to learn how to do that), if I don't, I won't - if it's something I'm more than capable of doing. It's not an ego thing at all. If something can be dealt with without adding extra people to the mix, why not do it? I do agree that you should respect your partner and he, you. |
Family / Re: Should Married Couple Sleep On Different Beds? by MsLurker(f): 9:10pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
I see nothing wrong with having separate rooms that you can use when you need some time alone BUT I would prefer to sleep my with significant other the majority of the time. That said, I would love a king sized bed so we can have our distance, though. |
Family / Re: Women Vs Mother-in-laws by MsLurker(f): 8:59pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
I don't get the controlling aspect that MIL's have. My grandmom was like that when it came to my mother (they didn't get along at all and my dad did zilch about it). Maybe they are afraid to rock the boat. I don't know. I plan to be a good MIL when it is my time and I hope to gain a great MIL as well. |
Culture / Re: Should I Give It Another Go? by MsLurker(f): 8:09pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
If you go back into it. Go into it with your eyes WIDE open. And you two need to have a serious discussion, none of this texting mess and work to keep the communication clear because that is the main thing that bleeps up relationships. |
Family / Re: Children Raised In Nigeria Are Better? by MsLurker(f): 5:32pm On Nov 07, 2008 |
JustGood: HA! I don't have a leader. I have my own mind and thoughts. Just because you aren't clear with yours doesn't mean I lap behind some other person to get mine out. |
Family / Re: Children Raised In Nigeria Are Better? by MsLurker(f): 4:23pm On Nov 07, 2008 |
JustGood: Right, right, your argument still doesn't wash. I'll listen to honeric and leave you to your thinking. |
Family / Re: Children Raised In Nigeria Are Better? by MsLurker(f): 8:22pm On Nov 06, 2008 |
JustGood: I'm sorry to say but Nigerians are as innocent as you'd like to claim. I believe letting people feel okay in discussing topics gets rid of the taboo stigma that is attached to things. You don't have to advocate GOING out and doing it but you don't act like it doesn't exist either. If so, prepare for your glass house to crumble around you. |
Family / Re: Children Raised In Nigeria Are Better? by MsLurker(f): 6:46pm On Nov 06, 2008 |
I've been understanding what you are saying. I still don't agree with it. To me, it sounds like a water downed excuse. Own your stuff. |
Family / Re: What Are Your Views On Divorce? by MsLurker(f): 6:35pm On Nov 06, 2008 |
If it won't be able to work. Divorce. Life is too short to be unhappy. |
Family / Re: Children Raised In Nigeria Are Better? by MsLurker(f): 6:26pm On Nov 06, 2008 |
JustGood: I can speak and think for my self. I like Baby Jinx but we don't agree on everything - which is fine, so let's not get that twisted. I understood what you said prior too and it is still flawed. There is no good in keeping things secret that could potentially help the younger generation. You either share the resources or let them be found on their own, which is usually detrimental. |
Family / Re: Children Raised In Nigeria Are Better? by MsLurker(f): 5:46pm On Nov 06, 2008 |
JustGood: @JustGood, I was commentating on THAT. That logic is flawed and I appreciate you address me (as well as the others here who aren't mudslinging with you) with respect! The problem is people only want to educate in degrees. You need to do more than just that, just because you dare not want to speak on it doesn't mean it's not happening. Grow up. The information is there don't be too ashamed to use it. |
Culture / Re: Whats The Big Deal About The White Race Anyway? Please Let Me Know, For Me: by MsLurker(f): 5:11pm On Nov 06, 2008 |
No, I'm not. I've heard from others that white men can put it down and that some black men are sub-par. You shouldn't generalize, my dear. |
Culture / Re: Whats The Big Deal About The White Race Anyway? Please Let Me Know, For Me: by MsLurker(f): 4:49pm On Nov 06, 2008 |
That's not true. They look out for each other and we tend to knock each other down. We allow it, either through the colonist mentality or slave mentality. But like Bob Dylan said, "the times they are a-changin". |
Family / Re: Are Women In Nigeria Supposed To Expect And Accept Cheating Husbands? by MsLurker(f): 4:44pm On Nov 06, 2008 |
It's not okay to put up with someone cheating on you. It's a sign of disrespect. |
Family / Re: Children Raised In Nigeria Are Better? by MsLurker(f): 4:42pm On Nov 06, 2008 |
JustGood: So telling your kids about sex, drugs, crime are considered evil things? You should want your kids to be prepared for what is out there in NIGERIA, in the UK, in AMERICA. Say what you may, you deny things and kids will get curious and go out and seek their own truth. Why shouldn't they come to you? I think this is a black issue, mainly. TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN, we are quick to want to hit them (and get mad because the laws say we can't - which is not true). I rather inform my children truthfully than have others do it for me. At least I know I've done all I could do. Keeping things a secret works for so long the truth will come out and be just - if not more, destructive. |
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