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ChildOfDoom:
At times, we sit and reflect retrospectively on our obnoxious lifestyle since we became an adult and begin to feel penitent and sardonic.

I wish I could turn the hands of time, to the nostalgic moments of childhood with no worries.

I have lost it all. My sense of reasoning, my sanity, my finances, my peace and my health. I now intermittently wake up at night with paranoia, scared of what each new day will bring. I am a ticking bomb

When money comes, I misbehave. Later, I exude contrition when i am broke and wish to change

- for food, I only get a miserly meal now. When money was available, I was a spendthrift & prodigal, instead of planning for the tough times. The woman who gives me free food on credit till my pay comes, is now late. Lots of financially indebtedness to people

- for health, during my reckless patronage of oloshos, I sucked clitoris and their mammalian glands. This now gives me throat discomfort that alters my voice, food passage & body temperature.

- for source of income - my side hustles have been cut off. ribdo.com terminated my writing contract. The extra lesson I used to do is also off. I couldn't meet up I guess. Now I hope on the monthly bank pay that is paltry

- trustworthiness - after recently abstaining for 26 days from betting, I used both my money and customer's money (to open account) yesterday. Now I am palpitating and contemplating running. But to where I wonder. Make Dem nor arrest me or lynch me one day. Its hard even asking colleagues or friends for help. Them don tire for my matter. Just looking unkempt.

Contemplating what to sell to offset this new debt. I don already sell my generator and TV (the only asset I have) when I was flexing and patronizing olosho. Hopefully I can sell this phone to sustain me a little

Please start by changing ur name to ChildOfGrace and follow God bumper to bumper, remember; U are not the only one in this situation.
Alhamdulilah.

kingot:
hello guys if u were to be offered a 100k or a hot sex with any girl of ur choice
what would u choose?

Hot Sex 100 thousand Naira. 😂

fineboynl:
For months now so many girls do a short video of themselves dancing and shaking yansh on tiktok. Sometimes the place doesn’t look like their own house as it’s either hotel room or a guy house. They also upload the video on WhatsApp status. What is the rational idea behind this act? The worrisome part is even girls known to be decent also does it. But I don’t find if funny or like it either..

Why do MTN advertise on Dstv?
That is the answer to ur question!.
Have a nice day.

Why do MTN advertise on Dstv? That is the answer to ur question!. Have a nice day.

Peace of mind. Man has seen a lot of back bitting. currently chilling in my cozy apartment with my liquor.

officialwdhtv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YidxEM7XBXU

Pastor spotted praying for a YahooBoy. The pastor was heard praying against any stubborn "client" refusing to pay him money

Take a listen!!!

#wetindeyhappentv

This has been going on, I have attended a lot of churches where pastors pray for and support Yahoo.
Bunch of failed god of foolish men, deceiving fools.

Iagos:
Rub funbact A on it till it disappears

How on earth will u advise someone to rub funbact A on his Joystick?
If u know how reactive that thing is; we won't even let it come close to ur skin.
why do we have hospitals?
"abeg make una dey try keep mute sometimes", it's not every thread u comment on.

fineboynl:
If a man doesn't marry when he is broke. Marriage become difficult when he is rich. Especially getting the right one without money influence or family interference.

Ask any successful rich guys they will admit the simple fact about getting the right one since everyone is drawn to success.

Deep Fact.

Three days ago, a tiler in my neighbourhood was using someone's bike to convey tiles to a site.
He unfortunately met more than he bargained for on his way...

A construction company's truck hit him seriously on the road, this led to the total destruction of the bike and all he was carrying coupled with a lot of blemishes on the truck But he was lucky enough to have minor injuries and deep cut on his leg.

Though, no one was there to tell who was at fault but these were the after findings:

1. The Truck driver was coming from a sharp bend corner where he went to sell Diesel illegally from the truck.
2. The driver up till now ran and abandoned the truck, knowing the consequences of his illegal actions.
3. The Company is currently taking care of the tiler and the cost of fixing the spoilt truck (which is needed for urgent work).
4. They promised to get the owner, A BRAND NEW BIKE.

-------MY POINTS---------
As we keep complaining and blaming the govt. everyday, we fail to analyse and caution ourselves, Look at how this accident has affected the life of a hustler and the cost it will take the Company to solve this issue. This would cost more than 2million.
What if the guy had died?
ALL IN THE QUEST TO SELL DIESEL FROM A TRUCK U OUGHT TO BE ON DUTY WITH.

One BAD GOOD thing about karma is that; HE COMES WHEN WE LEAST EXPECTED!

No single person on Earth is perfect but let's always know that;
1. Our collective actions in life goes a long way to change a lot of things in d society and
2. If we change our mindset and actions positively, we have All collectively join forces to change the Government and the Society.

Alhamdulilah.

Kingosytex:
Everything is spiritual to you guys
I don give up

U just answered ur question!
Tell me ONE thing that is done in physical without the approval of the Spiritual realm?
Tell me one thing that is wrong with OP based on what he explained to us?

Alchemy528:
Nigeria can't put all this into consideration,,,
But having time for rubbish

The problem of Nigeria is bigger than what you know!
We are ALL involved when it comes to the solution.

--Town planners are failing,
-- Engineers are falling,
-- House owners are failing and
-- Govt. Agencies are failing All in a bid to cut cost or make more profit, without considering safety.
--------R. I. P to the dead--------

verybadmouth:
Dear Seun,

I hope this message finds you well in the morning. I'd like to draw your attention to a concerning trend on your forum, Nairaland. It appears that there is a growing problem with illegitimate activities and misuse of the platform. Many individuals are using multiple aliases to deceive the public, while others including myself are employing these aliases for abusive purposes, including targeting respected leaders without any sense of remorse.

I would like to offer a suggestion for consideration. It would be beneficial to implement a mandatory requirement for all current users to update their registration information by providing their National Identification Number (NIN). Additionally, for new users, registration with their NIN should be made a prerequisite. This step could help in creating a more transparent and responsible online environment. It would enable you to identify and hold individuals accountable for their comments and actions.

While we do value the principles of a free society, it is equally important to exercise caution and respect when addressing one another, especially in an online community. I kindly urge you, Seun, to take prompt action in response to this concern. Your immediate attention to this matter would be greatly appreciated.

Ade

Bro. U seem not to know the meaning of social media or internet.
It should and ought to be anonymous but must be tracked whenever there is any misdeed.
But ur point where people do more than the usual is very solid but I think an instant total ban would go a long way to solve Nairalanders misbehaviours.

Okereke888:
I want you to know that every success in life have to start with God.
You need financial connection,that's the key to your greatness.
Are you there struggling financially?
We can help you get divine connection that's what we do.
Dm us at prophet Chris ministries.
Check my profile for WhatsApp information

U started well but ended poorly!
U stated God (very Good) why bringing urself in?
Simply, tell them how to connect to God and receive his blessings.
It's simple sir, be in line with God and wait patiently for his directives, EVERY OTHER THING IS SECONDARY!

Goodlyhrt:
I mean the few cups of rice being shared by the Fed Government as palliative.

Oh my God!

So a whole N500 BILLION has been spent like this like this eh

So the government couldn't bring up a better idea about how to spend such an amount or better still use it to fund subsidy at least that way everyone can benefit from it.

Instead of this disgraceful charade in the name of palliative.

In my opinion the govt of the day didn't get this right at all at all. This is sickening to say the least.

OP, this is very pathetic but please hope u are not blaming FG alone because ALL State Govt. received their share of the loot which they ought to share to us.
Civil Servants salaries was increased by 10k
in my state and I heard it will b for 3 months but that is not good enough because it seems that; there is no hope for the common man out there.

turner201:
Good day guys, I really don't understand what's happening to my love life.

So, I don't know whether to call it a problem or is that I've been meeting the wrong people?

Whenever I meet a lady, they seem to like me a lot, especially for the first few months or one year, or thereabout - But as time goes on, They always tell me that they feel inferior to me. That they don't deserve me!

I still don't get it - Note that I've tried severally to make them understand that I don't see them the way they think they're - But they keep telling me that i'm way above their level or standard - That they just don't match up with me in anyway.

My marriage of 3 years has equally crashed because of this - To me, I see myself as just an average guy who lives a simple life, but to them, even my simplicity is too sophisticated for them. Yes, I have connections, I have people as friends at different levels - But I always make sure that I place a great value on whoever I'm dating, but this issue keeps repeating itself.

The only times I didn't experience this was when I dated a philippine girl, a South African single mom, and one time that I dated an American lady who was equally a single mom - But any Nigerian lady that i've ever been involved with, has always told me that I'm way above their league.

The most painful one is my marriage that crashed, I really don't know what to do, I didn't dream of being a single dad or that my child be raised outside marriage.

Please kindly share your advice, thanks!

No mortal can ever have answers to this!
OP, seek the face of God, this is deeper than u can ever think.

turner201:
Good day guys, I really don't understand what's happening to my love life.

So, I don't know whether to call it a problem or is that I've been meeting the wrong people?

Whenever I meet a lady, they seem to like me a lot, especially for the first few months or one year, or thereabout - But as time goes on, They always tell me that they feel inferior to me. That they don't deserve me!

I still don't get it - Note that I've tried severally to make them understand that I don't see them the way they think they're - But they keep telling me that i'm way above their level or standard - That they just don't match up with me in anyway.

My marriage of 3 years has equally crashed because of this - To me, I see myself as just an average guy who lives a simple life, but to them, even my simplicity is too sophisticated for them. Yes, I have connections, I have people as friends at different levels - But I always make sure that I place a great value on whoever I'm dating, but this issue keeps repeating itself.

The only times I didn't experience this was when I dated a philippine girl, a South African single mom, and one time that I dated an American lady who was equally a single mom - But any Nigerian lady that i've ever been involved with, has always told me that I'm way above their league.

The most painful one is my marriage that crashed, I really don't know what to do, I didn't dream of being a single dad or that my child be raised outside marriage.

Please kindly share your advice, thanks!

OP, seek the face of God, this is deeper than u can ever think.

anthonyuncle:
he isn't

Please evaluate and educate us on how proper parenting is not a MAJOR determinant of sane society.

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luminouz:
You nailed it!!!
Being objective and logical is key

Anything I do in life is 100% Objective and logical, I speak the truth even if I am deeply in sin because I believe; NO ONE IS PERFECT but trying to paint black white can NEVER change the true colour!.
THERE IS NO JUSTIFICATION FOR BEATING UR WIFE.
I will always say this, even if the whole world disagree. I ONLY LOOK UP TO GOD AND HIS WORDS.

Fahvvy:
There was a time in my life were I was even more passionate than the OP as regards women matters ...

Once I hear a tale of woe of a woman, I gnash my teeth and threaten fire and brimstone on the man ...

"How can a man do xyz?!" I would ask in anger ... But a very interesting incident happened that made me change my mind ... Maybe I'll share it one day ...


But my dear OP, before you threaten fire and brimstone on the man, please hear his side of the story first, cause if the man was as bad as she painted it she would've left already ...

So learn to ask for the full story...
The misunderstanding you talked about may not be as little as she painted it to be ...

Women (in general) always want to play the victim in ALL CIRCUMSTANCE, so what they'll do is they'll downplay their role in the matter whilst magnifying that of the man ...

If you check well, she prolly instigated that misunderstanding and the whipping is just an effect to what she caused ...

One thing people (especially women) haven't come to an understanding is that actions have consequences...

So whilst you're running your mouth and shredding that man's self esteem with your oratory prowess, don't be surprised when he retaliates with the only way he knows how - with his fist ...

Bro. U are very far from the truth.
There is absolutely nothing that a woman would do that will justify beating her.
Women are like children; they MUST offend u at one point but there are million BEST ways to correct children without the Cain.

I have dated girls lthat get scared mere looking at my angry face, our Grand fathers were like that too, just that majority of men lost their ability to control women a long time ago and if u are not mature enough to bear women's drama, WHY NOT STAY FAR FROM THEM?Because I know how dramatic women are, Even my own mom!. I always tell my dad most times to bear and tolerate her.

I call my sists. A lot of times admonishing them; WHENEVER I FEEL, THEY ARE WRONG.
I ALWAYS TELL THEM TO APOLOGISE EVEN WITHOUT THE MEN KNOWING. This is because.; I know how women's brain work and how painful it is to be stepped on as a man.

If u think u are that pained and can no longer take it, then divorce her quietly and move on.
Please let me ask; Can u stand the sight of seeing ur daughter or sister in that condition?.
THERE IS NO REASON TO TREAT A WOMAN THAT WAY.

OperationalVehi:
Something is amiss. She told you she and her husband had a "little misunderstanding". Little thing she told you and you swallowed it hook line and sinker that the man is bad.

I hope you think about my response OP

Go back and read the post and rate ur comprehension ability.

anthonyuncle:
this is not true

Dat Ngga was damn correct.

Maynman:
Christians in Arab countries call god, Allah.
When jesus was alive in the NT, he prayed to Elahi, an aramaic version of Allah, in Hebrew it is called Elohim, means same thing.

Thanks bro.

Persephone1:
I hope the women still in toxic marriage or relationship read and learn.

BTW Op I love your passion It's like every word stem from a very deep range of anger and concern

Yeah, I hate seeing nonsense and she is someone's Sister, I KNOW HOW DEAR MINE ARE TO ME and I know what it takes to be a woman, Mehn; I WILL reject $100billion 10× to come to life as a woman!.
I know the way I feel and pamper girls wen they are in their period and I have been in Labour Room surrounding before.
Sometimes I wonder, as easy as women; a lot of men find it difficult to tame them,
A lot of perceived POWERFUL AND RUGGED Ladies had been humbled like a lamb wen dating me. It's just simple logic and playing ur roles perfectly.
I have made some cried for hours begging me and even one cried and begged me for almost a week (This one almost took her life sef) JUST becos. They got me angry even to the point when a lot of men would beat them up mercilessly and funny enough all these were done with SIMPLE QUIETNESS!, ZERO SHOUTING!.
Whenever I reason how naive and childish women are; I always pity men that lack total control of themselves around women.
MEN ARE THE ONES MAKING WOMEN TO LOOK POWERFUL!
WELL, REAL MEN ARE GOING INTO EXTINCTION!.

izonborn098:
A girl stab her brother to death because he always caution her wayward lifestyle...
It's not by force to convince people when they are a threat to u because either u kill her or she kill you... Xperience...

U are very right but I just can't stand to c my sisters suffer, I LOVE THEM AS I LOVE MYSELF.

izonborn098:
My own cousin sister connive with her boyfriend to fight against just because i caution her when her man always abuses and maltreat her..
From opinion many women don't want to leave their relationship because of the tag call single or single mothers...
Many women just get fowl brain' let them face their fears..

It's better to be alive than to have ANY thing on Earth!.

talented321:
You will have another opportunity keep on grinding and don't be a hurry... God bless..

Amen, Thanks, BLESS UP.

Good day house, please ever since I heard this Arabic word; ALHAMDULILAH, I just developed a very good love for it; Both it's meaning and the word are not bad to me.
I Know that Allah means God in English.
Ok house, is it bad for a Christian to be using ALHAMDULILAH?

talented321:
I just give u fact.... your parent has done their work and just because the country is ruled by wicked leaders doesn't mean everybody should involve in evil...
There are millions of people who made their money genuinely without killing or involving any evil act...
There is reward in living a peaceful life without involving evil.. Imagine the peace of mind and vice versa though everything has disadvantage and advantage..
It is only yahoo boys that knows what they are going through imagine the fear of being caught anytime and the restlessness.
Life will never go the way we want especially nigeria, it is left for me and u to adjust ourselves to the system, unless revolution which nobody is ready to participate..

I can NEVER adjust to nonsense, I rather take a bold move. My child is too precious to continue this madness that I have gone through.
I regret not moving when I had the money to.
May God pls, give me another opportunity.

UnfairLife7:
That is another tools Men use against women either single or married. They spent silly on their women and hit her whenever the need arises. Considering the society we all came from. How foolish people stigmatized single girl old enough for marriage and single mothers. It will only take a wise woman and the support system she has in her family and friends before she can let go. Expecially in marriage

See bro. Seeing money as a DO OR DIE something is a very big problem that was caused by poor parenting, if u check the whites, one reason they are progressing is because. They have the mindset of humanity rather than money.
I cannot fall for selling my conscience ,NO MATTER THE AMOUNT INVOLVED, ALL thanks to my parents that infused that mentality in me, right from childhood.
I have seen a lot parents that directly and indirectly send their children for prostitution and Fraud. DO U BLAME D HARSH ECONOMY OR POLITICIANS FOR THIS, total NO!.
Remember, If we ALL look at the Economy and societal problems; WE ALL MUST BE INVOLVED IN ONE CRIME OR THE OTHER.
Crime is a VERY bad choice and there is no excuse for it.
Parents has a lot of abandoned work to do.

talented321:
1. Cultism
2. Drugs
No government can end this two things in nigeria, why? Because they are the onesthat head both departments...
I know u will not believe it, but it's the truth...
That is why they love rough and rugged men in the politics section..

I never said ANY govt. Can end it, but does that mean my parents that strived to put me on the right pact didn't reduce these menace?
Bro. The govt. Is not d problem, Our parents has failed more than the govt. because I believe there are a lot of good politicians that were well brought up but the evil ones are too much. And if u check, poor parenting is very prevalent in their lives.

Sunday5050:
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Sir, I have read but still can't see ANY sense here OR are u that jobless or blind to the fact that gambling has destroyed a lot of youths?

Gambling is a choice ( A very bad one but few people could be fortunate) and not what u ought to lure people into.
IF u think u are making it very well, why not involve ALL ur family members in order for u to have another Dangote in ur household.