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IconicR:
Where have you been?
Hope you are good?

Howdy?

Man's been low-key. What's up with you?

IconicR:
Oloko giveaways will rush this thread with gibberish now

I knew long ago that promiscuity is hereditary
If you are promiscuous as a man or woman, trace it to your parents and watch closely you'll definitely find the traces in one of them.

So know who you marry so as to avoid story that touches the soul

There are lots of factors involved that contribute to promiscuity and immorality.

Stop encouraging sexual bullshit.

YoungLionken:
Don't listen to the commenters above me. Many of them think dirty and feel everyone is like them..

If you feel her genuinely, then groom/train (I don't mean paying her bills) her and wife her afterwards. The age gap isn't too much for something reasonable..

Remember, true love is patient, so don't try to defile her or mislead her. See her as your student, friend and wife to be in the nearest future...

You really want him to groom that child? This is disgusting.

Anonymoususher:
If you are a good person with no intent of exploiting her then tell her that she has not yet come of legal age and she will put you in trouble.

I was in a similar position 7yrs ago. I was 24yrs and just finished my youth service, she was 17yrs preparing for jamb.

I was taking her private lessons for the jamb and feelings started flying. In my case she didn't say it but I could see that the girl was Catching Feelings but pretended like I wasn't noticing.

She would chat on facebook, call me like 10 times a day even after closing the class. Lol

She failed the first jamb. When she clocked 18yrs and legal age, I made the proposal and she gladly agreed...

A perfect and decent girl I wouldn't want to exploit. As usual the relationship began as hide and seek for her parents not to know.

At 19yrs the mother discovered and called us for a private talk. A very understanding woman. I talked with her in the presence of her daughter explaining my feelings and plans for us. I could tell that my girl was impressed and the mom saw a gentle man. She only advised us to be careful and also she doesn't want her husband to know yet until when she feels her daughter is mature enough.


At 20yrs she gained admission, after year one her dad was laid off from work and she was supposed to drop from school but the same year, God blessed me and I could support her in school too.

We are 7yrs together, we have never fought, still faithful to each other, never cheated, both families are themselves as in-laws, infact during holidays in school most times she spends her holiday at either with my own grandma in the village OR with my elder brother's wife in the state she schools.

My mom and her mom already refer to each other as in-laws.

We have grown together from two naive youths to soon become husband and wife.

Once she rounds off her final paper, marriage plans will be on the way.

So like I said earlier so long as u have no ulterior motives for that young girl, keep your feelings away till she clocks legal age. If she is homely and has sense, groom her

Kay25:
Dindirin..u think d generation i grew from is like that ur failed one that made all of u to be rude and full of nudes?we were given discipline to the core that's what made most of us better Dan gen z

Says a boy with no prospect, ambition or future. You're nobody. Menial worker! You're still living from hand to mouth!

Kay25:
U are right alot of parents dis days think pampering child is the way to make Dem have a good life lil wonder why so many of them are turning out bad..I remember 28 yrs ago I did something wrong my primary school teacher dealt with me so mad that I can't forget it I dare not tell my parents at home cos they will add to it but I can say those discipline helped me infact it shaped me till date

You were physically abused and you couldn't tell your parents because they were like your teacher too. Failed society.

Stop encouraging abuse.

lawrenzoo:
. My Brother, most parents have failed in this regards. Imagine me seeing a 9 years old child of a neighbour who believes that God is not real, the second one that believes said he wants to be like God and create like him.

So, the kids' religious belief is a sign of failed parenting? How does it even tally? Shame.

What happens to freedom of religion and association?

Lovelyn451:
so why don't u guys postrate when greeting elders of other tribes

We're discussing your neighbor's kids, not me. Don't shift the goal post. Learn to have a decent conversation. Don't expect a response from me again.

BennyDGreat:
If you adhere strictly to the way of the Lord, they will turn out well and different from other kids.

You don't need any God/god or diety to raise a morally upright family, community or society.

Lovelyn451:
Turayoruba kids do not greet elders from other tribe, they're born and raised with tribalism. My yoruba neighbours kids don't greet my parents but we show every of our cultural act of respect towards their parents.

Your Yoruba neighbor's kids are the representation of the whole Yoruba race? Imagine your assertion and conclusion.

Shame.

eboniest:
God knows am going to train my child in the way of the lord..Am gonna be a strict mother to my children..No room for bringing them up like this new generation kids that are spoilt brat..

Are kids brought up "the way of the Lord" any better than the ones not brought up that way?

Lovelyn451:
Just like yorubas prostrate to greet their elders but not other tribe elders which is wrong...tribalism is another issue

How?

22o62021:
Culture difference

In igbo land, you don't give an elder something with a left hand
But where I live
I saw a boy of about 20 using left hand to pass food to a man of 80 years.

I tried to correct him but they said it doesn't mean anything.

That year in the late 90's
Students of UNN will us message, you born you to say no

Them go beat you in front of your parents

There's nothing wrong in using either hands to give anyone anything.

belcom10:
Very correct, I had a neighbour then. The children don't greet. This made me not respect the parent. How they raised such kids.
I can't imagine me raising my kids that way.

They don't owe you greetings. Nobody owe anybody greetings!

Stop being entitled.

IconicR:
How's moon and Mars lol

Well, it's all fine. All thanks to NASA.

IconicR:
Where have you been? Been a long while

Howdy?

I've been in Mars and Moon.

Johnchrix:
It has turned me into a better me man, get a Life!

It didn't turn you to a better man. You're among the cash cows.

Goodbye.

Johnchrix:
500 sometimes 1k. Today i don't think I'll go to church cuz I'm broke!

Imagine what religion has turned you to.

Even if I had billions, none of it will go to any religious organisation. I can't be feeding a businessman cleric and his family.

Scorpee:
How much? Can we chat on Whatsapp?

Let's talk via e-mail.

Klass99:
She had it coming and that slap returned her to factory settings. I like .

No, it didn't. It was a temporary thing. She'd definitely get toughen and disrespect her mother the more, most especially when it's obvious that the other woman was a stranger.

Beating don't change kids!

Klass99:
At the bolded, please watch this short clip to the end and tell me you weren't impressed. I was more than impressed.

https://youtube.com/shorts/qlsM94ZAuIs?feature=share

Not impressed that the woman slapped the girl but I'm impressed she showed concern about her bad behaviour towards her mother. However, she could have just passed her message without any physical abuse.

All still comes down to parenting. Couples should learn and understand the concept of raising a children in this digital age. Parenting evolves, and people should also.

Klass99:
Where is the Lyon a.k.a MufasaLion? I am very interested in reading your thoughts on this public display of embarrassment since you don't believe in beating children as part and parcel of their training/upbringing.

If this was my child he will not have the guts to pull such a stunt in public, but if for any reason he gets high on Richy's Igbosere weed then forgets himself and misbehaves like this, the kind of beating he will receive ehn, even Heaven will wonder if he is my child and I am his mother.



The moment they start to act up they should be quickly contained and removed from a scene to avoid causing harm to others, themselves or damage to property. Autism should not be an excuse or justification for this level of damage, if I had an autistic child I would be mindful of the public spaces I take him or her to. I'm not saying you're making excuses or justifying this, I am only thinking out loud in response to your post.

Howdy?

Now, you've brought me out of my shell after some weeks.

Well, we seem to share same thought but I still don't believe in beating. If I had a kid, I really can't picture my kid embarrassing me publicly like that. That kid is the product of bad parenting and the society he lives. His parents has probably been aiding him in his bad habits and also neglecting the importance of anger management.

If they don't curtail it now, a menace and disturbance to the society is brewing!

justwise:
Pay no attention to that rapist apologist.

Surely, I won't. I had no intention to dignify him with more than one response.

Thank you.

Bethanybethel:
You are right my dad is paying the price for abandoning us with our sick mother. He have some health issues I have decided not to help him, he will suffer until his last breath on earth..

Very nice! He should reap what he sowed.

Skyeyeye:
You are a quack lawyer if this is how you draw your conclusions. And, I doubt you are actively practicing as a lawyer in the US. You are a pure disgrace to the profession


For your own good, if you are not a US attorney, don't reply me further to save yourself from disgrace.

Skyeyeye:
What do you expect? You don't table such a sensitive case in a forum such as this. Stop posting on Nairaland expecting a good Samaritan to take up your case. It won't work! Most people here do not have the license to do so, not even 1stGenAmerican. She's a quack, and lying about possessing the license to defend you. Some illiterates here even called her a judge. How pathetic?

Justwise - one of the guys that condemned you stupidly - is not a lawyer. He's just a mod residing in the UK. Can you see how helpless you have become by running to a forum to seek for help?

This is what you should do

Write to NGOs, University Law Clinics, and Associations you belong to in Nigeria and US. They will be more willing to look into your case and draw facts instead of prejudice.

If you claim you're innocent, then I would say "stay strong ", and don't give up just yet.

You sound more dumber than imagined. You're nothing but a cheap, ignorant, uncouth, unintelligent and shameless clout-chaser.

That's good. Everyone's sexuality should be respected.

Take a legal action! He should face the full wrath of the law. There's no excuse for rape. At least, he didn't blame it on the innocent devil or old people in his village.

Mr Meta.

Samantha123:
Even if she lives past 90, she'll be useless and a vegetable.

What if the daughter ends up doing prostitution because of hardships and lack of financial support at home?

You can't compare the Beatles with an old selfish African woman who probably doesn't have any investments to leave behind for her child.

They have no excuse for having any child at this their present age.

Cubalabloo:
Down syndrome? On the side of the mother? If yes, at that age, if having a child will be detrimental to her health, there is nothing to worry about.
Thatchild is priceless!

Priceless my foot!

Can they even look after themselves at their age, talk more of having a child with Down Syndrome?

Cubalabloo:
Speaking as if the woman will die soon. Don't tell me you jealous already.

That old woman and man are selfish creatures! Face the fvcking reality!