₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
Or they pull away in an attempt to protect themselves from further harm from the one who willfully chose to introduce additional stressors into their lives - a scenario more likely to play out in this case.

Forget the fantastical stories told you by men of how polygamy breeds healthy competitions... it rarely goes and ends well for all those involved.

Man wasn't created to be alone..That companion stuff, nature must fill the vacuum..

If he can't get from his wife, someone else will and is very ready to explore with him..


And ones he is getting a maximum, he doesn't care about the one who relegated him....This things work naturally....and very common with the most calm and extra loving husbands.

Stargurl20:
I never mention me relegating the position of their father, did I?
All I'm saying is, in today's world where all men love has been fake n unreal, isn't it better to chanel the love yo your kids who will love u truly?
I will train them to respect their father and to love him as well. Not to relegate or disrespect him.

Mba...You don't train them to...Rather they will observe how you treat their father, that will be how they will follow you to treat him..

If you relegate him, Sorry for you if they grow to analyse those things...If you make him the true man of his house, You are in for a lifetime enjoyment...Both from the man and the children..

It is as simple as that.

Kobojunkie:
First of, having a wife with this mindset is indicator that the marriage is in a bad state. How does marrying other wives help make this better if they all end up the same way?

Humans become self aware when their is competition, it helps check lose guarding...

Mariangeles:
Exactly.

When couple put the kids first, they tend to use the kids to get at each other in a subtle kind of way, instead of addressing those minor issues. And that is how things escalates.

Exactly...Parents use kids against each other....I will not entertain that..My kids will get the extra care from me, but nwunye m first.

ezegold4we:
Great,

That's a beautiful one, Shame to all Those asking why Obi is yet to congratulate soludo.

Buhari tenure opened alot...Now Igbo are beginning to look inwards to fix themselves...

APC outcome in this election should be an eye opener...The people voted APGA and still voted PDD incase something happens to APGA...

Them no want hear say AP..get one chance at all...Looking forward to APC national convention and their flag bearer next year.

garfield1:
Was hope a contestant in anambra?

Who led APC as a party in the election?

Iyaebe:
Shebi you guys always warn yourselves about women pretending to love you and that no one truly loves you except your mother.So go and meet your mother to continue showing you that true love and care while she shows her kids same,don't be selfish abi you don't want your children to enjoy what you enjoyed from your mom?

Then ladies should go back to their fathers abii

Nothing like selfish here, it is wife doing her part for her husband..As well as hubby reciprocating...

Iyaebe:
How will a man be dragging attention with his own baby? Hmm na wa ooo

How will a woman abandone the man who made her mother and shift attention to kids who will grow to 16 and not even 18 to start thinking of their own life..hmmm!!! Na wa oooooo

Thats why you people will not allow the kids have their own life, and be disturbing them till you turn patience ozokwor for movie.. MIL palava..Na like this e dey take start.

Iyaebe:
lol its like you are subtly a redpiller

Which one is a redpill? Is it ampicillin or red and yellow anti-purge

I am a traditional man with a touch of modern life..

Acidosis:
I hope more people will come to realize this fact.

I swear...

My boss during NYSC made me realised couples have themselves first before their children..

He doesnt eat any food except that of his wife or his mother...His wife doesn't cook for any one else except him...

Their kids are handled by the house-helps till they grow to do their home chores.

But get the necessary love and care from him as a Dad and wife as their mom.

Having sit to gist with him several times then, opened eyes and came in agreement to the love my parents share at home.

My partner first, kids second...Otherwise we do the polygamy thing...It started from bible after all..

Iyaebe:
All this will not happen if I marry a reasonable and matured man,he will help you grow out of your shortcomings. I know very well the story of Yobo and Adaeze and i can tell you it was Yobo who made that marriage work.Adaeze was a huge problem but Yobo was patient and matured enough to know she'll grow and become calm and that's how it later turned out to be.I'll not marry a man that'll dish it back same way I dish it to him,reason I don't give face to small boys(18-35).

Lol....smh

What workeď for yobo and Adaeze, will definitely not work for another couple..No template to these couples wahala...You both will agree to work things out in your own way.

But, if you have a certain programmed mindset that appears like a stereotyped one, Noting will work..Even if them push am, e no go move.

Whether 18yrs old man or 59yrs like Pa Ned..

Though men age like wine, so the older the better.

Iyaebe:
lol well,an understanding man will understand

Na so!

Understanding and be looking like a houseboy in his own house.

If my wife prefer the kids more, no problem..I will do my father role perfectly...But, let her expect surprises

A man's peace of mind is non-negotiable.

This is like what ladies do, before marriage, they are all sweeting and honeying the man...After marriage both sweet and honey will turn to papa Emeka..

No now, be that person he fall in love with from day1 abeg...Even after kids...Yes challenges will surely come, but how you handle it as the woman determines the strength of tha bonds.

Acidosis:
Anytime my mom visits me, she's always eager to return to her husband (my father). Both of them love each other a little too much.

This is why I love and respect them. This an idea of love I can confidently relate to, not the fact that I was breastfed and carried in the womb for 9 months. FFS, I don't know a single thing about my time in the womb.

That eager to return home and be with her hubby is the real deal.

This is just typical of my parents...Growing up, they both keep cancelling transfers in their respective jobs, so they won't be away from eachother...It happened to extent it caused my dad his job, God willing things normalised years after..

Now tell me how I will hear issues like this as a grown up, I won't tripple my love for both.

Growing up till now, my mom love I and my brothers equally...Nothing she won't do for us...But, my Dad comes first..

Iyaebe:
See ehn no husband can or will ever try that with me, I will never allow such see finish, its part of the reason I advise women on one thread like that to make sure they create some fears in their husbands so that his brain will always be reminding him not to try rubbish with you.Cheat wey he wan cheat,na under my roof he wan dy do am,abeg make I no talk jor.

Lol...drink water and chill.

You see that man you think you have caged, And he is dancing to your tune, If he is fed up, your name will be sorry..

Na same man go rent and furnish apartment for another woman and still have kids with her while taking all your excesses..

What a man want to do, is always buried deep in his heart..Just frustrate his peace of mind and see the dirty side of him...Either intentional or unintentional..Maybe by surprise

Be the peace of mind to whoever comes to marry you...If not this world will be hell.

Iyaebe:
But he should understand that children comes with a lot of sacrifices.

Then, the man that did they fertilisation will collect Aaron's position abii

Mariangeles:
Children are better off when their parents value each other more.
It creates a more happy and healthy environment for them (the children).

Only few women know this...

Ones couples see themselves as first before kids, That family is bonded for life...

Mariangeles:
Likely out of spite o kwa ya?
Ndi umu nwoke na dikari petty.

Not spite o...Few men do the spite thing...

Most cases is a case of nature filling the vacuum....I saw a thread a lady said her FIL impregnated her nanny..Those things are natural..Women don't know men will keep being boys even at advanced stage..They also need the love and care....Ignoring him because of kids is huge mistake that can bite back...Especially an active confident man..

Ya bia jiri zie ego, forget another woman will notice him and fill the vacuum.

Mariangeles:
He'll be over you by then.

Humans have little or no patience....

This is why these fathers at old age will still be doing small away match..

Women of these modern age should have a re-orientation..Your hubby is your main main...Children are secondary after popori ...Who will still have their own lives to live.

Iyaebe:
I'll have his time when the children are grown

You will still open thread to seek advice when he start buying pant and bra for your househelp/nanny..

Mofun:
Hello fellow-Nairalanders!
Please is it correct to conclude that most women tend to value their children more than their own husbands (I don't mean 'baby daddies')?
If it's correct then what could be responsible?

Only women, children and pets are loved unconditionally...A man is loved for the fact he can provide something.

As long as you are a man, and you don't want to do polygamy, You must encounter this challenge.

You escape if you decide to go polygamy, then the women will start doing everything to give you the love and attention unto competition. ..

Iyaebe:
When I start having children, I pray I remember my husband that time.

Smh

Nigerian husbands are suffering...If I have a wife with this mindset, I will go polygamy As simple as that.

Cinema4d:
Launch
French fries
And turkey

Cute..

Mvena:
This obe ata na wa o

Una comment here eeh...

Nlanalyst:
People now eat eba with rice?
See am.

Where did you come from abeg...

Killer meme.

Nlanalyst:
I didn't know until I noticed he came to report another post here directed at Boda Manna.
I admire his dedication to stupidity. Very reassuring.

Hope returned after being beaten mercilessly in Anambra, next thing shooting and killing started again...

Mariangeles:
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
A chigbuola'm!

Mazi Okacha-mara.

okacha-amara kwa...O nwekwaranu ihe m ma

JONNYSPUTE:
.....And the woman will not pull a gun or even fight another woman going close to her husband rather she will be busy entitling the kitchen

Bia nwoke a,kpachara Anya gi.

Fight ke, most will zip up and ask you to use condom since you decided to be playing home and away match...A coded bye bye to skin until you build a permanent home stadium for only home match..

Joke apart, Many women don't joke with kitchen ones they marry...My grandma never did, my mom same...And I am certain my wife will not...And my daughter(s) will not as well.

Okpa men looking at this news like...

Where this one second come from abeg...

Donaluta:
Some people for nairaland just dey heartless.. see them for up... Very wicked sets of Nigerians .. see negative comments.. tufiakwa

Most of those people are troubled soul..

Mariangeles:
OK. That's true.

Hmmm!!! This your Ok. Thats true.. ka mgbe ike okwu gwuru Nwaanyi.

JONNYSPUTE:
.....So a married man feels entitled to his wife's body while his wife feels entitled to the kitchen.

O Kwa ya nna a ?

Anyi n'amuta Kwa ihe ebea nkeoma.

If I come closer to your woman, I know you will pull a gun..

Exactly how some women will if person enter their entitled place (kitchen)...

Ihe no n'eluwa wu omumu omumu..