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Mariangeles:
Never condemn what you want.
Be true to yourself.
Marriage to the right person is a blessing.
Children in marriage give you a sense of purpose. They make life struggle worth it. They give meaning to life.

Kedu your brand, coke, malt ka o wu beer...


Young ladies shouldn't be deceived by what some people put out here while sitting on their bed to appear woke and informed to public who doesn't care.

People who fail in getting what they admired, will never be happy watching others get it right..They Have this I can't go down in regret alone.

Again, not everyone enjoyed the love in a responsible home....

Na very younger ladies i pity most here, especially those who aren't that intelligent and strong mind of their own...Some ladies will rub their bad acts on them to appear woke only to regret in life...Na modern day witchcraft..

Exactly how the world lost aaliya years ago...

ImaIma1:
Quite difficult to take care of a home alone with 5 kids and not lose yourself. It's a lot of work for one person. Imagine spending almost 2hrs of my life in one day doing homework for one child.

I wonder how the woman in the story was even able to keep a job with 5kids and no help.

Hmmmmm...Smh

But most of us have comfortably employed mothers who still took care of the kids even more than 5kids and bigger home.

Something is totally wrong with this our generation of mothers and fathers...Smh..My mother created time to teach her kids then, same with my Dad.

How do you complain a mother spent 2hrs teaching her own kid, isn't that something she will enjoy later in life? . A little secret is, women enjoy most in marriage...The early sacrifice and stress on them, pay off later in life for them.

We all must go back to our parents and ask them how they did it..If not divorce cases will be on the high.

Marriage is a place of lifetime sacrifice..Anyone who isn't willing, should stay away from marriage.

Vision101:
The op's write up and most comments mainly align to the position of a woman. This also happens to men. Some men spend all their lives and energy thinking and providing for their families.

He leaves so early and returns very late. Children are in good schools, madam looks gorgeous. The home is comfortable but he hardly stays at home. The guy man hardly upgrade his dress except that detected by his work rules.

His life is pressure and stress. The spouse might still be nagging. Is this the reason why there are more widows than widowers?

The woman and many others in the picture won't see this as sacrifice from the man's part...To them, it is nothing...

Rather, staying at home and watching rihanna and Kardashians dress for kill is what impress them..

Their is a sense of responsibility, maturity and reasoning when a woman works and earn as well...Their won't be time for rubbish and sitting at home to do asiri(gossips) or begin to eye one randy guy in the neighbourhood or discuss a sister who is using guys to play tik tok within the environs..

Or even have time for Mama Ngozi and her yard people stories and gossips masked with jealousy..

A working and Intelligent mom is a man's best gift to his unborn kids.

holocron:
I put it to you that this is a tissue of lies and fabrication. OP sounds like an ingrate. You are serving/working for your family and instead of appreciating the results of your good works, you are grumbling, complaining and whining. Your husband struggles to do his part in upkeeping the family, you do not appreciate his role but you complain of your own role. You purposely abandoned your family and children for a fake independence and shallow ambitions and now you are regretting. You lost your cherished family for phantom degrees, career and independence. What shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and then lose his soul?

Truer words...

Marriage is all about sacrifice and Appreciation...Anyone who is not willing to, should just stay away from it.

Loxleyy:
Na surgery go help break the hymen....


Haba 55 years menopause has started already.

This comment na knock out...

No be small surgery..

The truth is finally, sister Patricia has found a soul mate at 55..

Nawa o...Anyway the heart wants what it wants.

If you believe that their is no sex in this relationship, you will easily believe buhari is Obama..

Infact you are one of Nigeria's problems...

Taaa..Every guy man suppose try club ones in a while and see what this type do with married men....All sort of dirty sex is practiced..After all if you dey use another person property, na rough rough..

Annabelle12344:
I just created this account to post this.
I'm really Disturbed.

My wedding is approaching and I'm so excited about it.
Before I met my husband to be, there's this married man I know. Right from day one he told me who was married but his family based in a different state. I told him I'm single and I can't marry a married man nor date a married man. We both laughed about it.

Years passed, he became so close to my family and everybody around me. He comes to my house, gist with my mum, siblings and my family members are very accommodating.
I had my boyfriend whom everyone knows, that I have nothing with this man.
he support me financially some times. I have been helpful as well in my own ways. most times, I helped him out with cooking, even followed him to supper market to pick beautiful clothes (wears) for his wife and children. I have known this man for about 4 yrs now, but never have I had intimat.e relationship with him. He's like a big brother to me although he deeply loved me and have asked me out severally, but i have never involved myself with him s.exuallly.

This man have been so good to me, but now, I want to get married and he's so angry with me, he appears so hurt and heartbroken. He's behaving as if I betray his love. He's acting as if nothing mean anything to him any more. He almost lost his job last week due to lack of concentration. He takes his job carelessly now,

How can I help him heal emotionally, without distracting my own marriage?

Is ignoring him at this point the best option?


How should I handle this? Pls advice

You were enjoying his resources, now you realised you need your own man... Smh some ladies and greedy eeh...You want to have it all...

I hope you know that the guy coming to marry you will keep his own personal bestie as well.. Don't come and create another topic when he diverts attention to another lady....Na the man's wife prayers go frustrate you sha.. The bigger karma is doing push ups for your matter..Una don milk the cow finish, now you want a brand new Goat..

Carry your cross jaree...The truth is He is going to frustrate you physically, spiritually and otherwise...

Some women sef, una get heart o..that is you asking us how you will help him heal after playing tik tok with it..

Men beware of strange women...They will shatter your Destiny and move smoothly..


Many women, few wife.. Chai to the man coming to marry you, sorry to him..One chance.

TundeWX:
what happen to chicken,fish,duck,Bush meat,goat,antelope,ram,etc all over the place

I tire o...Nigerians are sooo stereotyped with cow meat...To extent herders now feel on top of the world.

Best alternative is doing the native cow ranching exactly how it is done in USA, canada, Argentina etc..

Where households with space grow them like we grow chicken etc..

Government can support with monitored grants...Then buy and resell at a cool price to avoid monopoly and excessive increments to make abnormal profits.

Plus, providing good roads, and a stable electricity...This will improve the economy..

Most rural roads are not accessible..Even when buyers come, it becomes a problem to locate the production place...smh Incompetent people in Government.

Opeyemiextra:
It's worth it if you find the right person and you have also worked on yourself to be the right person, too.

Full stop.

No addition, no subtraction.

TayoAinaFilms:
Thank you

Weldone...You and wode maya keep sipping my Data on YouTube...great contents and educating...kudos!

doggedfighter:
Parting and good byes are emotional moments.




Righteousness, can you link it to yeye end time tale.

Yeye end time stuffs no be small one...

PlayMaker14:
For it to happen 3 times, then, these marital setbacks are not ordinary.

I will advise you to go to a Bible believing church, and draw closer to your Creator, He alone can turn this setback to marital breakthrough.

His condition needs improvement...Ladies are running him street as he keeps repeating his break up history.

Ones they are fed up with him, they throw same format..

He seems to be a pushy pushy guy, just few ladies will agree to allow him lead them.

He should forget women for now, and improve a bit on spiritual life , finance and healthy psychology.

Fryzi:
So that I can enjoy it raw

Guy man..

After raw, comes the buying of baby pampers and school fees na..

temitope27:
Mr man, I don't think u av sense at all, who an illiterate? Can u please define? I Finish secondary School, learn work for 3 years, is that not an education? And nw doing perfectly with my job, the u re talking about at those with no skill at all and am nt among

Of course, Skills don take over...But, try go a tertiary institution and keep the certificate like others...Make them no use am insult you even on top your money o..

Being in the tertiary institution, has a way of molding and sharpen you in whatever you do...Plus your mindset.

wunmi590:
Good day N'Lander,

I was having a discussion with a friend yesterday, and he was complaining about how he was not being paid well despite his Masters, so I decided to bring this here.....

As the subject implies

As for me, yes I've, graduate like 10years ago and luck have actually shined on me since then when it comes to job...

Even before then, I was lucky to get my bursary 50k each every year, for both my OND (100k) and my BS.c (200k) days for lagosians

Of course...Even within a year after Nysc sef.. Everything, including house rents during the four years and every dime spent.

Furthering studies in Nigeria of today should be for fun...Anyone doing it to secure high paying job is sleeping on a bicycle...Except if you have a good job and it requires you to study further.

To me it is cute for ladies, to secure lecturing job...All man should diversify to hustle...

Mylordmygod1:
I'm about to start up a business, and i don't need her assistance since i'm not marrying her..

lalasticlala help me reach out to more people.. Thanks

You want us to tell you how to break up with her na?

If you are bold enough to woo her, you should be bold enough to tell her....Make sure you don't regret your actions..

Na like this oga Titus take lose a good woman sha..

And she doesnt get angry when you flare up...chai one man meat, another man poison..

Just say you don chop tire....I raa ju go..

Almost everyone is a web developer nowadays

Who go come work for the other na


Nigerians and bastardizing one type of business..

Ezehillary:
Carry am go supreme court but REMEMBER ANAMBRA CAN NEVER BE IMO

Na so my people do that year, until 3pm, that faithful black day, Tanko and his cancer crew installed an administrator who didn't complete his primary education as Imo governor..

Anyway, Abba kyari who orchestrated that must be enjoying his money in hell by now..

Foolish greedy man..set Imo into problem.

Anambra people no sleeping o...It is not over until it is over.

jaeyking:
Lalasticlala

Come push am go front trend oo

Well I know Northern school will not allow such.
Who him be him don baff

Story, Seems you've not seen ordinary local government chairman in the north, their paparazzi big pass deputy governors for south o..

The sug guy must be son of a wealthy alhaji..na their way..

Good food, good sex and good character...

Is the sure way...

Lattop:
With the poor masses will suffer dis

Of course...the poor will pay that..Useless country..

ValCon888:
Contrary to what you think, it is not the man that changes to look like the woman. It is the woman that changes to look like the man. And the reason is simple:

The man is using his spérm to mold her according to his image.

Wahala for who dey take NLanders too serious..

chloride6:
Lmao..

See wetin oppression dey cause for school..

Back then for UI, na 2008 corrolla be the biggest car for one department.

Naso one yahoo boy buy brand new Sonata come comot the nylon for front of department .

Lmao....

Reminds me of secondary school, when guys use to disturb with cars, when principal they manage Volkswagen beetles...

esky158:
When BTC big pass BSC what do u expect

Abii na...Lecturers and jealousy na 5&6..That's why they go jazz on themselves...

Thanos5555:

So you will teach all this fields within the space of two weeks, wow, what I took 5 years to learn in the university as a water Engineer,

Nice one, just that some innocent billions will wasted in the process.

Only if you will realize that the work that will bring the cash, won't take more of time to learn practically..university was busy fooling us with 4-5yrs of theories...

The real deal is the pragmatic approach.

ezegold4we:
The PDP governor's will pick Tambuwal as Their presidential ticket and wike as Vp, that's The game plan,

Then the APC will present tinubu or osinbanjo as Their presidential ticket, then both South East And South South will vote PDP, then 60 to 70% of northerns will vote Tambuwal And that's game over for APC and finally power will return to North for Another 8yrs, if u can't see This, then you r a newbie in Nigerian political permutations

You said it all...PDP will still come with a nothern candidate..

APC will come with a weak tinubu, because taking a northern candidate will be the time bomb in waiting for them....

tamdun:
He already achieved the highest post anybody can achieve in apga(governor) or u think apga can make him president ni

Exactly...

Even the prompt payment of salaries, were foundations built by Peter...Till date, no governor in Anambra will reach the height peter reached..

Let's see how soludo will perform...

Peter Obi touched every nook and cranny in his time.

Moving to PDP is a chance for him to extend beyond Anambra.

Davash222:
Put your mind on 20Billion Dollars, I want to check something.

Havesomesense:
When a Nigerian girl, wants you to make her a wife
She cooks sumptuous food for you regularly.

I appreciate that.

Haaaaa!!! ..

You guys eeeh..lol

Vibe killers.

JONNYSPUTE:
....Bros,no vex o. Are you married?

Or are you just saying all this to look good here?.
Ok. What if your wife decides to follow the norm. What will you do?

If you observe me here, I don't talk to Impress any one...

I hit the nail on it's head, according to experience and a lot more.

If my wife do the normal, of which I know she won't... I know myself and know the type of women I date....In case it turns out to be the normal, I will have that conversation with her...

Mariangeles:
Munz.y14, I guru edemede a?
A case study of ihe anyi n'ekwu okwu ya.

Yes...I smiled at his submission.

Nwunye ya mere understand the assignment of being a wife first, and a mother..

Agwa nwaanyi kpasoro di ya, ga eme nwoke noro na oru, ya na eche mgbe 4pm kuru, ka ya gbara lawa n'ulo ga noro with family..Nwaanyi wuru oku in excess, nwoke gbasa oru by 4pm, ya lota by 7pm.. .

Women should know they were created specially as a natural binder for the home..It is not easy, but worth it with dedication to it.

Men will always be boys ones in a while...But at very little age, a woman is already acting like a mother as they are naturally care givers.

A woman must strike a balance for a time with hubby and kids as well..

Men should also involve in parenting as well to reduce burden and make it easier...For enough time....My Dad participated fully when we weree growing up..Will I even forget he was our first teacher for ABCD, 123, words identification and alot...

My mom, was buying us those short novels to keep us busy during long vacation..

Oooh those days were fun...Talk about when it is time for flogging, okwa mpa m buru utali, mma m e buru ke ya...Onye pia, onye a pia..You won't even know where to run to when husband and wife team up dey discipline us..


Children learn fast at that tender age...They girls will learn how their mom treat their Dad, the sons learn how their Dad treats his wife....It is as simple as that.

Sometimes, when i see or read domestic violence, it is so alien to me...Because I never witnessed such growing up...I find it awkward to believe a man will be beating his wife...smh..

Couples must put themselves first...The statement someone made, she doesn't know if she has a husband is strange..

Na dem go make extremely entitled MIL...

To them, hubby is like one chair in the house..Who is a husband only when it comes to financial expenses or copulation just for child bearing....