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SenatePresdo:
99.9% of Nigerian girls are cheats.

But na who dem Catch, na em people dey call thief.

If you leave a girl for cheating on you, the next one would still cheat. The only difference is that you may not get to catch her the way you catched your previous girl.

If I count girls wey I parted ways with because of cheating eeh.
I broke up sotey I tire.

I repeat 9 out every 10 Nigerian girl is either a cheat, or a potential cheat waiting for the best opportunity to cheat.

As I'm right now, I don't care if a woman is cheating or not, even if I catch her, i wouldn't let her know...

I just stay with girls wey like me genuinely, and we vibe Wella. You cheat or you no cheat that one no concern me. I can't die before my time.

U will certainly die before your time when they bring you hepatitis or HIV from cheating biz

Casham:
Aswear I am one of those guys who don't mind letting my girl Bleep other guys. As long as they are sure that's what they want. Fuk anybody you want; and that give me the freedom to fuk others too. I am an extremely open person. I know that's abnormal in our society, but I enjoy seeing my girls enjoying themselves. Besides, most girls are hos anyways. I feel like I will be caging them since I am not ready to ready any of them yet.

Easier said, lol

shunletsam:
This is hilariously correct and funny

Expect the Catholics to trash the Anglicans as their seniors

aboyaji:
please, we never mentioned marriage proposal or wedding in this post. Why are people like this? Be positive.

You still don't get the message, Goodluck to you, I was never in any way negative

aboyaji:
My respect for that family increased in geometric progression. Whenever I set my eyes on her, I see a different person.

The good part of it all was that guests who lodged in the hotel came out to pray for us. The staff all came to give us words of encouragement and thanked my woman for her show of affection. It was gathered that no experience of such had been recorded in the hotel before. One of the guests in the hotel volunteered to help with his car when they heard that some of our invitees were ready to go home. People I never knew volunteered to be of help to us that said night.

We went home on foot. She is a blessing to me in all ramifications, not limited to this celebration though.

In choosing a partner, just choose the one you can handle her misdemeanor. No woman is better than the other.

You can only tell us this after you've married her, most times women are like this even before marriage

TarOrfeeek:
All of us are complaining that things are hard


Some people will still use their hand to make life harder for themselves.

You have a wife that you service everyday. You still went to add overtime and your heart is already defective.

Married[s] Nigerian men are selfish when it comes to toto[/s]

Are you using your father as example?

Elxandre:
If that's the case, he's going to get tired of her also after marriage.

So what is the solution for him now?

Prechgold1180:
I have plans to marry her but definitely not now
She knows my plans
She is nice she is the best one can find
I love her me wanting space is bcus I am not comfortable with the husband and wife stuff for now

If she continue staying with me do u think I ll have interest to marry her when that time come
Remember e go be like say I don enjoy everything finish try understand me

I get you, the best is even not to engage in sex with her, so far you want to marry her. You will miss nothing

Prechgold1180:
Married man keh

Sorry to ask oo, where u given birth of wedlock and probably got raised single handedly by a single mom?

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Bros op can loose guard

Kpekus way you go still take dey follow up

Who emotions help
Real niggarrrrs nor dey do emotions na

To all my real niggarrrrs...always don't break up with your girl in a violent way....
If you break up with her peacefully...there is a higher chance she will always be at your beck and call till the end of time....even when she starts another serious relationship with someone else..
At times...when you are with your girlfriend...probably watching movies or cuddling..then stylishly and passionately whisper things like this to her ear...."baby girl I can not guarantee our relationship life for ever because there might be circumstances beyond our control in the future but I assure you we will be friends till the end of time"...
I bet my balls if you repeat this things to a woman in a passionate way....then after break up..she won't see it as a do or die affair....she will always return to you whenever you call her

Return to you to do what, you want to eat your vomit?

Prechgold1180:
Thanks am going to try this

Don't belittle yourself

Prechgold1180:
Hello everyone please sorry to disturb you with my personal problem I just feel it best I table the matter here.

Let me try to be short.

Please how do I tell my girlfriend to go back to her house without offending or sounding rude?
I am a young guy and she is also young too currently in my final year she is a graduate on her own side she graduated last year.

She travelled outta Nigeria after graduation came back after 1 month.
Ever since she got back she has been in my house close to two months now and she is not even talking about leaving.

I don’t even have my space again
I can’t even go out with my friends she always calling for my attention.
It is choking me seriously I can’t even keep female friends because she is always complaining.
All my friends are now referring to me as a married man.

Pls how do I tell her to go back without hurting her.

Me don tire i swear

Lol, you don't want to be a married man??

FORWARDEVERLY:
This is one thing you can barely see the Northerners do in their domain.. murder themselves especially the Rich...
A shame that it is a common occurrence in the east..

What exactly are bandits doing, lmao or even BH

Zetra7:
By why Abuja, it should be in Lagos.. The senators and reps should come back home..

Ibadan should be more appropriate, that's yoruba regional headquarters

Lagos has a bigger role now as southern Nigeria headquarters, I just pray for more unity in the south. I wish it is even a meeting of all southern HOR members just like the north met wholly

yorubarere:
How will they take actions without meeting and conclude with one voice? Don't just criticize for the fun of it. Go figure what they call constructive criticism.

Lol, well said

This northerners are using this indissolubility nonsense to say trash, like we should remain in stone age as them? Nonsense

milky3:
How has the meeting affected the masses positively? Let them keep swaving their Agbada here and there.

They just started, cut them some slack please, everything isn't criticism, I'm sure you're not perfect with your life

LandMann:
Irresponsible upbringing.

If the mother was responsible, she won't have two daughters and A LOVER instead of her husband.

She should quietly enjoy the fruits of her good parenting

The husband is late

UBGGA:
Oh no! I'm not offended at all. I was just sharing my Dominion City experience. We all need a place that works for us, the most important thing is you found one eventually.

Thank you, so which city do you worship from

Nicoddemus:
I and my siblings go to different churches outside our parents. Doesn't make any difference

It does make, huge difference. Just that you can't miss what you never had, that's just life, so you will think you miss nothing

UBGGA:
You found Dominion City as a prosperity and showmanship church? Oh wow!
I was an atheist for years. Dominion City is the reason I serve God unashamedly now, and have a relationship with the Holy Spirit today.

Something my branch Pastor used to say: "If you stay here for 3 months and nothing changes in you, this is not the church for you. I suppose it wasn't for you.

Regardless, it's great you found a place to worship and connect.

Ah, don't get offended ma'am, I don't mean to criticise any church, maybe what I saw on the first day influenced that,

CsRockefeller:
Let's say it's influence, my roommates and course mates were all Pentecostal, I soon found myself following them to their church since we did almost everything together.

Why I came back? Simple, "he maketh me lie down in green pastures" my green pastures has been in the Catholic church, I am a beneficiary of the enormous benevolence of the Catholic church from Nursery school till date so why should I leave were I was being fed spiritually and physically? Secondly, I saw the lives of my fellow Pentecostal friends and it didn't reflect any growth, yes they were all spiritual but mentally and financially, they were just hovering.

Nevertheless, I am grateful for the knowledge and experience garnered there, I was able to grow spiritually and took many things learnt there to the Catholic church. I still follow Pentecostal Pastor's online but I never hide my Catholic identity. Firebrand Pastors and Ministries are springing up everyday, are you going to be jumping up and down like a Kangaroo? The good thing is the Catholic church is open to some changes as I believe reformation per time is very important and we have been seeing such changes lately.

The work of the church is to help guide and direct you to finding Christ, I can agree to some extent that the Catholic church is lacking a bit in this aspect but the it can only get better, no perfections anywhere.

I was a babe, but not anymore have passed through that stage in my life and won't go back. The responsibility of my spiritual growth is first, in my hands.

Thank God for your life bro. I'm a Catholic and enjoy the programs of charismatic groups in the church. I also tried following friends to Dominion City then but I found out that what they did most was just preaching of prosperity and showmanship. I later realised the charismatic group in the Catholic Church is one of the best Christian fellowships one can have. I'm proudly a Catholic and understand the treasures the church have

saxxyb:
I also need advice, I am a young man of 26 years old, I am from a Catholic Christian family, I gave my life to Jesus in November 2016 when i listened to a message of Apostle Joshua Selman ever since my life have been a wonder, that is my main place of spiritual empowerment.

Now the problem is that I no longer attend the catholic church because I don't feel connected there, I started attending Christ embassy because of a close friend of mine who is a member of Christ Embassy, he invited me during the pandemic last year and I was glad to go because churches were closed during that period and my spirit was dry so I have attending ever since, although I attend Christ embassy on Sundays, though I am not consistent in Christ embassy church because I value Koinonia and interdenominational ministry headed by Apostle Joshua Selman which i attend virtually I.e an online church and I can't be in two place at a time and I intentionally avoid taking responsibilities and taking up positions so that I won't be too connected to Christ embassy so that I will easily focus on koinonia and also make it easy if I decide to leave Christ Embassy when koinonia opens a church in Lagos, one problem my family members are against me attending Christ embassy and they criticize me because they think I am being brainwashed by Pentecostals, speaking in tongues is really a strange thing, my mum doesn't like Christ embassy all because she think they aren't serious Christians due to their dressing and the way their men relaxes their hair .

Talking about marriage I feel its going to be difficult choosing a partner coz of these church identity, I will want to avoid these same problem, so nairalanders I need your sincere and good advise because I am still your and don't want these kind of problem in marriage.

The moment you left the Catholic Church was when your trouble started, you had charismatic if u needed to speak in tongues, you're a lost sheep

Nicoddemus:
I totally understand you....a it's a serious case.
Your husband is a minister due to that it's inappropriate that his wife do not even have the same doctrine with him.

But you're spiritually suffocating.... which is even worse.

I'd advise you to meet your pastor to pray with you concerning it so that your husband can allow you go where your spiritual life can flourish..... Else other issues will surely crop up with it even you remain spiritually dormant

Worse come to worse tell your Dominion pastor to meet your husband pastor to talk to your husband so that he can compromise.

I know why I'm saying o, don't compromise your spiritual life for anything, other things will surely come with it.

But thread with wisdom

I just pity the children who will be torn between going to mummy's or daddy's church

CsRockefeller:
Hahahaha, let me first laugh.

First, I'm not surprised this is coming from a lady, met many of them in campus and during my NYSC. Don't know if I should tag them as religious but for a lack of a better word that's what many of them are. I'm a born Catholic and later left to RCCG, so I'm surprised someone is saying that she doesn't feel God there because I did though I later returned to the Catholic church (story for another day)

I'm not unaware of how this church brouhaha is such a big deal, so I've resolved to marry a fellow Catholic, if we ever decide to leave, then we leave together as a unit. Most importantly, and I reiterate, the most important aspect of any church is LOVE. Forget about all other aspects, worship, prayer and the word cannot be substituted for LOVE and that's where the Catholic church stands tall.

So why did you leave Catholic Church to Rccg and what made u return?

November24:
I have mature friends looking for husband they will worship... This one dey shakara

Lol, na so e de start naw once they get in they will turn to something else

November24:
No sir,she is wicked.
The man is not weak.
See,when a woman knows you are born again and don't see divorce as an option,they treat you like shit because they know you can't drive them,the man is protecting his calling,being a pastor is not easy,people expect them to be blameless.
I was raised a Catholic,now I attend winners with my husband,I had to love the church cos I love my husband.

Your husband is your God first before the almighty.
If you don't want to marry and submit,stay single!!!

This marriage life isn't for everybody.

Well said my sister

KosiGee:
You


Are you ok all? Is anything wrong with you mentally?

What is wrong in going to Dominion City? Did the man not know about that before he started wooing and eventually married her?

Why are you being rude and silly?...and what’s all these being submissive bla bla bla...so if he husband attends Guru Maharaji or some Faith tabernacle down the road, it automatically means the woman will follow suit??

Why shouldn’t the man attend dominion city?
Give me one reason.

If this woman was my sister, I’d advise her to pull out from that marriage if this will cause her misery. Wtf.

Lastly, you are silly for trying to bully, intimidate and threaten her online. You are a coward for doing that.

Easier said than done, if she was your sister bla bla bla, only happens online

Saynoomore:
You are obviously not married! Or perhaps married but lucky to have found a good wife.

The truth is that a majority of these our women are deceptive. When desperately in need of a husby, they will agree to all "terms and conditions". When you bring up issues as this one up there, they'll even condemn their church and tell you they have, for long, been looking for a way out of their church. Some will modestly tell you that religion isn't a problem so long as we serve one true and living God, they can worship God anywhere! Others will agree to only visit their church very occasionally (e.g once in 6 months) - but all these are just to get to the alter and sign the dotted lines. AS SOON AS they get that wedding ring on their finger and pull that wedding gown (after wedding), they'll show you their true character by rebuffing all those terms they agreed to! They are schemers and scammers o! Forget all these complains they come here with. Every woman's complaints should be taken with a pinch of salt!

Lol well said, most manipulate too

AntiWailer:
Imagine.

So they did not discuss all these before the party ?

All this generation focus on is the wedding party with no idea of what will happen in the marriage itself.

If u married outside Ur church, u people did not agree before u went to the alter ?

And if u people cnt agree on 1 church to go and build the family, why are u wasting your time going to church at all.

You cnt trust your husband's decision on choice of place of worship and he is supposed to be the spiritual head of the house.

All the activities Una dey do dey form workers in church. A very high percentage of u won't make heaven.

If you can not convince your hubby to follow u to church and he can not convince u to follow him, the marriage is already on a wrong foundation.

The two of u will be acting strangely on different teachings. That is a recipe for disaster.

Imagine Oyakhilome and Ashimolowo as different Pastors in the family. One believe covid is 5G another thought it was just a pandemic. How Una wan settle 'spiritual' differences at home ?

Choose your home or the church. Which ever pays u. Just analyze the consequences, one must make way very veeeery soon. I will advise u choose wisely.





And aunty wey say she does not go to her husband's church despite the fact that he is a Pastor.

You are a disaster waiting to happen. Soon it will be obvious they can't believe in his teaching since the wife does not believe in the nonsense he is doing.

When he grows to a point, the sisters will arrange some session for him. Before u know he is long gone.

Well said

debbycreamy:
Hello nairalanders,

I won't say it's my friend sister or whatever,it's me. It's my question

For 5years of marriage, it's been conflicting about this church matter.

Where in the Bible did they say it's compulsory for the wife to go to the husband's church? I attended dominion city, and he attends redeem (RCCG), I tried for the first two years to follow him to redeem, but I couldn't feel it, every Sunday it's like going and coming from a wedding not a church, that feeling of feeling the Holy Spirit and being blessed is not there, I don't know who understands this feeling.

I talked to him in d third year he allowed me go back to my dominion city, and in d fourth year he stopped me again, I'm a worker there o, now till the fifth year I'm still forced to attend redeem, I have tried my best to open my heart to the church but no way...

Their ways just tire me at redeem, I miss the love, togetherness, prayers, worship and preaching at dominion city. Please I'm sorry I mentioned the name of churches i know some people love redeem, so I'm sorry.

Now for a month now, I have not gone to any church, and I'm tired of the whole thing, please matured advice needed.


Thanks

You're actually mature and not insensitive like the other gal who left Catholic for pentecostal church. At least you didn't disrespect the redeem church people even though I'm a Catholic myself.
To me you should tell him to join you in dominion City to see if he can come since you can't cope in his own church

This is very bad, even Boko Haram would have been more lenient