₦airaland Forum

i carried ans still carry all my babies on my back and guess what?
Loads of "white ladies" stop me on the road and ask me how I get it done. They find it so practical. They are surprised you can use any material for it.
Thank God for BACKING. How on earth would I have been able to cope with my house chores and a baby.
Do you know that backing a baby is very healthy for the hip bone?

Chaircover I wanted to be diplomatic, by not mentioniing that .
Really does a famly just throw a male child away like that? If a woman has been decent she should find some sympathetic ears in the family. I would never turn away a grandchild of mine no matter how much bitterness there is between the parents.

Whatever might have transpired,
It simply is an act of total disrespect for your wife to put up the picture of another man. Take this as the writting on the wall. she had absolutly no reason to do this and you have to be consequent or loose all respect.Your wife has no bus. looking into your phone least of all calling any nr. there.
I have never in all my years of marriage answered my husbands mobile, looked into the nrs. or read his post mail. I am always polite on the phone and hand the call over or take a message. This is ont stupid but a sign of respect and trust.
Calling that woman is bringing herself down and she got what she deserved.
Just call her to ordrr and look that the respect and trust is restored in your family

This story ist very sad and unfortunatly quite a few men and women have to go through very hard times futher aggraveted by a bad relationship.
However one thing is certain. Your citizenship and marriage certifiate is hadly of any use to the man without your physical presence iin the UK. That is why I do not understand how he even got the visa or managed to hang out there for so long.
Secondly you did have a good job and I do not understand why you did not seek to migrate to the UK when things got very rough for you at least for some time till things stabilise.
You know as much as I sympathise with you I have to be honest with you. This ordeal you past through is really not that bad. Fine you had a child but you are still blessed with good health and you are educated. You should be in a position to help yourself without this public outcry for help. There are so many women and children out there with so many problems and conitions more desperate than your own.
I wish ou the best as you take your destiny in your hands.

Justin I know it is really hard when a woman longs for the fruit of the womb and it does not coome on time.
Well I think you have to do the operation also for your own health, so why don`t you do that first and after that you are in a better position to make up your mind. The doctors always prepare one for the worst but most times it doesn`t get that bad you know. Belive and have faith in God, he will see you through.
I have children of my own and a nephew living with me. I have to tell you my nephew gives me just as much joy and aches as my own children.  I hope you understand what I am trying to tell you. What makes a child so special is the love we show that child and nothing else.
I have heard of so many cases where Doctors claimed a woman will not get pregnant and she deed. Other cases where the doctors meant nothing was wrong and the couple never ended up getting a child. Sometimes they adopt a child and the woman suddenly gets pregnant. It is in the hands of God. I pray from the bottom of my heart that God will grant you and your husband a child of your own to love and cherish.

well I certainly hope I don`t go having kids in my fifties
I now have 10 and that is more than a handfull

Well stone me if you want to but something here is very fishy.
I am a mother and this simply hurts me so bad reading this.
Sorry but I have to tell you this either you are fabricating some story here or otherwise you must be a very irresponsible Mother that needs to be charged along with her husband.
When you have even the slightest susison of abuse you go the the Doctors and the cops and all other organisations. It is not in your hands to negotiate when your husband sees his daughter or for you to forgive him etc
That child is a person under the law and deserves to be protected and you are doing no such thing. If I had my way you needed to be sentenced.
God girl are you a mother
If my husband where to do such a thing to my baby, God forbid!!! I don`t give a damn if he has been fucking all the girls in the world. I do not have time for village meetings specially not with househelps family.
This would be only about my daughter. How can you be making plans with a househelp etc,
Youneed forgivness for being a criminal or a liar

Kenny it is the womans duty to cook for her husband. If she does not feel up to it she should apologise to her husband and or ask him for help.
I just feel that this is not the main problem they have but just a manifestation. Maybe she feels used catering to man and brother?

The first step would be to tell yourself you need this marriage to work.
The next step would be to make it work. Talk to you husband express yourself, when he is in a good mood.
Don`t take things for granted think out things to do to make him happy and pay more attention to you. Make him feel like the man in the house, every man needs that. Show intrest in what he does, what he wears, when he looks tired or stress. Be there for him in good times as well as bad. My husband is sitting next to me watching the match. I am on the laptop and watching too . Every now and then I give him a hug or crack a joke, tell him I love him. He mostly just laughs but I knows he likes hearing that.
After so many years of marriage he is everything to me ,father mother, brother friend, lover. I can trust him always,everywhere , everytime. This love is worth so much mor than that heart trobbing infatuation at the beginning.

I had my last child at age 43 last year and the pregnancy was okay with out complications. Had a bouncing healthy baby. I did not notice that my age was any disadvantage. Just pray that God keeps me alive to watch her grow and stand on her feet. Two of my kids are younger than my Granddaughter.At first I found tht somewhat odd but now it seems so natural to me.

Yes white women wash their husbands cloths and I sometimes tend to think they are more domesticated that we Nigerians. They take care of their children and do alot of things with their kids. Well noted without a househelp. As far as Europe is concerned, you have to take into consideration that most of these women work more and also earn more than their husbands.

Asking your wife for food at that time of the day might be seen as a confrontation. I think it might be wiser to confront her when you are alone with her and not in the presence of family members. Many women and Men still have alot to learn about tolerance and respect when the marriage is still fresh. It is also important the way you express yourself. If it is not a habit of hers you could try being a bit more diplomatic. "Darling I know you are tired and it`s difficult with the baby but do you think we can still find something to manageas a meal ?".
You know a woman with a baby can feel a bit wornout and in need of appreciation.
As the head of the family it is your duty to lead your wife in the direction you desire . I think with love, tolerance and patience you would reach your Goal.

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I used to work as a legal practitioner in Nigeria before years back and I have a eputation at stake not just in Nigeria but also in Germany.
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pity theres no reply. Ogbono is the latest runner for loosing wieght.

Hello please can anyone tell me the kilo price for Ogbono in Nigeria. Is there a price difference between Lagos and the east

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I think the most important question, do I have a heart big enough to care or another mans child like my own.
Many humanbeings are egoistic and just love their children because they see their children as an extension of 0f themselves.
I think I prefer the man who says outright no I cannot to the man who says yes and then later comes to realise that he cannot cope.
i also got married to a man as a single mum and he made promises of all the love, he would show my kid, but later he never even let the kid into his house, that was a very bitter marriage and I thank god it is over.
When I got a divorce no one ever beleived that I would ever get married again, but God had another destiny for me.
I met a man and the first day we met we wanted to get married, that marriage has held over ten years. Today we have nine Kids.
WE , because he is a father to all.

Does it really work or is it just one of those tales?
Who knows more about it?

Sometimes when my huband gives me an "order" i also reply "yes sir". I think that says so much like stop bossing or can´t you say it nicer. It always depends on the situation.
Besides I think in a relationship where ther is respect romance can florish more.
IF i call my husband honey etc and there is no resect and we keep getting at each others neck ist that romance?
When I first got married we did have our arguments and I often wanted to stand my ground but at night my huband would tease me and say i wanted to be a man in the daytime and a woman at night.
I just love being a woman and letting the man be in control. I get what I want anyway just have to know how to tune him on the right frequency. Uneasy lies the head that wears the crown not the neck that rotates the head that carries the crown.

What a shame, the oridginal poster just wanted some answers.
Why does it have to get so emotional, that abuses have to flow?
To Convert ones Religion, is a very big step that one does not have to take lightly. IT is most likely that you may meet with a lot of negative reaction from you family and friends.
Needless to say Islam is not a very popular at the moment.
You also have to spend time learning all about the new religion, but that comes with time.
I converted to islam almost twenty years ago.
What fasinated me then was a religion where it was me and my God, with noone in between.
Please this is my personal opinion, so i would like it to be respected, without being showered with abuses here.

, greener pastures?
Don´t be surprised if her family is in support because of hard currency

IF a woman has spent so long in a marriage and the man was´nt maltreating her, what is the point of dumping it all after so many years.
Anyway we don´t know her side of the story.
IT is so sad that women who cannot endure a marriage in Nigeria have no financial support for the Kids. In some countries the welfare system would have helped her to take care of he kids and while getting her act togehter. Maybe in such a case she would not have had to leave the kids with her family.
A child getting pregnant- that can happen even in the best of homes so that is not necessariely an indice.

Are the men intimidated or do they just not want to get involved fearing the outcome.
I think this is a very intresting topic for young women and men who aspire to get married. I had a friend who was one such woman, the man was jobless, i have to admit the man was like a boy boy in the house, serving the guest and sleeping in the sitting room. It was disgusting.
Most men want to be the head of their house, i don´t think this applies to only Nigerians.
I have seen it in many homes too, when the man looses his job and the woman is working, in a very short time the situation was almost unbearable. Without realising it, the repect was thrown overboard withen no time at all.

A woman with a good job , independent, that is no big deal, but ladies wipe your feet befoe you enter your home. At home you are a wife and mother.
I think it is oftern independent , strong women who cannot handle the combination, wife and career women

I can understand the way you feel writting this thread.
I grew up in nigeria with a White mum years ago and people where always making jokes. Speak Igbo so we can hear and then laughing at my accent. The result I had real hangups about speaking. A shame because later I wasn´t in the east and the opportunity was lost.
Some Nigerians here when they talk let out comments like - "you would´t understand because you are not a full Nigerian". I have to laugh I could sell them in Nigeria. They do not even have half an idea of living in Nigeria or about the culture. It just boils down to prejudice and nothing else.
But to tell you honestly I never have this problem with reasonable people just some daft ones.
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