₦airaland Forum

Delfino: Very good topic you raised but you are kinda getting the concept of marriage wrong.
The fact that a woman is married to you doesn't mean you own her -- she is also human and has FREEWILL.
If she so desires and you love her --- then why would you not do what would make your woman happy

However, some do it for just name-dropping sake e.g Iyabo Obasanjo Bello (didn't that make you remember the former president?)

I would have granted my wife the wish if she had so desired.

Good man,your wife must be a very happy woman.

wonlasewonimi: compound name ko street name ni. She should go and marry her father then.

I will not border getting into any discussion wt u,i already diagnosed ur person and sense of reasoning judging from what u hv written.Guys may as well marry themselves better still their sisters.

megareal: Keep or not to keep my father's name?
Its only an underachieving man that would be scared of such trivia. Its a man imprisoned by a complex that regards his wife as his property. Name change or lack of it doesn't make or break a marriage. There are scarier things to worry about. Most responses here go to show some men still have a very long way to go.

Im keeping my name. Simple.

Thanks sweetie,tell them.

coogar: unless the full bride price hasn't been paid by the husband, there's no reason any woman should attach her father's name after marriage! men who allow such are [color=#000000]p[/color]ussies!

Listen to your self,why should't they?are you her father?did u bring her to life?from no where u show up from d blue,she marries u,so she should eliminate d name she has known all her life,the man that has cared for her all her life,the man that made her existence possible.Do u hv any idea of the sacrifices and pain involved with raising a child?i believe a good man should say to her father inlaw thank u for raising her for me,to show a bit of gratitude,she will keep your name.Am settling for a compound name.

Sanusi should be smarter than this,an absolutely wrong move.Now this should be tagged sever economy hardship PART 2.

dasparrow: Google is your friend. Google these women up and read about them and educate yourself. These women were activists who fought for the rights of the oppressed and much more. Is that not enough reason to have their pictures on a 5000 naira note?

Am certain u are one way or another related to them,probably one of their generation,so why should't u be a supporter.As far as this argument goes,they have't done any thing very relevant joooor,this a national currency we are talking about fa.

ANY-PEN :
You call that creativity
& don't you think the members must have gone through all sorts of brain-washing by the pastor to have come up with this? Even if this is not his idea, it is a result of his handy work on people don't you think, you block-head!

More so,this could't hv being erected without his consent and approval never.The inclusion of d pope is one i disagree with.Very well,i understand what is implied is that been a man of God rather than other profession has had an impact,even though if such impact means a guy having his hair permed,at night his pillow stained wt gels,while in d shower struggle wt a shower cap.How ever my point exactly is that a pop's job is same as a pastor's,so it was senseless and humiliating to hv included d pope,or is't d pope working for God?

ArQueBusieR: Doing laundry for someone you're not married to? Unbelievable!
I, for one, have no respect for people who do not respect themselves. Where's your self-esteem for crying out loud?!

Correct,do not give any man the benefits of marriage when he is not married to you.

NkwaGOD: The minister that had the nerve to ulter such statement in the face of the ongoing heat in Nigeria is nothing but a confirmed member of BOKO HARAM and should be apprehended to produce other that are with him, final!

More so, the Nigeria state will not negotiate with terrorists,we will not negotiate with terrorists.He should perish the idea.

hadbak: its pple lyk u dt brings chaos n confusn. May God help u!

Exactly,don't mind the Dr confusion.

Amtired: IF YOU ARE NOT IN THEIR SHOES, YOU CAN NEVER UNDERSTAND THE PSYCHOLOGICAL TRAUMA BEHIND WHAT THEY WENT THROUGH AND WHAT MANY ARE STILL GOING THROUGH..
I HAVE WRITTEN JAMB AND POST JAMB FOR GOOD SIX TIMES (6 YEARS)WITH GOOD RESULTS, STILL NO ADMISSION!
CAN YOU IMAGINE, AFTER SCORING 238 IN JAMB I WENT FOR THIS YEAR POST JAMB IN UNIBEN, THE QUESTIONS WERE VERY VERY FRIENDLY TO ME AND I DID JUSTICE TO EVERY SINGLE QUESTION INDEPENDENTLY BECAUSE I SINCERELY PREPARED FOR THE EXAM.
WHEN THE POST JAMB RESULTS WERE RELEASED, I CHECKED MINE ONLY TO SEE "MALPRACTICE CASE" WITHOUT THE RESULT BEING RELEASE UP TILL THIS DATE!
THE FIRST OPTION TO ME WAS TO COMMIT SUICIDE! BUT I DECIDED TO TRAVEL FROM LAGOS BACK TO UNIBEN TO FIND OUT WHAT WENT WRONG, NO ATTENTION WAS GIVEN TO ME. I DID NOT DO ANYTHING RELATED TO MALPRACTICES AND I WASN'T CAUGHT DOING ANYTHING WRONG IN THE EXAM HALL, WHY HAVE THEY REFUSE TO RELEASE MY RESULT UP TILL DATE? THIS IS NOT FAIR.
I'M WRITING IN CAPITAL LETTERS TO SHOW HOW BAD THE FEELING IS. IF ONLY THERE IS SOMETHING HIGHER THAN SUICIDE, I WOULDN'T MIND.
THE PAIN IS UNBEARABLE..

I would be telling a huge lie if i tell you i understand exactly how you feel,because i don't,but i have a cousin that went through same thing as you,but today he is a medicine student,pls am making an appeal to you,don't give up,you are destined for greatness,be still and know that he is God. Though your beginning might be small,but your end will be an amazing one,for every thing in life,God says there is a season he has destined,and he will give you d beauty of said season when the time arrives.It is surely well with you.

She should please try and be careful and take this a bit slowly,ensure you know this guy to an extent.But i heard some time back that goldie is married,is it true?

Gluckdude: Like seriously? Who does business in a hotel with a stranger
Whats wrong with having a busines conversation in a fast food or in a public place if neither of them have an office,

My guess is she was into runs, and met with crooks. No decent lady will go into an hotel room with male companion to discuss business, would she have done that if her bf/fiance lives on the same street the hotel is located?
Either way she doesnt deserve to die that way, but she placed herself in harms way.

Those are my thoughts anyway.
RIP

Her decision to go over to an hotel would depend on the nature of business she was into,apparently,she was into clothing,she might not be comfortable having theses cloths displayed at places like tantalizer while bargaining,attracting a stare or attention.If she lacked a relative in lagos,it is't out of place to lodge in an hotel and invite her business partners over with the items.In relation,she had been friends with them a while,the only issue is that she was too trusting.

Am very saddened by this,the only female in her family and the baby of the house.It did't occur to her,she could have firstly gone to a relative's place and asked to be accompanied by any of her brothers,uncle or any relative,preferably a guy,It is't out of place for her to have gone there with a business intention.Girls pls don't ever accept drinks from strangers,you are better of going over with your drink,and be sure to keep an eye on your drink,with such steps you are certain to be conscious and alert, better than been drowsy or falling into sleep.But this guys are devils shaoooo,murder is too too much,overly much,why not rob and let the poor girl stay alive.Rest in peace.

Okiki_Oluwa: Interesting. I rolled my eyeballs when reading that her 3 Children are holding a vital post in Liberia but another thought told me that they may be qualified for those posts. As for the suspension, it's a brave decision. "But this African Leaders can play politics like...It may just be a planned idea between mother and son to dabo Liberian People...So, Liberians will hail their Leader as a disciplinarian, and others... Just my own naughty thought o".
FMJ!

correct,true talk.

andyanders: This woman is something else. Having your children appointed to such sensitive positions goes to show the greed our African leaders display when given the power. In fact, power intosticates.

you got the word out of my mouth,these suspension thing in fact could all be arranged just to put her in good light and get ahead in her career.A thing like son don't declare,you all will be suspended,this will be good for my career.She should't have allowed her sons in government,she could recommend them for any position when out of office.Why has she opted for a suspension,why not that they have been relieved of their jobs,then she can be given a thumbs up.

Diya Dayo: this guy should open his eys ooooooooooooooo
i like him so much i cant afford him to make a
mistake in marriage. i expected him to look for a
cool headed girl to marry not a celebrity like him .

I share your view,the chick might be cool headed after all, but expect you know her personally.

76Naira: We have passed that phase.
It's no secret that it's not all rosy out there.

Exact point.

Lovine: The girl or woman is ugly, period

Kai,why?

pleep: It not the specific situation, but the trend in general. I'm thinking more of those men who sacrificed themselves in the colorado shooting and other instances were dudes die to impress girlfriends.

And your point about female relatives doent really correlate. Do i want my brother to sacrifie himselve for some random chick hes dating? I would be pissed.

Normally,i would be long done with this conversation,but for some reasons i would like to ask this,let me rephrase ur last question.Just for fun,pls answer this,if a boyfriend of one of ur sisters or female relative has a chance to save her,would you advise him other wise?like say to him, don't save her she is not what it.

dayokanu: Can you tell me what crime is bigger than going to church and blowing up everyone

or which crime is greater than Fulani herdmen wiping out a whole village killing women and children mainly.

Just tell me which crime

Here is my point,abroad is not heaven as is believed by most persons,is certainly not crime free,there are no such things as serial killers back home,this just one in a million crimes here.

Kobojunkie: WOW . . the sort of analysis you go hear from people on these issues leaves you in stupor sometimes.

So because you heard of ONE CASE of a robber leaving an elderly person, you have conveniently concluded that is the case in ALL of Nigeria? The old people, beggars, etc that have been killed, ,maimed etc in the various crime sprees, bombings, etc across Nigeria in just the last year alone are what? Rubber dolls?

Try not over personalizing this issue,i hv taken into account other crimes,and my analytical conclusion is that don't dare crimes here,it's definitely beyond what we experience back home,even when this guys are aware they will get caught much after the crimes,they still go ahead.I mean real hard crimes,not moi moi.

pleep: I don't think anyone is joking here.

Men are finally realizing that doing silly and dangerous things for female approval is just not worth it. The men who over-value women end up removing themselves from the gene pool.

Am surprised at this,am sure you have sisters or female relatives,and u expect that they be treated correctly by their boyfriends is'nt it? i can't understand this,i don't think a pear is so huge to ask,is not like she asked for something too extra ordinary,like a car or something,d incident was only unfortunate.

deshclones: Shut up dat gutter u call a mouth...naija's crime rate is a dot when compared to what happens abroad esp d u.s..d only unsafe place in naija is d north..we in d south run things wella..we roll anytime we deem fit..day or midnight...how on earth will anyone in his right state compare naija nd u.s in terms of crime?..so u r dis silly?..tot ur only problem was being a bigot..

You are correct, Crimes abroad are unbelievable,the thieves here are known as bold thieves,some people's speciality is defrauding only the elderly,all sort of things u would never imagine.Back home,i have heard of armed robbers asking an elderly man to keep his money that they don't need it,something like free d old man.But here,if u are old or not that is ur problem.

ocelot2006: SO TRUE, MY BROTHER. Back in the UK I had a number of friends with Masters degrees who worked menial jobs from hospital porters to aides in healthcare homes. Forget all the talk about great roads, light, etc, cos Life there truly sucked big time. In my own case I left the Queen's own country less than a week after I completed my Masters degree. That, my friend, was the VERY BEST decision I've ever made cos I'm now way better than a lot of collegues I left behind.

You must be very smart to do this.

hardbody: Mental dwarfs like you really irritate me. Were you reading the post upside down? or worse still can you read at all? I do not recall seeing any indication that the hospital asked for extraeneous requirements before attending to the deceased. Lilliputians like you are always making the decent 'diasporans' appear as if people back home are disparaging them. Granted, medical systems in the west are far better than what is obtainable back home(and quite a number of the good hands are also Nigerians), must you always gush nonesense when reasonable people are contributing? If you have nothing meaningful to say (or write) you could shut the phuckk up. Beast.

I refuse to have any further conversation with you after now.A definite point of correction,i did't say d hospital asked,i said they MAY HAVE, asking some unimportant question which could have lead to delays in treatment,i know how my granma died back home,so i understand what am talking about.Anyway,from ur approach,u either hv a problem understanding English or have a drinking problem,u must hv to be an absolute illiterate to call people names,where do u reside?in a cave i guess.U can state ur point without aggression or getting abusive,u hv a lot of catching up to do,u are far behind d world,u are d only odd person,u are so so outdated.I feel pity for you.I can stake a bet u are not in diaspora.

I think the guy has been misunderstood by reporters.He could't have meant such,cause he does't see him self as a rich person and he is not a rich person to me,i see him as just okay.

jusbal: i guess dis is not d first time he'll be plucking peer on dat same tree........it's a normal thing he does.....first he didn't climb d tree ordinarily,he used d ladder which a learned person like u and i will do.secondly,he might even decided 2 pluck it 4 himself without plucking it 4 anybody....so, plucking it 4 her girlfriend is not an issue. death is a constant thing in life.....may his gentle soul rest in peace.

you are very sensible.

pleep: Now, why couldn't his girlfriend hold the ladder?

Yes she should have held the ladder,he did't even die instantaneously,if this happened here in europe,he may have been saved,Nigeria hospitals are too slow .They could even ask to get the photo of the pear tree before treatment could be administered,just some senseless demands.May his sooul rest in peace.All you saying u can't do this for a girl,remember u guys have sisters and would prefer she is treated nicely by her boyfriend abi? hisses.

Is absolutely hurtful,funding and sending these athletes and sports officials for games like this,is nothing but a total waste of tax payers funds.Those that have no business being there will lobby to be included,which amounts to an additional financial burden. This a total waste.So many technicalities were responsible for their lose.

acidtalk: Or could we conclude that when God has destined the right partner for some peopl, they usually are too impatient for God's prescribed time in their live and as such hurriedly end up with the wrong partner.

I.E, God might have destined a woman to meet her Mr Right after she clocks 33years, but due to peer pressure and societal condemnation she hurries to settle down with just any type of man that comes her way so she can also belong to the "Mrs" club.

I think you have a very good point.